In Love With A Prostitute... The Story Continues
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love her, miss her. but not willing to take any risks
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Originally posted by The_Legend_Killer:I agree. I think i am just a pawn that she is playing with. Just don't understand why she do not love me or even care for me. For what I have done, she is just leaving for good. Why can't we maintain as friends? She just left SG without informing me or leave anything for me?
Love is so cruel. Why?
I realized people who love using this statement - love is cruel - possessed that kind of archetype personality that somehow reckon that their life drew divine interest in making things miserable for them or making them 'protagonist' in this 'love serial drama' watched by higher entities.
Some people simply loved to portray themselves as sentimental for the wrong reasons.
It started out as a sexual transaction and now you are lamenting that she doesn't love you? And you still question why she doesn't love you?
Do you even see the irony of your statement? Or do you truly believe that you are sentimental or you want people to think that you are?
*** This is probably a Neptune phenomenon: of men completely luckless with woman dates, ending up in some whorehouse, got intimate with the one drab there and ended up getting emotional over her.
The general sequence in dating is as follows:
Interest > Attraction > Seduction.
In paid sex, it apparently gives you the illusion of being in the seduction stage. The man is empowered when the woman becomes sexually submissive. If he has the money, it seeming remove the need for stirring interest and forging attraction and you still get sex. The new found emotions in these inexperienced men were mistaken as 'approaches' in the dating scene and gradually, the unhealthy obsession transformed itself on subconscious level, seeing the transaction not merely a transaction, but as a 'point of contact' where love will foster from there on.
Don't bite off from than you can chew - there's nothing else you should do or get involved beyond that of sexual favours you get from her.
Start dating REAL WOMAN. If you are telling me that this is love for you, then start taking REAL ACTION.
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I second both Yun and curiousOrange. Although curiousOrange might be too direct in his/her delivery, but he/she definitely hit the goal there if you ask me. TS, you have to think about your future. Sometimes you have to be selfish.
Think about yourself from a selfish point of view. I have learned that being all good and trying to play the hero doesn't work all the time. Not everyone will appreciate things you do sometimes. In this case, as others said, she probably doesn't even feel 1% of emotions that you feel for her.
She went back to begin a new life. So should you. Begin a new life. Forget her.
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sammyboy forum.Originally posted by menoob:woes of a cat 40 tirak
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Friend, my warning to you. Beware of thai black magic. Its damn deadly. Dun play wif fire.
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I also know that I am being cruel to myself. I feel so miserable now.Originally posted by Ladi:By doing lotsa things for another person or sacrificing a lot for another person does not necessary make that person love you. That is not love. if love works that way, how easy, aint it? Then love is not longer as sacred as it is anymore aint it?
Love is not cruel. It is beautiful and sweet.
You are the one being cruel to yourself, by loving someone who does not love you.
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Originally posted by curiousOrange:
Actually, when I choose to leave her, I told myself to stay away from her and GL. However, I do miss her time and time again. Until I knew she leave SG last mth, I felt so devasted!!! Somehow, I know she no longer exist in my life. As compared to my ex, my ex is still contactable since she is living in SG. But my TIRAK, gone with the wind. Can u feel how I feel??? This time is worst! I dunno where she is now?
Look at that part in red. I know your pattern already lah bro...
You are the type who will suppress your thoughts and keep saying you are feeling ok already....then 3 months later you will come back here again and tell us actuallly you are not ok.
[b]You need to be honest with yourself.
If it's a sense of emptiness you are feeling...you need to deal with it NOW.
I have only one piece of advice for you.
Stop going to that house, stop going to GL altogether. That place is not for you.
There is absolutely no reason for you to be there anymore! Let this be the end.
You made your first mistake when you paid to talk to that tirak to fill up that void your ex-gf left behind.
That emptiness feels familiar doesn't it?
If you revisit GL, you are likely to repeat the same mistake again.
Life is short, you don't need all these drama in your life.
There are plenty of other things you should focus on. Once you find another direction in your life, that emptiness will go away.
Trust me.
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Actually, I have been going to GL for the past few weeks, hoping to find a clue abt her, hoping to find someone who looks like her, hoping that I can find someone who can be caring to be as her. However, its fruitless. I know I will repeat my mistake but I just can't help it.
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Originally posted by curiousOrange:
Actually, I wanted to fly over to Siam to find her, but Siam is so big and I don't know where to start? Its like tracking down Osama. Sigh. I fear that she will not try to talk to me if I do find her one day.
[b]She left without even seeing the need to bid you goodbye.
To her, all those talks, cuddles and hugs are strictly business.
There is no love involved. Forget those memories...please come back to reality!
You seriously think she cares whether you go all the way to Thailand or not? I think she will avoid you if you really go there and find her because you remind her of her past.
