Getting older and more alone
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hey i beat u. i 24.Originally posted by julietta:think i can go jump floor liao. im 23 liao still not haf a single gf. u nv say i still wun think of it as a problem. -
Originally posted by browniebaobao:hai shi Yun liao jie wo.
gig, i think u can be my fren wor.
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awww, im so touched that everyone agrees with meOriginally posted by hybrd-:
i totally agree with giga.
first impression is really important. (unless its like in a group of friends where u can slowly nurture things.)
cos if the girl sense bad vibes from u, chances are u will get left alone.
i'm what u would call a kid but i definately know that first impression is really important. like if u have a stable status or have some car. the girl will tend to be more interested, NOT that they're materialistic, but its cos they are somehow assured that this guy has a stable income and life and if i were to be with him for life, i should do ok.(unless u're eating air to just support the car).
and maybe most of u won't agree with me(cos i'm still a student, therefore no income). u buy them gifts, u treat them - i think they'll just feel u're trying to "BUY" them.
oh ya, one more thing. how is ur communication with them like? doesn't mean u keep sms or call them means ur communication is good. good communication is very important. a girl may even fancy u if she feels that u 2 can communicate well.
and when u say u're a guy when people ask u to doll up. i think u're too old fashioned. and whats wrong with guys putting on make-up?(not that i do, unless u count moisturisers). taking care of ur skin and ur body shape is really important. imagine u know someone who doesn't look good(no offence to anyone), u may give her ur no.(like she gives u hers) but doesn't mean u will contact the person after that meeting anymore. prehaps a change of ur outlook would be good.
character wise, i'm not very good too (but thank god i've an understanding girl). but really it pays off to have a proper character. cos chances are everyone has limits(even u), the girl will just be fed-up with u and bye-bye goes ur chance.
IMHO,by the way. i learnt this from a movie. "Assumptions are the mother of all $%&*-ups" so dun assume that the girls are the one at fault here. chances are - u're so conceited by urself u didnt realise u're the one causing it.
hope this changes ur mindset and hope that it helps somehow. -
words coming out from an immature boy is crap.Originally posted by Eric Cartman:Marriage is dumb and a waste of money. -
ya, i heard that a woman's perception is very accurate.Originally posted by rainee:girls can smell desperation one
mid twenties nia, not like you are forty plus or fifty, worry so much for wat?
so accurate that it's scary -
Haha. I got 12.Originally posted by Scania N113CRB luver:Hey MarryMe ! Take this quiz ! You will know who you are in love. That might enlighten you further ! Good luck ! Btw, me is 16 points . It says that i dont care and dont even bother about luck in love.
http://personals.yahoo.com/us/static/dating-advice_get-lucky
Cheers!
10-14 Negativity and rigidity can be problematic for you. You have a hard time getting and maintaining a positive attitude, and may often find yourself complaining about your bad luck. -
obviously. you have a problem.Originally posted by MarryMe:Haha. I got 12.
10-14 Negativity and rigidity can be problematic for you. You have a hard time getting and maintaining a positive attitude, and may often find yourself complaining about your bad luck.
lol i got 19. -
Haha. That thing is accurate.Originally posted by MarryMe:Haha. I got 12.
10-14 Negativity and rigidity can be problematic for you. You have a hard time getting and maintaining a positive attitude, and may often find yourself complaining about your bad luck. -
U know. I'm not really afraid of being alone. In fact, I'm always alone. i prefer to be alone by CHOICE. But only in thoughts. I do have many friends actually. But that's not I want. I want to have responsibilities and something to live for. Right now all i do is work, home, go out. I have no one to answer to. I do what I want. I go where I want. I have no one to spend my $$ on. Want to go holiday with someone special also cannot. Must wait until how old then can experience all these?Originally posted by january:u got some attitude error.
being alone is not sad or scary thing.
it maybe bad that u are single but you have got to accept reality.
i can see that complaining and ranting is ur way of relieving the stress you have.
but you have to learn to manage your stress also. cannot means that you have stress means that you can start blaming and blaming.
why not try to work on yourself so that when you realize that you are alone and single, you do not experience the stress or fear.
i can see also that you are pretty much consume by your ego.
manage your own ego, and dun let it be the devil in you and allow it to quarrel within you , to tell you to scold pple and all that.
look at it this way, you should know that the world is not exactly fair. it is possible that you may be the only one in the world single, just like it is possible that princess diana become princess and was chased by a particular car , and chased along a particular way, and she met with the car accident in a particular fashion and ended her life.
open your eyes to the real world. Reality does caused suffering and unfairness to people by pure chance and casuality. it can happen to everyone in whatever ways.
there is no GOD to ensure happiness and fairness. and the evidence are many. i am atheist btw and just spread my stance also here.
hope you will mature and be more understanding towards nature of reality. -
Consider visiting remote areas of Thailand, Vietnam , Sri Lanka or some pacific islands, where life will be much simpler and things no so expensive.Originally posted by MarryMe:I'm really afraid. I'm getting older by the day and I am still single. I am so tired of waiting already. I want very much to get married. I do not want to be 50 and visiting the red light district. Yet no matter what I do, I simply cannot get attached. I have tried to "woo" many girls yet everyone of them seems to be waiting for someone better or show lack of interest. What is wrong with you girls? Most either continue further their studies or simply working or always waiting and concentraing on your careers. What is it with the society that everyone is so preoccupied with "success"? Am I not good enough? I am so fed up about life that everyday when I am alone I get so angry with people. Now I am becoming more selfish and cannot be bothered about other pple becos of this. I do not wish to be such a person but it seems like everyone is so selfish. Whatever happen to the good ol' days of love and simplicity? I really hate you girls. Hope you all rot in hell when you are single and old and unwanted. What am I to do? Is it so difficult to get attached?
