What should I do?
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Hi everyone. This is my 1st post here. Hope someone can give me good advice on my situation.
There's this gal who I have known for around 4 yrs. During this period, there were times when I wanted to ask her be my gf but due to reasons I didnt find tell her. Recently, I found out indirectly that she has a bf for about 2 mths. Since then, I feel I have been a fool. I should have tell her I like her. But now...I don't know should I remain as close frens wif her or should I tell her I like her. Her birthday is coming close. Any advice anyone?
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be a true gentleman, dun interrupt.
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If you truly like her, go for it, and prove that you are better than that guy
If you love her, then wish her all the best and move on, as there is other 'flowers; out there. -
No. I think you shouldn't confess to her for the time being. She has a BF already, this might cause some friction between them if you confess to her. Also, try not to get too close for comfort with her. Her BF might suspect you are trying to snatch her away.
You can still be friends with her, but dont get too close.
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If I tell her my feelings and she actually likes me, maybe we can be together?
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And how old are you?Originally posted by LoStGuY:If I tell her my feelings and she actually likes me, maybe we can be together?
Would it be benefitial for both of you if you all really start a BGR?
And if you really loved her instead of like her.
You wont even have thoughts of interupting her current one.
From the way you talk.
You just telling people you despo for gf.
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You said she had a bf so means now dun have? or is that a grammar mistake and you mean have?
Seem like others are mistaking that she is now having a bf -
My advice is.. Tell her you like her.. If she dont like, then be it. Just be friends. Maybe it take afew to mend the friendship again.
Tell= 50% she become your gf, 50% you loss a friend
Dont Tell = 100% not gf, 100% your friend. -
waaaaaaaaaaaaa Ts my junior/my clone?
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Anyway i am basing on her bf is still with her now.
If that is the case,then you should just give up and wait.
You had your chance then to tell her but you did not,now she got a bf and you Regret?Do you really think you have the rights to regret since in the first place you choose not to tell already.
Why only now?Make her feel guilty now? Make her go into anguish if she actually like you and now have to choose btw you and her bf?
If you really like her,and her relationship with her bf is good now,just give her your blessing.Remember you have already made your choice then,dun regret on your choice now. -
I'm sorry. Its my grammer mistake. She has a bf now. Been together for about 2 mths.Originally posted by GenX:You said she had a bf so means now dun have? or is that a grammar mistake and you mean have?
Seem like others are mistaking that she is now having a bf -
then my advice stand
you have choosen your road,you should not regret it.Wait.If she end up marrying the guy,bless her with all your heart.Be glad that someone you like is happy
If she end up breaking off,then it is back to your choice again,do you want to regret another time in the future again?Your decision then.
and oh lol think my grammar sucks now as well,she has not she have must remember -
haha the same thing happened to me. except i knew her for around a few monthes and i had NUMEROUS chances to make a move before her bf did but i DIDNT
i suggest you leave her alone with her boyfriend. the ocean is full of other nice fishes
. if you truly care for her, you wouldnt wanna be a third party and make her see red would you? -
Ok. Thanks for the advice guys. I will think it through.
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\Originally posted by LoStGuY:Hi everyone. This is my 1st post here. Hope someone can give me good advice on my situation.
There's this gal who I have known for around 4 yrs. During this period, there were times when I wanted to ask her be my gf but due to reasons I didnt find tell her. Recently, I found out indirectly that she has a bf for about 2 mths. Since then, I feel I have been a fool. I should have tell her I like her. But now...I don't know should I remain as close frens wif her or should I tell her I like her. Her birthday is coming close. Any advice anyone?
u say u have known her for ard 4 yr... i think u should have a lot of chances to tell her u wanted her as ur gf... even if there are reasons that u din tell her..
it seemed to me that now.. she has a bf.. then u are regreting.. if assuming now, she doesnt has a bf, u still wont tell her..
so u had made ur choice.. regret for all u want.. but dont break up other r/s... learn this as a lesson, dont wait till so long to tell a gal this.. -
2 months only. Confess now, or never!
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hummm sadly to break it to you kidOriginally posted by LoStGuY:If I tell her my feelings and she actually likes me, maybe we can be together?
If she loves you, she will be with you and wait for you to ask her to be your gf.
But sadly 4 yrs have passed and you did not make a single move.
If I will that girl, I will not wait so long...
She have a new bf only shows that she never love you at all so i got a few options for you.
1) fight for a chance, say that you love her and try to win her back.
