I'm in love with one of my best friends
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He knows, he found out about a week ago. I wish we could be more than friends but the thing is...I have a boyfriend who loves me very much and he's in love with another girl who doesn't love him. I know i have to faithful to my boyfriend which is not hard at the moment since the guy i'm in love with doesn't love me, but i'm afraid that in the future when he gets over his current love things will be more complicated. We had a chance to become a couple long time ago but he let it slip away. Now i keep thinking what could have been. I try to support my boyfriend and give him as much love as he's given me over the past couple of years but my heart's not 100% in it. Every now and then i start thinking about my friend...How can i get over him?
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Wa, what a mess!!!Originally posted by red|pixie:He knows, he found out about a week ago. I wish we could be more than friends but the thing is...I have a boyfriend who loves me very much and he's in love with another girl who doesn't love him. I know i have to faithful to my boyfriend which is not hard at the moment since the guy i'm in love with doesn't love me, but i'm afraid that in the future when he gets over his current love things will be more complicated. We had a chance to become a couple long time ago but he let it slip away. Now i keep thinking what could have been. I try to support my boyfriend and give him as much love as he's given me over the past couple of years but my heart's not 100% in it. Every now and then i start thinking about my friend...How can i get over him?
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Spend more time with your bf...
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Make firm decision...
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Take some time to know wat u want n wat u can have n how to minimise casualties.
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wtf? very messy..
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so u saying ur bf likes another gal?Originally posted by red|pixie:He knows, he found out about a week ago. I wish we could be more than friends but the thing is...I have a boyfriend who loves me very much and he's in love with another girl who doesn't love him. I know i have to faithful to my boyfriend which is not hard at the moment since the guy i'm in love with doesn't love me, but i'm afraid that in the future when he gets over his current love things will be more complicated. We had a chance to become a couple long time ago but he let it slip away. Now i keep thinking what could have been. I try to support my boyfriend and give him as much love as he's given me over the past couple of years but my heart's not 100% in it. Every now and then i start thinking about my friend...How can i get over him?
or u mean the guy u like? -
I think its goes like this. TS currently has a BF that loves her very much but TS is in love with another guy. This guy that TS like is in love with another girl who doesn't reciprocate.
BF --Love--> TS --Love--> Another Guy --Love--> Another Girl. All in a One-Way Traffic.
Sometimes, things don't turn out to be what you want. Learn to treasure what you have. But then only you know what you want. -
Totally agreed with you man ..:Treasure something you have now cos you never know what will happen in the next second life is like a drama over in an instant..Originally posted by jianfish9:I think its goes like this. TS currently has a BF that loves her very much but TS is in love with another guy. This guy that TS like is in love with another girl who doesn't reciprocate.
BF --Love--> TS --Love--> Another Guy --Love--> Another Girl. All in a One-Way Traffic.
Sometimes, things don't turn out to be what you want. Learn to treasure what you have. But then only you know what you want.
where got 100% in love :Just ask yourself how much you love the other guy if not much then just stay by your bf side if not next time you sing this song 'Show me the meaning of being lonely...'Tell me why.... -
and you and your bf has been together for years?
treasure it. =) -
Do what you heart tells you
simple as that
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To you who said follow your heart:
That's the problem...my heart is torn. I want to be loyal to my boyfriend but at the same time i'm thinking about my friend. -
Give yourself some time to think about it, maybe away from both your best friend and your bf for a couple of days. It might help for you to think clearly on what you want. I would advise you not to rush any decisions. As for your best friend would not be able to love u 100% even if both of you are together. Hope you will not regret on your decisions
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Originally posted by jianfish9:BF --Love--> TS --Love--> Another Guy --Love--> Another Girl. All in a One-Way Traffic.
So the girl at the end of the chain is the biggest winner? -
She's always the winner. I've been listening to him go on and on about her for over a year nowOriginally posted by walesa:
So the girl at the end of the chain is the biggest winner? -
break with ur bf, and let the guy u love know.
