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I'm accepting the fact. Think I should just move on, try and integrate myself into their group, and if it fails I'll try to find a new group to join.Originally posted by Rock^Star:You get a grip yah. You come to this forum and ask for advice but it's all falling on deaf ears.
Until you can put it down and accept facts, you will always be miserable. Mark my words. -
I've tried some stuff. Like asking them "hey, tell me when you're going for lunch".. he'll be like "uh". Then the next thing I know they've gone out for lunch... I'm practically giving up on this!
I've got better friends outside of my class and school, some who are more matured in their thinking and mentality. Ironically I don't meet them as often as my own classmates. -
Ask yourself if you're trying too hard to fit in. Just be who you are, not someone you want to be.
During my poly days there was a classmate who goes around talking to all the classmates he sees and acts like he's on close terms with everybody. It probably felt too 'artificial' for comfort.
He doesnt speak up or join in during our conversations. He felt like a bloody shadow following people around as there was practically no input from him.
Even if he had, it would be those jokes he would crack and nobody except himself would laugh.
Gradually nobody wanted to talk / listen to him and he became a shadow whom others wanted to cast off. I heard he eventually left school due to poor results.
I personally gained a great deal of buddies during my sec school days but few during my poly days. Quality of friends matters to me, not quantity. -
yea.. i agree with u.. quality friends.. for me i also gain a great deal of friends in sec sch and still keep in close contact till now.. we are really very gd friends(6yrs of friendship liao.. got 1 even 12yrs).. haha.. but now in poly i dun really feel the strong bond i have with my sec sch friends.. i am afraid that it's going to break once poly life ends.. but neverless, i still have my best friends from sec sch.. lol..Originally posted by Sagara:Ask yourself if you're trying too hard to fit in. Just be who you are, not someone you want to be.
During my poly days there was a classmate who goes around talking to all the classmates he sees and acts like he's on close terms with everybody. It probably felt too 'artificial' for comfort.
He doesnt speak up or join in during our conversations. He felt like a bloody shadow following people around as there was practically no input from him.
Even if he had, it would be those jokes he would crack and nobody except himself would laugh.
Gradually nobody wanted to talk / listen to him and he became a shadow whom others wanted to cast off. I heard he eventually left school due to poor results.
I personally gained a great deal of buddies during my sec school days but few during my poly days. Quality of friends matters to me, not quantity.
i believe that when you are with friends, you should be who you are and ture friends will accept you as yourself.. if not, they are not really ur friends.. -
hmm~ did you offened you friend indirectly?
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neverOriginally posted by Darkness_hacker99:hmm~ did you offened you friend indirectly? -
Your story sounds similar. The solution is to drive a car to school. You will have instant new friends
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added with some gals tooOriginally posted by boyrage:Your story sounds similar. The solution is to drive a car to school. You will have instant new friends -
I don't have a very impressive image, just an average guy...
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well I'll be damned..then I should be rolling in the bucks if I owned a car dealership.Originally posted by boyrage:Your story sounds similar. The solution is to drive a car to school. You will have instant new friends
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yea.. u will get instant friends.. but those are jus friends who lend you for fame, lend $$ and etc in sch.. they are not really friends after all..Originally posted by boyrage:Your story sounds similar. The solution is to drive a car to school. You will have instant new friends -
These 'friends' are worthless... if they come to u cos of your material possessions and want an ego boost. Like 'rich' people will have seemingly bigger social circle. Let's say that rich guy one day isn't rich anymore? What will happen?Originally posted by blahshit:yea.. u will get instant friends.. but those are jus friends who lend you for fame, lend $$ and etc in sch.. they are not really friends after all..
(No offense here) but I've seen some ladies sticking to guys cos of the guy's material possessions (eg motorbike, car, money, etc). Or educational qualifications. I've been thru NA and ITE before, seen lots of things.
I'll rather have a few close friends than many acquaintances. -
Need some good advise... any good solution to this problem?Originally posted by boyrage:Your story sounds similar. The solution is to drive a car to school. You will have instant new friends -
Anyone want to share their views?
Not that I don't listen, but I'm seeking more views. -
reminds me of the shirt i see everywhere..
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Maybe it's just me.... i think i can't socialise with people well, like I feel as if there's an invisible wall around me.Originally posted by SGpork:reminds me of the shirt i see everywhere..
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That isn't the problem - if it were simply a matter of you not being able to socialise well, but actually didn't care about it, it probably wouldn't affect you.Originally posted by redstone:Maybe it's just me.... i think i can't socialise with people well, like I feel as if there's an invisible wall around me.
Really, there isn't much you can do besides learning to be yourself and be confident of who you're and draw solace from it - that way, you'll only attract friends who will truly add value to your life and not someone whose companionship comes in handy only when you're at school. At the end of the day, if it's friends you want (and not just companions to tide you through your loneliness), just learn to accept yourself for who you're... -
poly gt fix seats for students 1 meh...interesting...tot it's free seating.... niwae still yr 1 la...yr 1 i also so pai seh 1 ...sit near door ...wanan cry 1 ...crying to get out to play games @ computer room...bio gers frm other courses 1 ...coz my course nt many pretty gers... though in business block :X
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Originally posted by walesa:
Thanks for listening... I been thinking over. I lack true friends in school. And since I was little I don't have many friends and have some socialising problems.
That isn't the problem - if it were simply a matter of you not being able to socialise well, [b]but actually didn't care about it, it probably wouldn't affect you.
Really, there isn't much you can do besides learning to be yourself and be confident of who you're and draw solace from it - that way, you'll only attract friends who will truly add value to your life and not someone whose companionship comes in handy only when you're at school. At the end of the day, if it's friends you want (and not just companions to tide you through your loneliness), just learn to accept yourself for who you're...[/b]