2) wait until the cows come home, to ask her , since you have wait so long why borther ? -
Be a close friend. The girl already has a bf. You want to tell her your feelings for her for what? It'll only put pressure on the girl and strain/ruin the friendship between you and her. Stay close to her but on the sidelines. Unless the relationship between the girl and her bf has ended, you have absolutely no business to potong jalan as you should want the girl to be happy even if it means her not being with you but with someone else.........
Ai yi ge ren bu xu yao yong you mah............ -
aiyo!!! 4YEARS LEH!!! so bloody long time dun wan tell her.. i think should find one day, meet her out or something, confess to her but say, "since u already have bf, i will let go and bless u all.. but we will still be gd friends, don't we?".. like that surely won't lose friend 1.. if u ps to meet her, then jus call her or send her a letter lo.. write or say every single thing u felt about her in those 4 yrs..Originally posted by LoStGuY:Hi everyone. This is my 1st post here. Hope someone can give me good advice on my situation.
There's this gal who I have known for around 4 yrs. During this period, there were times when I wanted to ask her be my gf but due to reasons I didnt find tell her. Recently, I found out indirectly that she has a bf for about 2 mths. Since then, I feel I have been a fool. I should have tell her I like her. But now...I don't know should I remain as close frens wif her or should I tell her I like her. Her birthday is coming close. Any advice anyone?
but frankly la.. i really sound like those korean nad taiwan drama leh.. LOL!! -
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See, now you are enjoying the bad fruit of you not making the move before anyone else!!!Originally posted by LoStGuY:Hi everyone. This is my 1st post here. Hope someone can give me good advice on my situation.
There's this gal who I have known for around 4 yrs. During this period, there were times when I wanted to ask her be my gf but due to reasons I didnt find tell her. Recently, I found out indirectly that she has a bf for about 2 mths. Since then, I feel I have been a fool. I should have tell her I like her. But now...I don't know should I remain as close frens wif her or should I tell her I like her. Her birthday is coming close. Any advice anyone? -
Pai seh...i'm not that "wei da" to be so secret n swallow....i'll just tell her....friend or not friend, say liao then will know...now think so much also like that...Originally posted by LoStGuY:Hi everyone. This is my 1st post here. Hope someone can give me good advice on my situation.
There's this gal who I have known for around 4 yrs. During this period, there were times when I wanted to ask her be my gf but due to reasons I didnt find tell her. Recently, I found out indirectly that she has a bf for about 2 mths. Since then, I feel I have been a fool. I should have tell her I like her. But now...I don't know should I remain as close frens wif her or should I tell her I like her. Her birthday is coming close. Any advice anyone? -
Originally posted by LoStGuY:Hi everyone. This is my 1st post here. Hope someone can give me good advice on my situation.
There's this gal who I have known for around 4 yrs. During this period, there were times when I wanted to ask her be my gf but due to reasons I didnt find tell her. Recently, I found out indirectly that she has a bf for about 2 mths. Since then, I feel I have been a fool. I should have tell her I like her. But now...I don't know should I remain as close frens wif her or should I tell her I like her. Her birthday is coming close. Any advice anyone? 
I used to walk passed this shop, totally awed by this one particular shoe. Talked about it all day and my good friend even bought the shoe in another colour. But because the price is quite steep, I decided to hold on to my purchase (even I had the money to spend. Don't know why, just decided to hold on).
When I have decided to buy, the shoe is gone forever - no more size.
Even till now, I still think fondly of that shoe.
Given the chance, if someone wanted to sell the shoe, would I buy it?
Yes (Provided it's deadstock or the condition is very good).
But meanwhile, have I stop buying shoes?
Not really. In fact after that, I have gotten three other pairs of shoes spread over a period of time.
P.S: People are always interested in things they don't have. Ironically, that doesn't mean they would not settle for something better in the future.
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good one dude...Originally posted by Yunhaier: I used to walk passed this shop, totally awed by this one particular shoe. Talked about it all day and my good friend even bought the shoe in another colour. But because the price is quite steep, I decided to hold on to my purchase (even I had the money to spend. Don't know why, just decided to hold on).
When I have decided to buy, the shoe is gone forever - no more size.
Even till now, I still think fondly of that shoe.
Given the chance, if someone wanted to sell the shoe, would I buy it?
Yes (Provided it's deadstock or the condition is very good).
But meanwhile, have I stop buying shoes?
Not really. In fact after that, I have gotten three other pairs of shoes spread over a period of time.
P.S: People are always interested in things they don't have. Ironically, that doesn't mean they would not settle for something better in the future.
Cheers