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Thinking about your friend is not sleeping with him... so think all you want if it makes you happy...Originally posted by red|pixie:To you who said follow your heart:
That's the problem...my heart is torn. I want to be loyal to my boyfriend but at the same time i'm thinking about my friend. -
tink u need to sort ur feelings... wats so gd abt tat guy? better looking? and wats so bad abt ur bf?Originally posted by red|pixie:She's always the winner. I've been listening to him go on and on about her for over a year now -
it's not about looks or money or anything like that. my friend and i have more in common..we like the same music, same shows, we have stuff to talk about, i just feel emotional connection. and there's nothing bad about my boyfriend, but we're completely different.Originally posted by BrUtUs:tink u need to sort ur feelings... wats so gd abt tat guy? better looking? and wats so bad abt ur bf? -
double post
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Without furter background details, it's hard to evaluate anything! Let us know how old you guys are, what you are presently doing, that is, working/still studying etc.
Dat way we can have a better picture to assess ma.......... -
I agree with the picture thingy.Originally posted by :Without furter background details, it's hard to evaluate anything! Let us know how old you guys are, what you are presently doing, that is, working/still studying etc.
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hummmOriginally posted by red|pixie:it's not about looks or money or anything like that. my friend and i have more in common..we like the same music, same shows, we have stuff to talk about, i just feel emotional connection. and there's nothing bad about my boyfriend, but we're completely different.
If you got so many what ifs or so many regrets then why start a relationship with your bf ? DO you admit that you ever loving your bf at all since your heart is always thinking of this "friend"? Are you just using your bf for the time being only?
Let me put it this way if your "friend" say that he loves you, will you dump your bf asap to be with him? lets be honest shall we since no one here knows who you are.
sadly to say that by making the above statement only shows that you have made up your mind.
Can I ask the people in the forum with girls like that as your gf will be still want to be a loyal and loving to your girl? Imagine you put years and effort in the relationship only to end up with nothing in the end..
To girls out there it takes time and lots of effort to be a good bf. Stop trashing your good bf cos in the end you will suffer the same faith too when the guy u so call love will dump you asap as what you have done.
Sadly after seeing so many case of the above examples I really do no wish to see another guy to be hurt by an unfaithful girl.
To the writer have a heart tell your bf the truth and let him decide. If he is dumb enough to stand by you then by all means go ahead. If he is smart enough he will move on.
Most impt let your bf decide after treating you so well for so long, this should be the min effort by you.
would you like to feel how your bf would feel if you left him ?
below is a part of a story of what your bf would be feeling.
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just felt like letting it out.
i was there for her when she was feeling down.
i helped her up everytime she fell.
i gave her all my attention even when others had appointments with me.
i sent her home everyday even though i stayed far away and had less than 3 hours sleep.
i was there to help her financially if she needed it.
i was there to console her everytime she complained and cried that she did something wrong at work.
i always put up with her tantrums and never once told her i wanted to break up.
i always let her know where i was or with whom and wat i was doing.
i always bought her clothes or other accessories but she never wore to let me see
even when we did break up once and she wanted to patch back and cried, i was always there for her during the break up and eventually decided to patch back
i never once put up any photos with other gals in any website
but now.. suddenly some guy comes in between us playing the good guy and gives her advise.
now she says she is confused suddenly about our love but she denies being interested in him.
she now just wants to enjoy life with her frenz partying it out
she puts pics of herself n her male colleagues..some of them with arms on her in a website.
she removed our pics together and claims that its nothing.
she never stores my hp no in her hp but stores that of that bastard.
she calls up my female frenz and creates probs and now my female frenz and me dun really tok
i just feel so bored with this relationship. she has a huge character flaw and all her previous 15 relationships didnt work out. her only 2 longest one was 3 month n 6 months. mine lasted 5 yrs with her. i endured all her crapz and complains and everything. now suddenly she says we are not compatible? why then did she wanna patch up after we broke up?i really gave my all and tried my best but now i just feel i have failed. all other gals i know just tell me that i haf done so much for her and they wish that someone would do the same for them. i really dunno where i haf done wrong. i am tired of always suffering and just want to let all this go. but truth is i am afraid. i am afraid to be lonely. afraid that i will not find another person to love or look after. she does things wrong but blames me and i haf to apologise.
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ask ur BF to get u shot gun in order to get fast married and get over the 1 u r thinking of...
Just Joking... keke