mayb all tis wil end..
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hi jus happened to chance upon tis forum.. been reading up a little here n there abt the life exp from the ppls in this forum.
tonight, im feeling kinda down atm..
to think of it, its been more than 2 yrs.. 2yrs of waiting..
have u ever waited for some1 that you eventually know she/he wont be yrs in e end..
put her in e 1st place, above everythin else. to me, she is even more impt to me than myself.. in my heart she's a impt person to me. the most impt in fact..
ive met her in sch. it was not love at 1st sight. i liked her bcuz .. umm.. i dun reali koe.but she does have a strong character, which is some what diff from the girls i know. when u love some1, it doesnt need a reason ye?
but to her.. i jus came to realised there's no place in her heart for me..
im jus so insignificant to her. its like she can jolly well do w/o me.
when i realised im in love with her, i din express to her. bcuz she had a bf of 5yr den.. i knew i had no chance. moreover im jus a normal lookin guy with nth to be proud of.
waited n waited.. i finaly let her koe of my feeling..i got rejected..
when she broke up with her bf, i was beside her . accompanying her.. tryin to cheer her up.. i thought i wld have a chance ..
when she was down with chicken pox, i was there for her too, bought her stuffs to eat even tho it takes 1.5hr for me to reach her hse..
til.. she met another new guy.. and got together in less than 1mth.. dat was one of the bottom low of my life. i din koe what to do or what can i actualy do..
jus feel so dead..
ive tried to stop contacting her.. stop going to sch bcuz im afraid tat the feeling wil be back whenever i c her. tried working myself to 3-4am in the morning b4 going home feeling weary n too tired to think of anythin..
jus when i tot i cld do it.. she sudenly told me that guy was jus playin with her.. she was feeling sad n down. i jus couldnt bear to c her in such a state, so i went back to her. accompanying her..
we became the best fren, going out alot.. smsing.. chatting on phone.. she wld alwiz tel me how she was doing n whats happening in her life
i sort of knew we might not be together in the end, but i jus cant make myself give her up. i love her alot, reali.
now that she's out working.. she's changed alot.. not that playful as she used to be. to be honest, i dun like girls who clubs or smoke.. but i kept telling myself that if i love her, i shld accept everythin. i eventually did. simply becuz i like her too much.. the change in her, makes me like her alot more..
thoughout the 2 yrs, ive changed alot for her.. my bad points that she was initially not happy with. i tried reali hard to change em.. eventually i succeeded. and she knew i changed for her..
and so.. it went on..
for some reasons, now adays she seem restless when she's tokin to me and replyin my sms. its like very mian qiang.. i duno whats wrong.. ive tried tokin to her, askin her what went wrong.. but she jus told me ytd that she find we have nth much to tok now adays..
ive tried to create topic.. it jus doesnt happen.. it takes 2 hands to clap , isnt it?
honestly im contented jus to be her best fren n to be by her side til she found some 1 who love her more than i do, a gd bf. i learn to let go when that time comes..
she's a nice girl.. she reali is.. actualy she told me a couple of times to give up.. i jus cant do it.
im feeling tired.. reali tired
going ns in a few wks time.. everythin might jus end.. jus cant help to feel so sad that no matter what i do, its jus useless..
i know im gonna miss her badly in there.. n to put it bluntly, i dont think she wil even care..
thnx for reading..everythi is inside me for so long..i jus wanted to let it out so that i wil feel better.. hopefuly..
if she ever see tis, i jus wan her to koe that to me she's a very impt person. no matter where i am, i sincerely hope that she wil find her happiness 1 day with smiles on her face every single moment of her life. -
Hey I know sometimes we just cling on to whatever little hope there is left, somewhere in my heart, someone is calling out to us not to give up...
But someday, you will meet another girl who will cherish your existence, your company... I hope that day comes soon for you, for you deserve better!
Cheers. -
Try to sort it out with her before u get enlisted to NS if there is really no place for u in her heart then move on with life. Be contented that u can be her best friend. If u really like her u shd respect her decisions and wish her all the best. Dun give up !!
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STOP WAITING she will ruined ur life
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There are so many girls out there waiting for you; it's just whether your eyes are opened and clear enough to notice
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have a good talk to her... but sometimes, when the time is up, the best thing you can do is walk away...
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TS,
Skipping school to avoid her is definitely not the wisest option; I hope you have the rationale not to mix up one thing with another. In this case, duties and responsibilites with matters of the heart.
