My mother just do not trust me at all
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if it was a girl i understand.. but a male.... LOL.. LOL.. ROFL<<<
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You should check him immediately when he is rude. Don't let him get away with it. If he still persists, then get the father to have a talk with him or punish him by confiscating his hp or limit his computer time.Originally posted by Xiaozzhen:[quote]Originally posted by AMEN567889:
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She said I dont respect her as my mother...
talking back to her...raising my voice sometimes at her ( rarely =/) not heeding her advices..
I sometimes feel my son does not respect me. He is mostly rude and say hurting words. Likes to do his own thing and not heed advice, almost any adults, not just mine.
He is only 12 and undergoing puberty.
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You should take a photo of yourself in library & MMS to her!Originally posted by AMEN567889:Spent the whole of today and yesterday revising for the mid years in the library..
8 hours a day..amounting to 16 hours of revision
but when i reach home..
what did i get?
got a scolding from her of not spending my time wisely as home to revise
wth is this man...
i explain to her le that i was out at the library...
but she just refuses to believe me
dam pissed off
Mothers tend to worry if they don't hear from their sons. So if you are out the whole day, give her a call. Let her know you are having group study.
My teenage son will call me if he is late cos I said that is why I gave him a hp. -
agree. jus be happy that you have someone to nag at you. some people dun even have that chance at all. Wait till you become a parent yourself then you'll understand their reason for doing what they are doing now.Originally posted by akinos:Please ask yourself this question.
Is there anything in you that can be trusted by your mum? Or in the first place, do you even actually respect her as a mum. A parents job is not as simple as you think. Since the day you were born, have you done anything that could gain her trust and visa versa. Please consider it, There are good people with noble intentions in this world, but remember there are jerks around too. Not insulting or saying anything bad about you or your mum, Just a friendly general statement. -
I am glad you are giving me the advice I have been doing thus far.Originally posted by gerrykoh:You should check him immediately when he is rude. Don't let him get away with it. If he still persists, then get the father to have a talk with him or punish him by confiscating his hp or limit his computer time.
It seemed to havev limited effect.
1) He is still rude, altho he hasn't been playing computer for 2 weeks.
2) He told me repeatedly that in order for him to stop being rude, I have to let him play computer daily. To me, This is definitely a "no, no" until he behaves.
3) Sometimes, we relax when he is nice for that afternoon, so half an hour computer, then he reverts back to his old behaviour when I try to correct him on his mistakes. So my hubby n I told him that his promise (No 2) does not hold. He turned and twisted the matter that this computer time was given because I rewarded him for finishing certain chores or meeting certain criteria,, not given unconditionally (as in No 2).
4) He is often rude when I try to teach him life values. Like respect for mom and dad, talk gently and politely, treat his younger brother nicely (no elbowing etc), be respectful and nice to teacher, don't be class clown.
5) He is popular with his friends, but not teachers. He is an A student.
I think he is getting too arrogant and thinks he is good. He seldom takes my advice as he said " What if I take your advice and live to regret it later?"
I think his father has a worse time with him.
We both are at our wits ends.
At heart, he is good. He is displaying bad behaviour to make me miserable because I made him miserable (by not letting him play computer). -
looking at ur reply ...... i might be able understand why your mum treats you the way you say she did.Originally posted by AMEN567889:woah..u can tolerate ar...
for me..i surely flare up like theres no tomolo..and i mean it =/
maybe at that pt of time..she wants u concentrat on ur studies ba..
then badmouth u in front of ur gf..
make her break up with u..
we all know our mothers care for us...
but most of the time...in the wrong way...
and it pisses us off..=/ -
It's always the case until they give up...
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HAVE! MY MOTHER DID THAT TO ME TOO! WHAT'S WORST, SHE SAID THIS WILL BE MY LAST YEAR OF STUDY CAUSE I WON'T BE ABLE TO MAKE IT.
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this same thing happen to me and it really hurts alot to hear your own parents saying such things ....... but I talk to them after afew days and found out that they really regretted what they've said to me. No body is perfect, no even our parents ....... life is a never ending learning cycle even for our parents.Originally posted by LordIcarus:HAVE! MY MOTHER DID THAT TO ME TOO! WHAT'S WORST, SHE SAID THIS WILL BE MY LAST YEAR OF STUDY CAUSE I WON'T BE ABLE TO MAKE IT. -
We are learning to be parents too.Originally posted by MiX Metal:this same thing happen to me and it really hurts alot to hear your own parents saying such things ....... but I talk to them after afew days and found out that they really regretted what they've said to me. No body is perfect, no even our parents ....... life is a never ending learning cycle even for our parents.
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lol..i kena this alot of times frm my mum oso..lol..i treat it as she is nagging bahx..if u really really know what u were doing is right..juz continue doing it..and prove to ur mum that u really worked hard for ur exams by showing her good results?haha..i'm sure she wld be convinced le..if u spent so long studying in the library and still fail most of ur subjects...eh...den i dunno wad to say le...Originally posted by AMEN567889:Spent the whole of today and yesterday revising for the mid years in the library..
8 hours a day..amounting to 16 hours of revision
but when i reach home..
what did i get?
got a scolding from her of not spending my time wisely as home to revise
wth is this man...
i explain to her le that i was out at the library...
but she just refuses to believe me
dam pissed off -
hey..relax man..i was once that ur son too..haha..i think this is the 'growing up' part bahx..especially for boys..they tense to be more rebellious?lol..dun wry la..when he's sec 3 or 4..he will change de...hmm....i think most important for him now is to work hard and be admitted into a gd sch..becoz i think good schools in singapore tense to have a better disciplinary method to teach their kids?lol..Originally posted by Xiaozzhen:I am glad you are giving me the advice I have been doing thus far.
It seemed to havev limited effect.
1) He is still rude, altho he hasn't been playing computer for 2 weeks.
2) He told me repeatedly that in order for him to stop being rude, I have to let him play computer daily. To me, This is definitely a "no, no" until he behaves.
3) Sometimes, we relax when he is nice for that afternoon, so half an hour computer, then he reverts back to his old behaviour when I try to correct him on his mistakes. So my hubby n I told him that his promise (No 2) does not hold. He turned and twisted the matter that this computer time was given because I rewarded him for finishing certain chores or meeting certain criteria,, not given unconditionally (as in No 2).
4) He is often rude when I try to teach him life values. Like respect for mom and dad, talk gently and politely, treat his younger brother nicely (no elbowing etc), be respectful and nice to teacher, don't be class clown.
5) He is popular with his friends, but not teachers. He is an A student.
I think he is getting too arrogant and thinks he is good. He seldom takes my advice as he said " What if I take your advice and live to regret it later?"
I think his father has a worse time with him.
We both are at our wits ends.
At heart, he is good. He is displaying bad behaviour to make me miserable because I made him miserable (by not letting him play computer). -
woops..i mean ' i was once LIKE ur son too'..sry for the typo error :X
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hey shut the fuc* up man. CB kia. pui. complaining of lack ot trust. as*. post for what fuc*? want ppl to know u baby?
