Why is it so hard when you are getting older?
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Why? Why can't I just have the things I want for once in my life? Why is it always so ironic? Why is it when I want something, it always run away? Why is it so hard to find someone to love?
Why is it so hard to woo someone when it gets older? I have decided to ask her out purely as friends and she accepted the first date without any hesitation. After the first date, I find her a very nice lady but right now I have asked her out 2 times and both times got those "see how" first reply.
What have I done that have gone wrong? Why all these years my luck with girls are so bad? So many girls yet none stayed. Am I only suitable yo be good friends and not a lover? In the past, it was not like that. I had 3 gfs before and ever since the last one when I decided to settle down I could not find anyone.
I have socially active and I join many activities and talk to many girls yet the most I can go is being friends. I am not ugly nor anti-social yet sometimes I find my friendliness taken for granted. When I care too much, nothing seems to work out. But when I become a bastard, I get what I want. Why is life so ironic?
In work, I always thought I would get a job where I would meet a good boss who saw potential in me. I don't consider myself stupid but yet all I get a job was simply an average paid job with no growth potential. Yet some of my peers who are academically lousier than me get a higher paid job than me. And worst of all I get a boss that is a joker and a job environment that emphasise on papers.
All I want is a simple and happy life but why am I getting the opposite? Is it really so difficult to find love in this materialistic country? -
u sure u not ugly?
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all i can say, good luck bro.
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Kip faith dude...
Can't force sumone 2 fall in luv wif u...u'r old enuf 2 understand dat rite?
Dey say happiness is just around e corner...i hope 4 ur sake its true -
just keep on trying...
got try, got chance
no try, no dream -
I understand that very well but sometimes just feel like giving up. One or two time bitten is ok. but it's been like countless times in a row.......very tired....sometimes I just feel like giving up and just live a life of vice.Originally posted by pipi & poot-poot:Kip faith dude...
Can't force sumone 2 fall in luv wif u...u'r old enuf 2 understand dat rite?
Dey say happiness is just around e corner...i hope 4 ur sake its true
to quote Spiderman 3: How long can any man fight the darkness... before he finds it in himself?
How long can I fight????????? I really don't know. I am not getting young anymore. Few more years will see the big 3. I am very worried. -
Stephen King once said that "Nothing lasts forever, even love's a lie...a tool of manipulation...there's no God beyond my sky..."Originally posted by love?:I understand that very well but sometimes just feel like giving up. One or two time bitten is ok. but it's been like countless times in a row.......very tired....sometimes I just feel like giving up and just live a life of vice.
to quote Spiderman 3: How long can any man fight the darkness... before he finds it in himself?
How long can I fight????????? I really don't know. I am not getting young anymore. Few more years will see the big 3. I am very worried.
dejection is hard 2 swallow...no one understands dis more den u....
But Stephen King became a best selling novelist wif his dejection..I'm sure u'r more den able to stand chin up & eyes ahead
Always better things 2 look 4ward to...but u miss 'em all if u kip lookin back -
Things don't run away, ppl do
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I suggest you go watch this movie... 'The Pursuit of Happiness'....Originally posted by love?:Why? Why can't I just have the things I want for once in my life? Why is it always so ironic? Why is it when I want something, it always run away? Why is it so hard to find someone to love?
Why is it so hard to woo someone when it gets older? I have decided to ask her out purely as friends and she accepted the first date without any hesitation. After the first date, I find her a very nice lady but right now I have asked her out 2 times and both times got those "see how" first reply.
What have I done that have gone wrong? Why all these years my luck with girls are so bad? So many girls yet none stayed. Am I only suitable yo be good friends and not a lover? In the past, it was not like that. I had 3 gfs before and ever since the last one when I decided to settle down I could not find anyone.
I have socially active and I join many activities and talk to many girls yet the most I can go is being friends. I am not ugly nor anti-social yet sometimes I find my friendliness taken for granted. When I care too much, nothing seems to work out. But when I become a bastard, I get what I want. Why is life so ironic?
In work, I always thought I would get a job where I would meet a good boss who saw potential in me. I don't consider myself stupid but yet all I get a job was simply an average paid job with no growth potential. Yet some of my peers who are academically lousier than me get a higher paid job than me. And worst of all I get a boss that is a joker and a job environment that emphasise on papers.
All I want is a simple and happy life but why am I getting the opposite? Is it really so difficult to find love in this materialistic country?
Personal advice. You can try, but sometimes no point trying too hard... Especially when the other party doesn't reciprocate..
Remember what people used to say... "Sometimes love only come when you least expect it..." -
maybe its stil not here yet??
sometimes we need to learn n understand b4 the gift will be presented by God/fate? -
Hi love?,
"Life is a struggle, accept it and face it and it will be less of a struggle."
Finding that right person is one of the most important thing in everyone's life. Few had it easy. Most had it hard. But most eventually still tied down the knotstring.
cheers -
You waited untill most of the suitable ones for you had been taken... so now you must settle for the less suitable ones (less suitable for you arrr.. not inherently less suitable, ok?)... face reality, embrace it and take it one day at a time.Originally posted by love?:Why? Why can't I just have the things I want for once in my life? Why is it always so ironic? Why is it when I want something, it always run away? Why is it so hard to find someone to love?