I guess it is clear enough after the rejection that she has no interest in you. You said you would only want to be her best friend and you woud learn to let go when the somebody else better for her comes along. I respect that a lot, but you have to understand that - relationships are two-way. Be it a friendship or a love affair.
Take a step back; your aggression only serve to annoy her. If she feels unwilling to even text you, you can't really do anything about it.
Focus on the tasks that require your immediate attention. You mentioned that you'll be enlisting in a few weeks, go train up for NS.
Detached -
no chemistry...canot be helped..really
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that's why physics is needed for a magnetic personalityOriginally posted by curryman:no chemistry...canot be helped..really
and biology is needed to show the evil side of you -
Nice long post...
Sorry... I need to go liao
No time to read...
Later i collect my report book then come read k?
Bye da jia -
You collect report book, come home.. no mood read liaoOriginally posted by popikachu:Nice long post...
Sorry... I need to go liao No time to read...
Later i collect my report book then come read k?
Bye da jia -
These fews days more and more people are like me.. Lovelorn~Originally posted by jefflim:hi jus happened to chance upon tis forum.. been reading up a little here n there abt the life exp from the ppls in this forum.
tonight, im feeling kinda down atm..
to think of it, its been more than 2 yrs.. 2yrs of waiting..
have u ever waited for some1 that you eventually know she/he wont be yrs in e end..
put her in e 1st place, above everythin else. to me, she is even more impt to me than myself.. in my heart she's a impt person to me. the most impt in fact..
ive met her in sch. it was not love at 1st sight. i liked her bcuz .. umm.. i dun reali koe.but she does have a strong character, which is some what diff from the girls i know. when u love some1, it doesnt need a reason ye?
but to her.. i jus came to realised there's no place in her heart for me..
im jus so insignificant to her. its like she can jolly well do w/o me.
when i realised im in love with her, i din express to her. bcuz she had a bf of 5yr den.. i knew i had no chance. moreover im jus a normal lookin guy with nth to be proud of.
waited n waited.. i finaly let her koe of my feeling..i got rejected..
when she broke up with her bf, i was beside her . accompanying her.. tryin to cheer her up.. i thought i wld have a chance ..
when she was down with chicken pox, i was there for her too, bought her stuffs to eat even tho it takes 1.5hr for me to reach her hse..
til.. she met another new guy.. and got together in less than 1mth.. dat was one of the bottom low of my life. i din koe what to do or what can i actualy do..
jus feel so dead..
ive tried to stop contacting her.. stop going to sch bcuz im afraid tat the feeling wil be back whenever i c her. tried working myself to 3-4am in the morning b4 going home feeling weary n too tired to think of anythin..
jus when i tot i cld do it.. she sudenly told me that guy was jus playin with her.. she was feeling sad n down. i jus couldnt bear to c her in such a state, so i went back to her. accompanying her..
we became the best fren, going out alot.. smsing.. chatting on phone.. she wld alwiz tel me how she was doing n whats happening in her life
i sort of knew we might not be together in the end, but i jus cant make myself give her up. i love her alot, reali.
now that she's out working.. she's changed alot.. not that playful as she used to be. to be honest, i dun like girls who clubs or smoke.. but i kept telling myself that if i love her, i shld accept everythin. i eventually did. simply becuz i like her too much.. the change in her, makes me like her alot more..
thoughout the 2 yrs, ive changed alot for her.. my bad points that she was initially not happy with. i tried reali hard to change em.. eventually i succeeded. and she knew i changed for her..
and so.. it went on..
for some reasons, now adays she seem restless when she's tokin to me and replyin my sms. its like very mian qiang.. i duno whats wrong.. ive tried tokin to her, askin her what went wrong.. but she jus told me ytd that she find we have nth much to tok now adays..
ive tried to create topic.. it jus doesnt happen.. it takes 2 hands to clap , isnt it?
honestly im contented jus to be her best fren n to be by her side til she found some 1 who love her more than i do, a gd bf. i learn to let go when that time comes..
she's a nice girl.. she reali is.. actualy she told me a couple of times to give up.. i jus cant do it.
im feeling tired.. reali tired
going ns in a few wks time.. everythin might jus end.. jus cant help to feel so sad that no matter what i do, its jus useless..
i know im gonna miss her badly in there.. n to put it bluntly, i dont think she wil even care..
thnx for reading..everythi is inside me for so long..i jus wanted to let it out so that i wil feel better.. hopefuly..
if she ever see tis, i jus wan her to koe that to me she's a very impt person. no matter where i am, i sincerely hope that she wil find her happiness 1 day with smiles on her face every single moment of her life. -
You are letting your past blind your future.
