How do i know if he is interested in me ?
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I don't know about other guys, but for me, your reaction in such circumstances would tell me whether we'd have a future (if I were the guy in question).Originally posted by chaah:Right now i felt like being corner in the situation where dept people feel, both of us has something on going. Which i am trying to clear the air. And some guys are avoiding chatting me up, because of territory issue. At times i feel the surrounding dept people are adding mental stress on the issue with their jokes about us. THere are time when i am alone doing my work, these people will jokes about us and reminding me of him.
At the end of the day, isn't a relationship founded on the basis of trust and respect for your partner? Why then should you even worry about how others think when the role of these "others" will be largely insignificant compared to that of the guy in question? It's your life - you live for yourself, not them!
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No point getting yourself stressed over that... Go slow and low profile if ya have to....Originally posted by chaah:Hi thanks for everybody replies and support without the support here i guess i am lost too.
Actually he is on course in Hendo camp. Which before he went for course, last evening he did sms me. Telling me to take care and see me in 2 weeks time.
Suddenly i also recall he even told me before, he need to feel wanted in a relationship. And there is another girl in office in love with him, which he isn't interested. Like he had mentioned he is a attention grabber. I am starting to suspect if he is enjoying the attention of dept guys/gals looking at 2 gals falling for him and on the other hand i am afraid to be used as a knife to kill the other gal. Sigh.. i know i shouldn't suspect this way. But i can't help it.
i guess he is now feeling confident of getting me. He is passive in sms or call me. But he never fail to respond if i do so. Right now i think i am not gonna do anything, but to seat back and see the respond. Then decide what i wanna do.
I might give up the game. Coz frankly i hate mind games. And i am never good in games. Thus giving up is the best i could protect myself.
silent night, suddenly i feel so lonely and sad. Why just why men love mind games. Sigh...
Isn't love suppose to be simple ?
Right now i felt like being corner in the situation where dept people feel, both of us has something on going. Which i am trying to clear the air. And some guys are avoiding chatting me up, because of territory issue. At times i feel the surrounding dept people are adding mental stress on the issue with their jokes about us. THere are time when i am alone doing my work, these people will jokes about us and reminding me of him. -
Maybe he really is just try to 'grab' attention? From the way you describe him to be, he is not the shy type of guy or passive type. If he is interested, he will take action.Originally posted by chaah:Hi thanks for everybody replies and support without the support here i guess i am lost too.
Actually he is on course in Hendo camp. Which before he went for course, last evening he did sms me. Telling me to take care and see me in 2 weeks time.
Suddenly i also recall he even told me before, he need to feel wanted in a relationship. And there is another girl in office in love with him, which he isn't interested. Like he had mentioned he is a attention grabber. I am starting to suspect if he is enjoying the attention of dept guys/gals looking at 2 gals falling for him and on the other hand i am afraid to be used as a knife to kill the other gal. Sigh.. i know i shouldn't suspect this way. But i can't help it.
i guess he is now feeling confident of getting me. He is passive in sms or call me. But he never fail to respond if i do so. Right now i think i am not gonna do anything, but to seat back and see the respond. Then decide what i wanna do.
I might give up the game. Coz frankly i hate mind games. And i am never good in games. Thus giving up is the best i could protect myself.
silent night, suddenly i feel so lonely and sad. Why just why men love mind games. Sigh...
Isn't love suppose to be simple ?
Right now i felt like being corner in the situation where dept people feel, both of us has something on going. Which i am trying to clear the air. And some guys are avoiding chatting me up, because of territory issue. At times i feel the surrounding dept people are adding mental stress on the issue with their jokes about us. THere are time when i am alone doing my work, these people will jokes about us and reminding me of him. -
I am actually quite wary of this type of guys as I had a bad experience.
This guy looked as if and acted as if that he is interested in you, makes all the hints and finally, when you fall hopelessly in love with him, declared your love to him, then, he suddenly hold the brakes and said that he doesn't want to be committed into a relationship. And yet, the worst part is that he gives you the hope that one day, you will get together but dunno when.
