Loss of self worth.
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I have almost everything i need. A stable job. Good family. Loving gf.
Yet. Something is missing. I feel i'm no longer an individual at work. I'm just another disposable number. I had noble ideals about it at first, that i could make a difference, but this terrible feeling of uselessness has begun to overcome me. I'm not a good son. Neither am i a good enough bf. I feel that whatever i do is not enough.
If my mum didn't call the police the other day, i might not even be posting here now -
What happen?
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why did your mom have to call the police?
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huh?
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to stop me from doing something dumbOriginally posted by Ito_^:why did your mom have to call the police? -
Get yourself a pyschiatrist.Originally posted by Hellraiza:to stop me from doing something dumb -
Sounds like you are having a life crisis.Originally posted by Hellraiza:I have almost everything i need. A stable job. Good family. Loving gf.
Yet. Something is missing. I feel i'm no longer an individual at work. I'm just another disposable number. I had noble ideals about it at first, that i could make a difference, but this terrible feeling of uselessness has begun to overcome me. I'm not a good son. Neither am i a good enough bf. I feel that whatever i do is not enough.
If my mum didn't call the police the other day, i might not even be posting here now
You are doubting your own self-worth, which in fact shouldn't have happen in the first place. Look at it this way, you are successful in all aspects of your life actually, but yet, u feel that job-wise, you are not doing as well as you like. This could be due to several factors, but i suspect the most likely one will be because you are feeling job fatique, and that you have reached the point in ur life where u are seriously thinking if its worth continuing on in ur job. Could it be that u feel u have been bypassed for a raise, promotion etc?
Its seriously not worth doing stupid things because of your job. I would suggest u take a short holiday break, and evaluate where u think u are now, against the goals u have set urself when u first joined the company. Are u reaching ur goals? Do u think u can reach it? Do u need to change ur goals? Do u think that u can reach ur goals only if u go somewhere else? Ask urself these questions, and u probably will be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel. There's no need to go to extremes and think of doing stupid things because you are only gonna make ur loved ones miserable.
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how old are u?
mid-life crisis isit? -
life...
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Share with us your misery..
I bet your will feel a little better after this..
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I think you are subjecting yourself to too much pressure by having lofty expectations of yourself..... Take things one small step at a time - the journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step......... Each time you focus on making each step your best, it becomes easier. Looking at the whole distance all at once is scary and tends to make people stumble.
We are all not infallible..... Long as you learn from your mistakes and resolve to do better all the time, you'll be on your way..........
With each small step well taken, you should learn to give yourself a pat on the back. As this process goes on, you should be able to restore your self esteem which is all about learning how to value yourself! Good luck!
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*hugs
sorry lah.
when u talk to me on MSN i always afk.
when we gg out for sashimi/jap? -
once i reveal my age, some people here will probably go "aiyah, still have a long way ahead of you, dont think too much."
I'm 22.
I used to try and suppress all this unhappiness. I had to act normal and cheerful in front of my loved ones so they won't worry. But i think all the suppression has exploded. I locked myself in my room and turned it upside down, then i collapsed onto the floor and started to cry like hell. I feel i've disappointed everyone who has ever placed hopes on me. But the thing is I DON'T LIKE PEOPLE EXPECTING ME TO BE SOMETHING I'M NOT.
I don't even know what i am anymore -
bro, u nid to do something u reali feel like doing when u were a teenager.. or ur dreams and ambition.. go fufill them! since u are workin and money shld not be the limiting factor.. as u mention ppl has high expectations of u.. thus i tink u are sort of deprived of ur teenage years and not enjoyin them..Originally posted by Hellraiza:once i reveal my age, some people here will probably go "aiyah, still have a long way ahead of you, dont think too much."
I'm 22.
I used to try and suppress all this unhappiness. I had to act normal and cheerful in front of my loved ones so they won't worry. But i think all the suppression has exploded. I locked myself in my room and turned it upside down, then i collapsed onto the floor and started to cry like hell. I feel i've disappointed everyone who has ever placed hopes on me. But the thing is I DON'T LIKE PEOPLE EXPECTING ME TO BE SOMETHING I'M NOT.
I don't even know what i am anymore
to control ur emotions.. do wat u like.. drives fast, rides fast, cycle fast, blade fast, fly fast.. perfect ur skills! u will haf a sense of achievement
and btw, did u juz ORD? -
Originally posted by Hellraiza:once i reveal my age, some people here will probably go "aiyah, still have a long way ahead of you, dont think too much."
I'm 22.
I used to try and suppress all this unhappiness. I had to act normal and cheerful in front of my loved ones so they won't worry. But i think all the suppression has exploded. I locked myself in my room and turned it upside down, then i collapsed onto the floor and started to cry like hell. I feel i've disappointed everyone who has ever placed hopes on me. But the thing is I DON'T LIKE PEOPLE EXPECTING ME TO BE SOMETHING I'M NOT.