Spare a thought for the lady as well. Her new life has just began. If she doesn't want you to be part of it...you just have to accept and move on!
You are not some superhero destined to save sad little damsels in distress.
If there's someone that needs saving...it's yourself.
Sorry for being harsh. I want you start finding things you enjoy doing and truly move on.
Take care.
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Sometimes, I feel that I have save her life. I thought I was a superhero to her. Sigh. Maybe this world don't need superhero. I wanted her to be happy when I go GL find her. Did not expect to end up this way. -
I tried but still I can't get the gals I like. Somehow, thai gals are more friendly.Originally posted by Yunhaier:Start dating REAL WOMAN. If you are telling me that this is love for you, then start taking REAL ACTION.
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I can confirm that she did not put Black Magic on me.Originally posted by Manager433:Friend, my warning to you. Beware of thai black magic. Its damn deadly. Dun play wif fire. -
You know what People of this Forum. I will love to publish my story to the newspaper abt how life is in GL and how it can affect us. I want to share my story and even publish the way she looks like. I want the world to know and the entire nation to know GL is not for the faint of heart.
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well u certainly sound like u tio gong tao.
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u siao la.
i'm siao thailand but you're really gone case. -
Originally posted by The_Legend_Killer:I tried but still I can't get the gals I like. Somehow, thai gals are more friendly. I have no qualms about your preference as some people do prefer foreigners when it comes to BGR (Venus in 9th house).
From here, you had just confirmed the gist of my previous post. I suggest you re-read, digest it slowly and not resort to selective reading, because the next time round, your lesson might not be that 'cheap'.Originally posted by The_Legend_Killer:Actually, I have been going to GL for the past few weeks, hoping to find a clue abt her, hoping to find someone who looks like her, hoping that I can find someone who can be caring to be as her. However, its fruitless. I know I will repeat my mistake but I just can't help it.
If I was the woman, I would have desiccate your bank account before running away. And that's so easy, since you are someone that reject wisdom. Looking at the direction you are going in seeking love (entering whorehouse looking for TRUE LOVE... omg), this scenario would be a very likely thing.
If you are feeling terribly helpless, I suggest you seek professional help. And I doubt they are going to tell you a different thing.
If not, mark my words: all you need is one ultimate swindle, you will be banish back to reality in gale force and suffer the consequences of having serious-delusion in your definition of love.
You reek of heavy karma in love.
Sigh
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I suggest you carry all your protective amulets the next time round.Originally posted by kopiosatu:u siao la.
i'm siao thailand but you're really gone case.
Cheers -
My first suspicion is that you did not really get over your ex-girlfriend.
From the PMs you gave me, I know you will not get over her so easily.
And as usual, you denied it to death and said that your ex-girlfriend is history and you are over her.
Now look at what you wrote here,
Let me ask you a simple question.Originally posted by The_Legend_Killer:Somehow, I know she no longer exist in my life. ]As compared to my ex, my ex is still contactable since she is living in SG. But my TIRAK, gone with the wind. Can u feel how I feel??? This time is worst! I dunno where she is now?
If you are so over your ex-girlfriendÂ…Why the hell do you care whether she is still contactable and still living in Singapore???
IÂ’m going to tell it as it is.
You don't love your ex-girlfriend anymore BUT
You still feel like you deserve a second chance for all the effort you put in that relationship!
You still feel that that relationship was not supposed to end that way!
You still want her to be contactable so that one day she will tell you she is wrong and you are right.
You still have that wrong notion of how love is supposed to be!
Love doesnÂ’t work that way.
You are obsessed with the feeling of being in love.
You donÂ’t really love anyone right now.
Not the ex-girlfriend who hurt you.
Not that tirak who ran away without saying goodbye.
You just want that feeling of being in love!
This is why it is so easy for you to think of finding another substitute!
Any girl who can give you that feeling will do in your eyes. ThatÂ’s why IÂ’m telling you to avoid GL at all cost!!
You better do yourself a favor and listen to what I tell you. Stop going there if you want to recover.
In pursuit of that feeling of being in love, you naively gave everything you have!
Money, attention, your future!
It is time to stop killer.
You are destroying yourself with that false notion of love.
The first step is to save yourself.
Accept and love yourself for who you are. Do things that you want to do, truly live a life.
Only then will you have the capacity to love someone else.
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Actually, she said she wants me to leave cos she feels that I deserve someone better than her. She claims that her jobscope is not that elegant and that I truly deserve someone better.Originally posted by Yunhaier:From here, you had just confirmed the gist of my previous post. I suggest you re-read, digest it slowly and not resort to selective reading, because the next time round, your lesson might not be that 'cheap'.
