Originally posted by autumn:
Hi there... Hope you could offer me some advice.
I have some problems which have been bothering me for several years but I can't seem to solve them. The problems are making me feeling very depressed.
I recently graduated with a business related degree. However, I felt lost as to what kind of jobs I am really interested in. This problem makes it difficult for me to plan my career path. I keep asking myself countless times "what kind of jobs do I really like?"... but the answer seems to be that I dislike desk-bound admin jobs. Moreover, I think that marketing and sales jobs are defintely not suitable for me as I am a quiet and shy person. Until now, I am still pondering over this job problem.
Another thing is that being a quiet and shy person, I do not have a lot of friends. I really wish to widen my circle of friends but I always felt uncomfortable in large groups or social functions. I really dun know how I am going to open up myself.
Then, there's another problem. There's a guy whom I have known since 1999 and he has been asking me out every week. He expressed his feelings for me last year but I always decline going out with him as I treat him as a friend and do not wish to give him the wrong idea. I was wondering whether should I avoid him totally? Is it bad of me to do that? He seems to be a devoted kind of guy and I do not wish to hurt him.
I know I sound silly but I really get depressed over these problems. Do you think I should see a psychiatrist? But I worry that the fees charged by the psychiatrist might be expensive.
well autumn,
since u juz graduate from a degree, do take a short break. i myself took a short break as well when i juz got into the society. i look 4 part time jobs....while working part time....i slowly look for the rite job i wan. this is not a big prob unless u r desperate for $$.
as for the guy, if he treated u good enuf, u shldn't stop ur contacts wif him even though u dun like him. the guy may feel bad if u do so.
i was one of the victim who is feeling depress when the girl i'm fond of avoided me. i treat this as a past. so wat ever girls who r wif me and i dun have feelings for her, i will not avoid her. even she made initiative, i have my ways to stop it. do care for the guys feeling. dun be selfish....ok??
good luck.....
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