Would you love someone poor in Singapore?
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Money or rather the ability to generate monetary returns is very attractive to women...
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Wealth and possession is temporal. You may have a lot of it one day, you may be left of nothing another.
Whether both of you are rich or poor, the more important thing is to know how each other view wealth. Understand what wealth is to each other and how money is to be used or saved.
If money is the binding force in a relationship, then I cannot imagine how long it will last. -
Character is more important. Whether she is caring & willing to stick with you through thick & thin.
You may not remain poor forever. Both of u can upgrade & improve your earning capacity.
Just make sure she don't come from dysfunctional family background- very problematic -
i hate to say this but from what i noticed people nowadays take marriage like a merger between 2 financial human entity.Originally posted by the Bear:i kind of pity this kind of cynicism.. really...
if it is easily broken by something as mundane as money, it isn't love... it's just trade.. and there is a word for those who trade money for sex.. -
I find your priorities and thought processes seriously out of whack.
Does lowly educated mean she is unproductive? Lazy? A leech?
I can understand if you criticize a girl for her slacker attitude or over-dependence, but to judge her based on her education level says something very wrong about your judgement. -
If you really love her then go through it thick and thin but if you start to have silly doubt then its no longer love-Either you dump her or better still.....Originally posted by love?:I am a guy. It's a fact that living in Singapore is a very tough one if there isn't enough money to go by. What happens if in the choice of a partner, there appears to be many however the dilemmna is who to choose? Someone you love or someone whom you can foresee to have a future with espcially in the area of finances.
I am hesitating to go after someone I like the reason being she's not well-educated. I know many of you will say to go after love but what happens 10 or 20 years down the road when the realities of life steps in. It's tough even for a guy to support a family all by himself here in Singapore. I am talking about the average family here.
What would you do if you are just an average guy and you this choice presents itself to you. Should I wait for a better one or should I go for it? go dump yourself -
Yes, life is so practical isn't it.Originally posted by viciouskitty74:Yep...and I've known of males with an extra choromosomes and they know themself they cannot reproduce.
One of the guys, his g/f left him after finding that out.
Well love?, you might choose with your head rather than your heart, then you might face a future where you have money but an empty lonely existence, or you might subsequently grow to love your wife.
Or you might choose the girl you feel favourably towards (actually you don't really love her, otherwise you won't be facing this dilemma) but then years later you might fall out of love and divorce.
Life is really so uncertain. Only you can choose based on your values and preferences.
For me, if the guy cannot reproduce I will not choose him. I can love him, but I will not choose him as a marriage partner. Love and marriage are two different things. Sometimes for lucky people they are one and the same, sometimes people choose for other reasons than love.
If I had a choice to go after a road sweeper who I feel more favourably towards, or a tycoon who I could grow to love, I am not going to tell you what my choice will be. But many girls will choose the latter. I don't really know myself. -
Not surprise such topic appears.
The nagging pain of Certificates, paper value, status, job positions have been recieving far too much importance than other things which truly matters in life.
This is disturbing. But not surprising.
virtualchick have mentioned about the former and latter in her last sentence. And local newspaper had a article on it(interesting read).
This person we have here just have adopted to a more female approach on this issue.
Real......and sad.
Cheers -
Originally posted by love?:
Not trying to be critical here.. but you can't forsee whats gonna happen in 5 years down the road not to mention 10-20 yrs.. hell she might end up more successful than you probably are. If you are so worried bout supporting your family all by yourself, you could strive and work harder now so u might eventually be able to provide for your family all by yourself without your wife working at all.
I am a guy. It's a fact that living in Singapore is a very tough one if there isn't enough money to go by. What happens if in the choice of a partner, there appears to be many however the dilemmna is who to choose? Someone you love or someone whom you can foresee to have a future with espcially in the area of finances.
I am hesitating to go after someone I like the reason being she's not well-educated. [b]I know many of you will say to go after love but what happens 10 or 20 years down the road when the realities of life steps in. It's tough even for a guy to support a family all by himself here in Singapore. I am talking about the average family here.
What would you do if you are just an average guy and you this choice presents itself to you. Should I wait for a better one or should I go for it?
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Wait for a better one? or go for it? hell i dun even know what you mean by that?
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'Coz TS has only conditional love. Provided only if the female has qualification then he will go after her.Originally posted by R3SsH|n:how come your name got question mark?
Bravo for the new age guy.... the materialistic one... -
How old are you?Originally posted by love?:I am a guy. It's a fact that living in Singapore is a very tough one if there isn't enough money to go by. What happens if in the choice of a partner, there appears to be many however the dilemmna is who to choose? Someone you love or someone whom you can foresee to have a future with espcially in the area of finances.
