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well , i could tell her i found a new love or we are not meant for each other, its closure in a way, im the bad guy and she can go on with her new love if she finds one.Im sure she will find one..i just hope im not weak and break down and tell her everything.Originally posted by zeny:Sorry to hear that you have a few months to live.
Take care and hope that you have enjoyed a wonder life.
To answer your question, first answer mine.
Imagine you have no illness and you living happily with the girl you love. Suddenly she went away and disappear from your life. You try to find her but you just could not. You wept everyday wondering what you have done wrong. Five years later after all the pain and suffering, you meet her parents only to find out that she died from an illness and do not want her to suffer.
Do you really think that option B is the best option now?
P.S the story above is a true story thats why my advice is a)
Is better to let her know and let her decide. Cos even when you died is a closure for her instead of waiting in vain and in pain.
Is your life, so you got to chose.
Thats why im venting on the forum hoping you guys would support option B.
Better be a bad guy in her eyes than be a saint and taint her life with this sadness forever. -
Seriously, you don't need other people to help support whatever course of action you choose to take.Originally posted by myheadaches:well , i could tell her i found a new love or we are not meant for each other, its closure in a way, im the bad guy and she can go on with her new love if she finds one.Im sure she will find one..i just hope im not weak and break down and tell her everything.
Thats why im venting on the forum hoping you guys would support option B.
Better be a bad guy in her eyes than be a saint and taint her life with this sadness forever.
On my part, I would choose option A. In the end, it's how she chooses to take the news that matters.
At the end of the day, though, I won't stop you from taking Option B if that's what you want. I only hope that if you do make a choice, you would stick with it and have no regrets at all. -
thanks you are right, i have to stick with my decision but somethings its killing me and all i want to do is to tell everything, but what for? i need to vent my feeling somewhere.Originally posted by fudgester:Seriously, you don't need other people to help support whatever course of action you choose to take.
On my part, I would choose option A. In the end, it's how she chooses to take the news that matters.
At the end of the day, though, I won't stop you from taking Option B if that's what you want. I only hope that if you do make a choice, you would stick with it and have no regrets at all.
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Maybe you do not understand girls well from my point of view ba.Originally posted by myheadaches:well , i could tell her i found a new love or we are not meant for each other, its closure in a way, im the bad guy and she can go on with her new love if she finds one.Im sure she will find one..i just hope im not weak and break down and tell her everything.
Thats why im venting on the forum hoping you guys would support option B.
Better be a bad guy in her eyes than be a saint and taint her life with this sadness forever.
Girls need a closure to relationship more than guys in order to get on with life.
Just by play a bad guy may not be a good option but a way to escape the real problem at hand.
I stand by my advice in option A cos I do not wish another person suffer again.
Is you choice to chose and I could only advice.
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thanksOriginally posted by zeny:Maybe you do not understand girls well from my point of view ba.
Girls need a closure to relationship more than guys in order to get on with life.
Just by play a bad guy may not be a good option but a way to escape the real problem at hand.
I stand by my advice in option A cos I do not wish another person suffer again.
Is you choice to chose and I could only advice.
Is the last phase of your life. If you could do it then so be it.
Sometimes i see her pictures of the time we have together, im wondering what she is doing and i really miss her. Sometimes i just want to call her and hear her voice.
Either this kills me first or my tumour. -
Tell her . . . . . . .
Hey erm drink green tea it helps..
Don't give up ... Many ppl got cancer and THEY SUVIVE ..
A positive mindset can outbeat any disease ..
Watch what you eat..
Excercise ..
If you got a job right now i suggest you suspend it or quit ,,
your life is more important than your job @
Use the time to do some soul-searching ... excersice ... read some motivational books etc..
No pain no gain ..
Nth is impossible and so is your tumour..
Think positive .. What are you going to achieve in your life ? etc ..
You ARE A WINNER ! Do you think its worth it for 4 million peoople to die fer you ?!?!
YES A FEW MILLIONS OF PEOPLE HAD DIE FOR YOU , FOR YOUR LIFE !
