i am antisocial
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Hi people,
i have faced alot of pain as i grow up. I had grown up feeling disappointment with both myself and people. I had stopped opening my heart up for a long time, perhaps for.. 7 years..till i met a fren who i really treasure alot but recently, we break up as friends. I still have friends who are there for me. However, i can't bring myself to open up/warm up to new people and people who are nice to me.
I was bullied in primary one, then was kind of taken advantage of in secondary school as i haven't met the friends that could appreciate me as who i am,. When i am in jc, i had grew even more antisocial. I was kind of outcasted in jc and had developed a kind of " don't talk" with people anymore, whenever i am in a group. Fortunately, i had met frens in society club that i can count on during my jc.
My mother has a very strict and unloving influence on me. I had learnt to be unaffectionate with myself and people and it does not lead happiness. I am not a very friendly person. People say i look fierce.
I feel pain.. cos i have met new friends who are nice.. and i could really like to get to know them better but i always felt this distance with people. I, on the other hand is also tired to deal with " ren " /people but yet i want to get to know them. -
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haiz..
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i too struggle.
Don't let that get you down. -
You are giving yourself the wrong message.
You acknowledge that there are nice ppl and lousy ppl
This is good, you don't expect ppl to be standardised
Now seek the nice ppl, and be nice to them.
Change your message to "I am a social person."
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Try to know a smaller number of people for a start....?Originally posted by freedoom11:Hi people,
i have faced alot of pain as i grow up. I had grown up feeling disappointment with both myself and people. I had stopped opening my heart up for a long time, perhaps for.. 7 years..till i met a fren who i really treasure alot but recently, we break up as friends. I still have friends who are there for me. However, i can't bring myself to open up/warm up to new people and people who are nice to me.
I was bullied in primary one, then was kind of taken advantage of in secondary school as i haven't met the friends that could appreciate me as who i am,. When i am in jc, i had grew even more antisocial. I was kind of outcasted in jc and had developed a kind of " don't talk" with people anymore, whenever i am in a group. Fortunately, i had met frens in society club that i can count on during my jc.
My mother has a very strict and unloving influence on me. I had learnt to be unaffectionate with myself and people and it does not lead happiness. I am not a very friendly person. People say i look fierce.
I feel pain.. cos i have met new friends who are nice.. and i could really like to get to know them better but i always felt this distance with people. I, on the other hand is also tired to deal with " ren " /people but yet i want to get to know them.
Also, try to practise more tolerance for people you'll get to know...
Remember. Nobody's perfect, including yourself. -
practice makes perfect. start by being more sociable with your own friends.
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Did u watch Blood Diamond, the movie starring Leonardo Dicaprio and Jennifer Connelly? There was this particular scene when Leo and Jennifer were talking about the differences between a good and bad guy, when Leo said that basically, they are all humans, just that we are differentiated by our actions.Originally posted by freedoom11:Hi people,
i have faced alot of pain as i grow up. I had grown up feeling disappointment with both myself and people. I had stopped opening my heart up for a long time, perhaps for.. 7 years..till i met a fren who i really treasure alot but recently, we break up as friends. I still have friends who are there for me. However, i can't bring myself to open up/warm up to new people and people who are nice to me.
I was bullied in primary one, then was kind of taken advantage of in secondary school as i haven't met the friends that could appreciate me as who i am,. When i am in jc, i had grew even more antisocial. I was kind of outcasted in jc and had developed a kind of " don't talk" with people anymore, whenever i am in a group. Fortunately, i had met frens in society club that i can count on during my jc.
My mother has a very strict and unloving influence on me. I had learnt to be unaffectionate with myself and people and it does not lead happiness. I am not a very friendly person. People say i look fierce.
I feel pain.. cos i have met new friends who are nice.. and i could really like to get to know them better but i always felt this distance with people. I, on the other hand is also tired to deal with " ren " /people but yet i want to get to know them.
What I am trying to say is that as humans, we are only different because of what we do. You should try to open up more. Like u say, u have friends in JC, talk to them more. Say what u wanna say(but of course, think before u say), and let them into ur hearts and mind. Let them know wat u are thinking, and only then can they know u better, and make the friendship bond even stronger.
Letting people into your heart may not be easy, due to some experiences or people around you. However, that shouldn't be a barrier or excuse for u to stop opening up because u are depriving people of the chance to know u, be ur friend, and love u for what u are.
Never give up letting people know u, because u never know when you will experience the joy and beauty of it. -
Yah, the feeling sucks.
