How to control anger?
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Originally posted by mancha:1. Recognise your emotional state. Know when you are feeling angry.
This is the first step. Then know that you are hurt, thats why you are angry.
2. Why are you hurt? Is your pride attacked? Degraded? Insulted?
3. Do you fear? That you are made a fool. Do you fear losing something dear?
4. Think! are all these hurt, and fears real. Or are they just an automatic response, without any substantance, just imaginary.
How can you deal with them in another way. Take the steps to prevent a recurrence.
5. By the time you go through the above steps, your anger would have fade away.
by the time i think i have killed of bash the person lao...
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count to ten seems to be quite a good way... well i have a classmate who didnt manage to control his anger and went to whack one of the classmates that agitated him... now he has to face the music... that is being caned as punishment...
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being caned is a small thing.Originally posted by OasisBlue:count to ten seems to be quite a good way... well i have a classmate who didnt manage to control his anger and went to whack one of the classmates that agitated him... now he has to face the music... that is being caned as punishment...
being arrested and getting locked up in jail is another reality he might have to face in the future. -
Recognise where the feeling is coming from, and notice the direction it is moving. Is it moving in a circular motion, clock wise or anti-clockwise, up and down, inside out etc?
Then reverse that energy flow. It sounds kind of weird I know, but it really works. That's one of the technique we apply in NLP for anger management.
Test it out. You won't know how it feels until and unless you personally test it out. You won't be able to estmate how it will feel like just by sitting there and imagining.
Similarly for all the other advice given, no results will be out until action is taken. If one method fails, then go for the next one.
Taking deep breaths usually help too!
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yalor, the book make a gd paperweightOriginally posted by Skibi:Today I bought a book with high expectation. When I open it and discover that I have been cheated, I got angry and throw the book in the cupboard(lucky never tear to pieces). But later I regret because although it is not accurate it still has some use.
Sigh...who has a good solution to control anger? Take deep breath or go outside for a walk?
go running
u get too tired to be angry after a gd run -
but running is nth for me...Originally posted by Kenashi:yalor, the book make a gd paperweight
go running
u get too tired to be angry after a gd run
i must run for 1h plus then i will get tired...
after that still angry...how?
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thats y we need to know how to control anger...Originally posted by Ito_^:being caned is a small thing.
being arrested and getting locked up in jail is another reality he might have to face in the future.
not every1 can take a deep breath... -
dota is the way
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You mean can't, or don't want to take a deep breath?Originally posted by alvin-ncs:thats y we need to know how to control anger...
not every1 can take a deep breath... -
Definately!Originally posted by sorasky:dota is the way
When you tell everyone to push when all your opponents juz 'died', all of your grp heroes go back to the fountain for tea.
When you and a partner has been ambushed, the best way is to run seperately, you would tell him to go that way, he will tell you to go that way. Run that way! Run this way! Others think machiam couple breaking up liddat...
Remember to lure your opponent friends to the fountain by standing near there and taunting him, "Come! Challenge 1 on 1!" -
not dont want...Originally posted by Dating Specialist:You mean can't, or don't want to take a deep breath?
tried but not very useful... -
what is this topic got to do with dota?Originally posted by sorasky:dota is the way 
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go for a swim loh, it help u cool off n if it still ain't enoughOriginally posted by alvin-ncs:but running is nth for me...
i must run for 1h plus then i will get tired...
after that still angry...how?
swim for 40 laps, u should be damn tired n it should take u long enough to forget what u r angry about -
Why isn't it useful then? Is it due to physical limitations (hard to slow down your breath as you were too angry then) or some other factors?Originally posted by alvin-ncs:not dont want...
tried but not very useful... -
i agree.Originally posted by alvin-ncs:thats y we need to know how to control anger...
not every1 can take a deep breath...
but honestly, i can't think of a better answer.
i juz wanna say, never repress emotions. someday it gonna burst and create more harm. -
Yeah you're right. Never repress emotions, but find a way to best release it which doesn't hurt anyone, and still we can release the pent up energy inside and convey the message we need to pass on.Originally posted by Ito_^:i agree.
but honestly, i can't think of a better answer.
i juz wanna say, never repress emotions. someday it gonna burst and create more harm.
An art as well as a skill, don't you think so?
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i dont think i will get damn tired lor...Originally posted by Kenashi:go for a swim loh, it help u cool off n if it still ain't enough
swim for 40 laps, u should be damn tired n it should take u long enough to forget what u r angry about
i think i can swin more laps...
make untill i cant feel my legs and die better... -
i have made my heart beat down and my breathing slow down...Originally posted by Dating Specialist:Why isn't it useful then? Is it due to physical limitations (hard to slow down your breath as you were too angry then) or some other factors?
but still freaking angry and going to blast out... -
Talk to gal...
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u all think its so easy to control anger...Originally posted by Ito_^:i agree.
but honestly, i can't think of a better answer.
i juz wanna say, never repress emotions. someday it gonna burst and create more harm.
try it urself when u r freaking angry...
cause many ways cannot work...
about the deep breath...
it may work a bit but if the person add a bit of fire...
then u will blast lao.. -
after that u want to say rape the gal right?Originally posted by soulwinner:Talk to gal... -
i have 2 fighting and 1 assult case liao...
all in same year...
after that tear, sec 2, i didnt even have a single offence form...
except this year got 1 time late...
^^
i very guai de -
There is an article on 'How to control Anger' in the Straits Times today. You can read up on it to further understand how to approach should you think the information here is not enough for you.
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Originally posted by alvin-ncs:i dont think i will get damn tired lor...
i think i can swin more laps...
make untill i cant feel my legs and die better...
i swam 40+ laps every weekend
after that, i be damn tired n hungry to think about anything but food
then get a nice afternoon sleep to top it off
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guai?Originally posted by popikachu:i have 2 fighting and 1 assult case liao...
all in same year...
after that tear, sec 2, i didnt even have a single offence form...
except this year got 1 time late...
^^
i very guai de