Why is it so hard to woo someone when it gets older? I have decided to ask her out purely as friends and she accepted the first date without any hesitation. After the first date, I find her a very nice lady but right now I have asked her out 2 times and both times got those "see how" first reply.
What have I done that have gone wrong? Why all these years my luck with girls are so bad? So many girls yet none stayed. Am I only suitable yo be good friends and not a lover? In the past, it was not like that. I had 3 gfs before and ever since the last one when I decided to settle down I could not find anyone.
I have socially active and I join many activities and talk to many girls yet the most I can go is being friends. I am not ugly nor anti-social yet sometimes I find my friendliness taken for granted. When I care too much, nothing seems to work out. But when I become a bastard, I get what I want. Why is life so ironic?
In work, I always thought I would get a job where I would meet a good boss who saw potential in me. I don't consider myself stupid but yet all I get a job was simply an average paid job with no growth potential. Yet some of my peers who are academically lousier than me get a higher paid job than me. And worst of all I get a boss that is a joker and a job environment that emphasise on papers.
All I want is a simple and happy life but why am I getting the opposite? Is it really so difficult to find love in this materialistic country? -
the reason for her behaviour is obviously not because of your age since she accepted your date.
i mean she didnt get to know your age during the date right? -
The impression she gets on the 1st date is important...it affects whether she wants to go on future dates or not.
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i dont know how you look like but from my observation in life unless you are a big time jerk- no matter how ugly you are there is always somebody in this world for you . Just a matter of timing but of course you must also tailor your expectations to yourself.If you look like ah beng and talk like one you can expect angelina jolie to fall for you.Originally posted by love?:Why? Why can't I just have the things I want for once in my life? Why is it always so ironic? Why is it when I want something, it always run away? Why is it so hard to find someone to love?
Why is it so hard to woo someone when it gets older? I have decided to ask her out purely as friends and she accepted the first date without any hesitation. After the first date, I find her a very nice lady but right now I have asked her out 2 times and both times got those "see how" first reply.
What have I done that have gone wrong? Why all these years my luck with girls are so bad? So many girls yet none stayed. Am I only suitable yo be good friends and not a lover? In the past, it was not like that. I had 3 gfs before and ever since the last one when I decided to settle down I could not find anyone.
I have socially active and I join many activities and talk to many girls yet the most I can go is being friends. I am not ugly nor anti-social yet sometimes I find my friendliness taken for granted. When I care too much, nothing seems to work out. But when I become a bastard, I get what I want. Why is life so ironic?
In work, I always thought I would get a job where I would meet a good boss who saw potential in me. I don't consider myself stupid but yet all I get a job was simply an average paid job with no growth potential. Yet some of my peers who are academically lousier than me get a higher paid job than me. And worst of all I get a boss that is a joker and a job environment that emphasise on papers.
All I want is a simple and happy life but why am I getting the opposite? Is it really so difficult to find love in this materialistic country?
So if she dont want to go out with you anymore,please give up and dont harass her anymore. Have some pride in yourself, time to change target.
Aim too high and you fail spectacularly. Start from the bottom first maybe the philipinos in orchard road on sunday and slowly move upwards from there.
good luck and good nite -
Wah lao, the right one that he feel attracted to is not easy to come by and yet you ask him go try Philipinos. Not that they are no good, but you know people have different reasons and cultural reasons for feeling attracted to someone.
Anyway, you said the girl said "see how", I guess she is simply not sure how things will turn out between you and her so she is kinda waiting for you to do something let her feel impressed (actually more like she needs to feel that special "feel" she gets when she is actually falling in love) before that can happen, I think she will be saying "see how" to you. -
First date because she want to know you.
She now know you, and do not want to go out with you.
So find another one lah. Why press someone who do not want you.
If you go out with a georgeous girl, and found that she is not to your liking.
Would you go out with her again? You will also be polite and say "See how".
Then she will sign up and post here. -
Things will go ur way 1 day wan... Why rush to get everything done in the shortest time frame?? Then u will be left with an empty window for the rest of ur life... Its all fate!!! If its urs, it is bound to be urs...
Juz try again lor! 1 day u will succeed wan!
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If something is easily got, you won't trsure it but take it for granted lor.
Just because the girl turned you down twice, you say it's difficult! I question your sincerity and seriousness leh!
If you are serious about her, you would persevere to woo her and not give up so easily de. No pain where got gain.......? -
Maybe she finds that you don't have enough money to go out with her? Or too lowly educated?Originally posted by love?:Why? Why can't I just have the things I want for once in my life? Why is it always so ironic? Why is it when I want something, it always run away? Why is it so hard to find someone to love?
Why is it so hard to woo someone when it gets older? I have decided to ask her out purely as friends and she accepted the first date without any hesitation. After the first date, I find her a very nice lady but right now I have asked her out 2 times and both times got those "see how" first reply.
http://food.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=240792
Food for thought eh. -
I can only say, what goes around comes around ..... -
i thought i told ya, hey...Originally posted by choco B:
I can only say, what goes around comes around ..... -
its hard becos sometimes we try too hard...
relax abit.. -
Just curious, did you bombarded them with personal questions during your dates?
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If the girl in question is the same girl you posted about in the other thread, I can only say good for her.
Btw, alot of so-called "lowly educated" folks are very sharp and street smart.