suddenly i feel so sick
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me tooOriginally posted by alvin-ncs:hope so ba...
as now i am thinking what i am going through is nth...
dont feel like doing them also...
got the "dont give a damn" feeling now...
what's ur problem about..? perhaps u can post in AA... -
ehh btw i think both of us need to sort out our own feelings. It is not really about them now, it is about working, letting go and moving on with ourselves. Anyway "my don't give a darn" isn't the sad or angry kind but more of a neutral kind.. letting go kind, going with the flow kind..
Hope u find ur way soon! -
I know exactly how you feel coz I've been through dat and survived......
From your description, you seem confused, not knowing which way to turn. I would isolate each of the knots in your heart and tackle each one at a time for a start.
You might want to take a step back as well so that you may be able to get a clearer perspective. Dun rush for a solution coz sometimes time is all that you really need and the problem solves on its own....!
Rather than make an immediate decision, I would advise you to just shelve them for the moment while you try to live your life as best as you can. Get your life in order and once you are pretty happy with the way you are living your life, then come back to your problems to determine what fits into the life which you are happy with. Cast whatever doesn't fit away so that what remains are those that will only fit into your life and enhance it!
Hanmg in there and bide your time! Good luck!
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i dont really know...Originally posted by Isis:me too
what's ur problem about..? perhaps u can post in AA...
maybe about relationship...
maybe about family...
maybe about myself...
i dont know too la... -
R u feeling dissatisfaction with life ?Originally posted by alvin-ncs:i dont really know...
maybe about relationship...
maybe about family...
maybe about myself...
i dont know too la... -
abit jaded.. but okay lah. I already know where i want to go. It actualy naturally attuned but just that i never give it time and chance to develop.Originally posted by :I know exactly how you feel coz I've been through dat and survived......
From your description, you seem confused, not knowing which way to turn. I would isolate each of the knots in your heart and tackle each one at a time for a start.
You might want to take a step back as well so that you may be able to get a clearer perspective. Dun rush for a solution coz sometimes time is all that you really need and the problem solves on its own....!
Rather than make an immediate decision, I would advise you to just shelve them for the moment while you try to live your life as best as you can. Get your life in order and once you are pretty happy with the way you are living your life, then come back to your problems to determine what fits into the life which you are happy with. Cast whatever doesn't fit away so that what remains are those that will only fit into your life and enhance it!
Hanmg in there and bide your time! Good luck! -
i dont know...Originally posted by Isis:R u feeling dissatisfaction with life ?
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get used to this. there will be more in the future.
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understood...Originally posted by january:get used to this. there will be more in the future. -
You feel sick because you are viewing all your different problems all at the same time and you can't see straight with your mind all tied up in knots.
Isolate your problems and view each one at a time. You'll be able to see things more clearly.....
Never a good idea to try to solve problems when your inner self is not in order. It's like a building without proper foundation.
Start the analysis from the root of your problems - your inner conflicts. Get yourself sorted out first. Once you untie the knots in your inner mind and heart, then proceed with your problems one at a time. This way you'll feel less pressurised and your inner peace can provide you with directions more clearly....... Good luck! -
hello, i understand where u r coming from. U have to tell urself to get out of the rut.. U can CHOOSE to stay in there rut or walk out of it.. can u see it?Originally posted by alvin-ncs:understood...
I took some time and suffering to re-discover what i am and what i like. The truth is we are constantly changing. Situation is constantly changing. Ask yourself this "what it is that u really have passion for?" Then be pro-active, take up some courses or CCA to test water and to nuture urself.
It takes effort and time to re-discover what u want. Discovering yourself can be fun sometime. -
hey btw thx for ur advices : )Originally posted by :You feel sick because you are viewing all your different problems all at the same time and you can't see straight with your mind all tied up in knots.
Isolate your problems and view each one at a time. You'll be able to see things more clearly.....
Never a good idea to try to solve problems when your inner self is not in order. It's like a building without proper foundation.
Start the analysis from the root of your problems - your inner conflicts. Get yourself sorted out first. Once you untie the knots in your inner mind and heart, then proceed with your problems one at a time. This way you'll feel less pressurised and your inner peace can provide you with directions more clearly....... Good luck! -
trying to get out...Originally posted by Isis:hello, i understand where u r coming from. U have to tell urself to get out of the rut.. U can CHOOSE to stay in there rut or walk out of it.. can u see it?
I took some time and suffering to re-discover what i am and what i like. The truth is we are constantly changing. Situation is constantly changing. Ask yourself this "what it is that u really have passion for?" Then be pro-active, take up some courses or CCA to test water and to nuture urself.
It takes effort and time to re-discover what u want. Discovering yourself can be fun sometime. -
Well, mmmm be patience with yourself. Have some tender loving care for yourself cos..... u r a human being. u need some time to adjust and to move on..Originally posted by alvin-ncs:trying to get out...
ehhh i wana ask.. do u want to live the rest of your life like this? If not, then better start moving lah.
