Can someone tell me wat this is?
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hi....kinda first time here..saw alot of ya posts.....and i tot juz wanna ask u guys of opinions here.....
look.....i have been liking this gal..my klassmate for a yr plus liaoz....but i don reali have much confidence abt myself and don reali tink she would wanna like someone like me.....but the problem is dat i keep tinking of her and then this yr's v-dae...i gave her a bouquet of flowers dat i made myself along wif this small bear....
to my suprise...she was like hanging the bear on her bag after dat...it may not mean anything but i was reali happi....however subsequently.....she took it off...
i don reali tok to her alot in skol as i don reali hang out wif gals in the first place.....the thing was i started calling her...as i tot it is the best wae to tok to her....at first we don reali tok much..and she will always sae she have to go....but now...we can tok for about half an hr....i dunno y...but if im toking wif other female frens....the conversation were so much easier...and it is alwaes she who wanna put down the fone..ia sked her y...and she told me she don reali like to tok on the fone...well......im not doubting or wat...
i tried asking her out a few times.....but alwaes she has something on...could be she is trying to avoid me...but i choose to believe dat she reali has something on....
well...if she is reeali not interested in me..is all this a hint? or issit me juz being over sensitive? maybe u guys will ask me to ask her straight but me reali don have the courage to do so...and i tink its not the time too.....all i wanna know is dat does she has any liking for me...and i wanna know wat to do.....im reali serious abt her... -
gotta agree with kof. =)
dun scare her off with the things u do lo....i mean most prob u dunno wat u'd do n have done would scare her off la, but generally, start off being frenz, n slowly get to know her better, and let her have a chance of knowing u. slowly build up the faith (ie her trust in u) lo. =)
"they stumble who run fast....."
"slow n steady wins the race"
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yep~ i think the best way is to build up a friendship first, get to know each other better before going into a relationship...<br>Even if she doesn't like you now, she may change her opinion after some time when she really gets to know your character..<br>All the best! keep us updated~
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WOW!! Goot goot! Got any more tips or not? I also want to chase girls. Just kidding :p
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hey thanks ppl..i suppose wat u guys say r veri true...but i dunno how or wat to tok to her...i mean..yea treat her like a fren huh? but its like when u r toking wif someone u have a liking for...u are kinda consious of wat you say......
then although we tok...its all about veri daily stuffs....i mean is this alrite?
then somemore she not the veri vocal kind of ppl....and she got a bunch of church frens...so i suppose even if she got anything on her mind she wouldnt tell me rite?
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chokobo,Originally posted by chokobo:...but i dunno how or wat to tok to her...i mean..yea treat her like a fren huh? but its like when u r toking wif someone u have a liking for...u are kinda consious of wat you say......
then although we tok...its all about veri daily stuffs....i mean is this alrite?
then somemore she not the veri vocal kind of ppl....and she got a bunch of church frens...so i suppose even if she got anything on her mind she wouldnt tell me rite?
sorry...maybe wat im asking sounds stupid...but well.....heh
Talking about daily stuff is a good start. Just don't put too much pressure and start restricting her freedom... once in a while create a personal problem and asked her advice. These kind of questions are really good instead of the normal MCQs or "True/False" questions. For eg. I'm facing problems with my who and who because so and so said something bad about who and who to me so that I don't know to be good to so and so or who and who? What do you think about this affair? In this way, you can get to know more about her. How she thinks and level of maturity. Good? Urmm... i shouldn't be letting out these trade secrets, you know. :p
One more thing you have to be careful when chasing girls in the same class. Make pals with her friends first because if anyone one of them doesn't like you. Your chances are cut by half. If all of them don't like you, you're a gone case.
The other thing, make sure the other guys in class don't tease you. That's the surest way to end a good courtship, because she will ignore you, avoid you at all costs just to be normal. Other than that, go full steam ahead. Good luck!
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hmmzzz.....how does it make a difference to anything? true that she may prefer to be with her church mates, coz they have a common goal (is this the right word to use??) in life.....plus she's growing spiritually with them lo, which is why u'd feel that she may prefer her church mates more lo...Originally posted by chokobo:so i suppose even if she got anything on her mind she wouldnt tell me rite?
sorry...maybe wat im asking sounds stupid...but well.....heh
but c-riously, i dun think tt shud hinder much of ur comunication with her, coz it's not like she's trying to convert u, or the two of u often get into disputes abt religion n stuff........rite? -
klac ar, u despo ar?Originally posted by Klactovak:WOW!! Goot goot! Got any more tips or not? I also want to chase girls. Just kidding :p
tot u haf ur own bout of r/s prob?
not enuff ah?
looking for more trouble in places u noe u shudn't even enter issit?
