Do couple always quarrel?
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Me and my boy always quarrel over small/big matters. He's serving NS while im still schooling in poly.
Then he is someone with very hot-temper. I remember he once punch the mrt door at bugis when he was very angry. I was like
(wanna dig a hole and hide my face inside).
we're together like going to 2 years...i'm afraid if this continue i would let go someday.
My sister told me quarrel is part of the process. After the period everything will be peaceful. Is it true?
How?
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NOT TRUE! anywayz it takez two to quarrelz...
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Will you find it strange if a couple NEVER EVER quarrel? Not even once?
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But mine is always..every weekend he book out we will somehow quarrel...:/Originally posted by Bontakun:Will you find it strange if a couple NEVER EVER quarrel? Not even once? -
i think is normal to quarrel.. but i cant stand ppl who is hot-temper.. & punch slap here n there during quarrel.. like got abusive symptons lor..Originally posted by EbiTenpura:Me and my boy always quarrel over small/big matters. He's serving NS while im still schooling in poly.
Then he is someone with very hot-temper. I remember he once punch the mrt door at bugis when he was very angry. I was like (wanna dig a hole and hide my face inside).
we're together like going to 2 years...i'm afraid if this continue i would let go someday.
My sister told me quarrel is part of the process. After the period everything will be peaceful. Is it true?
How? -
Once in a blue moon is not counted right?Originally posted by Bontakun:Will you find it strange if a couple NEVER EVER quarrel? Not even once? -
Yes i mention to him b4 he got the symptons of beating up his wife next time. Got once he punch a tree near by. Another time is he shouted at me around orchard...Originally posted by mystee:i think is normal to quarrel.. but i cant stand ppl who is hot-temper.. & punch slap here n there during quarrel.. like got abusive symptons lor..
On the other hand he is really nice to me when he is not angry..at least till now he haven't lay his hands on me... -
Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:Once in a blue moon is not counted right?
Meaning quarrel is part of a relationship, right? However, quarelling without constructive feedback and a heart for forgiveness will make it hard for the relationship to improve further.Originally posted by EbiTenpura:But mine is always..every weekend he book out we will somehow quarrel...:/
EbiTenpura, in your case, you have to talk to your guy and ask him what is bugging him. Work it out and approach the problems TOGETHER. If he is unwilling to share, give him time. If you cannot take it, you have to tell him your concerns.
One way or another, you two will get past this hurdle. What the result will be is up to the two of you. -
Couples do quarrel but at least, you are not the violent person.
I got a buddy who's married but goes to work wrapped in bandages due to his wife. -
think he seem to need to vent his angry by punching here & there.. we cant tell if he will have lay his hand on u in the future.. cos is not fair to him.. but now u have to c if u compromise with his bad temper for the rest of your life.. cos no one is perfect.. & i doubt someone with bad temper can change.. the most he can.. is to minimise it...Originally posted by EbiTenpura:Yes i mention to him b4 he got the symptons of beating up his wife next time. Got once he punch a tree near by. Another time is he shouted at me around orchard...
On the other hand he is really nice to me when he is not angry..at least till now he haven't lay his hands on me... -
Hmm...i did try to talk to him before..but he's either not paying attention or say dont wanna talk about it cause wil led to mroe problem -.-|||Originally posted by Bontakun:Meaning quarrel is part of a relationship, right? However, quarelling without constructive feedback and a heart for forgiveness will make it hard for the relationship to improve further.
EbiTenpura, in your case, you have to talk to your guy and ask him what is bugging him. Work it out and approach the problems TOGETHER. If he is unwilling to share, give him time. If you cannot take it, you have to tell him your concerns.
One way or another, you two will get past this hurdle. What the result will be is up to the two of you. -
i'm got this bad feelings everytime he vent his anger on non living things.Originally posted by mystee:think he seem to need to vent his angry by punching here & there.. we cant tell if he will have lay his hand on u in the future.. cos is not fair to him.. but now u have to c if u compromise with his bad temper for the rest of your life.. cos no one is perfect.. & i doubt someone with bad temper can change.. the most he can.. is to minimise it...