Can you see your future ?
Will you be able to love another? Yes you can.
Will this be the only one for you ? No . -
Young Mr Jeff. You don't really have to wait for things to come to a conclusion before you enter NS.
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Waiting and anticipating will only make you imagine more unnecessary things.
2 Hoping for a conclusion will only make you more miserable when there is no conclusion day after day.
3 When you enter NS, you WILL change. Whether you like it or realise it or not.
No matter how long you have been waiting, try to realise this: there is always a mountain higher than this one. There is always someone out there who have been through this and even longer and more agonising than you can imagine. Its just that to themselves, its always their problem seems the BIGGEST compared to the rest.
This is all part of growing up. Its tough going through all these, yes. However its also valuable you learn all these and go through it to mould you into a stronger and better person.
I will not tell you what to do. You just have to grit your teeth and walk this road. Many have been through this and there will be more who will walk through this. You can still write here if you like. This is another channel for you to express yourself freely. -
Welcome to AA! Indeed, I like reading this forum because it does teach us about the different perspectives of life. Glad to hear you've enjoyed the same.
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I've gone through the same thing as you. Feeling tired, yet unable to let go. Just when you're about to let go, suddenly she does something, that gives you hope again.
This is a classic example of a passive lover. Just contented staying by her side. But why do so, when it torments you? And maybe her as well?
She made her stance clear. She doesn't consider you her type.
Why desperately try to hold on? What are you holding on to?
The closure you're seeking, the closure to this whole affair, can only be found in yourself. Waiting for her to conclude the whole thing, will only bring you even more pain than it already did.
She is but a temporary actor in your life stage. Move on, and find your main actress. -
True...Originally posted by Detached:You collect report book, come home.. no mood read liao
haiz... -
Follow my brother lah. Collect report book, wait till 1 min before sleeping time den pass to parents.Originally posted by popikachu:True...
haiz... -
Hey TS, just concentrate on ur NS......when ur out working, u'll have plenty to choose from. Dun be so hard on urself, as long as she knows you were there by her side once. Perhaps she might look up up instead
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If she like or love you will she wait till so long to realise your love for her?Originally posted by jefflim:hi jus happened to chance upon tis forum.. been reading up a little here n there abt the life exp from the ppls in this forum.
tonight, im feeling kinda down atm..
to think of it, its been more than 2 yrs.. 2yrs of waiting..
have u ever waited for some1 that you eventually know she/he wont be yrs in e end..
put her in e 1st place, above everythin else. to me, she is even more impt to me than myself.. in my heart she's a impt person to me. the most impt in fact..
ive met her in sch. it was not love at 1st sight. i liked her bcuz .. umm.. i dun reali koe.but she does have a strong character, which is some what diff from the girls i know. when u love some1, it doesnt need a reason ye?
but to her.. i jus came to realised there's no place in her heart for me..
im jus so insignificant to her. its like she can jolly well do w/o me.
when i realised im in love with her, i din express to her. bcuz she had a bf of 5yr den.. i knew i had no chance. moreover im jus a normal lookin guy with nth to be proud of.
waited n waited.. i finaly let her koe of my feeling..i got rejected..
when she broke up with her bf, i was beside her . accompanying her.. tryin to cheer her up.. i thought i wld have a chance ..
when she was down with chicken pox, i was there for her too, bought her stuffs to eat even tho it takes 1.5hr for me to reach her hse..
til.. she met another new guy.. and got together in less than 1mth.. dat was one of the bottom low of my life. i din koe what to do or what can i actualy do..
jus feel so dead..
ive tried to stop contacting her.. stop going to sch bcuz im afraid tat the feeling wil be back whenever i c her. tried working myself to 3-4am in the morning b4 going home feeling weary n too tired to think of anythin..
jus when i tot i cld do it.. she sudenly told me that guy was jus playin with her.. she was feeling sad n down. i jus couldnt bear to c her in such a state, so i went back to her. accompanying her..
we became the best fren, going out alot.. smsing.. chatting on phone.. she wld alwiz tel me how she was doing n whats happening in her life
i sort of knew we might not be together in the end, but i jus cant make myself give her up. i love her alot, reali.