If I was the woman, I would have desiccate your bank account before running away. And that's so easy, since you are someone that reject wisdom. Looking at the direction you are going in seeking love (entering whorehouse looking for TRUE LOVE... omg), this scenario would be a very likely thing.
Sigh
Cheers
She keep asking me to leave but yet I refuse to do so. Am I just stubborn? Is she being nice to me?
She keeps asking me to save and come and see her once a week. She is not after my money. -
Let me ask you a simple question.
If you are so over your ex-girlfriendÂ…Why the hell do you care whether she is still contactable and still living in Singapore???
At least I can know that she is still safe and sound. Simple agenda. I don't expect her to come back to me.
IÂ’m going to tell it as it is.
Love doesnÂ’t work that way.
You are obsessed with the feeling of being in love.
You donÂ’t really love anyone right now.
[b]I agree. I don't really love anyone now.
Not the ex-girlfriend who hurt you.
Not that tirak who ran away without saying goodbye.
You just want that feeling of being in love!
This is why it is so easy for you to think of finding another substitute![/b]
Any girl who can give you that feeling will do in your eyes. ThatÂ’s why IÂ’m telling you to avoid GL at all cost!!
Yes I agree. U r so right!!! So long as she is chio and can show me the kind of love I want. I will accept her.
You better do yourself a favor and listen to what I tell you. Stop going there if you want to recover.
In pursuit of that feeling of being in love, you naively gave everything you have!
Money, attention, your future!
It is time to stop killer.
You are destroying yourself with that false notion of love.
The first step is to save yourself.
Accept and love yourself for who you are. Do things that you want to do, truly live a life.
Only then will you have the capacity to love someone else.
Think about it.
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There's no point telling me I'm right.
The only thing that matters is whether you want to help yourself or continue to escape reality.
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You realise how selfish you are my dear friend?
You want to indulge in that feeling of love. It's an obsession.
Yet you know you don't have the capacity to actually love someone.
That is the wrong notion of love I'm talking about.
You'll end up hurting yourself over and over again because none of the girls will actually stay.
Why should they?
You are too selfish to be loved.
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Then what can I do now?Originally posted by curiousOrange:You realise how selfish you are my dear friend?
You want to indulge in that feeling of love. It's an obession.
Yet you know you don't have the capacity to actually love someone.
That is the wrong notion of love I'm talking about.
You'll end up hurting yourself over and over again because none of the girls will actually stay.
Why should they?
You are too selfish to be loved.
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Start thinking about how to truly live a life!Originally posted by The_Legend_Killer:Then what can I do now?
Don't tell yourself it's not going to help.
This is the first step.
This is the only way.
It's not going to be easy. It may even sound stupid to you right now but write down all the things you want to do on a piece of paper and start thinking about how to get what you want.
A new direction in your life is the only way you can truly recover.
The first step is to learn to rely on yourself for happiness instead of rely on anyone else for happiness.
Only when you can achieve that will you be able to give happiness to someone else.
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Originally posted by The_Legend_Killer:Actually, she said she wants me to leave cos she feels that I deserve someone better than her. She claims that her jobscope is not that elegant and that I truly deserve someone better.
She keep asking me to leave but yet I refuse to do so. Am I just stubborn? Is she being nice to me?
She keeps asking me to save and come and see her once a week. She is not after my money. If you can even consider dating woman from whorehouse and consider them as potential partners, I don't see why things cannot end up that way when you are dealing with people out to make quick buck in Singapore from illcit trades.
Oh man! What did I just said about being a 'protagonist' in this 'love serial drama' you have painted? You probably blindly believe that you are the cure... the 'superhero' to save a damsel in distress.Originally posted by The_Legend_Killer:Sometimes, I feel that I have save her life. I thought I was a superhero to her. Sigh. Maybe this world don't need superhero. I wanted her to be happy when I go GL find her. Did not expect to end up this way
You see yourself 'more than a client', when in fact you are just merely about that.
Do you seriously need me to be harsh just to wake you up from your reverie?
I tell you what.
Gimme your birth details; I would like to study you as part of my higher learning and research.
i) Birth Date
ii) Time you were born
iii) Place you were born.
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There are hundreds and thousands of guys out there experiencing your kind of illusion fancying themselves as Richard Gere and their dream heroine is Julia Roberts starring in Pretty Woman. Come on man, get your feet back firmly on terra firma and stopped romanticising your situation. What you are experiencing only happens in fictions!Originally posted by The_Legend_Killer:You know what People of this Forum. I will love to publish my story to the newspaper abt how life is in GL and how it can affect us. I want to share my story and even publish the way she looks like. I want the world to know and the entire nation to know GL is not for the faint of heart.
I am really lost!!!
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Yawns.....that TS still whining argh?
tiger airway got promotions on ticks to thailand again rite?
is Ts's love worth a to and fro tick at $200/-?