I am hesitating to go after someone I like the reason being she's not well-educated. I know many of you will say to go after love but what happens 10 or 20 years down the road when the realities of life steps in. It's tough even for a guy to support a family all by himself here in Singapore. I am talking about the average family here.
What would you do if you are just an average guy and you this choice presents itself to you. Should I wait for a better one or should I go for it?
What Education level do you have?
Pardon me for my straight-forwardness, since you're taking into consideration of Singapore Context, than you ought to look at your own qualificiation as well as your potential income (if you're still schooling) or you current income if you're already working. Taking into consideration - You're choosing her, but why not the other way round, will she consider you as well if you're aren't prepared?
Your post tells me that you're not really ready for this relationship with her yet. Coz you don't love her, rather you look at her based on her financial backing and background rather than her merits (such as for example: gentle, polite, potential good wife and others etc..)
Another point that you've said - 10 to 20yrs down the road.
Having said that, I sense that you might be little or perhaps no experience with gals.
Now it's hardly surprising to have bf,gf breaking up only after a few months, and there you are trying to look at 10 - 20 yrs down the road. [Look at the short-term FIRST, but Do Plan for Long-Term]
Even some marriage don't last that long, if either party aren't commited to making the marriage/relationship(this is suitable for you since you're still considerign) work. It's a 2-sided issue and it comes with a lot of repsonsibilities.
The main question is - Are You Ready to Commit into having a Relationship?
First - you have to have time.
Second - you have to have some cash*
Third - you must know what and why you love/like her?
Cash* - Subjected to different age groups.
if you're young, preferably in the primary - poly/jc age range, than monetary issues often isn't a issue, since you and the other party are often still getting Pocket money as well as the place that youngsters frequent are often Fast Food Restaurants (such as Macdonalds, Burger King etc..) and usually Window Shopping + watching movies
when wooling gals at this stage, you have to communicate with them and spend ample (lots and lots) of time with them + know how to give lots of surprises to gals as their still in growing stage - mentally else they will switch targets easily.
however; if you're a young adult (yr 3poly students, Uni Students and new young adults who just joined the work force), it's slightly a bit expensive.
young adults - tend to go the following places
1 - ktv
2 - pubs
3 - billiard/pool
4 - slightly high class restuarants - like Fish & Co, Jacks' Place etc ..(starting to appreciate quality and classy restuarants) [there's a exception for this if kids are being spoilt & those born with a silver spoon, they spend $_$ like water, than they'll also join this category already]
5 - they shop more, not just like window shopping anymore in the past.
when wooling gals at this stage, you need to be understanding and be patient, know their needs, as time is needed to work, so it's okay to meet around just 3-4 times per week each a few hours..before SEEING the young Ladies back home.
some surprises are expected from guys, but be merticulars, and take note of little details. such as what they wear, what date(s) did some incident/happy memories took place, and their preference. Young Ladies like to be pampered like a Queen.
But as they are still in their Prime, then they will also be in the game mood, so depending on the maturity level of each lady that you want to wool, it's up to your commitment. As young ladies often will have this thinking - Im still young, i can easily find another bf fast, since I have the qualities (applies to ladies up til 23)
For ladies above 23, i doubt you're that old enough to wool them, so i'll just stop at young ladies, i believe all these should be enough for you for now -
I think find those gals who are not materialistic jiu can le ,willing to suffer wif u and do household chores while you work hard outside
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BeGGar SuggEsts that WiTh The TS's MentaliTy, he ShouLd mArry 3 Gals.
1 Rich oLd WoMan to Give HiM MonEy AnD LeaVe MoneY WheN ShE dies.
1 beautiful RoManTic yOung Loving Gal, So EveryDay RomAntic Day,
1 HarDworkIng Maid tO TaKe Care Of Household Chores
So, he caN HaVe ALL the Good thINgs In Life.
BuT BeFoRe tHis, Pls Go And FinD A BiG Pc of MiRRoR To LooK At YourSelF. If No MiRRor, Let Me pee yOu a Pool of UrInE FoR U.
PlEaSe WaiT For A Few MoRe YeARs tHeN TaLK aboUt Gal FrieNd, Go And StuDy.
BeGGarChiEf
CEO BeGGar Cyberspace Consulting Services
CEO BeGGar Sect, Singapore Branch
CEO Conmen Association, Singapore Syndicate -
Not true...i am poor..but my gf loves meOriginally posted by trendz:Let's turn the situation the other way round.