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agreedOriginally posted by ILPSY:I am actually quite wary of this type of guys as I had a bad experience.
This guy looked as if and acted as if that he is interested in you, makes all the hints and finally, when you fall hopelessly in love with him, declared your love to him, then, he suddenly hold the brakes and said that he doesn't want to be committed into a relationship. And yet, the worst part is that he gives you the hope that one day, you will get together but dunno when.
Be wary.
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Chaah, your postings are really mind opening to me. They show me how a gal really think.Originally posted by chaah:Hi thanks for everybody replies and support without the support here i guess i am lost too.
Actually he is on course in Hendo camp. Which before he went for course, last evening he did sms me. Telling me to take care and see me in 2 weeks time.
Suddenly i also recall he even told me before, he need to feel wanted in a relationship. And there is another girl in office in love with him, which he isn't interested. Like he had mentioned he is a attention grabber. I am starting to suspect if he is enjoying the attention of dept guys/gals looking at 2 gals falling for him and on the other hand i am afraid to be used as a knife to kill the other gal. Sigh.. i know i shouldn't suspect this way. But i can't help it.
i guess he is now feeling confident of getting me. He is passive in sms or call me. But he never fail to respond if i do so. Right now i think i am not gonna do anything, but to seat back and see the respond. Then decide what i wanna do.
I might give up the game. Coz frankly i hate mind games. And i am never good in games. Thus giving up is the best i could protect myself.
silent night, suddenly i feel so lonely and sad. Why just why men love mind games. Sigh...
Isn't love suppose to be simple ?
Right now i felt like being corner in the situation where dept people feel, both of us has something on going. Which i am trying to clear the air. And some guys are avoiding chatting me up, because of territory issue. At times i feel the surrounding dept people are adding mental stress on the issue with their jokes about us. THere are time when i am alone doing my work, these people will jokes about us and reminding me of him.
Now, I understand why my ex felt so experate when I sometimes left her without clue for a long time. You seem a decent gal .... keep us inform of your outcome. We can learn a thing or two from your postings. -
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Originally posted by chaah:Yes if guys want gals to feel secure, then has to prove to us. Tell us your feeling if must, we are both very diff species thus we will never be able to read minds without disclosing.
THat's why i always encourage people to show our true feeling. Life is short so enjoy it and torture it right ?
Love is suppose to be simple.
Always remember Man are from Mars, women from Venus.
So we have to give and take.
Not just receiving and never learn to give
You're self-contradicting, aren't you?Originally posted by chaah:So now i am learning to keep my cool and distant from him.
If he really is interested in me, he will approach me further
If people should show their true feelings and learn to give and not just receive, then how can it be right for you to go in with the mentality of keeping "cool and distant" until he "approaches you further"? -
After reading so much..hmmm..still good luck to TS..hope to hear a happy ending.One word of advice though. Be wary not to be besotted by him as it blurs the vison, if u get it.
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our lead actress not so open-minded mahOriginally posted by walesa:You're self-contradicting, aren't you? If people should show their true feelings and learn to give and not just receive, then how can it be right for you to go in with the mentality of keeping "cool and distant" until he "approaches you further"?
anyway, what u say may not be what u will do. -
I still have the feeling that the TS is still hoping that something good comes out of this relationship.
Personally, i feel that even if TS is to hold her brakes now, she will already start to feel hurt now. -
She is not self contradicting. I think what Chaah is saying are these and I am learning from her:Originally posted by walesa:You're self-contradicting, aren't you? If people should show their true feelings and learn to give and not just receive, then how can it be right for you to go in with the mentality of keeping "cool and distant" until he "approaches you further"?
1) man-woman relationship is really a mind reading game.....she is saying try to be as open as possible so that it is easy for the other party......I really regret not doing enough for my ex.
2) Although it is a mind -game, at the same time, a woman has to keep cool so as not to look desperate. For man, it is still ok. If his feeling is proven wrong, the most paiseh only.
