why is my gf like this? are all women like this?
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Hey bro,Originally posted by SGpork:thats why...
to aviod all this problem..
ill stay single...
U been hurt b4?
what is the reasons that make u wanna stay single?
can share?
I really like to hear your thoughts.
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just dont worri man.wad goes around comes around.she is not lucky to have a good hearted person like u if u r one..my advice if taken or not... just be style cool and make money and bring in some fame in ure life...things will change...bYe3
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Take this chance to re-evaluate yourself.
Have you been just giving and giving, without a thought? Like they say, it takes two hands to clap.
No matter how much you try, if she doesn't reciprocate, it comes to hoot. What does she want? Is what she wants common to what you want?
What does she want? A stable relationship or wild, hot and temporary love? What do you want? Is the fundamental difference in the things both of you seek, which resulted in this end? Perhaps it's time to understand yourself. And decide whether she's suitable for you. -
Hey man, it's not either's fault. You had said that you did alot of things for her. Ask urself, do u feel wat u did for her is worth? When comes to love, it's always one party give more than the other, it's hardly equal...because u love her so much, u r willing to "suffer"? She had 15 failed r/s n yet she's wif u for 5 yrs. I feel she's very lucky to have u as her bf.
How old is she? It seems that she needs a lot of pampering...A couple should tell their feelings towards each other e.g wat u lik n dun lik wat she does, etc. Give feedback, understand each other's needs n lastly compromise. A r/s never works on just one sided's hard work. Even a clap needs two hands...go n have nice talk wif her, finds out why she reacts tis n tat way. Then think of ur own side too. How long u could put up wif her tantrums, etc? If u think u could do it for ur rest of ur life, maybe it's time for u to leave her. I guess she will wake up n learn.
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Go BKK after you just broke up? Be careful you don't fall for a "lady-boy" or one of the "scam" girls. A nice office worker Thai girl is ok. Those you meet at the bars and massage parlors are no-nos.Originally posted by sickandtired:i broke up with her oledi. ya its painful but i think its time to stop. i always think of this phrase i read elsewhere.. "another door wont open unless u close the current door" .. also the words that my ex gf said always comes to my mind and that is "when i ask u back u came back to me. but for gals its different. when i say i wanna be alone means i wanna be alone. when gals change, they change. u cant compare me with u" this phrase i will keep it with me all the way and learn from it. gals and guys are they not human?
but i believe in retribution. she always told me her ex bf whom she loved so much besides me treated her badly during that 6 month relationship with her. but i made sure that i didnt ill treat her in any way her 6 mth bf did. but i am sure she will realise the truth one day and if she do comes back, then i will just tell her to rue on her missed chances. this time i will not accept her back definitely.
anyways we had planned to go thai in april. was so much looking forward to it but she played me out. so nvm i will go myself as planned and enjoy my shopping. heck, i even booked a 5 star hotel to stay for that period. so i am now just looking forward to my trip.haha -
One night in Bangkok makes a hard man humble
Not much between despair and ecstasy
One night in Bangkok and the tough guys tumble
Can't be too careful with your company
I can feel the devil walking next to me
This is good advice, take it! There are exceptions to the rule of course... the exceptions are few and far between. -
l am going to apologise 1st if my post offended u...l am writing in a peaceful mannerOriginally posted by browniebaobao:Advise u to go and befriend more people older than you, widen your social circle, observe and see more..
u dun find it funny meh? u listen to a few people and then believe that it's true.
Well if there isnt any truth in what l wrote...y almost all the guy friends l noe tell me the same thing as well...Since so many ppl had been saying the same thing abt how they feel abt the gals in sg...l believe there must be sum truth in it...if sg gals are really nice and good...all guys will oso say de mah...will compliment them de mah. Dun nid hide the truth..any look at AA, l see more cases of nice guys being dumped by their gf, very less case of bf dumping nice gals wor...
And like u say...l hav my own share of older frenz and l am widening my social circle...l tried not to be as shy as last time..and did approach ppl with friendly gestures and willingly to get to noe more new ppl....l did observe with my eyes and look around..and my earlier post was really what l concluded..
l am not biased abt gals..but this is really how l feel...from my heart and how l observe..and l juz wan to voice out my own opinions...
perhaps the truth is always unpleasant to hear... -
And look at the TS....he even have doubts abt gals...LOOK at his title....Why is my gf like this? Are all woman like this?