Let's face it; girls do not like poor men. Definitely not.
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Originally posted by love?:I am a guy. It's a fact that living in Singapore is a very tough one if there isn't enough money to go by. What happens if in the choice of a partner, there appears to be many however the dilemmna is who to choose? Someone you love or someone whom you can foresee to have a future with espcially in the area of finances.
I am hesitating to go after someone I like the reason being she's not well-educated. I know many of you will say to go after love but what happens 10 or 20 years down the road when the realities of life steps in. It's tough even for a guy to support a family all by himself here in Singapore. I am talking about the average family here.
What would you do if you are just an average guy and you this choice presents itself to you. Should I wait for a better one or should I go for it?
I would say that if the difference in education level do not drastically affect:
I) Level of frequency (in term of communication).
II) Lifestyle (in terms of hobbies/interest/etc).
It shouldn't be a problem at all.
From your hestitation, I doubt you even have much feelings for her to even begin any relationship in the first place. So I guess you shouldn't ruin people with your kind of mindset... if indeed, in the long run, she's a loving mate but doesn't bring you much cash literally.
Cheers -
Originally posted by beggarchief:
are u dokono?
[b]BeGGar SuggEsts that WiTh The TS's MentaliTy, he ShouLd mArry 3 Gals.
1 Rich oLd WoMan to Give HiM MonEy AnD LeaVe MoneY WheN ShE dies.
1 beautiful RoManTic yOung Loving Gal, So EveryDay RomAntic Day,
1 HarDworkIng Maid tO TaKe Care Of Household Chores
So, he caN HaVe ALL the Good thINgs In Life.
BuT BeFoRe tHis, Pls Go And FinD A BiG Pc of MiRRoR To LooK At YourSelF. If No MiRRor, Let Me pee yOu a Pool of UrInE FoR U.
PlEaSe WaiT For A Few MoRe YeARs tHeN TaLK aboUt Gal FrieNd, Go And StuDy.
BeGGarChiEf
CEO BeGGar Cyberspace Consulting Services
CEO BeGGar Sect, Singapore Branch
CEO Conmen Association, Singapore Syndicate
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i think for gals.. is depend if she fall for u before she know u are poor. if that is the case, she will still lov u.. but of cos there are exceptional cases where some gals are rational enough to think even when she is deep in luv...Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:Poor guy love rich girl = yes
Poor guy love poor girl = yes
Rich guy love rich girl = yes
Rich guy love poor girl = yes
Poor girl love poor guy = maybe
Poor girl love rich guy = yes
Rich girl love poor guy = NO
Rich girl love Rich guy = YES.
as for poor.. the definition varies also... -
hello...u r the guy...u should b worry if u r the one whos poor..cos then..no gals would want a poor guy..
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Originally posted by Space1999:why dont you work on yourself first?its the guy responsibility to make more money to keep the woman happy! ! I AGREE!!!! But it will be nice if the woman can do a little to help as well
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This will come in a matter of time... duo-income families is becoming a survival strategy rather than a choice. When everything in Singapore gets so expensive and job security gets more uncertain... it makes perfect sense that both men and women gets critical and love takes 2nd place at times...Originally posted by M©+square:Not surprise such topic appears.
The nagging pain of Certificates, paper value, status, job positions have been recieving far too much importance than other things which truly matters in life.
This is disturbing. But not surprising.
virtualchick have mentioned about the former and latter in her last sentence. And local newspaper had a article on it(interesting read).
This person we have here just have adopted to a more female approach on this issue.
Real......and sad.
Cheers -
I like to be poor...
Being poor sometimes let you see ALOT which you can't normally see in life...
Give you INVALUABLE LESSONS to it.... -
I prefer to have a poor gf.....
U don't have to be rich , just enough to support a family then gal will want u....
Who want a small white face husband or a wife that go after money$$$ ??? -
then stay poor!Originally posted by Devil1976:I like to be poor...
Being poor sometimes let you see ALOT which you can't normally see in life...
Give you INVALUABLE LESSONS to it....
learn more invaluable lessons!
Sacrifice your kindself so us unworthy rich can benefit from your wisdom
thanking you for many years of wisdom in advance
thank you from my LV heart! -
Originally posted by Space1999:then stay poor!
learn more invaluable lessons!
Sacrifice your kindself so us unworthy rich can benefit from your wisdom
thanking you for many years of wisdom in advance
thank you from my LV heart! -
like madonna sayOriginally posted by Simple_Bear:Money or rather the ability to generate monetary returns is very attractive to women...
its a material world!!
we cannot fight it, lets celebrate it, join the race!!