now that she's out working.. she's changed alot.. not that playful as she used to be. to be honest, i dun like girls who clubs or smoke.. but i kept telling myself that if i love her, i shld accept everythin. i eventually did. simply becuz i like her too much.. the change in her, makes me like her alot more..
thoughout the 2 yrs, ive changed alot for her.. my bad points that she was initially not happy with. i tried reali hard to change em.. eventually i succeeded. and she knew i changed for her..
and so.. it went on..
for some reasons, now adays she seem restless when she's tokin to me and replyin my sms. its like very mian qiang.. i duno whats wrong.. ive tried tokin to her, askin her what went wrong.. but she jus told me ytd that she find we have nth much to tok now adays..
ive tried to create topic.. it jus doesnt happen.. it takes 2 hands to clap , isnt it?
honestly im contented jus to be her best fren n to be by her side til she found some 1 who love her more than i do, a gd bf. i learn to let go when that time comes..
she's a nice girl.. she reali is.. actualy she told me a couple of times to give up.. i jus cant do it.
im feeling tired.. reali tired
going ns in a few wks time.. everythin might jus end.. jus cant help to feel so sad that no matter what i do, its jus useless..
i know im gonna miss her badly in there.. n to put it bluntly, i dont think she wil even care..
thnx for reading..everythi is inside me for so long..i jus wanted to let it out so that i wil feel better.. hopefuly..
if she ever see tis, i jus wan her to koe that to me she's a very impt person. no matter where i am, i sincerely hope that she wil find her happiness 1 day with smiles on her face every single moment of her life.
Why not try this, instead of always doing what she wants you to do.
Do something for yourself, girls need to respect the man they love not guys who always listern to them and change to their wants and needs.
She lost the respect for you cos you are so easy going with her.
If you do not understand what I say then answer this question.
" Why do girls like bad guys?" -
You choice:Originally posted by jefflim:hi jus happened to chance upon tis forum.. .............
1. You can try to get to know as many girls as possible... if you don't make the effort, you can continue to suffer... life is like that, you suffer from the choices you make. -
Wa.... so young >< ...
Only going to enlisted soon *Envy eyes*
I feel that u r lost and trapped by her. It is perfectly okay to have yr devotion to her but you need to be optimistic to life. There are many other things in life that is more important than love. A person that is optimistic to life can always bring joy and hope to his or her love ones.
Anyway, you will be enlisted soon. hehe... trust me, in BMT, u wont have a chance to think of love. Who noes?? Probably, after NS, you will gained the quality that the one you love treasure. >< -
You wanted to let go.
You wanted to find real happiness.
You feel that your happiness come form her.
You wanted her.
Your feeling lure yourself to her.
You just couldn't control yourself.
You endure way too long, you wanted to gave up.
You scared you will regret giving up.
You don't know what to do.
You think happiness only come from her.
You are going to NS.
You feel you are going to lost her.
You "mayb all tis wil end.."
This what you feel no?
So what you going to do now?
Don't you want to know the end?
Or should I say, don't you want to have the ending of this story now?
Isn't it too time consuming keep on waiting?
Isn't it hurt you more and more?
Isn't your level of confident decreasing?
Isn't you tired?
Do something now. This is the time to find the ending for the story. When you are in NS, the ending will be hard to come, and even if it really came, it would be hard to find it, or even impossible...
So do what? Ask her...
Ask her what? Ask her the ending of this story.
The ending of the story only consist of 2 type, a happy one, or a sad one.
If you got a small feeling that she like you, ask her...
Clear all your doubt now. Or it will never be solve.
Ask her she like you or not. If you feel that she didn't really answer the real answer, rush her to say the truth... Say you are going to NS soon... And may be the last time you two will go out together (make it sound serious).
