Do couple always quarrel?
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no..
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i think u may need to re-examine the relationship...
occasionally bickering is fine but quarrel too often is no good... -
you definately need to re-examine your relationship. your boyfren sound like he needs anger management counselling.Originally posted by Mospeada:i think u may need to re-examine the relationship...
occasionally bickering is fine but quarrel too often is no good...
seriously, dump him. you guys are still young and u are oready quarrelling everyday. wat is the point? -
yes i agree with the first part...Originally posted by the_don:you definately need to re-examine your relationship. your boyfren sound like he needs anger management counselling.
seriously, dump him. you guys are still young and u are oready quarrelling everyday. wat is the point?
but abt the dumping...make sure both of u are clam abt it...try not to make things ugly -
U have to help him..mayb he is frustated coz NS....
but im nt condoning such actions....if u do nt help him...it might turn to sumthing more as other posters have said....
if this continues u need to rethink abt this r/s.....if he cant handle his anger and emotions....wat will happen when u all face bigger problems in future? -
all that differences and quarreling is not going to help you build a strong foundation in the relationship, no matter how much you love each other. as the saying goes "sometimes love aint enough" and that is true.
you should take into serious consideration your bf's management of his anger. as he has a history and you have experienced it for yourself, chances are he is not going to change (how can he when he has never acknowledged nor tried to do something about it?)
you will be subjected to his abusive ways. it always begins with the punch of objects and when some day you are the 'object' around, it will be your turn. when people are angry, they dont stop for a moment to think what it is that they should be doing. instead they block out everything else and think what it is that they want to do to get rid of that anger they feel inside. it is the only he way knows to tackle that unhappiness.
your bf needs professional help. your love and concern can only be support to his road to change and recovery. he must want it for himself to change and be helped.
some people will think while it is wrong to judge someone based on his past, tell me - isnt he doing it right now? please do not underestimate a person's ability in a fit of anger.
if he loves you and values the relationship enough, he will try to change. if he doesnt want to, i suggest you leave him; for your own good. -
if he can't help himself, it's a bit dangerous for his galfren to help him doesn't it? i'm for self-protection not self-scarifice. that is why i say 'dump him'.Originally posted by ermintham:U have to help him..mayb he is frustated coz NS....
but im nt condoning such actions....if u do nt help him...it might turn to sumthing more as other posters have said....
if this continues u need to rethink abt this r/s.....if he cant handle his anger and emotions....wat will happen when u all face bigger problems in future?
seriously, i dun know many guys who display "signs of violence" just because they are in NS. they probably already have anger management issues before NS, just without the manifastations.
most of the ns guys i know (including thoses i dated) can't wait to be out on a weekend and is too busy having fun (or sleeping) then boxing MRT doors.
gal, if u wan to be your bf's should to lean on, that is good. but please also look out for yourself. if he ever raise his hand/feet at you, leave okie? -
If my boy really lay his hand on me one day i wouldn't wanna stay by his side anymore.Originally posted by zeny:Quarrelling is common between couples. As long as you know how to take care of it when both of you cool down.
But your problem is not quarrelling, the main problem is your boy temper.
Let me ask you this question before i countinue
1) If one day your bf really hits you .. what will you do?
This is important cos i need to see whether if you accept others advice or just love him blindly so think carefully
I seen alot of my frens like that...i don't wanna went through what they had suffer. -
yes i think i will talk to him seriously this time..Originally posted by pokkagreentea:His punching and hitting objects tactic is an issue. If not controlled, he might turn into physical abuse and it could possibly cause a traumatic relationship.
Since yr bf is not the type who is willing to compromise and listen, I think you better break it off with him unless you know the way to tackle his bad temper.
While he's serving NS right now, it's the opportunity to date around and find a guy who is better than your current bf. But firstly, say your piece of mind to ur current bf calmly and see how he responds. If he is willing to compromise, youre relationship might still a chance to blossom. If he gets aggressive again, then it's end-of-relationship. You know, nobody wants a partner who never listens and has bad-temper!
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Sounds scary...Originally posted by Cool-gal:quarrel is common but seeing his way of venting his anger reli scares me.
i ever had a ex-bf like this too, he punch on the wall and stare at ple offensively, trying to vent his anger on others. though he never lay his hands on me, but i noe one fine day he just would. so i leave him. he is short and hot tempered, and possesive too. scary.
ultimately its ur decision, but i can say chances of him turning into an abuser is high.
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LibraOriginally posted by Yunhaier:
Is he an Aries or Scorpio?
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Okay i guess i will leave i'm not that stupid to sacrifies my life.Originally posted by the_don:if he can't help himself, it's a bit dangerous for his galfren to help him doesn't it? i'm for self-protection not self-scarifice. that is why i say 'dump him'.
seriously, i dun know many guys who display "signs of violence" just because they are in NS. they probably already have anger management issues before NS, just without the manifastations.
most of the ns guys i know (including thoses i dated) can't wait to be out on a weekend and is too busy having fun (or sleeping) then boxing MRT doors.
gal, if u wan to be your bf's should to lean on, that is good. but please also look out for yourself. if he ever raise his hand/feet at you, leave okie?
But i try my best to do something to the relationship tikll i gave up one day. -
Please don't console yourself by saying that quarrelling is normal.
Quarrelling is not normal.
In a relationship there will always be differences in priorities.
You quarrel over this and trash it out, the winner get his or her way.
Or there is a compromise.
But when anger is vented at a person over trival or big matter, then a serious evaluation of the relationship is needed.
One should not hate the person, one should hate the thing that is done.
Don't get stuck with a person who cannot control his/her anger. You deserve better, 'cause you're worthy of it. -
Since you have answer me this honestly.Originally posted by EbiTenpura:If my boy really lay his hand on me one day i wouldn't wanna stay by his side anymore.
I seen alot of my frens like that...i don't wanna went through what they had suffer.
Then you have your answer already.
Last few words for you.
Remember you what you say and really do it when the time comes. -
Hmm... How about you...?Originally posted by EbiTenpura:Libra -
Originally posted by EbiTenpura:Libra Angry/violent people have afflicted Mars in their natal chart. A person's temper is demonstrated two ways; inwardly or outwardly and people are usually intimidated by the later version. The easiest known way to me in resolving this powerful flare-up is to go spiritual.
I won't say leaving him just because he lost control of himself, as once you do that, chances are, this bitterness inside him will harden, intensify and will carry forward into his next relationship.
I say if:
I) If you still love him
II) If his violence hasn't extend itself onto you
You might want to try to neutralise his angry roots. There might be chances that he knows about his foul temper, but he's doesn't know how to deal with them. In that case, it will be beneficial for him to attend anger management classes if his temper is getting out of hand.
That's up to your ability to enable him to see in his own reflection and fuel the drive to evolve his animalistic self.
Cheers -
VirgoOriginally posted by Devil1976:Hmm... How about you...?