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Originally posted by sickandtired:just felt like letting it out.
i was there for her when she was feeling down.
i helped her up everytime she fell.
i gave her all my attention even when others had appointments with me.
i sent her home everyday even though i stayed far away and had less than 3 hours sleep.
i was there to help her financially if she needed it.
i was there to console her everytime she complained and cried that she did something wrong at work.
i always put up with her tantrums and never once told her i wanted to break up.
i always let her know where i was or with whom and wat i was doing.
i always bought her clothes or other accessories but she never wore to let me see
even when we did break up once and she wanted to patch back and cried, i was always there for her during the break up and eventually decided to patch back
i never once put up any photos with other gals in any website
but now.. suddenly some guy comes in between us playing the good guy and gives her advise.
now she says she is confused suddenly about our love but she denies being interested in him.
she now just wants to enjoy life with her frenz partying it out
she puts pics of herself n her male colleagues..some of them with arms on her in a website.
she removed our pics together and claims that its nothing.
she never stores my hp no in her hp but stores that of that bastard.
she calls up my female frenz and creates probs and now my female frenz and me dun really tok
i just feel so bored with this relationship. she has a huge character flaw and all her previous 15 relationships didnt work out. her only 2 longest one was 3 month n 6 months. mine lasted 5 yrs with her. i endured all her crapz and complains and everything. now suddenly she says we are not compatible? why then did she wanna patch up after we broke up?i really gave my all and tried my best but now i just feel i have failed. all other gals i know just tell me that i haf done so much for her and they wish that someone would do the same for them. i really dunno where i haf done wrong. i am tired of always suffering and just want to let all this go. but truth is i am afraid. i am afraid to be lonely. afraid that i will not find another person to love or look after. she does things wrong but blames me and i haf to apologise. she brings up the past and when i elaborate about it, it becomes i brought the past up. i feel she will never be happy in life because she always believes i will turn out like her adulterous uncle. she always like to think of negative things. i am so sianz now..
thanks for reading. Seriously, I would have think twice if I know that my object of affection has a history of fifteen exes because that has blatantly revealed how fleeting her emotions are and how spiritually afflicted her love relationship is.
According to my study, all we need is between two - four serious relationship and we should encounter most of the cosmic lesson represented to us. Anything more than that are usually reiterated lessons. Fifteen exes? That's probably akin to retaining PSLE for ten times.
Her negative nature truly reflects the glooming aspect of her love relationship - emitting and attracting negative influence and people.
It's true that after those 'ordeals' she might have evolved, but seriously, from what you have described, I see none of it.
Your fear and happiness isn't because you have lost her - but because you are afraid to be alone. Probably this is the quality that got connected on higher subconscious level - negativity beget negativity. You have forgotten what's is like to trend forward and fight for a better future, therefore you rather endure the nonsense thrown precariously at you, than to understand the essence of what's better for yourself to make you move on.
It really makes me wonder is that even love in the first place.
You will be surprised that people remained in unfulfilling relationship for all sorts of reasons. And when you question them about love, they are unable to find them. Like clicking on the search option to find a missing file; there are always zero returns, even though the computer appeared to be working.
Many people complained about not getting the returns even after selling their entire soul into the relationship. The ultimate question is WHY are YOU even thinking that hard work equate success in love? I have addressed this before in previous topics - if hard work equal automatic success in relationship, then the most hardworking person would have all the love in the world.
Logically, it doesn't work that way and it will never be.
Therefore you always pick calculated battles that will advance you to the next level in love. You address the root of problem and not do things that merely appease short term. The rotten core will eventually spread its poison to the heart of your relationship and kills it. Merely polishing the exterior doesn't do anything to save it.
Cheers -
but love is about giving everything and not asking for anything in return.. maybe you see it in a different prospective.. everyone has their own opinion i guessOriginally posted by alan-:dont blame her, blame yourself..
u called that love? u gave her everything and give in to her everything.. love isnt one way. -
welcome to the club..Originally posted by SGpork:thats why...
to aviod all this problem..
ill stay single... 
