I feel so alone in uni
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im engin.....hope next yr is final yr
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oh man, u reminds me of me...Originally posted by whenwilllifegetbetter:This is kinda sad, but i feel like i have no friends at all...
I've been in NUS for 1 year already, and i haven't made any real friends. There are some 'regulars' that i sit with at lectures, tutorials, etc, but i've never gone out with them at all, not even for lunch, or after exams... and it doesn't help that we have this module system, where you see a different group of pple each semester... and worst of all, everyone around me seems to have a "clique" already, from their sec sch or jc, so nobody really wants to befriend me
i don't enjoy the company of my CCA mates, i just find them very silly and childish... i don't feel like laughing at their jokes. is there something wrong with me? i used to have some friends in jc, sec sch, but i noticed that each year, the number decreased, until now it'd zero i find myself getting more and more withdrawn each year... i had one friend in sec sch who was in my class for 4 years, and in sec 3 she told me that i used to be fun (in sec1&2), but i became less fun and more serious. I had another friend who was sort of best friends with me in lower sec, and then she sort of 'dumped' me towards the end of sec 2, and really left me all alone. And i think ever since then i've been avoiding getting close to anyone. But i know i'm over that now, i really,really, really wanna have close friends again, friends that i can go out and eat with, go shopping, watch movies, and just bum around with, share my problems with. the problem is, i don't know anyone that i would really want to have as a friend. I hate nus, i feel like an alien here, everyone is just so different... i felt that way in jc, but to a lesser extent. And now i keep discovering that people that i see in classes and cca,pple i used to know in sec sch, are organising outings and they don't even bother to ask me. but anyway it's not like i really enjoy their company... and i keep getting the feeling that everyone in nus looks down on me, cos i'm not very outspoken/glam/popular.
i'm so screwed. why do i not like doing the things that other people like to do? it seems that people in nus like to eat at fancy places, plan trips to hongkong,europe, etc. somehow i find that these things very extravagant, take up a lot of money, but not meaningful, or fulfilling... and i don't feel excited about going to europe,etc, yet all around me people seem so cheery about it. i don't get it! are they just being fake, and pretending to be excited, just to seem interesting? Or maybe travelling the world and eating at fancy restaurants is a joy that only rich pple(more than half of nus) can understand? Even with the money i earn from my vacation jobs, even though it's enough to do those things, i don't feel any excitement about those activities. i'msosad And speaking of vacation, this must be the worst vacation ever, cos i've got no friends to go out with... just work,work,work. and my family, although they are bearable, there's just no common ground for me to be close with them, we're all so different...
maybe there's soething wrong with me, maybe i should go see a shrink...
nowadays i just feel that life is so meaningless. is it possible to die from loneliness? as in loneliness of not having friends... see i'm so sad and lonely, i don't even care abt getting a boyfriend, i'd be happy just to have a few nice pple as close friends... what do you think i should do? how do i find nice pple to be friends with, when everyone i know doesn't seem like my kind? maybe i am too gloomy a person... if i had the money i'd leave the country and start afresh, cos' there's nobody here worth staying for.
P.S. sorry for the extremely long post.
maybe we can be friends, haha.
well, i guess this happens to alot of ppl in sch, u are not alone man
dont worry, things will get better, dont be too hard on yourself... -
TS, i am almost totally the same as you... Family? what are they? My parent can't even support me and i have to out to work in the age of 14.Originally posted by whenwilllifegetbetter:This is kinda sad, but i feel like i have no friends at all...
