Would you go after someone whom you know is attached?
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To me it's a little delima...
let's say the ones in the relationship is Gal-A and Guy-B, and Guy-C likes Gal-A.
cos,
1) if the Guy-C really cant get Gal-A out of his mind, I would advice him to just confess to Gal-A and get her to make a decision. that way at least Guy-C knows that he had tried. and it is Gal-A's decision.
2) If Gal-A decided to stay with her Guy-B, that will show Guy-B that Gal-A is serious with him and really loves him, and Guy-C should give up, cos the lady have made her choice.
3) If Gal-A decided to give it a try with Guy-C, that will mean that there was a problem in Gal-A and Guy-B's relationship, and somehow the relationship is not strong or precious enough for Gal-A and Guy-B to put in the hard work to work it through.
but then again, If Gal-A can leave Guy-B for Guy-C, what makes Guy-C think that she will stay with him when the going gets tough?
Bottom line. if u are in a relationship and are unhappy, work that out first before considering anyone else. if it is really not meant to be, end it. but do not start a new one so soon. if the "guy-c" really loves you, he'll be willing to wait for you to pull yourself together. -
yes i will go for it. not that furious but slowly grabbing the attention of the attached gal
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like i said its easy to tell the rights and wrongs but when it comes to choosing between the 2 ....... thats a totally different thing.
I believe in a relationship, we are constantly tested on our faith and trust in each other. Temptations will always be there, its jus how we deal with it, give in ? or try harder to keep the relationship alive.
And further more everyone's idea of whats right and wrong are totally different, this guy/gal who is going after someones elses gf/bf might not think that he is doing the wrong thing when everyone else thinks that he is. he might be simply following his heart ..... -
Hi.Originally posted by rainee:I always believe...everything happens for a reason. I know it is hard for you to accept this now, but maybe when you look back a few years later, you will begin to understand the reason behind everything.
Thanks for the encouragement. I have been keeping myself extremely busy these few months. I always have been doing this. Somehow after all the achievements and things one have accomplished, one will look back at all the missed opportunities.....esp when all your friends and classmates are married or getting married.....=p
LIve life to the fullest and my stand is still not to compromise when choosing a life partner. Just have to open my eyes bigger.
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Hi everyone!
Was about to start a thread on a similar topic! But guess no need now...
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Dunno leh, but i feel that i will feel much better if i let it all out on AA...
OK, here's my story, simply put, l was in love with this ger.. and found out much later that she is already attached...
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It was not love at first sight, she's (a colleague) not stunningly attractive but what she lacked in beauty she more than make up in her bubbly personality and cheerful demeanour.
My feelings for her unwittingly grew over the weeks and i looked forward to her business phone calls (we were in different workplaces) just to hear her cheerful voice.
From that moment on, i knew i was kanna by the cupid's arrow.
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Well, later, i found another more promising job
and decides to leave the company... ( i was about to confessed my feelings to her then) ... and that was when i found out that she's attached- i can still vividly remember that scene, her walking in with bf hand in hand... 
I was devastated.
My chest tightens and i can't breath... but only for a split second, as i try hard to conceal my emotions ( i even try to tease her on having a bf)
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I left the company a week later, with a broken heart. Needless to say, i performed badly during my first days in my new job. she was always on my mind...
So here I am, typing furiously at the keyboard and vascillating whether to tell her how i feel: should i confessed my feelings just for the sake of it? I don't want to be seen as a third party (never in my life would i think i would be one) but this silence by me is killing me!
Or should i be a so-called gentleman and tell her how i feel, but give them my blessings...?
Does she need to know how i feel for her?
These are the questions i have been asking myself the past few days...
There! After writing all this out, I felt a big weight just fall off my chest.
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Be a 3rd party...no gd wor...haha
maybe can try to sound her out, maybe thru mutual frens? -
i was thinking of a confession letter thru friendster...
boy! won't that shock her...???!!!