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hmm yea.....u know..sometimes she juz simply ignore me...and she never takes the initiative to tok to me.....
kinda treat me like dirt rite?
i wouldnt wanna tink of her this wae coz she is a nice person.but....whenever she does dat my heart juz sinks..... -
Chokobo, can I just say that u already got some expectations from her even before she has a r/s with you? because u tot that she knows u are chasing her and she hence she shud show some actions if she shud like you or not, and not dangling there. The thing is that to her, u have to take more initiative to approach her.Originally posted by chokobo:hmm yea.....u know..sometimes she juz simply ignore me...and she never takes the initiative to tok to me.....
kinda treat me like dirt rite?
i wouldnt wanna tink of her this wae coz she is a nice person.but....whenever she does dat my heart juz sinks.....
many a times a girl will do this to a guy she initially have no interest or feelings, sometimes is test u... see if u perservere, but there are those who really have no interest in u. but look at urself. all these reaction from her has already discourage u so much. how are u going to chase her. how are u going to have to will to push urself on to get her affection??
Besides u mentioned that when u tok to her, u feel that kind of uneasiness is becoz u took her as ur target, and hence from there u always watch ur words when u are wif her. this makes u feel very uneasy wif her. And to her she will feel very superficial. And wat's more, u will display the most positive side of u. but as someone who wants to accept u as who u are, ur flaws will actually do a better job instead. that's part of accepting. and I think the girl will feel that it's incomplete if she just know ur strengths or weakness alone... it's just have to balance...
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hey bear thanks.....wat u say reali make me tink of myself all over again...
u r right dat i shouldnt be expecting anything frm her at all.....hmmm.....yea but im not discourage....juz dunno y...a doubt..
coz i know i reali like her...i will presevere.....but the onli thing im afraid of is dat she might start avioding me.... -
Hello Chokobu,
Well was a bit late in replying posts in Aunt Agony recently, heh.... cos was busy.
Anyway think i saw the same thoughts as BEAR in his last post, and now that he had say all the things i wanna say, so i will just add a few more points
Think u r not the only one facing this problem. I expereince b4 also...... frankly speaking thing dun look very hopeful for u! But it does not mean that you dun stand any chance, believe me (unless she tell u straight off in yr face :p ) .........
So yah, keep on trying, even if its only 1% chance, cos yah who knows, one day she might be touched by yr sincerity.........
All the best!!!
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Well, I sure would like to hear some improvements. Do keep us posted okiez?? and also get back to us shud u need help.. we'll all be ard...
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u're a contradicting man. =) hee~Originally posted by chokobo:hmm yea.....u know..sometimes she juz simply ignore me...and she never takes the initiative to tok to me.....
kinda treat me like dirt rite?
i wouldnt wanna tink of her this wae coz she is a nice person.but....whenever she does dat my heart juz sinks.....
basically, rem u mentioned tt "she not the veri vocal kind of ppl" so if she's not very vocal, personally, i dun think she'd usually take the initiative to strike up a conversation with someone else lo...coz to be able to strike up a conversation with a person, especially someone whom u may not noe so well, u need to be able to have something to tok abt rite?? n also, if i may, i'd take not so vocal kinda person to be the shy ger kind lo. so basically, bottom line, shy ger, n toking to guys, dun really link lo, and all the more initiating a conversation with a guy (she may not noe tt well). agree?? juz my pov.....=)) -
haha yea..im a confused man......coz i also dunno where im heading myself either....
kinda lost yea?
look.im doing all i can to know her and make her feel comfortable wif me......
come to tink of it it is still not dat bad for she doesnt avoids me when i approach her....
hmm i got try asking her out u know....but quite suey lahz coz she alwaes happen to ahve church committments....and she never say yes one...alwaes say not sure....have to see......i suppose dats not too bad as a flat rejection huh?
i duno....could be she don wan a relationship but hey....im not rushing for one either...i juz hope dat she can gimme a chance for us to know each other.....
seriously me also wasnt too hopeful in the first place...for im not the veri clever and talented of ppl nor good looking....who wouldnt want to reach for the brightest star right? -
hmm i guess things don real look too hopeful yea???
i called her dat nite.....then she had her church frends over..didn know dat.....
she picked up the fone...and asked me to hold on...then got this guy came to the fone and started toking to me...tok crap lahz..and asked me if i was freaking out
i mean..walao why does she has to make fun of me liek dat?
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Hey chokobo ~ =)
what kinda crap did that guy talk about??
hmm...i guess it was quite rude of her to pass the fone to another person loh...
anywayz, from what u've said, am i right to say that this girl u like is quite a devoted christian ? -
Oh no! All by danger signals start popping up all over the shop... ahem...
Just like there are good and bad people there are good and bad christians. It's true, making fun of you was not nice. If she cannot accept you then she should tell you straight in the face.
