friend problems
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my gd frens around me hor, all like freaking nolifes liddat...
ask them go out, dey sissy here sissy there say "if he go den i go", "no money", or "i want stay at home"
wtf?
my frens all giam siap and shit... jus finished a fone call wif him askin him to go out on sat n he give me a lan lan reply say if xxxx go den i go...
its like, dey all the suaku kind, 4 of them, the places to eat? never b4 the places like sakura, cartel and such, its always hawker centers =_="
im not saying that hawker centers sux, its like higher standards of places dey oso dunwan go, the reasons? no $$, too expensive...
i wonder how are they going to survive next time, always save money? always hawker center? wedding oso hawker center la?
i tried telling them to go out and experience the "outside" and dun be a nolife always rotting at home and what do i get?
"eh i got go my grandma hse 1 hor"
wtf.
"when go?"
"once a week."
tell dem go see movie, every1 not free, always not free. and btw when i meant not free means dunwan to go, staying at home... might as well go die...
and the only times to get them out is at times when they will benefit from it, like the IT show, they go cos dey wanna buy stuffs... den in the end straight go home...
got go out i happy liao, but so little times onli...
how can i make them go out more? like make them interested to go out more?
they're all the homey homey kind... i oso, but den recently i began to travel more, its like i want them to know its great outside oso...
anyway thanks for reading, hoping for advices
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cuz..
they..
dun..
like..
you.
but dats juz a minor factor.
i think. -
Not everyone is like u.. willing to part with money..
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not dat la.Originally posted by Ito_^:cuz..
they..
dun..
like..
you.
but dats juz a minor factor.
i think.
i mean, dey dunlike to go out... -
i mean the go out part la, nt money part la...Originally posted by Gackt247:Not everyone is like u.. willing to part with money..
money is secondary
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den bobian.. if they are anti-social.. there's only so much as u can do to coax there to go out.. find others to socialise with lor..Originally posted by gigabyte14:not dat la.
i mean, dey dunlike to go out...
Or try analysing n finding a common interest.. -
find other friends...
or...movie etc u ask them go out on mondays etc because cheaper...
think of their financial status...some of my friends also have a very tight budget...so just think for one another... -
Sounds like me. But at least I know how when to compromise...
Not exactly no life... perhaps not willing to change, especially when it comes to paying. Not all people all rich...
Since they are homey kinds, try some quiet places to get them out, like library, or some neighbourhood void deck and chit chat will do... -
ps: im suffering similar problems too.
dat time we set go makan brazilian churrascaria but ended up at marina bbq last minute cuz a couple ppl complained too ex. some of us were so looking forward to it too. i made reservations, checked travel directions, etc, oso.
i always ended up eating cheapo buffets and crap food due to this reason. lim peh already got diabetics, and im not gonna die on lousy crap.
but wad to do.. dats life.
not everyone places priorities the same manner as us. -
don't know what to say
maybe they are mountain tortoise
maybe if you are a girl, then they will go out
i don't know -
yeah..i truely understand how u feel man..
last time during my schooling days also like that...
now so many years later, we all starting working..
i moved on...they all haven...
10years ago like that, 5 years ago also like that, presently also the same...give up on this people liao...
coincidentally this "no life" never had any GFs b4, play too much computer games and are super stringy in money even though they have no commitments or debts..
well, anyway, i moved on...so glad that most of my other friends are as fun and upgrading as they are...
my poly,uni,ns,working friends have became great pals, whereas all my "no-life" sec sch frens are still living exactly the same life they lived 10years ago...
a typical outing with them would be,
1. go walk walk, dun buy things, dun spend money
2. go eat fast food or hawker center
3. talk about computers and geeky stuff
4. go home b4 last train/bus
they all grown man liao but still seem to have taboos, etc, no chiong, no drinking, no late nights, no dirty talk, no this, no that, that why till now all no life and no gf...
play games they number one loh...
ZZzz give up on them lah...move on and u can find many more interesting friends man... -
ya i know.Originally posted by gigabyte14:not dat la.
i mean, dey dunlike to go out...
if someone they really like, have chemistry wib, they will try their best to go out one.
if im ur fren, and i find u sian sian type, i oso not very willing to say yes to your invitations oso.
but its a minor reason la, like u said.
its their personality not to go out.
especially with ppl who have different spending habits with em. -
i disagree, personally.Originally posted by pinkish purple papayas:yeah..i truely understand how u feel man..
last time during my schooling days also like that...
now so many years later, we all starting working..
i moved on...they all haven...
10years ago like that, 5 years ago also like that, presently also the same...give up on this people liao...
coincidentally this "no life" never had any GFs b4, play too much computer games and are super stringy in money even though they have no commitments or debts..
well, anyway, i moved on...so glad that most of my other friends are as fun and upgrading as they are...
my poly,uni,ns,working friends have became great pals, whereas all my "no-life" sec sch frens are still living exactly the same life they lived 10years ago...
a typical outing with them would be,
1. go walk walk, dun buy things, dun spend money
2. go eat fast food or hawker center
3. talk about computers and geeky stuff
4. go home b4 last train/bus
they all grown man liao but still seem to have taboos, etc, no chiong, no drinking, no late nights, no dirty talk, no this, no that, that why till now all no life and no gf...
play games they number one loh...
