why is he taking so long to hold my hands?
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chey.... tot u are the Ah Ma we know.Originally posted by soleachip:Means grandma lah. Actually auntie lah but Ah Ma cuter lah. Think 'bo gay' Ah Soh.
Yunnhaier vampire, hihi, what's XLN? Moderator I scared.
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personally, i believe, he's perhaps unsure and somewhat respecting you.
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lol... if TS try to initiate, also cannot...
Aiya... pass yr bf to me... I bring him to GUY's OUTING....
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Not trying to be a wet blanket here but base on TS thread which was really short and doesn't contain any real indication that they are both an item I think by asking her to take the initiative is a little silly.
I mean come on, we are living in a very modern era where got guys still so gentleman after going out with a girl for one whole year and not even hold her hand? Don't even talk about a kiss. Unless TS mention what do they talk about during their 'courtship' other than that I don't think we should give her false hope. As I've said in my first post the guy could really just treat her as a buddy and maybe he knows if he holds her hand he might send her the wrong message.
So unless the TS divulge more, I don't think we should just blindly encourage her. Sekali she 'zhi zuo dou qing' you know how embarrass she will be? -
unlike me.....Originally posted by browniebaobao:wah this kind of guy endangered liao.
by any chance, use the back of ur hand to rub his hand.. see whether he knows what to do. if he no reaction, juz hold his hand la.
some guys are very woodblock de. 
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TS posted "i have been dating my bf for about 1 year..."Originally posted by TinySue:Not trying to be a wet blanket here but base on TS thread which was really short and doesn't contain any real indication that they are both an item I think by asking her to take the initiative is a little silly.
I mean come on, we are living in a very modern era where got guys still so gentleman after going out with a girl for one whole year and not even hold her hand? Don't even talk about a kiss. Unless TS mention what do they talk about during their 'courtship' other than that I don't think we should give her false hope. As I've said in my first post the guy could really just treat her as a buddy and maybe he knows if he holds her hand he might send her the wrong message.
So unless the TS divulge more, I don't think we should just blindly encourage her. Sekali she 'zhi zuo dou qing' you know how embarrass she will be?
bf = buddy?
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we are not interested to know what about you.Originally posted by kengkia:unlike me..... -
how can u date a buddy fren one...Originally posted by browniebaobao:TS posted "i have been dating my bf for about 1 year..."
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then y u respond to my post then...Originally posted by browniebaobao:we are not interested to know what about you. -
Maybe TS is 120kg and 1.65m.......Originally posted by ne0matrix:I don't believe.
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maybe her bf dont wan world peace
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i believe, that's what browniebaobao is trying to say.Originally posted by kengkia:how can u date a buddy fren one... -
Thanks, we are in our twenties, working adults, we have common friends who know we are coupling, but they don't know we have not reached base 1.Originally posted by TinySue:Not trying to be a wet blanket here but base on TS thread which was really short and doesn't contain any real indication that they are both an item I think by asking her to take the initiative is a little silly.
I mean come on, we are living in a very modern era where got guys still so gentleman after going out with a girl for one whole year and not even hold her hand? Don't even talk about a kiss. Unless TS mention what do they talk about during their 'courtship' other than that I don't think we should give her false hope. As I've said in my first post the guy could really just treat her as a buddy and maybe he knows if he holds her hand he might send her the wrong message.
So unless the TS divulge more, I don't think we should just blindly encourage her. Sekali she 'zhi zuo dou qing' you know how embarrass she will be? -
if he still remains rare, i will have to look out for more common ones.Originally posted by Yunhaier:
If he doesn't know, teach him.
If he doesn't realise, tell him.
If he doesn't understand, enlighten him.
P.S: Rare doesn't mean it's good. In that sense, it pays to be common.
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hmm, maybe ur bf is not used to holding hands..
take it easy,
u could make the 1st move by holding his hands..
then after tat, he will get used to it. -
ask him to listen to the s.h.e song...
cant remember the title..
but something go like this,,,
come close i will let u hold my hand...
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wow, 1stly we had one asking about cherry thing now another about holding hands.Originally posted by world_peace:i have been dating my bf for about 1 year, he has not hold my hands, how will I make him do that? If i initiate the hand holding what will my bf thinks?
of course, we have also not kiss yet, when will it happen?
