Originally posted by mikki:
Ok,since we are on the topic of this friend and i,so i shall mention another matter between us.
Someone asked me if i am still schooling or what. Ok,i am currently awaiting my results and after that,i will be joining the public sector. Confirmed. I have always wanted to be a ____________ (shall not say what lest ppl recognise me)ever since i was young. Yup,childhood ambition. And nothing can make me change my mind abt my career. I know my starting pay will be lower than that of my friend(which happens to be A)as mine is public sector while hers is private. And her company is well-known. She has already graduated and been in her current job for more than half a year.....and ever since she joined her company,she has been persuading me to switch jobs(i signed on to the organisation even before graduation),quoting the high salary and benefits etc. BUT,seriously,no matter how good the privileges are,i am really not interested in joining her company and emphasised that to her many many times. Firstly,i am not interested in her line of work;secondly,i really do love what i am going to do,though i have not tried it out yet. I don't understand why she has to keep bringing up this "come la,come join my company" every time i mention her company's name. Or when i am curious abt sth in her company then she will think/assume i am attracted. *rolls eyes* i am just curious only la....In fact,when we met up a while ago,i only asked her casually whether every staff is entitled to a corporate card and she went "Good right....join my company la..." I almost wanted to vomit blood. Because she just does not understand what i have been telling her..... And maybe she cannot comprehend why i am not "moved" too. Ha.
I truly understand why she loves her job so much;as much as i know,it's her childhood ambition too. I can understand her love for her job,why can't she do the same? Occasionally i would wonder how we survived our schooling days together......when our frequency is like,quite different?
Your friend is just trying to be your friend.
She thinks you may be getting the shorter end of the deal.
When you are new to the work force, everything is new and fresh and exciting. It's all about the money, the glamour and potential opportunities.
After several years, it will be about job satisfaction.
What is the point of being paid higher but you are not happy ? How long can you last if you are unhappy with your job ?
When your friend pester you to join her again. Try these,
I'd like to try the public sector out. If I am convinced it is not suitable for me, I will consider joining you. Thank you for looking out for my interest.
If I join and we work in the same department, we will not be able to take vacation leave at the same time. How to go travel together in the future ?
When she goes "join my company lah " reply casually " ohhh.. maybe, maybe not, we'll see how things go"...... Afterall, it is too early to tell isn't it ?
The idea is not to burn your bridge for the future. You never know if you might need it.
Good friends need not be on the same frequency. As long as both of you enjoy each other's company, that is good enough.
Good friends can think alike, but never the same.
Because both of you have your own brains, your own life, your own sets of beliefs.
I have close friends who are the exact opposite of my character, but I love them because they are so different, that's why the friendship is so interesting.