Before you are born .. there are millions of sperms before reaching your mum's womb and give birth to you ! AND if you decide to die like that ? Why not gif your life to someone else ? Save the pain and regret ... I'm sure many of them will achieve better things than you ! So why can't you just cherish your life by doing things positivlly ? So think abt it ....
THE CHOICE IS YOURS - YOU CAN EITHER SURVIVE BY ENDURING THE PAIN
OR DIE with regrets - by not achieving things you want ... the happiness and so on ...
With love,
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i tink wads important is tt ur happy.
u dun realli haf to worry if ur gf sad coz 1 day she comfrm move on..
do everytin in ur last lap of life tts best for urself. others will carry on.
Cheers bro. -
Share will his your misery if you truely love her...
She might not forgive you he just you disappear without a trace..
It not the end of world.. cheer up... -
OK I am sorry for you...Originally posted by myheadaches:A few months back i have been diagnosed with a tumour in my brain, i have tried treatment overseas in several countries but the prognosis is the same , i might not have long to live.
You see the tumor was caused by an injury a long time ago.And its something that might be induced by trauma.
My main agony is i have a woman that i love but should i
a) tell her and suffer together and let her see me die slowly and give her a painful memory
b)just go away, disappear from her life and make her hate me by lying to her that i have a new love, so she can start her life all over again with another man and now waste anytime with me.
The problem is i dont know when im am going to die, maybe 3 months maybe 6 or maybe 1 year or maybe longer.Hence i think its not fair to give this pain of suffering for my loved ones.
I seen the pain of family of loved one enduring the pain and suffering of somebody withering away. Whilst i cannot spare my immediate family at least i can spare her.
i really want to live but my time is running out, i should let her live.
As for "the other person" you cannot decide for her what she wants to do...
Tell her and let her decide for herself what she wants to do about the information...
you are not God... you cannot see into the future and you do not know how things will turn out...
You cannot know how your sickness will affect the people around you in the long run... in the future...
Just continue to live your live as best as you can... and let others decide how they want to live their lives... -
brother! wouldn't it be better if you leave her something worth remembering about you and her being together? please don't leave anything undone.Originally posted by myheadaches:A few months back i have been diagnosed with a tumour in my brain, i have tried treatment overseas in several countries but the prognosis is the same , i might not have long to live.
You see the tumor was caused by an injury a long time ago.And its something that might be induced by trauma.
My main agony is i have a woman that i love but should i
a) tell her and suffer together and let her see me die slowly and give her a painful memory
b)just go away, disappear from her life and make her hate me by lying to her that i have a new love, so she can start her life all over again with another man and now waste anytime with me.
The problem is i dont know when im am going to die, maybe 3 months maybe 6 or maybe 1 year or maybe longer.Hence i think its not fair to give this pain of suffering for my loved ones.
I seen the pain of family of loved one enduring the pain and suffering of somebody withering away. Whilst i cannot spare my immediate family at least i can spare her.
i really want to live but my time is running out, i should let her live.
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Yo , TS..Alway's look on the bright side of life , Be positive that's currently you should do.
Wish you recover soon and won't be agony anymore
Cheers !!
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You're not a character in a Shakespearean tragedy.
You probably think it's a noble act by pushing her away and not telling her the truth.
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oh noOriginally posted by myheadaches:A few months back i have been diagnosed with a tumour in my brain, i have tried treatment overseas in several countries but the prognosis is the same , i might not have long to live.
You see the tumor was caused by an injury a long time ago.And its something that might be induced by trauma.
My main agony is i have a woman that i love but should i
a) tell her and suffer together and let her see me die slowly and give her a painful memory
b)just go away, disappear from her life and make her hate me by lying to her that i have a new love, so she can start her life all over again with another man and now waste anytime with me.
The problem is i dont know when im am going to die, maybe 3 months maybe 6 or maybe 1 year or maybe longer.Hence i think its not fair to give this pain of suffering for my loved ones.
I seen the pain of family of loved one enduring the pain and suffering of somebody withering away. Whilst i cannot spare my immediate family at least i can spare her.
i really want to live but my time is running out, i should let her live. -
One question.
Is that female already in a committed relationship with TS or not? -
Treasure the moment now...
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Option A.