I've been in NUS for 1 year already, and i haven't made any real friends. There are some 'regulars' that i sit with at lectures, tutorials, etc, but i've never gone out with them at all, not even for lunch, or after exams... and it doesn't help that we have this module system, where you see a different group of pple each semester... and worst of all, everyone around me seems to have a "clique" already, from their sec sch or jc, so nobody really wants to befriend me
i don't enjoy the company of my CCA mates, i just find them very silly and childish... i don't feel like laughing at their jokes. is there something wrong with me? i used to have some friends in jc, sec sch, but i noticed that each year, the number decreased, until now it'd zero i find myself getting more and more withdrawn each year... i had one friend in sec sch who was in my class for 4 years, and in sec 3 she told me that i used to be fun (in sec1&2), but i became less fun and more serious. I had another friend who was sort of best friends with me in lower sec, and then she sort of 'dumped' me towards the end of sec 2, and really left me all alone. And i think ever since then i've been avoiding getting close to anyone. But i know i'm over that now, i really,really, really wanna have close friends again, friends that i can go out and eat with, go shopping, watch movies, and just bum around with, share my problems with. the problem is, i don't know anyone that i would really want to have as a friend. I hate nus, i feel like an alien here, everyone is just so different... i felt that way in jc, but to a lesser extent. And now i keep discovering that people that i see in classes and cca,pple i used to know in sec sch, are organising outings and they don't even bother to ask me. but anyway it's not like i really enjoy their company... and i keep getting the feeling that everyone in nus looks down on me, cos i'm not very outspoken/glam/popular.
i'm so screwed. why do i not like doing the things that other people like to do? it seems that people in nus like to eat at fancy places, plan trips to hongkong,europe, etc. somehow i find that these things very extravagant, take up a lot of money, but not meaningful, or fulfilling... and i don't feel excited about going to europe,etc, yet all around me people seem so cheery about it. i don't get it! are they just being fake, and pretending to be excited, just to seem interesting? Or maybe travelling the world and eating at fancy restaurants is a joy that only rich pple(more than half of nus) can understand? Even with the money i earn from my vacation jobs, even though it's enough to do those things, i don't feel any excitement about those activities. i'msosad And speaking of vacation, this must be the worst vacation ever, cos i've got no friends to go out with... just work,work,work. and my family, although they are bearable, there's just no common ground for me to be close with them, we're all so different...
maybe there's soething wrong with me, maybe i should go see a shrink...
nowadays i just feel that life is so meaningless. is it possible to die from loneliness? as in loneliness of not having friends... see i'm so sad and lonely, i don't even care abt getting a boyfriend, i'd be happy just to have a few nice pple as close friends... what do you think i should do? how do i find nice pple to be friends with, when everyone i know doesn't seem like my kind? maybe i am too gloomy a person... if i had the money i'd leave the country and start afresh, cos' there's nobody here worth staying for.
P.S. sorry for the extremely long post.
Friend? I got alot. but isnt it easy to make friend? jus say a 'hi' and you are friend already. But, all all my friends are just the first stage of friend. No one really cares about me, always being left out. Outing planned, chalet planned, basketball outing, after school play time, all and everything, i was left out.
Share my problems? you just shared yours and this is also my only ways of sharing my problems... no one to talk to... always alone... lol i really hope mypillowtalk(someone in SGF) will teach my pillow how to talk. I sometime feel so sad that i talk to my pillow, and cried... but that doesnt help cus my pillow cant talk...
bottle up and keeping everything alone really make me brust. Maybe there is really no reason to live. yup me and you, no reason to live in this world. BUT, if you live on, you may find something interesting. just like now you know someone is the same as you.
Do you throw you money away? nope i dun.
life is more valueable then money.
this is what i always told myself...
But still, what is life really for?
Life, is something for you to enjoy. Not suffer.
Find your interests in life. Some people like voluntory work, but i dont.
find...
keep on finding...
Yup me too and now i am only living to find my interest in life. and the only solution now is, endure
Me too. I hate this feeling. Don't worry. You Are Never Alone.
You Still Got Us. -
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I'm in engine too... Next yr is definitely final yearOriginally posted by curryman:im engin.....hope next yr is final yr -
/Pat Pat popikachuOriginally posted by popikachu:TS, i am almost totally the same as you... Family? what are they? My parent can't even support me and i have to out to work in the age of 14.
