not your average break-ups/get-overs. pls advice. pls.
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Not just any average, but an "in army can't get out, AVERAGE."Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:This should tell TS that his is an "average break-ups/get-overs."
In another words, an average NS break up. -
hmm same as my case oso la, u can look up under my threads a yr ago..
anyway to TS, let go of her if u really love her
u wouldnt wan to stick with sumone that had no feelings with u?
ish like body tere la..no feelings inside...what for?
l that time feel damn hurted and sad when l learnt my gf feelings for me has been fading...she didnt tell me..but l noe.. she dun dare to break the news to me..cuz she scare hurt my feelings
well..but l ish really wan my gf to live happily and be well, so l let her go..on that day, l still remember, l giv her a call..saying l wanna meet her, taking one of the neo print photo l took with her and l go tk a cab to her hse (l hav 2 neo prints taken with her)
then l break the news to her, u noe how painful it was, l juz burst out crying while hugging her...the pain was like my whole heart was shattered into million of pieces...the pain inflicted on my heart is very pain..l finished my speech with her, and passed her the neoprint, hoping she will remember this r/s.
l haven been so sad before in my whole life.
juz let her go bah, if u really love her...
even if u get her body, u wont get her heart, u get the point? -
aww..when l write abt my past again, l feel touchy and full of emotion again, jialat
so to TS, remember wor, do mark my words
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If its urs it'll eventually be urs..if its not urs u cant force..yes both of u spend alot of time tog in e past n haf lotsa memories..but somethings u jux wont be able to find an ans..esp in relationship. tho She says she no longer haf any feelings for u anymore..it def does not mean tt its ur fault or tt u r lousy. When its time to let go u probly shd, yes it hurts, but doesnt it hurt u more now tt u noe tt u love her but cant get her love? U r a man so be a man, theres nth too hard to get over, its tough at first but u'll be able to ease thru it as time passes. There r other gals out there, one of whom cud be ur eventual special one, u jux hafta let nature tk its course..
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"not your average..." because "average break-ups" are not "while in the army breakups"?Originally posted by Quinsy:Not just any average, but an "in army can't get out, AVERAGE."
In another words, an average NS break up.
I don't see how it is an important differentiation. -
When a romance starts, you do anything to make her happy.
How come when a romance ends, making her happy seems the last thing to do?
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haha, to me la...Originally posted by ILPSY:When a romance starts, you do anything to make her happy.
How come when a romance ends, making her happy seems the last thing to do?
l ish always trying to made my gal happy de..she happy, l okie le..nthing matters more to me.. even if l had to save and scrimp, sell off my electronic gadgets, and etc, l dun mind juz to see the smile from her face
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Yeah, thats why. When you are in a relationship, you will do anything to make her happy. Seeing her smile makes your day.Originally posted by xShevchenkox:haha, to me la...
l ish always trying to made my gal happy de..she happy, l okie le..nthing matters more to me.. even if l had to save and scrimp, sell off my electronic gadgets, and etc, l dun mind juz to see the smile from her face
When a relationship ends, you will do anything to win her back. However, you will not notice the smile has vanished as you are so cooped up with your own emotions. If you really love someone, you will want to see her smile again.
I believe in being gracious even when you have to exit one day. Coz what comes around goes around.
Would you rather be someone who fondly remembers when the romance ended or become someone's nightmare? And the someone is the person whom you have given your heart to before? -
no...l didnt...u mistaken me as TS ah, ish TS who dun wan to let goOriginally posted by ILPSY:Yeah, thats why. When you are in a relationship, you will do anything to make her happy. Seeing her smile makes your day.
When a relationship ends, you will do anything to win her back. However, you will not notice the smile has vanished as you are so cooped up with your own emotions. If you really love someone, you will want to see her smile again.
I believe in being gracious even when you have to exit one day. Coz what comes around goes around.
Would you rather be someone who fondly remembers when the romance ended or become someone's nightmare? And the someone is the person whom you have given your heart to before?
l let my gal go once l realise her love for me has been fading...straight away -
Hahaha...Originally posted by xShevchenkox:no...l didnt...u mistaken me as TS ah, ish TS who dun wan to let go
l let my gal go once l realise her love for me has been fading...straight away
Its just a general comment!
Cheers! -
haha, but dun noe y we guys always hav to do the sacrifces for them?Originally posted by ILPSY:Hahaha...
Its just a general comment!
Cheers!
make them happy...y dun they make us happy instead
sumtime tink back...ish a bit unfair, dun u tink so? -
hmm... for all you know, they may have already regretted the decisions they made earlier? But for us, at least we have never let them down. Isn't that better this way?Originally posted by xShevchenkox:haha, but dun noe y we guys always hav to do the sacrifces for them?
make them happy...y dun they make us happy instead
sumtime tink back...ish a bit unfair, dun u tink so?
anyway, life is always unfair. Its how you think. What goes around comes around. At least, I get to have a good night sleep! -
to many ple, when a relationship ends, the last thing to do is to make her cry.Originally posted by ILPSY:When a romance starts, you do anything to make her happy.
How come when a romance ends, making her happy seems the last thing to do?
lol... sad.
I remember how my ex used to do all those romantic and sweet things for me.. before he changed..
and the last time he saw me crying, he actually told me "sorry i din bring tissue".
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How many ple can actually do that?Originally posted by ILPSY:Yeah, thats why. When you are in a relationship, you will do anything to make her happy. Seeing her smile makes your day.
When a relationship ends, you will do anything to win her back. However, you will not notice the smile has vanished as you are so cooped up with your own emotions. If you really love someone, you will want to see her smile again.