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No offence to you, but giving comments like that, you must as well dont post. It's such a politically correct of kind comment, not very useful for people. I think we prefer to hear concrete comments, comments from ur heart, how you really feel.Originally posted by 4getmenot:but love is about giving everything and not asking for anything in return.. maybe you see it in a different prospective.. everyone has their own opinion i guess -
change your thread toOriginally posted by sickandtired:just felt like letting it out.
i was there for her when she was feeling down.
i helped her up everytime she fell.
i gave her all my attention even when others had appointments with me.
i sent her home everyday even though i stayed far away and had less than 3 hours sleep.
i was there to help her financially if she needed it.
i was there to console her everytime she complained and cried that she did something wrong at work.
i always put up with her tantrums and never once told her i wanted to break up.
i always let her know where i was or with whom and wat i was doing.
i always bought her clothes or other accessories but she never wore to let me see
even when we did break up once and she wanted to patch back and cried, i was always there for her during the break up and eventually decided to patch back
i never once put up any photos with other gals in any website
but now.. suddenly some guy comes in between us playing the good guy and gives her advise.
now she says she is confused suddenly about our love but she denies being interested in him.
she now just wants to enjoy life with her frenz partying it out
she puts pics of herself n her male colleagues..some of them with arms on her in a website.
she removed our pics together and claims that its nothing.
she never stores my hp no in her hp but stores that of that bastard.
she calls up my female frenz and creates probs and now my female frenz and me dun really tok
i just feel so bored with this relationship. she has a huge character flaw and all her previous 15 relationships didnt work out. her only 2 longest one was 3 month n 6 months. mine lasted 5 yrs with her. i endured all her crapz and complains and everything. now suddenly she says we are not compatible? why then did she wanna patch up after we broke up?i really gave my all and tried my best but now i just feel i have failed. all other gals i know just tell me that i haf done so much for her and they wish that someone would do the same for them. i really dunno where i haf done wrong. i am tired of always suffering and just want to let all this go. but truth is i am afraid. i am afraid to be lonely. afraid that i will not find another person to love or look after. she does things wrong but blames me and i haf to apologise. she brings up the past and when i elaborate about it, it becomes i brought the past up. i feel she will never be happy in life because she always believes i will turn out like her adulterous uncle. she always like to think of negative things. i am so sianz now..
thanks for reading.
GIVING MONEY TO UNDESERVING WOMAN IS MY HOBBY!!
and move on, this is nothing to be proud of, you come off sounding like a loser..and this loser energy leeches off your physical and mental power. Hence even girls who initially like you will run away.
if you gave money to girl , dont expect it to come back in any forms or favor, you give without expectations- thats what we call style.
now- for the time and money you spend on her , you could have got 4-5 other girls? Time to change yourself, get a makeover, change your hairstyle.
get yourself a nice sports car, if no money, BORROW.
go clubbing. remember ,its time for you to become a real player. and learn some new stuff, like zodiac, geomancy and fengshui. Give you something to talk about if you dont know a single crap of happening things.
And lastly , hanging around in forums too much is not your priority now, get a girl and hang with her.
good luck playa -
Don't be a loser and live under her shadows...Originally posted by sickandtired:just felt like letting it out.
i was there for her when she was feeling down.
i helped her up everytime she fell.
i gave her all my attention even when others had appointments with me.
i sent her home everyday even though i stayed far away and had less than 3 hours sleep.
i was there to help her financially if she needed it.
i was there to console her everytime she complained and cried that she did something wrong at work.
i always put up with her tantrums and never once told her i wanted to break up.
i always let her know where i was or with whom and wat i was doing.
i always bought her clothes or other accessories but she never wore to let me see
even when we did break up once and she wanted to patch back and cried, i was always there for her during the break up and eventually decided to patch back
i never once put up any photos with other gals in any website
but now.. suddenly some guy comes in between us playing the good guy and gives her advise.
now she says she is confused suddenly about our love but she denies being interested in him.
she now just wants to enjoy life with her frenz partying it out
she puts pics of herself n her male colleagues..some of them with arms on her in a website.
she removed our pics together and claims that its nothing.
she never stores my hp no in her hp but stores that of that bastard.