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i oso in luv wif this gal...but i was 1/2 yr too late(if u know what i meant)...after so long i told myself i shld forget her but until now i still keep thinking of her everyday
but what can i do?? i just hope that guy would treat her nice and gib her happiness..... -
Love is war ..... you know why there are so many bastards and not as many nice guys around ? ....
cos nice guys don't get to breed ....... -
You know that she is already happily attached, what do you hope your confession will do?Originally posted by diuneahpa:Hi everyone!
Was about to start a thread on a similar topic! But guess no need now...
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Dunno leh, but i feel that i will feel much better if i let it all out on AA...
OK, here's my story, simply put, l was in love with this ger.. and found out much later that she is already attached...
...
It was not love at first sight, she's (a colleague) not stunningly attractive but what she lacked in beauty she more than make up in her bubbly personality and cheerful demeanour.
My feelings for her unwittingly grew over the weeks and i looked forward to her business phone calls (we were in different workplaces) just to hear her cheerful voice.
From that moment on, i knew i was kanna by the cupid's arrow.
...
Well, later, i found another more promising job and decides to leave the company... ( i was about to confessed my feelings to her then) ... and that was when i found out that she's attached- i can still vividly remember that scene, her walking in with bf hand in hand...
I was devastated.
My chest tightens and i can't breath... but only for a split second, as i try hard to conceal my emotions ( i even try to tease her on having a bf)
...
I left the company a week later, with a broken heart. Needless to say, i performed badly during my first days in my new job. she was always on my mind...
So here I am, typing furiously at the keyboard and vascillating whether to tell her how i feel: should i confessed my feelings just for the sake of it? I don't want to be seen as a third party (never in my life would i think i would be one) but this silence by me is killing me!
Or should i be a so-called gentleman and tell her how i feel, but give them my blessings...?
Does she need to know how i feel for her?
These are the questions i have been asking myself the past few days...
There! After writing all this out, I felt a big weight just fall off my chest. -
What do you hope to achieve from doing all this?Originally posted by diuneahpa:i was thinking of a confession letter thru friendster...
boy! won't that shock her...???!!!
And a confession letter through friendster will definitely not impress me. It lacks sincerity. -
Originally posted by Fatum:Love is war ..... you know why there are so many bastards and not as many nice guys around ? ....
cos nice guys don't get to breed .......
In the end the so called nices guys dont really get to last laugh~ -
just simple,
A person want to be a thief, he/she will have to expect to be humiliated.
Anybody can beat this thief. Because a thief have no diginity.
Most important thing.. when u do anything...
is touch ur heart and ask urself.. do you feel guilty? to urself? or to anyone?
the most important is ÎÊ�ÄÎÞÀ¢¡£ -
1 or 2 days ago i will say no..
but frm yesterday onwards, i will say yes, i will go after someone who is attached, coz i find it challenging and i get to knw wat is my limits. -
You go after an attached girl not because you are truly serious about her, but because you want the thrill of challenges and to find out your own limits.Originally posted by kiss_my (_i_):1 or 2 days ago i will say no..
but frm yesterday onwards, i will say yes, i will go after someone who is attached, coz i find it challenging and i get to knw wat is my limits.
I pity the girl. And I pity you as well, because you seem to have never gotten over the bitterness of your previous failed relationship to have to resort to this tactic to have your revenge. -
Reckon that too, it's about thrill and excitment for most..but eventually when u really met someone who u like so much....it can be miserable to know that the party is alreadly attached..
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I have had my fair share of that. And everytime I stayed clear from guys who are already attached. They are off-limits in my opinion.Originally posted by Arukas:Reckon that too, it's about thrill and excitment for most..but eventually when u really met someone who u like so much....it can be miserable to know that the party is alreadly attached..
