need help...
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well,i found myself falling in love with this girl who is from the same school and cca as me,but younger than me by 1 year...after getting to know her,i noticed that i can't stop thinking of her and would always want to chat with her when she is on msn.
i know this is just a crush and happens alot during teenage years...but this is my first time feeling like this,and i dun think the girl is interested in me and sees me as a friend,is there anyway to get rid of this feeling inside me...and to see her as just a friend without feeling shy??....i believe alot of ppl has gone through this,so pls help me,thanks.. -
I believe as the time goes by , you will slowly forget her .
Try to occupy yourself with certain things , such as studies , curriculum activities , going out with friends etc . It might help . -
I believe youngster that time got a lot of things to do. LIke playing soccer or what. And know more friends will also dilute the affection.Originally posted by Espada:well,i found myself falling in love with this girl who is from the same school and cca as me,but younger than me by 1 year...after getting to know her,i noticed that i can't stop thinking of her and would always want to chat with her when she is on msn.
i know this is just a crush and happens alot during teenage years...but this is my first time feeling like this,and i dun think the girl is interested in me and sees me as a friend,is there anyway to get rid of this feeling inside me...and to see her as just a friend without feeling shy??....i believe alot of ppl has gone through this,so pls help me,thanks.. -
Not much you can do... except to take it one day at a time...Originally posted by Espada:well,i found myself falling in love with this girl who is from the same school and cca as me,but younger than me by 1 year...after getting to know her,i noticed that i can't stop thinking of her and would always want to chat with her when she is on msn.
i know this is just a crush and happens alot during teenage years...but this is my first time feeling like this,and i dun think the girl is interested in me and sees me as a friend,is there anyway to get rid of this feeling inside me...and to see her as just a friend without feeling shy??....i believe alot of ppl has gone through this,so pls help me,thanks..
BTW this is a good lesson to learn... remember how difficult this is.
Addictions are like this .... addiction to smoking, drugs, gambling is like this... very hard to stop
Like you want to stop thinking about this girls, you can't... addiction is like that so be careful.... -
The only way to forget is to actually not see her so often...
But why do you want to forget if you're really interested? I made the same mistake once... I did not ask.
I asked too late. Her reply to me was,"But you didn't ask me how could you assume that I didn't like you?" (somewhere along that line, forgot the actual reply).
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do the right thing
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Well,cos its obvious to me that she only sees me as a friend and i dun want to hurt myself even more,and i think she already like another guy already...Originally posted by bigmouthjoe:The only way to forget is to actually not see her so often...
But why do you want to forget if you're really interested? I made the same mistake once... I did not ask.
I asked too late. Her reply to me was,"But you didn't ask me how could you assume that I didn't like you?" (somewhere along that line, forgot the actual reply). -
Why don't you just give up hope, if you think that the chance is very slim? Every time you think of her, tell yourself: "It is hopeless"Originally posted by Espada:Well,cos its obvious to me that she only sees me as a friend and i dun want to hurt myself even more,and i think she already like another guy already...
You have to make up your mind since it is causing you distress.
If it is not causing you distress, then continue to dream of her... no harm in that and if fact it makes life more interesting.
No one can tell you what decision to make, just that:
Too much distress? "It is hopeless"
No distress or acceptable amount of distress? "Dream of her" -
i dunno if its causing me distress or not...but i will like keep thinking of her,and this has caused me to lose interest in alot of things.
trying my best to forget her but i would find myself staring at her whenever i see her and this cause me to think of her even more... -
Originally posted by Espada:well,i found myself falling in love with this girl who is from the same school and cca as me,but younger than me by 1 year...after getting to know her,i noticed that i can't stop thinking of her and would always want to chat with her when she is on msn.
i know this is just a crush and happens alot during teenage years...but this is my first time feeling like this,and i dun think the girl is interested in me and sees me as a friend,is there anyway to get rid of this feeling inside me...and to see her as just a friend without feeling shy??....i believe alot of ppl has gone through this,so pls help me,thanks..