Then, you will know what to do after that...
good luck and remember to post what happen next
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Originally posted by jefflim:hi jus happened to chance upon tis forum.. been reading up a little here n there abt the life exp from the ppls in this forum.
tonight, im feeling kinda down atm..
to think of it, its been more than 2 yrs.. 2yrs of waiting..
have u ever waited for some1 that you eventually know she/he wont be yrs in e end..
put her in e 1st place, above everythin else. to me, she is even more impt to me than myself.. in my heart she's a impt person to me. the most impt in fact..
ive met her in sch. it was not love at 1st sight. i liked her bcuz .. umm.. i dun reali koe.but she does have a strong character, which is some what diff from the girls i know. when u love some1, it doesnt need a reason ye?
but to her.. i jus came to realised there's no place in her heart for me..
im jus so insignificant to her. its like she can jolly well do w/o me.
when i realised im in love with her, i din express to her. bcuz she had a bf of 5yr den.. i knew i had no chance. moreover im jus a normal lookin guy with nth to be proud of.
waited n waited.. i finaly let her koe of my feeling..i got rejected..
when she broke up with her bf, i was beside her . accompanying her.. tryin to cheer her up.. i thought i wld have a chance ..
when she was down with chicken pox, i was there for her too, bought her stuffs to eat even tho it takes 1.5hr for me to reach her hse..
til.. she met another new guy.. and got together in less than 1mth.. dat was one of the bottom low of my life. i din koe what to do or what can i actualy do..
jus feel so dead..
ive tried to stop contacting her.. stop going to sch bcuz im afraid tat the feeling wil be back whenever i c her. tried working myself to 3-4am in the morning b4 going home feeling weary n too tired to think of anythin..
jus when i tot i cld do it.. she sudenly told me that guy was jus playin with her.. she was feeling sad n down. i jus couldnt bear to c her in such a state, so i went back to her. accompanying her..
we became the best fren, going out alot.. smsing.. chatting on phone.. she wld alwiz tel me how she was doing n whats happening in her life
i sort of knew we might not be together in the end, but i jus cant make myself give her up. i love her alot, reali.
now that she's out working.. she's changed alot.. not that playful as she used to be. to be honest, i dun like girls who clubs or smoke.. but i kept telling myself that if i love her, i shld accept everythin. i eventually did. simply becuz i like her too much.. the change in her, makes me like her alot more..
thoughout the 2 yrs, ive changed alot for her.. my bad points that she was initially not happy with. i tried reali hard to change em.. eventually i succeeded. and she knew i changed for her..
and so.. it went on..
for some reasons, now adays she seem restless when she's tokin to me and replyin my sms. its like very mian qiang.. i duno whats wrong.. ive tried tokin to her, askin her what went wrong.. but she jus told me ytd that she find we have nth much to tok now adays..
ive tried to create topic.. it jus doesnt happen.. it takes 2 hands to clap , isnt it?
honestly im contented jus to be her best fren n to be by her side til she found some 1 who love her more than i do, a gd bf. i learn to let go when that time comes..
she's a nice girl.. she reali is.. actualy she told me a couple of times to give up.. i jus cant do it.
im feeling tired.. reali tired
going ns in a few wks time.. everythin might jus end.. jus cant help to feel so sad that no matter what i do, its jus useless..
i know im gonna miss her badly in there.. n to put it bluntly, i dont think she wil even care..
thnx for reading..everythi is inside me for so long..i jus wanted to let it out so that i wil feel better.. hopefuly..
if she ever see tis, i jus wan her to koe that to me she's a very impt person. no matter where i am, i sincerely hope that she wil find her happiness 1 day with smiles on her face every single moment of her life. Always the second consideration, but never the choice - despite that, in comparison to how long you have literally invested, somehow it seemed a 'pity' to let go.
It becomes an accumulative effect and like gambling, the more money you lose, the more you felt that you can't halt, albeit you are bleeding profusely. You said you are tired, but you can't stop - that's an oxymoron.
Truth is that you reject the impossible notion and clung on like a furtive shadow, praying that somehow, miracles may happen and transform that lurking shadow into a man of flesh and blood one day.
Will that day ever happen? That's pretty much idealistic.
This woman may view you as a good friend, but romantically, it's way out of question. Being nice and all that stuff are great, but sometimes, it's more than just being a doormat in love. Of course, it may be noble to make claims as such in your last paragraph, but only time can tell if this will carry through. So many 'good guys' grew disillusioned, once believed in similar mindset, only to realized that they being 'good' is but a facade.
An aimless wait is probably one of the most depressing thingy ever. I say strike out and forge your own destiny in love. You are probably better off with someone who can and knows how to appreciate you as a whole - find her.
Cheers -
Everything takes 2 hands to clap.... not only chatting.Originally posted by jefflim:ive tried to create topic.. it jus doesnt happen.. it takes 2 hands to clap , isnt it? -
I hope that you will sort out this complicated with issues..