You shouldn't be just trying. You should be doing it. Slowly, bit by bit.. stepping out and find ur niche... it takes time but most importantly be patience with yourself and don't give up on yourself. Everyone around us can give up on us but not yourself. Have some faith in urself. I have some faith in u.
Btw stop telling urself that u can't do it. You must tell urself that u can do it de. Encourage urself by giving positive self-talk that u actually deserve... -
Eh btw i find it funny that im the one starting to console pple in my own thread lah.....
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I can relate to you.
It's like the outer you, and the inner you are totally opposites. Two contradicting entity constantly raging against each other, seeking to control your mind, throwing your mind in a whirlpool that never stops spiralling.
You feel tired about life, as if life doesn't matter. You look behind, you see a long path which you've walked through. But then, you look forward, and you see this even longer path, ridden with unknowns, and suddenly you feel tired.
You seek to change your status duo, but in the end, your status duo changes you. You reject the change, but slowly, your original intentions get eroded away. As day gets by, you start feeling smaller, and smaller. As if you aren't worth a thing.
The truth is, people change. Just like the environmental weathering, we are subjected to "social weathering". Change is inevitable. Instead of pushing change, welcome it.
Step out of your comfort zone. Do something different; be a light, instead of a seeker of light. Seek to brighten up the days of people around you. Charity work?
Bungee jumping? Doing something radical for once helps you to de-stress, and re-orientate yourself, and get back your bearings. Of course, radical doesn't mean killing, or harming others.
We often stay too long in our comfort zone, that we start losing ourselves in it. Step out. Relearn yourself. -
Binarynwitz, u gets my point...finally, someone understands what i am trying to say.Originally posted by binarynwitz:I can relate to you.
It's like the outer you, and the inner you are totally opposites. Two contradicting entity constantly raging against each other, seeking to control your mind, throwing your mind in a whirlpool that never stops spiralling.
You feel tired about life, as if life doesn't matter. You look behind, you see a long path which you've walked through. But then, you look forward, and you see this even longer path, ridden with unknowns, and suddenly you feel tired.
You seek to change your status duo, but in the end, your status duo changes you. You reject the change, but slowly, your original intentions get eroded away. As day gets by, you start feeling smaller, and smaller. As if you aren't worth a thing.
The truth is, people change. Just like the environmental weathering, we are subjected to "social weathering". Change is inevitable. Instead of pushing change, welcome it.
Step out of your comfort zone. Do something different; be a light, instead of a seeker of light. Seek to brighten up the days of people around you. Charity work?
Bungee jumping? Doing something radical for once helps you to de-stress, and re-orientate yourself, and get back your bearings. Of course, radical doesn't mean killing, or harming others.
We often stay too long in our comfort zone, that we start losing ourselves in it. Step out. Relearn yourself.
Things get to a point where it starts to breakdown and end up entirely differently from what i had initially envisoned of. I'm still recovering from the aftermate, the storm. i shouldn't be fighting the changes in the first place. It ends up hurting urself and the people around you.
It just that i don't feel the same way nw.Feelings don't stay the same, they change day to day basis.. even this sense of helplessness and sadness that i had will go away one day, as if it was never here before. But for now, i still have to face them>> Exhaustion, irritated, disappointment but i know it will soon be over. I have confidence that it will. -
My felt so piss off now..
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Originally posted by Isis:Well, mmmm be patience with yourself. Have some tender loving care for yourself cos..... u r a human being. u need some time to adjust and to move on..
ehhh i wana ask.. do u want to live the rest of your life like this? If not, then better start moving lah.
You shouldn't be just trying. You should be doing it. Slowly, bit by bit.. stepping out and find ur niche... it takes time but most importantly be patience with yourself and don't give up on yourself. Everyone around us can give up on us but not yourself. Have some faith in urself. I have some faith in u.
Btw stop telling urself that u can't do it. You must tell urself that u can do it de. Encourage urself by giving positive self-talk that u actually deserve...
ok...thanks for ur comment...
i will do my best... -
Good Good. Jiayou!Originally posted by alvin-ncs:
ok...thanks for ur comment...
i will do my best... -
Originally posted by Isis:Good Good. Jiayou!
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Glad you have the will to see through the dark times. If you need someone to talk to, et cetera, feel free to PM me.Originally posted by Isis:Binarynwitz, u gets my point...finally, someone understands what i am trying to say.
Things get to a point where it starts to breakdown and end up entirely differently from what i had initially envisoned of. I'm still recovering from the aftermate, the storm. i shouldn't be fighting the changes in the first place. It ends up hurting urself and the people around you.
It just that i don't feel the same way nw.Feelings don't stay the same, they change day to day basis.. even this sense of helplessness and sadness that i had will go away one day, as if it was never here before. But for now, i still have to face them>> Exhaustion, irritated, disappointment but i know it will soon be over. I have confidence that it will. -
CHILL boy, once in a while we just get sh|t in our lives...Originally posted by soulwinner:My felt so piss off now..
Take it as a reminder that we shouldn't take things for granted...?