Congrats.
This is your first encounter with BGR-aspect of of Love and should generally coerced you into self exploration.
From that day onwards, it will never the same again. And since you are probably never able to get rid of that feeling, why not learn how it works?
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maybe in the near future she might have other romantic feelings for you?
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Time heals a broken heart, but it takes more than time to heal a lovelorn's heart.
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yeah. at night cant sleep thinking of her.Originally posted by Espada:i dunno if its causing me distress or not...but i will like keep thinking of her,and this has caused me to lose interest in alot of things.
trying my best to forget her but i would find myself staring at her whenever i see her and this cause me to think of her even more... -
so all i can do is just try to forget her and let time pass?...but this feeling is affecting me alot...
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Yar.. It's very distracting.. And I have been experience this for more than 5 years mind you.Originally posted by Espada:so all i can do is just try to forget her and let time pass?...but this feeling is affecting me alot... -
u mean after 5 yrs the feeling is still there!?Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:Yar.. It's very distracting.. And I have been experience this for more than 5 years mind you. 
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Maybe you're still young.. You didn't know how it was like to yearn for someone who doesn't like you. You know how to read chinese? Read my sigg.Originally posted by Espada:u mean after 5 yrs the feeling is still there!? -
...dam..wish to get rid of this feeling bugging me,but its really hard to stop thinking of her...
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Self control then. There is NO WAY to get rid of the feeling. You have it, its there. Period. What you can do is to control your emotions and enjoy being friends with her and her company.Originally posted by Espada:Well,cos its obvious to me that she only sees me as a friend and i dun want to hurt myself even more,and i think she already like another guy already... -
Yup. You'll think of her almost every moment...Originally posted by Espada:...dam..wish to get rid of this feeling bugging me,but its really hard to stop thinking of her... -
last time i wun be shy infront of her...but now for some reason when she is near me i wun dare to approach her or something,and this is really irritating...anyone has had my problem before but managed to forget him/her??
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I can't help you.. Me is experiencing the same thing as you.Originally posted by Espada:last time i wun be shy infront of her...but now for some reason when she is near me i wun dare to approach her or something,and this is really irritating...anyone has had my problem before but managed to forget him/her?? -
learn to accept it? perseverence is the key to success
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yea...trying,but its really hard...taking it slowly,and trying to stop thinking of her...Originally posted by kct360:learn to accept it? perseverence is the key to success -
There is a number of route you can choose.Originally posted by Espada:well,i found myself falling in love with this girl who is from the same school and cca as me,but younger than me by 1 year...after getting to know her,i noticed that i can't stop thinking of her and would always want to chat with her when she is on msn.
i know this is just a crush and happens alot during teenage years...but this is my first time feeling like this,and i dun think the girl is interested in me and sees me as a friend,is there anyway to get rid of this feeling inside me...and to see her as just a friend without feeling shy??....i believe alot of ppl has gone through this,so pls help me,thanks..
Your situation, is very normal... There are alot of people that it the same as you... Maybe, the person sit beside, infront or diagonally is the same as you. A crush on someone. Crush, also means infatuation... It's good that you can differ between crash and love...
But still, having a crush on someone sure makes your heart itchy right? And that feeling sux right?
So find a cure for it, a route for it...
There is a number of things you may do... Forget her, ask her to be your valentine. etc...
Itchy... Isn't it irritating? the cure for it? Ask her her whether she like you or not... The only problem with this is your braveness... Think, alot of people have already ask... Why not you?
About forgetting her, i am sure this is also one of good path right? But the problem is, are you sure you can forget her?
There are some people who can't forget for a fews years even though it's just a crush...
So this route depend on how deep is your infatuation on her... If possible, i hope you will take this path...
Or, you can just simply do the same thing as you are now... Doing nothing... Then you will let the itchyness make you suffer... And it a long term effect if you don't know when to let her go...
Still... You will know which route to take better then us... Yup...
Just keep in mind about one thing,
Don't regret whatever path you take.
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Stay happy always