Is There Any Wrong Saying To A Girl That You Love Her..?

• curiousOrange

  4 May 07, 11:16

  Originally posted by jojobeach:

  No you are wrong. It's the other way round.
  
  

  other way round = say you like the girl when you actually don't?
  
  you serious? you prefer a guy who would lie to you about something like that? i'm interested to know why.
• curiousOrange

  4 May 07, 11:24

  double post
• Ladi

  4 May 07, 11:46

  Originally posted by curiousOrange:

  other way round = say you like the girl when you actually don't?
  
  you serious? you prefer a guy who would lie to you about something like that? i'm interested to know why.

  Methink such guys will attract stronger-will girls with a mind of their own? Weaker gals, or gals in weaker state of mind may feel intimidated/irritated?
• curiousOrange

  4 May 07, 12:17

  Originally posted by Ladi:

  Methink such guys will attract stronger-will girls with a mind of their own? Weaker gals, or gals in weaker state of mind may feel intimidated/irritated?

  Actually, the best is to keep quiet. Don't say anything at all unless you are absolutely sure and the timing is right.
  
  I think it's better is to express it through actions...not words.
  
  But in TS's context, he has already said it. Damage if there's any, was already done.
  
  He has 2 options lying in front of him:
  
  1) Apologize, take back what he said...hoping he can get back into the friend zone.
  
  But he will not be happy, frienship with the girl is the second best option for him.
  
  Here's what Yunhaier said which I totally agree with:
  
  

  Originally posted by Yunhaier:

  you can't really force love out of somebody if she doesn't sees you romantically as a potential partner eventually.
  

  He sticks around as a friend...comes back to this forum 3 months later asking how he can get out of the friend zone!
  
  Bottomline is, I want the TS to be happy with the decision he makes.
  
  When he has to lie and suppress whatever he's feeling just to be close to the girl, he will not be truly happy.
  
  2) Stick by what he said.
  If the girl simply cannot accept. Tell her he still stand by what he said but he will move on and accept rejection graciously.
  
  At least there will be no ambiguity and he can focus on other things in his life.
  
  
• Herzog_Zwei

  4 May 07, 13:54

  Originally posted by MooKu:

  Women... such inexplicable creatures....

  That's udderly right!
• LagooN

  5 May 07, 00:00

  Ok.. I See.. I Think That I Have Made A Decision..
  And During The Proposal.. I Didnt Do Any Indencent Things..
  The Relationship With Her Last Time Was Somewhere A Little Higher Then Best Friend But Not Girlfriend..
  So.. I Took A Chance During An Outing And Proposed To Her..
  She Didnt Reject Me But Instead Just Say She Need To Go To The Toilet And Say Sorry..
  I Did Apologise To Her.. But She Just Say That It Wasnt My Fault And Just Ignore Me For Weeks..
  Even Till Now.. Not Even Room For Improvement..
  The Moment I Tried To Get Near Her..
  She Just Walk Away In Other Direction And When I Tried To Talk To Her..
  Even When Right In Front Of Her.. She Just Treat It That She Didnt Hear..
  I Think Leaving Thing Around And Let Time Heal Will Do The Best Job..
  What You All Think..?
• jondizzle foshizzle

  5 May 07, 00:07

  Originally posted by Yunhaier:

  Congrats for getting your feelings out; it's just a pity that she didn't like you the way you did for her.
  
  At least you know about her stand and position - you can't really force love out of somebody if she doesn't sees you romantically as a potential partner eventually.
  
  Trying and fail beats not trying and still fail; the former notion alone is several notch higher than people falling into the latter.
  
  Cheers

  No don't encourage him what he did was reckless and stupid.
• hiphop2009

  5 May 07, 09:29

  Originally posted by LagooN:

  Is There Any Wrong Saying To A Girl That You Love Her..?
  I And Her Get Along Quite Well When We Are Friends..
  But One Fine Day That When I Told The Girl That I Like Her..
  She Felt Angry And Ignore Me..
  Is There Really Anything Wrong Done By Me..?
  Why Did The Friendship Of Us Get Affect Too By The Proposal..?
  Ever Since That Day Onward.. She Treat Me Like An Enemy..
  So.. Wanted To Know Why Is This So.. Hope To See All Of Your Opinion..
  Thank You..

  actually u shld hav told her dat, i wanna tell u something but i hope u wont be angry with me and continue to be frenz with me blah blah blah something like dat.
  
  well, go n apologsize to her bah, at least she will see u as a sincere fren again, haha~
• zeny

  5 May 07, 09:49

  Originally posted by LagooN:

  Ok.. I See.. I Think That I Have Made A Decision..
  And During The Proposal.. I Didnt Do Any Indencent Things..
  The Relationship With Her Last Time Was Somewhere A Little Higher Then Best Friend But Not Girlfriend..
  So.. I Took A Chance During An Outing And Proposed To Her..
  She Didnt Reject Me But Instead Just Say She Need To Go To The Toilet And Say Sorry..
  I Did Apologise To Her.. But She Just Say That It Wasnt My Fault And Just Ignore Me For Weeks..
  Even Till Now.. Not Even Room For Improvement..
  The Moment I Tried To Get Near Her..
  She Just Walk Away In Other Direction And When I Tried To Talk To Her..
  Even When Right In Front Of Her.. She Just Treat It That She Didnt Hear..
  I Think Leaving Thing Around And Let Time Heal Will Do The Best Job..
  What You All Think..?

  Lets have change the story.
  
  A girl suddenly came up to you and say she like you.
  What will you do? Bear in mind you still like the other girl?
• Yunhaier

  5 May 07, 10:03

  Originally posted by jondizzle foshizzle:

  No don't encourage him what he did was reckless and stupid.

  It was never meant to be an encouragement - confession doesn't always refer to a happy ending, but surely, confession eliminates the burden of holding inside one's heart.
  
  Confession itself is never reckless and stupid - what's reckless and stupid about this is uncalculated confession.
  
  Cheers
• dreamykite

  5 May 07, 13:28

  Weird ... I think she doesn't like you at all, just like your company.
  
  
• soulwinner

  5 May 07, 13:46

  I alway tell gal i love them...
• GameOverEx

  6 May 07, 08:35

  yea tis kind of stupid things do occur...mayb when u tell her the time, mus include tat "even if u dun like me, i hope we r still frens...or 1 more solution, dont tell her<< best solution...
• Kenashi

  6 May 07, 08:49

  wah biangz, u want to ask for advice or just trying to create eye problem, use so many different colours
  don't read liao
• Ladi

  7 May 07, 10:56

  Read this over the weekend, thought TS may be able to learn something from it, esp the part in bold.
  
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• acegem84

  8 May 07, 21:31

  haha i'll tell the wrong gers that i like them .... bt i'll make sure i tell the right ger i love her