Finally broke up..why m still so devastated?
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Finally made a firm break with that asshole...some of u might remb the chastity thread posted a few months ago..things got so bad his family told me to inform them and call police if he ever looks for me again.they asked me to cut off ties with him for their good, for his and for mine.i know he's not worth the heartache but i cant help hurting so badly.i cant take my mind off him the times we hav been thru both good and bad wind up in my head in never ending replays.after so much torment the breakup should be a relief,why m i still so devastated?could barely go to sleep and barely have the strength to get out of bed...n i m not quite sure if this is the end of things with all these complications..still cried so hard when he kept sending me msgs ytd nite..i m so mad at myself for feeling this way.so guilty for still missing him.so ashamed of my stupidity.how do i recover...i just want to get me back..
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-Hugz-
it takes time to forget...
Take care
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gong xi gong xi
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it takes time for wounds to heal
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what happened in the few months? why you hate him so much?Originally posted by kuri:Finally made a firm break with that asshole...some of u might remb the chastity thread posted a few months ago..things got so bad his family told me to inform them and call police if he ever looks for me again.they asked me to cut off ties with him for their good, for his and for mine.i know he's not worth the heartache but i cant help hurting so badly -
i dunno how to begin healing..i dunno who to talk to who wouldnt just call me stupid or chide me after five minutes into my story n i wouldnt want to go on...i just feel so lousy bout myself now..feels so lonely in my struggle..nobody at home knows wat the asshole's done so no comfort here..mentally disturbed by his antics yet i still miss the good times together somehow they seem to replay more n more..so hard perservering in my decision..i just wish i could hav some frds who would understand n i would hav a lil comfort..really wish i hav that lil extra strength to pull me thru now..
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Originally posted by kuri:Finally made a firm break with that asshole...some of u might remb the chastity thread posted a few months ago..things got so bad his family told me to inform them and call police if he ever looks for me again.they asked me to cut off ties with him for their good, for his and for mine.i know he's not worth the heartache but i cant help hurting so badly.i cant take my mind off him the times we hav been thru both good and bad wind up in my head in never ending replays.after so much torment the breakup should be a relief,why m i still so devastated?could barely go to sleep and barely have the strength to get out of bed...n i m not quite sure if this is the end of things with all these complications..still cried so hard when he kept sending me msgs ytd nite..i m so mad at myself for feeling this way.so guilty for still missing him.so ashamed of my stupidity.how do i recover...i just want to get me back..
It takes time even for nature to recover from the destructive effect of a hurricane, surely, it takes ample time for the wounded soul to restore itself.
This IS the aftermath of a failed relationship. If you lose your discipline in maintaining your path by turning your shoulders and retracing your route, you end up delaying your eventual exit and triggering a vicious cycle.
Shed all the tears you need - it will cease to fall gradually.
Think about all you need - you will relinquish those bad memories gradually.
'Suffer' all you need now - this illusion will implode and you will experience realism of your choice... that you made a right move for once... gradually
Cheers -
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firm break is good. Nv look back.
From experience, its always the case. No matter how much you felt like breaking off from the r/s, and when you finally did, you will feel sad, really sad.
Come on, you and him shared so much happiness and sadness before, and a normal person will feel sad to end a r/s. Its not a matter of you still having love for him, but its a case of losing someone. But that doesnt means you still love him.
Very soon, you will learn to forget the painful past and move on again.
Glad that you had make the right decision if you think you had.. -
just move on!
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hugs kuri*
it's over.. and we are all by your side.
im glad that his parents are so understanding.
change ur hp number ba..
stop thinking of him le.. it's too tormenting.
focus on ur studies and engage in more activities.
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don't know if my advice is gd enuf...
1) take up other activities...
2) avoid thinkin of him...
3) keep/throw the things he had given...
4) look for frens for activities...
5) avoid tokin abt him...
it'll take quite a while b4 u totally forget him...
i tink avoidin is a gd idea for me, i don't know for u... -
I donÂ’t think you are stupid.Originally posted by kuri:i dunno how to begin healing..i dunno who to talk to who wouldnt just call me stupid or chide me after five minutes into my story n i wouldnt want to go on...i just feel so lousy bout myself now..feels so lonely in my struggle..nobody at home knows wat the asshole's done so no comfort here..mentally disturbed by his antics yet i still miss the good times together somehow they seem to replay more n more..so hard perservering in my decision..i just wish i could hav some frds who would understand n i would hav a lil comfort..really wish i hav that lil extra strength to pull me thru now..
You simply chose a different path.
You remind me of a little girl who is playing by herself in the playground.
Once in a while, you steal a look at the swings and slidesÂ…the other kids chatting happily and seemingly having a great time.
Once in a while, you wonder whether you should drop everything, you wish you could be like them.
What you are looking for is a long term relationship. The time you will spend on that someone will be measured in years.
Physical attraction will eventually play a less significant role.
The important things will come in like trust and compatibility in personality and character.
And most importantly, the value you feel of yourself when you are with him.
In your case, you felt like you have no value to him other than to satisfy the physical intimacy he craves for.