you're right character are hard to change. -
Dats one prob with us guys... Watever prob we tink we can handle it alone.Originally posted by EbiTenpura:Hmm...i did try to talk to him before..but he's either not paying attention or say dont wanna talk about it cause wil led to mroe problem -.-|||
Ok eh... juz show him your concern and slowly talk to him about it another time. For now you just have to find another way to deal with his temper and fustrations. -
boys will always be boys
no matter what they do, they are just too darn ignorant
think about it, TS
do you want to babysit your boi, or find someone who will cater to your needs?
since he is in NS already, and he can't be there for you, why not, take this chance and start to date around, perhaps you might be able to find someone better
just a suggestion
peace out -
Quarrelling is common between couples. As long as you know how to take care of it when both of you cool down.Originally posted by EbiTenpura:Me and my boy always quarrel over small/big matters. He's serving NS while im still schooling in poly.
Then he is someone with very hot-temper. I remember he once punch the mrt door at bugis when he was very angry. I was like (wanna dig a hole and hide my face inside).
we're together like going to 2 years...i'm afraid if this continue i would let go someday.
My sister told me quarrel is part of the process. After the period everything will be peaceful. Is it true?
How?
But your problem is not quarrelling, the main problem is your boy temper.
Let me ask you this question before i countinue
1) If one day your bf really hits you .. what will you do?
This is important cos i need to see whether if you accept others advice or just love him blindly so think carefully -
His punching and hitting objects tactic is an issue. If not controlled, he might turn into physical abuse and it could possibly cause a traumatic relationship.
Since yr bf is not the type who is willing to compromise and listen, I think you better break it off with him unless you know the way to tackle his bad temper.
While he's serving NS right now, it's the opportunity to date around and find a guy who is better than your current bf. But firstly, say your piece of mind to ur current bf calmly and see how he responds. If he is willing to compromise, youre relationship might still a chance to blossom. If he gets aggressive again, then it's end-of-relationship. You know, nobody wants a partner who never listens and has bad-temper! -
quarrel is common but seeing his way of venting his anger reli scares me.
i ever had a ex-bf like this too, he punch on the wall and stare at ple offensively, trying to vent his anger on others. though he never lay his hands on me, but i noe one fine day he just would. so i leave him. he is short and hot tempered, and possesive too. scary.
ultimately its ur decision, but i can say chances of him turning into an abuser is high.
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Originally posted by EbiTenpura:Me and my boy always quarrel over small/big matters. He's serving NS while im still schooling in poly.
Then he is someone with very hot-temper. I remember he once punch the mrt door at bugis when he was very angry. I was like (wanna dig a hole and hide my face inside).
we're together like going to 2 years...i'm afraid if this continue i would let go someday.
My sister told me quarrel is part of the process. After the period everything will be peaceful. Is it true?
How?
Is he an Aries or Scorpio?
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Was in the same situation. In NS, in poly, always fight. In the end just each step back one step lor. 打亲骂巧 what. COMMON LA.Originally posted by EbiTenpura:Me and my boy always quarrel over small/big matters. He's serving NS while im still schooling in poly.
Then he is someone with very hot-temper. I remember he once punch the mrt door at bugis when he was very angry. I was like (wanna dig a hole and hide my face inside).
we're together like going to 2 years...i'm afraid if this continue i would let go someday.
My sister told me quarrel is part of the process. After the period everything will be peaceful. Is it true?
How? -
Violence is inexcusable, be it physical or verbal.
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couples do quarrel but not always
and everytime u 2 meet and quarrel that a big problem -
No relationship is perfect. No matter how much you love each other, there will always be disagreement since we are different individual and especially when females and males don't behave the same ways.
However, if you have doubt about it, especially with his anger problem, you should seriously reconsider about the whole relationship. Anger is like a disease and it doesn't go away and only gets worse unless it's properly dealt with.
A good relationship involves lots of respects for each other. So look after yourself and do not allow yourself get stuck in an abusive relationship. You deserve someone better.
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since quarrel is part of the process what make u think it will ever end
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Depends on wat u define quarrel.. me n my gf (wife now) have been together for 4+ years, we have never quarreled in that we never once raised our voices or shouted at each other.
Sometimes we talk n get abit upset, but we never once really got mad at each other and usually everything returns to normal in a few hours or so. In that sense it is wrong to say that quarreling is an unavoidable part of a relationship; disagreement and a bit of friction is unavoidable, but how u choose to handle it is purely a matter of choice.
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