well , i could tell her i found a new love or we are not meant for each other, its closure in a way, im the bad guy and she can go on with her new love if she finds one.Im sure she will find one..i just hope im not weak and break down and tell her everything.Originally posted by zeny:Sorry to hear that you have a few months to live.
Take care and hope that you have enjoyed a wonder life.
To answer your question, first answer mine.
Imagine you have no illness and you living happily with the girl you love. Suddenly she went away and disappear from your life. You try to find her but you just could not. You wept everyday wondering what you have done wrong. Five years later after all the pain and suffering, you meet her parents only to find out that she died from an illness and do not want her to suffer.
Do you really think that option B is the best option now?
P.S the story above is a true story thats why my advice is a)
Is better to let her know and let her decide. Cos even when you died is a closure for her instead of waiting in vain and in pain.
Is your life, so you got to chose.
Seriously, you don't need other people to help support whatever course of action you choose to take.Originally posted by myheadaches:well , i could tell her i found a new love or we are not meant for each other, its closure in a way, im the bad guy and she can go on with her new love if she finds one.Im sure she will find one..i just hope im not weak and break down and tell her everything.
Thats why im venting on the forum hoping you guys would support option B.
Better be a bad guy in her eyes than be a saint and taint her life with this sadness forever.
thanks you are right, i have to stick with my decision but somethings its killing me and all i want to do is to tell everything, but what for? i need to vent my feeling somewhere.Originally posted by fudgester:Seriously, you don't need other people to help support whatever course of action you choose to take.
On my part, I would choose option A. In the end, it's how she chooses to take the news that matters.
At the end of the day, though, I won't stop you from taking Option B if that's what you want. I only hope that if you do make a choice, you would stick with it and have no regrets at all.
Maybe you do not understand girls well from my point of view ba.Originally posted by myheadaches:well , i could tell her i found a new love or we are not meant for each other, its closure in a way, im the bad guy and she can go on with her new love if she finds one.Im sure she will find one..i just hope im not weak and break down and tell her everything.
Thats why im venting on the forum hoping you guys would support option B.
Better be a bad guy in her eyes than be a saint and taint her life with this sadness forever.
thanksOriginally posted by zeny:Maybe you do not understand girls well from my point of view ba.
Girls need a closure to relationship more than guys in order to get on with life.
Just by play a bad guy may not be a good option but a way to escape the real problem at hand.
I stand by my advice in option A cos I do not wish another person suffer again.
Is you choice to chose and I could only advice.
Is the last phase of your life. If you could do it then so be it.
OK I am sorry for you...Originally posted by myheadaches:A few months back i have been diagnosed with a tumour in my brain, i have tried treatment overseas in several countries but the prognosis is the same , i might not have long to live.
You see the tumor was caused by an injury a long time ago.And its something that might be induced by trauma.
My main agony is i have a woman that i love but should i
a) tell her and suffer together and let her see me die slowly and give her a painful memory
b)just go away, disappear from her life and make her hate me by lying to her that i have a new love, so she can start her life all over again with another man and now waste anytime with me.
The problem is i dont know when im am going to die, maybe 3 months maybe 6 or maybe 1 year or maybe longer.Hence i think its not fair to give this pain of suffering for my loved ones.
I seen the pain of family of loved one enduring the pain and suffering of somebody withering away. Whilst i cannot spare my immediate family at least i can spare her.
i really want to live but my time is running out, i should let her live.
brother! wouldn't it be better if you leave her something worth remembering about you and her being together? please don't leave anything undone.Originally posted by myheadaches:A few months back i have been diagnosed with a tumour in my brain, i have tried treatment overseas in several countries but the prognosis is the same , i might not have long to live.
You see the tumor was caused by an injury a long time ago.And its something that might be induced by trauma.
My main agony is i have a woman that i love but should i
a) tell her and suffer together and let her see me die slowly and give her a painful memory
b)just go away, disappear from her life and make her hate me by lying to her that i have a new love, so she can start her life all over again with another man and now waste anytime with me.
The problem is i dont know when im am going to die, maybe 3 months maybe 6 or maybe 1 year or maybe longer.Hence i think its not fair to give this pain of suffering for my loved ones.
I seen the pain of family of loved one enduring the pain and suffering of somebody withering away. Whilst i cannot spare my immediate family at least i can spare her.
i really want to live but my time is running out, i should let her live.
oh noOriginally posted by myheadaches:A few months back i have been diagnosed with a tumour in my brain, i have tried treatment overseas in several countries but the prognosis is the same , i might not have long to live.
You see the tumor was caused by an injury a long time ago.And its something that might be induced by trauma.
My main agony is i have a woman that i love but should i
a) tell her and suffer together and let her see me die slowly and give her a painful memory
b)just go away, disappear from her life and make her hate me by lying to her that i have a new love, so she can start her life all over again with another man and now waste anytime with me.
The problem is i dont know when im am going to die, maybe 3 months maybe 6 or maybe 1 year or maybe longer.Hence i think its not fair to give this pain of suffering for my loved ones.
I seen the pain of family of loved one enduring the pain and suffering of somebody withering away. Whilst i cannot spare my immediate family at least i can spare her.
i really want to live but my time is running out, i should let her live.