Your ex cannot see beyond physical attraction. In fact, most men cannot see beyond that.
The temptation to join the other kids in the playground is too strong.
I think you made the right decision to leave him.
I cannot predict what will happen from now on.
I hope one day a little boy will show up at the playground and decides what you are doing is far more enjoyable and fulfilling than the swings and slides.
This boy will stay by your side for good. -
u make mi think of my sec sch life, still rmb last yr my friend got cheated by her bf then she broke into tears then ran to the toliet =( we (our click) ran to toliet pei her hug and when she cry ='( so sad! noe how u feeling now =( i guess it takes time to get over it =) jia you! oh my this friend get over it by going into another relationship (she so xin fu now) haha but i think the best is to spend more time with friends and family =) tt might help=) jia you! *hugz*
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You are hurting now, because you once love deeply. Like what the other posters here have said, you need time. As for how long will it take for u to forget him and completely move on in life, its all up to you.
While I don't know the story between you and your ex, somehow, I think that you have make the best decision for yourself, because you were stuck in a relationship that were leading to nowhere, and that you are hurting a lot from it. Getting out of it is the only thing you could have done. All you can do now is continue your routine. Go school/work, play your fave sports, or even take a short holiday abroad. Absorb all the beautiful scenaries abroad, go and visit some wonderful places, and get more knowledge about the places you visit. When you come back to Spore, while you probably hadn't forgotten the bad episode, you would have at least make urself more fresher, and probably on a faster route to forgetting.
Just remember this, u are not alone in this world. Your friends may have scold u for what u did in ur past relationship, but in the end, they care for u. All we can do here is to provide a "listening ear" and give u advice. They are the ones that provide an arm, a hug, and everything u need. They are the ones who care more about u.
Do take care girl, and hopefully, in a few days, weeks or months time, you will have walked out of this dark episode of ur life, and into a bright, new one. -
hey Kuri...
you have done the right thing... don't look back now...
Surround urself with your friends and family... this is the time u need them most.
Let yourself grieve for a while... but not for too long...
learn to love yourself. take up projects that take up your time...
be strong gal!
you'll get through this! -
It is only normal that breakups ends with sadness...
I mean, who wouldn't cry over the wasted years spent with someone like that..
Look on the bright side, you'll meet someone new; better. -
Wll its like tat.. Takes time ok? don be too hard on yrself.. time heals all wounds you know? Do not worry... Good luck wuld soon be on its way and just think its for the better... The further u look back the further ure likely to see.. occupy yrself with activities and pray... take care ok?
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good luck. recover fast...
good times are worth remembering...bad times forget them... -
Find someone you can talk to.. someone you are comfortable to tell your stories to.
I find it heals better when u talk it out rather then keeping it all to yourself. Hear a different opinion. -
I understand it is hard to forget someone you love. But Kuri, life still goes on. Just tell yourself, he is not the good guy you are looking for afterall. Know more people, break out of this vicious cycle. hope you can overcome this ordeal. love hurts but dont be discourage by it. You got to help yourself to pull through and I am sure you canOriginally posted by kuri:i dunno how to begin healing..i dunno who to talk to who wouldnt just call me stupid or chide me after five minutes into my story n i wouldnt want to go on...i just feel so lousy bout myself now..feels so lonely in my struggle..nobody at home knows wat the asshole's done so no comfort here..mentally disturbed by his antics yet i still miss the good times together somehow they seem to replay more n more..so hard perservering in my decision..i just wish i could hav some frds who would understand n i would hav a lil comfort..really wish i hav that lil extra strength to pull me thru now.. -
Perhapes you have been with him for too long thus you can't forget him. Try mixing with some friends and go out more. I guarantee you that you will be able to forget him in less than a month, but that method isn't a cure at all thats temporary to relief you off him. Take care
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if u want to talk, u can talk to me if u dont mind telling ur story to a complete stranger..Originally posted by kuri:i dunno how to begin healing..i dunno who to talk to who wouldnt just call me stupid or chide me after five minutes into my story n i wouldnt want to go on...i just feel so lousy bout myself now..feels so lonely in my struggle..nobody at home knows wat the asshole's done so no comfort here..mentally disturbed by his antics yet i still miss the good times together somehow they seem to replay more n more..so hard perservering in my decision..i just wish i could hav some frds who would understand n i would hav a lil comfort..really wish i hav that lil extra strength to pull me thru now..
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Kuri, talk to ur friends.Originally posted by kuri:i dunno how to begin healing..i dunno who to talk to who wouldnt just call me stupid or chide me after five minutes into my story n i wouldnt want to go on...i just feel so lousy bout myself now..feels so lonely in my struggle..nobody at home knows wat the asshole's done so no comfort here..mentally disturbed by his antics yet i still miss the good times together somehow they seem to replay more n more..so hard perservering in my decision..i just wish i could hav some frds who would understand n i would hav a lil comfort..really wish i hav that lil extra strength to pull me thru now..
if they are really your friends, they won't ask u for prove or whatnot. they'll know you are not lying. -
/pat pat.. Take care..