she calls up my female frenz and creates probs and now my female frenz and me dun really tok
i just feel so bored with this relationship. she has a huge character flaw and all her previous 15 relationships didnt work out. her only 2 longest one was 3 month n 6 months. mine lasted 5 yrs with her. i endured all her crapz and complains and everything. now suddenly she says we are not compatible? why then did she wanna patch up after we broke up?i really gave my all and tried my best but now i just feel i have failed. all other gals i know just tell me that i haf done so much for her and they wish that someone would do the same for them. i really dunno where i haf done wrong. i am tired of always suffering and just want to let all this go. but truth is i am afraid. i am afraid to be lonely. afraid that i will not find another person to love or look after. she does things wrong but blames me and i haf to apologise. she brings up the past and when i elaborate about it, it becomes i brought the past up. i feel she will never be happy in life because she always believes i will turn out like her adulterous uncle. she always like to think of negative things. i am so sianz now..
thanks for reading.
If she's insecured and you can do nothing about it. What do you expect the next course to be? -
tink it is unfair for u to post this kinda comment...do you have any concrete proof?Originally posted by Space1999:whatever you do , dont ask her to post here. because there is young and restless moderator looking for prey here..hehe
one is innocent until proven guilty -
a woman like that needs to be told.....
like this.....
go on, reclaim your manhood, give it a go. -
Thats not right. No matter what you do, you never hit a woman. Never.Originally posted by boredtulan:a woman like that needs to be told.....
like this.....
go on, reclaim your manhood, give it a go.
To even suggest that makes you less of a man. You can hit a guy who try to steal or disturb your woman but never the woman.
When i mean be a man, be a man , walk away. Make a success of yourself, come back when you have made it show off in front of her. -
what she does to u then u do back to her .. when she complain .. u F her upside down ..and tell her THATS WHAT U DO TO ME U DUMB ASS.
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Why do i always keep agreeing with fellow forumnites...Originally posted by Hellraiza:throw her away. Or you can do what she's doing to you. Damn dulan girls like this. And guys who try to get near to girls who're already attached are just bastardss
Guys attempting to get close to attached girls are commonly known by the term-CBK
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guys like that should be tied up and whipped !!!Originally posted by wonderamazement:Why do i always keep agreeing with fellow forumnites...
Guys attempting to get close to attached girls are commonly known by the term-CBK -
Yo threadstarter
i had the same problem as you in the past but it was until one of my elder friend advise me to get a girl who is welling to support you in whatever u do lor, not for looks or devil figure but the inside of the person thats the most important anyway since you broke up have fun outside la expand your social circle and also heeheehee spread your seed around during your tour live is short so enjoy it while you can -
Castrated too...Originally posted by Space1999:guys like that should be tied up and whipped !!! -
hi dude, i'm have suffer the same fate with u but life goes on...........
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You remind me of me.
My GF was always dominant, high attention maintainance. She had 8(or 9?) previous boyfriends and none of them lasted more then 2 months (except her last which lasted 6 months, before i stepped in =/)
We lasted for 1 1/2 years, and im 17 this year. Yes, I'm young, probably much younger then you. But what i went through may have been tougher then you.
I believe what's important in a relationship, is communication, reason?
She breaks off like this and you got no idea what wrong with her ( or you)
you have to ask her straight in the face if she wants a break up, you know best what she wants even if she doesnt say it, and you have to face up, and really just ask yourself, does she want a break up, or what other involving factors resulting in her behavior, sex? bored of you? look straight and think, approach her, after all, you deserve an answer.
Reading your situation, I feel as if you're my gf, and what my gf lacked was respect/appreciation of me and, the most important factor, loving herself, you have to sleep right and everything. To the extent that i believe that breaking off with her would be a better path, but it's your choice really.
I'm suffering from Relationship-withdrawal symtoms ( if there's such a term)
I miss my gf, she wants me back, but i know there's no turning back. For the benefit of me myself and hopefully her. -
forgive her. forgiveness is a gift to the forgiver, not the forgiven. dont be afraid to love, for it is the most wonderful feeling anyone can feel. if she doesnt reciprocate, just be glad that you learnt how to love. continue to be there for her and cherish the time u have. then if one day she decides to leave u, move on. (: take it easy!