Friend? I got alot. but isnt it easy to make friend? jus say a 'hi' and you are friend already. But, all all my friends are just the first stage of friend. No one really cares about me, always being left out. Outing planned, chalet planned, basketball outing, after school play time, all and everything, i was left out.
Share my problems? you just shared yours and this is also my only ways of sharing my problems... no one to talk to... always alone... lol i really hope mypillowtalk(someone in SGF) will teach my pillow how to talk. I sometime feel so sad that i talk to my pillow, and cried... but that doesnt help cus my pillow cant talk...
bottle up and keeping everything alone really make me brust. Maybe there is really no reason to live. yup me and you, no reason to live in this world. BUT, if you live on, you may find something interesting. just like now you know someone is the same as you.
Do you throw you money away? nope i dun.
life is more valueable then money.
this is what i always told myself...
But still, what is life really for?
Life, is something for you to enjoy. Not suffer.
Find your interests in life. Some people like voluntory work, but i dont.
find...
keep on finding...
Yup me too and now i am only living to find my interest in life. and the only solution now is, endure
Me too. I hate this feeling. Don't worry. You Are Never Alone.
You Still Got Us. -
can find me around LT13 or the MDL too.Originally posted by soulwinner:Meet me in business hall too...
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so many uni students...
let's start a thread for a NUS canteen gathering session... -
Hey.. I'm also from NUS and I also don't have any close friends in NUS but that's ok for me. 'cause I think it's also a way of life in NUS. Due to our module system, every semester we meet new people so it's very hard to get to know someone. For me, I don't care. I just move on alone and I'm ok. I don't even join any club or society.
Always keep in mind that " You may feel lonely sometimes but you are not alone". There is always someone who cares about u. For me,I don't have my family here 'cause I am a foreign student but I have one close friend who is not from NUS, so whenever I feel stressed out, we meet up and talk. So, u see, don't be sad about not getting friends in uni. u can always find someone outside to talk to about ur feelings and problems. Uni counsellor can also help u. U can go and talk to them and seek their advice.
Cheers
Remember that u have someone who is in the same boat like you, it's me! It's also a way of life, just accept it and move on... u'll be fine... -
not a thread maybe but a forum ^^Originally posted by eagle:so many uni students...
let's start a thread for a NUS canteen gathering session... -
>.<Originally posted by Isis:/Pat Pat popikachu
dun pat me later i become in love with you
like this TS -
pat patOriginally posted by popikachu: -
pat pat
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We usually become just another statistic in a university with such a huge enrolment like NUS. Either we are treated as a number or another sheep in this huge flock.
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Learn to appreciate the silence
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Originally posted by eagle:pat pat
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That's just how things are. If by the sixth week in university you haven't found your own clique, you'll be pretty much friendless for the next few years.
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when will life get better? good question.
Life will get better. Believe it, live it. And it will get better. -
frens can be made all the time...u r being crude hereOriginally posted by RETARDED_MORON:That's just how things are. If by the sixth week in university you haven't found your own clique, you'll be pretty much friendless for the next few years. -
Ts.. u r always surround by friends, look at the response to this thread... it is up to you to open your heart and let the love flow..
And popikchu.. if u r as cute as the one in ur avatar... i don't mind u fall in love with me lor but i don't know about myself... ha ha -
......Originally posted by Isis:Ts.. u r always surround by friends, look at the response to this thread... it is up to you to open your heart and let the love flow..
And popikchu.. if u r as cute as the one in ur avatar... i don't mind u fall in love with me lor but i don't know about myself... ha ha
i'm single but unavailable...
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explain plsOriginally posted by popikachu:......
i'm single but unavailable...
haha 
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Someone made a reservation, but not there yetOriginally posted by curryman:explain pls -
gay r/s?Originally posted by eagle:Someone made a reservation, but not there yet -
if in a gay r/s => means not singleOriginally posted by curryman:gay r/s?
if waiting for a gay to respond => single + unavailable