how to end a quarrel? tell me your tricks!!
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How to end a quarrel ???
You should be asking HOW TO AVOID A QUARREL.
Learn to shut your mouth up when you see an argument coming.
Learn to listen to her without shooting off your smart arss mouth.
Since you alredy spilt your sour milk.
Here's how to do damage control.
Send her a message and include these.
I'm sorry we had a argument.
I 'm sorry for being such a jerk.
I'm sorry for not using my brain.
BUT I still loves you very much.
I PROMISE, I will NOT do it again.
I PROMISE to listen more and not retort with my horse shit mouth.
Please forgive me.
Note: DO NOT GIVE HER THE "I'm sorry BUT...(stupid reason)"
DO NOT TRY TO JUSTIFY YOUR WRONGS !!!
JUST Apologise and promise NOT TO DO IT NEXT TIME !!!
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BEST WAY TO END THE QUARREL IS TO GIVE IN TO EACH OTHERS!!Originally posted by brotherNoSpace:hey guys, recently i had a bad quarrel with my gf. but it seems like it could be avoided... quarreling over petty things as usual. but i realised that sometimes we quarrel over certain things but in fact, its not about that but its about another, chim hor. anw i wish to resolve it cos it hurting each other and i want things to go back to our happy selves. pls help me!!
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There're no secrets to resolving a quarrel between couples, really.Originally posted by brotherNoSpace:hey guys, recently i had a bad quarrel with my gf. but it seems like it could be avoided... quarreling over petty things as usual. but i realised that sometimes we quarrel over certain things but in fact, its not about that but its about another, chim hor. anw i wish to resolve it cos it hurting each other and i want things to go back to our happy selves. pls help me!!
If you're in the wrong, just be a man and apologise for your misdeeds.
If you're in the right, don't apologise and just get on with life as usual - if she continues sulking, just let her be.
Hope that helps...
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for girls, sweet boyfriends must be sensitive enough, and think deep to her thoughts lol. put aside your pride ba? my bf always do this and we patch things up immediately, apologise sincerely and explain? but i dont know what should you explain if its not your fault.
during all quarrels, in fit of anger, noone thinks he/she is wrong. maybe [sorry to all guys] boyfriends should try put aside their pride first, when things got better, the girls will realise their fault, some girls will learn to apologise, but its the matter of bfs try to initiate apology
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let the other party cool down first, then apologise
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some girls example me is not the sort of can cool down first, i dont know if its only me or its common for girls to wanna settle things immediately rather than seeing bf keeping quiet leaving me alone for cool down period.
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if it's a face to face quarrel, i would see her reactions after the quarrel, if she is pissed off, don't want to listen, well i just hug her closely, and kiss her and than look at her in the eyes & say "I Sorry, I didn't mean to upset you" (make sure you mean it!)Originally posted by brotherNoSpace:hey guys, recently i had a bad quarrel with my gf. but it seems like it could be avoided... quarreling over petty things as usual. but i realised that sometimes we quarrel over certain things but in fact, its not about that but its about another, chim hor. anw i wish to resolve it cos it hurting each other and i want things to go back to our happy selves. pls help me!!
Add a joke after that, that will make a smile, if i were you, I'll say "don't frown, or be angry, you will get more wrinkles if you do that..than will not be pretty le wor..
Something like that. (edit accordingly to your preference)
than take her somewhere to eat her favourite food/snacks, girls usually like ice-creams. than see her back home, end of with a good bye kiss followed by saying you love her. -
it depends on situation..Originally posted by Icy_Candy:some girls example me is not the sort of can cool down first, i dont know if its only me or its common for girls to wanna settle things immediately rather than seeing bf keeping quiet leaving me alone for cool down period.
it's really depends on how experience or how well the guy can handle when they get into a quarrel..
solving the problem immediately is good, but at times some things can't be solved immediately too. -
hmm things cannot be solved immediately? i never face such problems but i guess for me i might just wait till the situation turns better. but most quarrels out there, its better to solve it on the day than bottle up, most couples tend to bottle up waiting for a lil fire and then.. everything burpz out
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I agree with you... It sucks to be left alone and not resolving the issue immediately... grr.. hate it hate it to theee cORE>>>>>Originally posted by Icy_Candy:some girls example me is not the sort of can cool down first, i dont know if its only me or its common for girls to wanna settle things immediately rather than seeing bf keeping quiet leaving me alone for cool down period. 
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Absence makes the heart grow fonder.Originally posted by walesa:There're no secrets to resolving a quarrel between couples, really.
If you're in the wrong, just be a man and apologise for your misdeeds.
If you're in the right, don't apologise and just get on with life as usual - if she continues sulking, just let her be.
Hope that helps...
Familiarity breeds contempt.
That's why strife becomes more frequent.
And you are right, it is usually inconsequental matters
So walesa's advice is appropriate. -
Even if you feel really really pissed, just say sorry, and if you dont really mean it, just pretend you mean it... Apologise and all will be well.
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Cold War!!
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ohh it sure sucks..Originally posted by relgn:Cold War!! -
its youOriginally posted by Icy_Candy:some girls example me is not the sort of can cool down first, i dont know if its only me or its common for girls to wanna settle things immediately rather than seeing bf keeping quiet leaving me alone for cool down period. 
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sorry.
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go get yourself sick or wait outside her door for long hours.
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how about waiting in the rain in front of her house?Originally posted by Rigante:go get yourself sick or wait outside her door for long hours. -
keep quiet?
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keeping quiet is the last thing that you would like to do in such circumstances.Originally posted by *=Optimus=*:keep quiet? -
Nothing is more pitiful than a grown man sitting at a corner and sobbing. Once you cry, you automatically win the quarrel. But still, it should never be overused, seriously, how many times have you seen your own father cry?
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I want to learn from my dad but it's damn hard.
Whenever my mum complains, or when there's something that can lead to a quarrel, my dad always apologize first. He always take the first step backwards.
If I can do that, many quarrels would have been avoided.
So this is what u should aim for in the future.