I believe in being gracious even when you have to exit one day. Coz what comes around goes around.
Would you rather be someone who fondly remembers when the romance ended or become someone's nightmare? And the someone is the person whom you have given your heart to before?
The someone I have given my heart too.. has become my nightmare.
I still cry when i think of the past.. -
same sentiments..Originally posted by ILPSY:hmm... for all you know, they may have already regretted the decisions they made earlier? But for us, at least we have never let them down. Isn't that better this way?
anyway, life is always unfair. Its how you think. What goes around comes around. At least, I get to have a good night sleep!
bie ren fu wo, it's okay.. wo bu fu bie ren jiu hao le.. as long as i dun let others down, dun let myself down..
but sometimes i cant help but to ask myself.. what have i done wrong to deserve all these?
why must he inflict so much pain on me?
Is that what I get for giving my all?
How could be be so cruel? -
Relaxtionship problem looks like nv end...
how to make it easier, simple....
i dun noe...
just want all the best wish to all couples...
treat the one beside u better...dun hurt him/her....
dun be shy also... -
When a relationship is coming to an end, maybe, the 2 things you should do are to "Treat yourself better" and "Love yourself more".Originally posted by zheyu:Relaxtionship problem looks like nv end...
how to make it easier, simple....
i dun noe...
just want all the best wish to all couples...
treat the one beside u better...dun hurt him/her....
dun be shy also...
If you think that the relationship is going to nowhere, and no matter how you tried, and its doom to be a failure, why not step out of the relationship? By doing so, the other party is happier and you can minimize your hurt to the lowest. -
Well said! Very well said indeed!!! Thought the response might be "easy said than done", though.Originally posted by ILPSY:When a romance starts, you do anything to make her happy.
How come when a romance ends, making her happy seems the last thing to do? -
Yup! Its never easy. It takes years of experience to realise this concept! hahaha...Originally posted by passerbyJIA:Well said! Very well said indeed!!! Thought the response might be "easy said than done", though. -
hey guys.... thanks for the wonderful advices and quotes. i really appreciate.. im gonna book in a few hours time. i think that, maybe when i book out, i'll pa her a visit and tell her..... that maybe we shoud go our seperate ways.
it hurts me to think about it... but maybe you guys are right. i hould let go if she really have no feelings for me anymore. love is between 2people, takes 2hands to clap.
and pls, i wrote 'not your average' beak ups because for me, this isn't some puppy love or secondary ' i love jack forever' kindda shiit. i really love her.. dont be mistaken also that i think other breakups are normal unimportant, i just write this topic on the spot without thinkin alot, just really a important relationship to me, and its a beautiful relationship...............
thank you guys again. i haven't been crying. but i know im hurting inside. i wonder if i will have 'internal damage'.... i still wish it wasnt like this. -
You know some people will always tell you "you will forget her in due time". And I find that remark weird, why would you want to forget someone you loved or still love?
For me, I'd keep those I love but have left me close to my heart. TS, recovery phase is probably the lousy thing you will have to go through. But I'm certain that the 3 years is not in vain, you've learned something out of it and become a better person. It's just a regret that most journeys and voyages come to an end someday.
You don't have to deliberate try and forget her. You know you have moved on when someday in the shower, a familiar song played over the radio and you thought of her.
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I was facing this same exact situation, just about half a week ago. I feel for you, my friend.
When a girl say "her feelings had faded", she really means it. There is really, no point trying to know what's her REAL reason behind the lost feelings. Third party invasion, or simply chronic erosion, it doesn't matter.
Will knowing the real reason, get her back? Will she turn back?
The real answer is no. She has chose to move on, you should, too.
Yes, it would hurt inside, very much. I've chosen to move on, and forget her. I'm still hurting inside, but I know there's no more point in reserving the love for her. Why do you want to keep an unfinished burger from yesterday, when you can easily buy a new burger today?
Go out, and do some sports. Cycling works for me. Get to know new friends, expand your social circle.
And realise this: the predestined number of failed relationships has reduced by one. Perhaps now, it is at zero. Look forward to the relationship you'll encounter, sooner or later.
Since you're heading into NS, it's a good time to re-orientate yourself, back into singlehood. -
edited, double post. Apologies
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This is koan, this is good stuffOriginally posted by binarynwitz:And realise this: the predestined number of failed relationships has reduced by one. Perhaps now, it is at zero. Look forward to the relationship you'll encounter, sooner or later. -
Originally posted by binarynwitz:
i dun think this statement is appropriate.
I was facing this same exact situation, just about half a week ago. I feel for you, my friend.
When a girl say "her feelings had faded", she really means it. There is really, no point trying to know what's her REAL reason behind the lost feelings. Third party invasion, or simply chronic erosion, it doesn't matter.
[b]Will knowing the real reason, get her back? Will she turn back?
The real answer is no. She has chose to move on, you should, too.
Yes, it would hurt inside, very much. I've chosen to move on, and forget her. I'm still hurting inside, but I know there's no more point in reserving the love for her. Why do you want to keep an unfinished burger from yesterday, when you can easily buy a new burger today?
Go out, and do some sports. Cycling works for me. Get to know new friends, expand your social circle.
And realise this: the predestined number of failed relationships has reduced by one. Perhaps now, it is at zero. Look forward to the relationship you'll encounter, sooner or later.
Since you're heading into NS, it's a good time to re-orientate yourself, back into singlehood.[/b]
do u mean if u have the money, u can buy a burger but dun finish it.. then when u feel like eating burger again, u will get another one? Hope you dun mean it this way.
relationships ain't burgers.
money cannot buy true love.