You might be able to marry up with more than one wives.
Living in one of the above-mentioned places which you never dream of, you will live like a Lord. If you like the place where you have chosen to settle down and when you hit the age of 55, you could withdraw all your CPF and build your own 'palace' or 'castle'.
You have got nothing to lose. Life is short; enjoy it now before you go 6 feet underground, brother. -
Actually there's on more thing I dun get it. Girls please enlighten me. WHy is it when I tell a girl I like her thru a friend, she will like avoid me?Is it becos of my looks or shy or what?
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cos you don't know her well.Originally posted by MarryMe:Actually there's on more thing I dun get it. Girls please enlighten me. WHy is it when I tell a girl I like her thru a friend, she will like avoid me?Is it becos of my looks or shy or what?
you probably met her in less than a month
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are u a girl? that is not reason. that is the circumstances leading tp the effect.Originally posted by gigabyte14:cos you don't know her well.
you probably met her in less than a month -
why rush things? i ask you.Originally posted by MarryMe:are u a girl? that is not reason. that is the circumstances leading tp the effect.
i am a guy. i had said this for the 2nd time. -
hey marry me, i tik u are too rush liao la.. cool down a bit. if this ger dosen suits u, lok for another one la. it not as if all the gers are dead. some more u are still young.. not as if u are 50 or 60 yrs old..
i tik u may consider lower ur standards a bit la.. in my opinion, those ex gfs u have may not be suitable for u.. maybe becos they are too gorgeous and they don feel like settle down so early.. lok for somone who suits ur lifestyle more.. who plan to establish long term relationship with u.. -
bcos u are desperate.Originally posted by MarryMe:Actually there's on more thing I dun get it. Girls please enlighten me. WHy is it when I tell a girl I like her thru a friend, she will like avoid me?Is it becos of my looks or shy or what?
girls dun like despos. -
like that is despo? think u no one want to get number from u la that's y this is called despo. U mean tell a girl i like her is despo?haha.Originally posted by browniebaobao:bcos u are desperate.
girls dun like despos. -
What's wrong with being 50 and visiting the red light district?Originally posted by MarryMe:I'm really afraid. I'm getting older by the day and I am still single. I am so tired of waiting already. I want very much to get married. I do not want to be 50 and visiting the red light district. Yet no matter what I do, I simply cannot get attached. I have tried to "woo" many girls yet everyone of them seems to be waiting for someone better or show lack of interest. What is wrong with you girls? Most either continue further their studies or simply working or always waiting and concentraing on your careers. What is it with the society that everyone is so preoccupied with "success"? Am I not good enough? I am so fed up about life that everyday when I am alone I get so angry with people. Now I am becoming more selfish and cannot be bothered about other pple becos of this. I do not wish to be such a person but it seems like everyone is so selfish. Whatever happen to the good ol' days of love and simplicity? I really hate you girls. Hope you all rot in hell when you are single and old and unwanted. What am I to do? Is it so difficult to get attached? -
Dun say tt abt bbb...Originally posted by MarryMe:like that is despo? think u no one want to get number from u la that's y this is called despo. U mean tell a girl i like her is despo?haha.
Telling a gal U like her is not despo, telling a few gals U like them is...
Seriously, if you like a gal, either you tell them face to face or you dun say anything. Dun do it thru a friend or someone else, it doesn't add pts on your score sheet...
Of coz, before you tell a gal that you like her, must test water first, go on dates etc... -
from what i heard from female frens -Originally posted by MarryMe:Actually there's on more thing I dun get it. Girls please enlighten me. WHy is it when I tell a girl I like her thru a friend, she will like avoid me?Is it becos of my looks or shy or what?
(may not affect all girls)
when u tell a girl u like her thru her fren, its almost as if u're a coward, pardon me if i'm wrong.
although certain girls may feel startled if u tell them up front, but at least it'll show that u dun have to rely on others (or that u have that bit of courage).
avoiding u only got a few reasons
1. she's shy like what u said
2. she's overwhelmed by u (maybe cos too fast or something, she may worry its going to be a fling and therefore better not let herself get caught)
3. she dun like u.
4. prehaps she just wanna be friends and realised that she may somehow be leading u on in her previous actions(thats why she wanna avoid, etc.)
u dun have to be a girl to know these i guess. and telling a girl u like her thru her friend is like those 14,15 year olds. dun dare to tell on their own in fear of rejection.
so please try another method of approach. -
do you find yourself defensive?Originally posted by MarryMe:like that is despo? think u no one want to get number from u la that's y this is called despo. U mean tell a girl i like her is despo?haha. -
Originally posted by gigabyte14:i am a guy. i had said this for the 2nd time.
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Rejection is not scary...
The fear of rejection is... -
Rejection aren't scary. But the aftermath of rejection is ...Originally posted by Simple_Bear:Rejection is not scary...
The fear of rejection is... -
girlfriends make u loose yr social circle, and when yr gf is away for a while u will find out that u are very alone and ''unwanted''