How to control anger?
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Today I bought a book with high expectation. When I open it and discover that I have been cheated, I got angry and throw the book in the cupboard(lucky never tear to pieces). But later I regret because although it is not accurate it still has some use.
Sigh...who has a good solution to control anger? Take deep breath or go outside for a walk? -
go sleep? or go eat sumtinz la...giv urself a treat
or pcc if u like
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i also need to know how to control anger...
as sometimes i cant stand ppl that piss me off...
dont want to get into troble so cannot wack them...
so just LL walk away...
anyone can teach us some way to control anger in a better way? 
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anger management comes with age.
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true...when you are young, thats part of the package, mainly i will advice ppl who are angry to count till ten before they say something they will regret.Originally posted by R3SsH|n:anger management comes with age.
trust me.
easier said than done. though -
count to 10?Originally posted by Space1999:true...when you are young, thats part of the package, mainly i will advice ppl who are angry to count till ten before they say something they will regret.
easier said than done. though
i will try next time...
anymore ways or not? -
I normally start go close up myself in a quiet place...
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Do sports.
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Walk away from the source of anger. If cannot then take a deep breath and try to control your breathing instead. If really really cannot, well you could always throw the book again.
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I read something very interesting today regarding anger and I would like to share it with you guys.
“It is human nature to rescue persons in distress. If a person is drowning, we endeavor to save him by swimming to his rescue or calling for help. If one is bleeding to death, we either apply a tourniquet or summon help in order to save him. In a state of anger, however, we do quite the opposite. We keep pouring on fuel to the fire by our words and actions.”
Sidney Newton Bremer, Ph.D -
Oh my...althouhgh I am bad tempered, i dun think I have ever become angry with an object before, more of being angry with people / a situation.
Maybe try to see positives in everything? Will that help? Like after buying that disappointing book, tell yourself that there must be some use in that book / there is antoher good book out there somewhere and you can begin the search. Something like dat?
Take deep breathes when something bad happens... -
recognize the pre-anger symptoms (eg heartbeat, sense of impulse, etc) and stop them before they escalate.Originally posted by Skibi:Today I bought a book with high expectation. When I open it and discover that I have been cheated, I got angry and throw the book in the cupboard(lucky never tear to pieces). But later I regret because although it is not accurate it still has some use.
Sigh...who has a good solution to control anger? Take deep breath or go outside for a walk?
recognize regret (like what you are feeling now), so that you know the consequence when you do something out of rage and impulse. -
Originally posted by Skibi:Today I bought a book with high expectation. When I open it and discover that I have been cheated, I got angry and throw the book in the cupboard(lucky never tear to pieces). But later I regret because although it is not accurate it still has some use.
Sigh...who has a good solution to control anger? Take deep breath or go outside for a walk?
Go spiritual. That's the only way I know to handle anger.
Our temper is govern by the state of Mars in our natal chart. Everyone has different degree of temper because we all have different placing of Mars. When Mars is afflicted (especially by Signs of Aries and Scorpio), our animalistic instinct tends to blow out of control and subjected to the tendency of inflicting 'damage' on things/people to mollify our moods.
Human is but a higher being with a conscious mind. When you loses your conscious self, what's left is the rudimentary animal self that is common to all beings in the animal kingdom.
Then you become an animal.
Damaging your book is nothing - what's worst is when you hurt someone with your temper so badly that the wounds become permanent. You can always buy a new book another day, but you can never piece back a shattered relationship.
I recalled an old case in Aunt Agony, where this guy lost the woman he loved because of his foul temper. His realization only came when he lost her forever. Albeit he vowed to correct his flaws, by going through anger management course and stuff, it's too late to save his relationship, although it's never too late to save himself.
Do you need be like him before you truly evolve?
Go spiritual. Seek advice from your religious leader if you need to. I would also suggest you drop by Borders and purchase a book on anger management.
Cheers -
Bath in very cold water.. This is how they control the immates anger..Originally posted by Skibi:Today I bought a book with high expectation. When I open it and discover that I have been cheated, I got angry and throw the book in the cupboard(lucky never tear to pieces). But later I regret because although it is not accurate it still has some use.
Sigh...who has a good solution to control anger? Take deep breath or go outside for a walk? -
i leave the place..go another place..
or take a bath...
go out have a walk..
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Wat about being angry with people (Rather than objects). How do you deal with it e.g. slow moving action of the cooked food stall aunty , bad tempered senior who scolds u for no reason
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instead of venting anger at an object or situation, turn the anger into energy and motivation.
recycle! -
1. Recognise your emotional state. Know when you are feeling angry.
This is the first step. Then know that you are hurt, thats why you are angry.
2. Why are you hurt? Is your pride attacked? Degraded? Insulted?
3. Do you fear? That you are made a fool. Do you fear losing something dear?
4. Think! are all these hurt, and fears real. Or are they just an automatic response, without any substantance, just imaginary.
How can you deal with them in another way. Take the steps to prevent a recurrence.
5. By the time you go through the above steps, your anger would have fade away. -
I teach you if you buy more a meal...
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anger management comes with confidence.
people who handle things well don't get angry. -
mm learn to be more patience... then u will not easily get angry
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no book??Originally posted by DeadPoet:Walk away from the source of anger. If cannot then take a deep breath and try to control your breathing instead. If really really cannot, well you could always throw the book again.
i am not TS...
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so wat is this about??Originally posted by DeadPoet:I read something very interesting today regarding anger and I would like to share it with you guys.
“It is human nature to rescue persons in distress. If a person is drowning, we endeavor to save him by swimming to his rescue or calling for help. If one is bleeding to death, we either apply a tourniquet or summon help in order to save him. In a state of anger, however, we do quite the opposite. We keep pouring on fuel to the fire by our words and actions.”
Sidney Newton Bremer, Ph.D
make us more angry?
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so what is this about?Originally posted by Yunhaier: Go spiritual. That's the only way I know to handle anger.
Our temper is govern by the state of Mars in our natal chart. Everyone has different degree of temper because we all have different placing of Mars. When Mars is afflicted (especially by Signs of Aries and Scorpio), our animalistic instinct tends to blow out of control and subjected to the tendency of inflicting 'damage' on things/people to mollify our moods.
Human is but a higher being with a conscious mind. When you loses your conscious self, what's left is the rudimentary animal self that is common to all beings in the animal kingdom.
Then you become an animal.
Damaging your book is nothing - what's worst is when you hurt someone with your temper so badly that the wounds become permanent. You can always buy a new book another day, but you can never piece back a shattered relationship.
I recalled an old case in Aunt Agony, where this guy lost the woman he loved because of his foul temper. His realization only came when he lost her forever. Albeit he vowed to correct his flaws, by going through anger management course and stuff, it's too late to save his relationship, although it's never too late to save himself.
Do you need be like him before you truly evolve?
Go spiritual. Seek advice from your religious leader if you need to. I would also suggest you drop by Borders and purchase a book on anger management.
Cheers
asking us to be an aminal? -
gd idea...Originally posted by SGpork:i leave the place..go another place..
or take a bath...
go out have a walk..
wat if its a cannot leave situation?