I don't even know what i am anymore
What's all this unhappiness that's affecting you so much?
What are the disappointments you faced?
And what's this desire people have placed on you?
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Life come and go just like that. Everybody is on earth for a reason! Your feeling does tell the truth. If you really feel useless, you are damn useless! Face the fact, if you think u are really useless, go do something and prove to yourself that YOU ARE NOT! It does matter what you are thinking at the moment. Doing something dumb is not to solve problem, is to escape from problem. Everybody on earth has to go thru hell, it is juz a matter of time whether when it is?
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You don't need to prove to others.
All you need to do is prove to yourself.
Expectations are just , expectations.
Learn to be more flexible, more adaptable, more self-forgiving.
The more mistakes you make, the more wiser you get.
Just don't repeat the mistake over and over again.
If you think you are already at the bottom of the pit.
Life won't get any worse, can it ?
Now is the time you bounce back up.
22 years old is the age your learning curve goes up steep.
Buckle up your seat belt and hold on to your head. -
hey we all go thru this once in a while. nobody life is ever stagnant, there will be peaks and lows.
just like a stock market, the price might be high and flying , but once 1 bad thing happen, all the negative stuff will come together and the price will fall. right now a lot of negative stuff are coming together, so your self worth falls, but once it reaches the lowest, it will rebound and you will be alright.
go do something right, something you know how to do, like play a game, fix some stuff or whatever that gives you a sense of accomplishment. you need your confidence back.
what goes up must come down
what goes down must come up.
that is the law of nature -
You are the commander of the cockpit but somehow, you're not in control of the airplane.
Take your time, you may not have reached the pits yet. Once you do, take your time to get out too. Nothing and no one can really help you.
Only people like me who have gone thru it know what it feels like. Once you "get out", you will know and you will have learned a whole lot about life. -
I agree. Life is like sea tide.Originally posted by bladez87:hey we all go thru this once in a while. nobody life is ever stagnant, there will be peaks and lows.
just like a stock market, the price might be high and flying , but once 1 bad thing happen, all the negative stuff will come together and the price will fall. right now a lot of negative stuff are coming together, so your self worth falls, but once it reaches the lowest, it will rebound and you will be alright.
go do something right, something you know how to do, like play a game, fix some stuff or whatever that gives you a sense of accomplishment. you need your confidence back.
what goes up must come down
what goes down must come up.
that is the law of nature
Prepare yourself for high tide when you are at low tide.
Prepare yourself for low tide when you are at high tide.
We need to learn to be stronger and stronger.
But there are times, we can feel weak and cry also.
Take a rest when you are stressed out.
Aiming to be perfect in everything can be a disaster sometimes. -
Welcome to RESPONSIBILITY.
Shoulder it like a man, or bellyache like a wimp.
You are feeling that way because you are at the line between a man and a teenager. Don't take the number of your age as a guideline, take your mental maturity. You are neither here or there.
You cannot control those around you, but you can take charge of yourself.
Treat your self as a man, and others will follow suit
Behave like a kid, and the others will treat you as such. -
Hellraiza, you r still young, and u hav a stable job, a loving family n gf. U are actually better than alot of ppl, at least better than me... Do treasure them. Try to fine tune what u wan w wat u can do, tat way life may be better.
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Wow. You seem to be like me.
After I ORDed, I couldn't find a job for a few months.
I got a job but got asked to leave after just five days..
I was struggling with my finances.
I had my relationship problem.
And my parents bugs me to give them some money when all I was working on was freelance jobs and part-time jobs when the money was barely enough for me to survive.
But now, it all came out well, simply because I understand when there's low tide, there's be high tide again. Life is full of ups and downs.
Sometimes you simpl have to believe the good times are coming even though the times are just getting worse and worse.
Look for your love ones and talk about it. Don't keep it to yourself.
Problems are never solve unless all facts are layed on the table. And only when this is done, people are able to advise you and help you. -
+1Originally posted by yasusenpai:I agree. Life is like sea tide.
Prepare yourself for high tide when you are at low tide.
Prepare yourself for low tide when you are at high tide.
We need to learn to be stronger and stronger.
But there are times, we can feel weak and cry also.
Take a rest when you are stressed out.
Aiming to be perfect in everything can be a disaster sometimes.
if life is always the going the way we expect it to go, than it will be boring.
Like wise for music, there must be high and low keys to form wonderful pleasant music to our ears.
when we life is being throw downwards, than take a step back and ask yourself, why and how this happen, look at it, think of ways to prevent it from happening again to you in future and how you can improve your current situation to better than your existing lifestyle.
I personally had my own share of negative experience similar to yours, but it's when I'm in a below average family background which made me learn more on how to cope and look at things when they happen.
If you need anyone to speak to, feel free to PM me your msn.
I might be able to help.