ZZzz give up on them lah...move on and u can find many more interesting friends man...
they are not inferior to anyone juz becuz they prefer this over that.
grown up man doesn't mean muz chiong, muz drink, muz late nights, muz talk dirty, etc. -
ya dats wat im toking abt...Originally posted by pinkish purple papayas:yeah..i truely understand how u feel man..
last time during my schooling days also like that...
now so many years later, we all starting working..
i moved on...they all haven...
10years ago like that, 5 years ago also like that, presently also the same...give up on this people liao...
coincidentally this "no life" never had any GFs b4, play too much computer games and are super stringy in money even though they have no commitments or debts..
well, anyway, i moved on...so glad that most of my other friends are as fun and upgrading as they are...
my poly,uni,ns,working friends have became great pals, whereas all my "no-life" sec sch frens are still living exactly the same life they lived 10years ago...
a typical outing with them would be,
1. go walk walk, dun buy things, dun spend money
2. go eat fast food or hawker center
3. talk about computers and geeky stuff
4. go home b4 last train/bus
they all grown man liao but still seem to have taboos, etc, no chiong, no drinking, no late nights, no dirty talk, no this, no that, that why till now all no life and no gf...
play games they number one loh...
ZZzz give up on them lah...move on and u can find many more interesting friends man...
so you guys/gals are suggesting i move on huh?
kinda like bu4 she3 de2 the feeling leh -
u treat them lor
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but den, dey all very very very close frens leh... jus like throw away dem like so bad...
its like, i wish to make them 'follow my footsteps', know what i mean? -
of cos grown up man doesn mean must chiong, must drink etc etc...Originally posted by Ito_^:i disagree, personally.
they are not inferior to anyone juz becuz they prefer this over that.
grown up man doesn't mean muz chiong, muz drink, muz late nights, muz talk dirty, etc.
but this people nvr chiong, nvr drink, nvr too anything interesting enuff...
its a matter of openess and closure on these activities...
perhaps i belong to the more open and wild side...whereas some of my frens belong to.....ermm....pc games and homely boy loh.. -
i dunno sponser them how much liao lo...Originally posted by yihao93:u treat them lor
summore hawker center u kno
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no need to she de or not leh...u make new friends doesnt mean that u lose ur old friends...Originally posted by gigabyte14:ya dats wat im toking abt...
so you guys/gals are suggesting i move on huh?
kinda like bu4 she3 de2 the feeling leh
however, i managed to integrate a few of my "no-life" friends into my other circles of friends liao...
now they more fun-loving liao...but some still have stubbornly refuse the change.. -
im exactly in ur place leh PPP.Originally posted by pinkish purple papayas:of cos grown up man doesn mean must chiong, must drink etc etc...
but this people nvr chiong, nvr drink, nvr too anything interesting enuff...
its a matter of openess and closure on these activities...
perhaps i belong to the more open and wild side...whereas some of my frens belong to.....ermm....pc games and homely boy loh..
its like, how can they always keep to the usual everyday routine?
oso will sian 1 ma...
1 of them oso say his life veri sian, when i ask him go out, he oso say sian...
wtf rite?
i alone go out i oso dunlike, i prefer alot ppl go out 1
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i have a theory that sounds kinda... u decide...
if u make friends that make friends, u make more friends
but if u make friends that dun make friends, u kinda give urself a deadend in socializing...
of course, pple would say make so many friends in the end also not all true friends, but in this world, its all about networking... -
find yourself a girlfriend bah, go and venture into ICQ more often bahOriginally posted by gigabyte14:im exactly in ur place leh PPP.
its like, how can they always keep to the usual everyday routine?
oso will sian 1 ma...
1 of them oso say his life veri sian, when i ask him go out, he oso say sian...
wtf rite?
i alone go out i oso dunlike, i prefer alot ppl go out 1
there is a saying in chinese - boredom is invincible -
u schooling? sec?Originally posted by gigabyte14:im exactly in ur place leh PPP.
its like, how can they always keep to the usual everyday routine?
oso will sian 1 ma...
1 of them oso say his life veri sian, when i ask him go out, he oso say sian...
wtf rite?
i alone go out i oso dunlike, i prefer alot ppl go out 1
if go poly make more friends loh, then take up a CCA...
later in life, during NS, if u platoon is those garang ones, ur NS firnds also very socially garang one..
somemore, ur work friends?
who knows, theres always a chance for a relationship with a special someone too
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i find myself in a deadend already...Originally posted by pinkish purple papayas:i have a theory that sounds kinda... u decide...
if u make friends that make friends, u make more friends
but if u make friends that dun make friends, u kinda give urself a deadend in socializing...
of course, pple would say make so many friends in the end also not all true friends, but in this world, its all about networking...
but anyway, you don't care much about true frens and such 1?
more the merrier ah? -
u tok like those who refuse to follow ur footsteps shld get out of ur face lidat sia.Originally posted by pinkish purple papayas:no need to she de or not leh...u make new friends doesnt mean that u lose ur old friends...
however, i managed to integrate a few of my "no-life" friends into my other circles of friends liao...
now they more fun-loving liao...but some still have stubbornly refuse the change..