I also dun have much friends. Especially now in JC, ppl are selfish and thinks that they are perfect. -
being anti social anot is ur own choice.... i am the only child and i THINK i'm kinda anti social too which is quite true... i dun rly talk much or mix ard much... but i do hv my buddies from young till now who's always with me... u dun rly need to noe many pple... juz need to noe some very good frens can alrd... having many frens doesnt mean anything... it's juz a facade... i dun believe in knowing so many frens who are juz on the surface.. wad for?? rather stick to my close buddies cos i noe all of them are sincere and they are the ones tt i can share my problems with...
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ahhh, dun worry.
u might want to noe some ple here
i have made afew nice frenz here. -
well....being anti-social is a choice that you make....my classmates find me anti-social while my other frens think that i'm a people person.....I chose to be anti-social to my classmates for my own reasons and I chose to be social when I want to......
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ok... the choice is up to you!
if u think that it is not safe to open up to people , dun open until u feel that u are safe to open up to them....
it is best to think that u are social... listen and talk appriorately...
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Make friends out of your JC...Originally posted by snowiesnow:Yah, the feeling sucks.
I also dun have much friends. Especially now in JC, ppl are selfish and thinks that they are perfect.
OR... Make friends out of other than your usual group.. Join some club or something... You'll be surprised how wrong you might be...? -
Agreeable but there is always a way out... Just make one or two good friends that enough...Originally posted by snowiesnow:Yah, the feeling sucks.
I also dun have much friends. Especially now in JC, ppl are selfish and thinks that they are perfect. -
TS became antisocial due to parental influnece. I suggest that you let go of you bad experience and start pouring love to yourself as well as others around you... You will soon discover the beauty of his world again... Cheer.. PM me if need a chat..
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I had met a group of people who i feel good with. However, i had felt low very regularly and have developed the feeling of NOT opening up to people. It is a habit that i had developed since my jc years and had began getting used to it. Suddenly being alone and no talking seems natural to me.Originally posted by mancha:You are giving yourself the wrong message.
You acknowledge that there are nice ppl and lousy ppl
This is good, you don't expect ppl to be standardised
Now seek the nice ppl, and be nice to them.
Change your message to "I am a social person."
i had often felt that i want and should be leave alone cos my participation in this social world will bring suffering to myself and others. Just let me bear the pain that i had feel alone. I do not want to burden others with my problems. However, when i am in a group or had met a person who has been treating me really nice, i really feel the urge to do the same back. However, if i am not feeling well, how can i react well to others? I feel awkward and uptight when i meet new people in a social situation.
I always feel this distance with people or should i say i tend to reject and push people? becos i do not want them to suffer to know me cos i am a person with problems. -
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every1's the sameOriginally posted by freedoom11:I had met a group of people who i feel good with. However, i had felt low very regularly and have developed the feeling of NOT opening up to people. It is a habit that i had developed since my jc years and had began getting used to it. Suddenly being alone and no talking seems natural to me.
i had often felt that i want and should be leave alone cos my participation in this social world will bring suffering to myself and others. Just let me bear the pain that i had feel alone. I do not want to burden others with my problems. However, when i am in a group or had met a person who has been treating me really nice, i really feel the urge to do the same back. However, if i am not feeling well, how can i react well to others? I feel awkward and uptight when i meet new people in a social situation.
I always feel this distance with people or should i say i tend to reject and push people? becos i do not want them to suffer to know me cos i am a person with problems.
as for me
i tend to do better in 1 on 1 conversations. -
dun liddat leh....feel like crying liao -
Doctor Health here due to Singapore Isolations because of attackness. Apologise for saying this. Have you see different parts of Singapore. On How it look like for the people?
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I am also anti social.....im very picky on establishing friendships. I prefer to be alone. am not good at keeping in touch. only have a few close friends.
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hey mayb those who feel anti social we shd all meet up share our experiences and see how we could change for the better perhaps a meal or a cup of coffee.. its good to share with ppl.. PPL from the same group easier to click.. wow imagine at one momenet u get to knw at least 10-15 new frens.. wowwow.. TS u turn to take the next move to overcome ur anti social problem.. ORG an outing.. FOR anti social ppl lilke us!
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Also remember to go for a psychometric evaluation as you may be Schizoid Personality Disorder sufferer.
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No one is prefect. Unless they think they are egoitisticOriginally posted by snowiesnow:Yah, the feeling sucks.
I also dun have much friends. Especially now in JC, ppl are selfish and thinks that they are perfect.