If a rs is going well and everything, I wonder how can one throw away years of memories just for the thrill and excitement... -
I sense much hate in uOriginally posted by Fatum:Love is war ..... you know why there are so many bastards and not as many nice guys around ? ....
cos nice guys don't get to breed ....... -
if in the very beginning, u know that the person who u fancy is attached....i think its only right to stay off. For me, i won't even think about it, my mind just shuts off the possibility no matter how attractive that person may be.Originally posted by rainee:I have had my fair share of that. And everytime I stayed clear from guys who are already attached. They are off-limits in my opinion.
If a rs is going well and everything, I wonder how can one throw away years of memories just for the thrill and excitement...
But what's sad is, falling for someone whom u have no idea that the person is already attached. Now that's a terrible feeling......so best is to check.....somehow i always check 1st
if its an open target, then by all means -
Off track abit:Originally posted by rainee:I have had my fair share of that. And everytime I stayed clear from guys who are already attached. They are off-limits in my opinion.
If a rs is going well and everything, I wonder how can one throw away years of memories just for the thrill and excitement...
You say you stay away from guys who are attached. Your boyfriend is attached. Do you stay away from him?
Yes, he (Cat-rin) is your boyfriend so its natural you should stay close to him, but you said, "I stayed clear from guys who are already attached. They are off-limits in my opinion."
Isn't that a paradox...?
Ok ok. Enough of the strange paradox of the sentence. Please don't kill me! I am still single!
We are still learning day after day. What we stand correct and justified about previously may not be the same in principle today. Everybody has their own views and comments towards a particular issue, in this case: Would you go after someone whom you know is attached.
Everyone has their own "right" views on a particular issue. Whose standard is the "right" one? Yours? Mine? The govenrment's? Or is it the law passed down from generations to generations? Whose law is that? How can we be sure that law is correct? We need more convincing than simply "the law said so".
Ok. I think enough of the paradox within the paradox. I go back to SB and roll around... -
Wa lauz, I mean I stay away from guys who are attached to OTHER GIRLS la!Originally posted by Bontakun:Off track abit:
You say you stay away from guys who are attached. Your boyfriend is attached. Do you stay away from him?
Yes, he (Cat-rin) is your boyfriend so its natural you should stay close to him, but you said, "I stayed clear from guys who are already attached. They are off-limits in my opinion."
Isn't that a paradox...?
Ok ok. Enough of the strange paradox of the sentence. Please don't kill me! I am still single!
We are still learning day after day. What we stand correct and justified about previously may not be the same in principle today. Everybody has their own views and comments towards a particular issue, in this case: Would you go after someone whom you know is attached.
Everyone has their own "right" views on a particular issue. Whose standard is the "right" one? Yours? Mine? The govenrment's? Or is it the law passed down from generations to generations? Whose law is that? How can we be sure that law is correct? We need more convincing than simply "the law said so".
Ok. I think enough of the paradox within the paradox. I go back to SB and roll around...
As for my dear, I cling to him de
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i wont think abt her when im in love...Originally posted by rainee:You go after an attached girl not because you are truly serious about her, but because you want the thrill of challenges and to find out your own limits.
I pity the girl. And I pity you as well, because you seem to have never gotten over the bitterness of your previous failed relationship to have to resort to this tactic to have your revenge.
just hate me ba
sometime, human need to be selfish.. -
You are not even in love, you are just using the new girl as a replacement to help you forget about your ex...Originally posted by kiss_my (_i_):i wont think abt her when im in love...
just hate me ba
sometime, human need to be selfish.. -
aiyah!Originally posted by rainee:You are not even in love, you are just using the new girl as a replacement to help you forget about your ex...
u dont knw the point la...
A chase B,
B Attached.
when A chase B,
B know it,
B give feed back to A,
A continue Chasing.
B no give A feedback,
A go for another one.
no right no wrong.
coz B is not that loyalty also.
again i want to say,
it takes two hands to clap. -
Definitely off limits for me. But my current BF still chose to get to know me when he knew I was with my ex and helped me break up and get out of a burdening relationship.