Urs is much easier, he is shy & i'm sure he's a nice chap. Take his hand when crossing the road & that's where u shall start....good luck -
Would you suspect that your relationship is a cover for his gay tendencies?
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Originally posted by choco B:Would you suspect that your relationship is a cover for his gay tendencies?
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u r a good and patience girl,and your bf is lucky to have u as his gf.try to fell down accidentally see what his reaction?Originally posted by world_peace:i have been dating my bf for about 1 year, he has not hold my hands, how will I make him do that? If i initiate the hand holding what will my bf thinks?
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Any chance hes not interested in you?
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Some questions to ask TS if you are willing to divulge.
1) What do you two talk about when you both go out?
2) When you both go out, is it both of you or with some other friends?
3) You said your friends knows you both are together but haven't touch on first base that means holding hands. Does that mean both of you actually acknowledge outright that you two are together as bf and gf especially your 'bf'?
4) Has your bf really acknowledge and introduce you as his gf in front of others? Like new friends and colleagues?
5) Has he taken you back to his house to introduce you to his parents and said you are his gf?
6) Most important of all did he actually ask you to be his steady outrightly and officially before?
Hope to hear some reply from you soon and if you answer yes to every question especially no.6 then I would really agree with the rest that your 'bf' is a blockhead otherwise please don't take for granted of anything that is not spoken outright or official. -
Canny Ong, were you resurrected?Originally posted by CannyOng:Maybe TS is 120kg and 1.65m....... -
Originally posted by TinySue:Some questions to ask TS if you are willing to divulge.
1) What do you two talk about when you both go out? the usual everyday things, lifestyle stuff, work etc
2) When you both go out, is it both of you or with some other friends? sometimes with friends and colleagues and sometimes only with him
3) You said your friends knows you both are together but haven't touch on first base that means holding hands. Does that mean both of you actually acknowledge outright that you two are together as bf and gf especially your 'bf'? Almost everyone in the office knows or acknowledged us. But he has never formally acknwoledged our r/s.
4) Has your bf really acknowledge and introduce you as his gf in front of others? Like new friends and colleagues? He has been teased many times by my colleagues but not really intro me as the gf
5) Has he taken you back to his house to introduce you to his parents and said you are his gf? I have met his father, but no formal intro
6) Most important of all did he actually ask you to be his steady outrightly and officially before? He will send me xmas/ny cards, birthday gifts and each time he goes overseas, he will bring me a present.
Hope to hear some reply from you soon and if you answer yes to every question especially no.6 then I would really agree with the rest that your 'bf' is a blockhead otherwise please don't take for granted of anything that is not spoken outright or official. Some background :
We know each other few years ago while working in a trading firm. He is a financial trader while I am the admin officer. I see him frequently because I supports him with the administration work.
After a while we started to lunch together regularly (sometimes with other colleagues and sometimes only us). And we began to exchange xmas/ny/birthday cards & presents. We celebrated most big festives together.
There was a period when he was very sick, I visited him frequently at the hospital. After that we began to meet regularly on weekends. But our meetings were mostly shopping, movies, dinner, occassional pub, nothing romantic. This has gone on for about a year.
When he goes overseas, I will be sending him off and meet him at the airport when he returns. He will always give me a present like a bag or perfume at the airport. I wasn't very keen on bags or perfumes, but accepted them anyway.
His father is staying with him, I met the father once when I visited his house to pass him something that I helped him buy. The father was not very well then, and there was no formal introduction.
At the office, everyone knows or assumed we are an item, we got teased quite a fair bit. At annual events, we were arranged to sit at the same table even though we are from different section. We were also arranged to go on outward bound course together.
Although there are some colleagues who advised me to confront him about our r/s, I am still finding the opportunity to do that. On one hand, I am concerned the confrontation may affect my work (i like my work), on the other hand I am also eager to find out my status in his life.
To satisfy the curious, we are both average people, he has better looks then me (I think), while I am not too bad when compared with my other colleagues.
And I cannot confirm if he is a gay, I probed his friends, but no conculsion.
Finally, when I am done with him, I will pass him on to whoever fancy him.
Thanks to all for the listening ear, and the willingness to share, I benefited alot from all your posts.