Ahem... wonder what it will be like to pit Chokobo to Babygal... what will be the outcome. Anyway, you're still young right? Things will work out one way or other. There's always a theory about couples, hardly you see a perfect couple. It's always an ugly guy with a drop-dead gorgeous gal or a hunk of a guy with an average looking lady. So take heart.
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Lesson 19 from T|rEd post 14 June
Never appear contradicting to lady love because she got very sharp eyes and ears. Must be true to one's heart. Cannot one moment say girl shy then expect the girl to make a move on you. Must know the enemy then every war is a success... opps must know the opposite party then every courtship is a success.
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Reminds me of my JC days, except that she rejected me flat cos I look so nerdly.
Well, it's better to know her better as a friend than jump into a boat which u don't know how to steer. However, people always say opportunities come once; once lost, it's lost.
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i think u shld approach her. y? coz like that u can b sure of her feelings for u. n if she rejects u, get on wif ur life n let urself b liked by other girls
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hmm yea...she is a rather devoted christian....but does it makes any difference????
aniwae....the guy kinda asked if i was whoever....then intro himself and stuff.....
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er.....one suggestion? hee~ i mean since u say she keep turning down ur invitations rite, y not u invite urself to HER CHURCH! yep, me asking u to go church. i dunno wats ur religion la, but i'm not asking u to become a christian lo. coz if u do, then u're real intentions behind being a christian i blif would be to get her, n tt's not gonna work lo.......Originally posted by chokobo:haha yea..im a confused man......coz i also dunno where im heading myself either....
kinda lost yea?
look.im doing all i can to know her and make her feel comfortable wif me......
come to tink of it it is still not dat bad for she doesnt avoids me when i approach her....
hmm i got try asking her out u know....but quite suey lahz coz she alwaes happen to ahve church committments....and she never say yes one...alwaes say not sure....have to see......i suppose dats not too bad as a flat rejection huh?
i duno....could be she don wan a relationship but hey....im not rushing for one either...i juz hope dat she can gimme a chance for us to know each other.....
seriously me also wasnt too hopeful in the first place...for im not the veri clever and talented of ppl nor good looking....who wouldnt want to reach for the brightest star right?
newaez, give going to the church with her a try lo....u could use it to start off ur frenship with her rite??? -
sounds like she's using an indirect way to turn u off, and ask u to scram n stop bothering u lo....hee~Originally posted by chokobo:hmm yea...she is a rather devoted christian....but does it makes any difference????
aniwae....the guy kinda asked if i was whoever....then intro himself and stuff.....
and then asked me if i was freaking out...dats about it lahz.....
newaez, b4 all of u start blaming her for doing so, rem tt she's da so called less vocal kind.......put urself in her shoes....*t|rEd putting herself in her shoes* waaaaaa.....*ouch* *ouch* very very very da small!!! =((( *painz....* *hmph*
newaez, hee~ understand tt she may not dare to tell u upfront to stop pestering her, coz like wat u said b4, she's less vocal, n mebbe she tot tt by asking another person to do it for her, she could get off the hook easier, coz she wun haf to face u n listen to u ask "y wun u gif me a chance just to be ur fren" n questions like tt lo......get wat i mean??
but anywayz, i agree with yolanda lo....y not give it a try? no pain no gain...hahaha no la......basically, shudda b no venture no gain lo.......no harm trying la, c-riously...juz tt mebbe if u kena rejected, u'll feel very disappointed n depressed, n bla.......=))) well, basically, i blif if u're willing to try, all da pple here will support u in ur decision lo!!!! yea!!! =)
Klac: i'm surprised!! hee~ but tt sounds like u were suanning me lo...=(((
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Chokobo: hEe~ there is a difference lohz...
cuz the bible says that christians are not supposed to yoke with unbelievers..(to put it simply, because of this,the relationship most probably won't work out..)
not because of the fact that u r not a christian, but more of she won't give it a chance to work out... =)
this is what i think...that's why i ask if she's devoted...cuz some not-so-devoted christians don't abide by this rule loh..
but then, DON'T be discouraged by this okie?
i think t|red's idea of going to her church is quite a good one ~
try to mix around with her group of church friends (including her
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then, anything is possible.. *grinz*
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I agree wif luvofmine on the fact if she is a devoted christian.... she won't choose to let the relationship work out.
However, you really can try to noe her fwends better and maybe see if when they go out then can tag along.... at least you won't make her feel so uncomfortable as to asking her out one on one....
Since her fwends already noe that you like her, considering what tat guy said, i tink it's time to go ask her.... at least if she gives ya a direct 'no' then it's better now then you drag on, which will result in you feeling more hurt.
T|rEd : Am i missing out on something?? how come so fast lesson 19 liao???!!! Got back dated issues by topic or not??
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Lesson 19 from T|rEd post 14 June
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