Woman don't want to look desperate even if she is. In case she is wrong about her feeling, she can be seen to look cheap.......it is about dealing with her feeling......
Especially for Chaah. She still has office staff to deal with, remember?
3) It is the man who must do the chasing. No matter much a woman indicates her feeling, it is the man who die, die must indicates his feeling. From my experience, must indicates not one time but many, many times.
At first I don't know....I already indicated how much I like her...how beautiful she was to me.....I thought she know......then I saw how insecure she was as time passed by......
Woman is really like a vase. Man must takes it out and admires it from time to time and makes sure don't polish so hard that it breaks and says how beautiful it is........haiz if only I can turn back the clock............ -
I can't help but agree with ILPSY somewhat. If Chaah hadn't the remotest liking for the guy, I don't think she'd even start this thread, much less care about interpreting the guy's every gesture.Originally posted by 00011000:She is not self contradicting. I think what Chaah is saying are these and I am learning from her:
1) man-woman relationship is really a mind reading game.....she is saying try to be as open as possible so that it is easy for the other party......I really regret not doing enough for my ex.
2) Although it is a mind -game, at the same time, a woman has to keep cool so as not to look desperate. For man, it is still ok. If his feeling is proven wrong, the most paiseh only.
Woman don't want to look desperate even if she is. In case she is wrong about her feeling, she can be seen to look cheap.......it is about dealing with her feeling......
Especially for Chaah. She still has office staff to deal with, remember?
3) It is the man who must do the chasing. No matter much a woman indicates her feeling, it is the man who die, die must indicates his feeling. From my experience, must indicates not one time but many, many times.
At first I don't know....I already indicated how much I like her...how beautiful she was to me.....I thought she know......then I saw how insecure she was as time passed by......
Woman is really like a vase. Man must takes it out and admires it from time to time and makes sure don't polish so hard that it breaks and says how beautiful it is........haiz if only I can turn back the clock............
She wants him, but she's going to "hold back" - well, is a potential lifetime's worth of happiness worth just that little ego-bruising? You do the maths...
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Gal, be wary.
To me, he just sounds like a flirtatious guy who simply likes to have fun with gals. If he's interested, he'll sms/call you after office hours. -
how long has this flirting been going on?
if its been a few months and he is still not moving things on further... then perhaps he is jus enjoying flirting with u.
its a good thing that u are seeking so opinions from forumites here, most of the people have been through the flirting/become couple/become friend process.
by now, u should have formed your opinion on this guy.
dun think so much. if nothing happens, u gain a friend. if something happens, u gain a bonus. -
ask him or drop hintsOriginally posted by chaah:Hi there, i need some external advice.
Any guys or gals around to help ?
Tks tks
There's this guy in my office, who i get along very well. I am suspecting he is interested in me, but i am not very sure.
Details:
1) We were in IT shop and he actually get the membership which cost small amount. And told me to use the membership if i want to do so, it's ok. But looking at it, he didn't buy anything from there. But me.
2) he will come to my work area chat with other guys, but there are times when i turn n look at him. He is there looking at me. But then look away.
3) He ask if i am interested to go KTV ? which end up we went with office guys.
4) We both want 2apply for Car-sharing program membership. which he plan to get it next mth. And he teasing me to join as sub-member of his. When i told he i cn't coz we are not related. He tease to say you can haaa..
5) suddenly out of no where, he tease me by asking if i want to rent his house room. which i never mention of moving out ?? But in my heart i am looking for room
6) there are times when we chat, he do look into my eyes for few second. I mean those direct eyes to eyes contact.
Lastly forget to tell, he will usually at times come over to my work space and just throw some paper or etc.. to disturb me. Abit childish but funny keh..keh.. -
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test him out..by asking him out or something
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anything u wanna share?Originally posted by chaah: -
wa why edit all ur posts?
the guy found out oledi ah? -
aiya..i thought got updates..hahaOriginally posted by chaah: