why is he taking so long to hold my hands?
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huh?~Originally posted by world_peace:
Finally, when I am done with him, I will pass him on to whoever fancy him.
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This is in response to those who expressed interest to have him as bf, should we did not succeed with the r/s (after the confrontation).Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:huh?~ -
Oh I see..Originally posted by world_peace:This is in response to those who expressed interest to have him as bf, should we did not succeed with the r/s (after the confrontation). 
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erm workplace romance........not my cup of tea
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1 year haven hold hand. WTF.
Then what did you guys do?
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Based on what you say this guy could just be your activity partner only.Originally posted by world_peace:
Some background :
We know each other few years ago while working in a trading firm. He is a financial trader while I am the admin officer. I see him frequently because I supports him with the administration work.
After a while we started to lunch together regularly (sometimes with other colleagues and sometimes only us). And we began to exchange xmas/ny/birthday cards & presents. We celebrated most big festives together.
There was a period when he was very sick, I visited him frequently at the hospital. After that we began to meet regularly on weekends. But our meetings were mostly shopping, movies, dinner, occassional pub, nothing romantic. This has gone on for about a year.
When he goes overseas, I will be sending him off and meet him at the airport when he returns. He will always give me a present like a bag or perfume at the airport. I wasn't very keen on bags or perfumes, but accepted them anyway.
His father is staying with him, I met the father once when I visited his house to pass him something that I helped him buy. The father was not very well then, and there was no formal introduction.
At the office, everyone knows or assumed we are an item, we got teased quite a fair bit. At annual events, we were arranged to sit at the same table even though we are from different section. We were also arranged to go on outward bound course together.
Although there are some colleagues who advised me to confront him about our r/s, I am still finding the opportunity to do that. On one hand, I am concerned the confrontation may affect my work (i like my work), on the other hand I am also eager to find out my status in his life.
To satisfy the curious, we are both average people, he has better looks then me (I think), while I am not too bad when compared with my other colleagues.
And I cannot confirm if he is a gay, I probed his friends, but no conculsion.
Finally, when I am done with him, I will pass him on to whoever fancy him.
Thanks to all for the listening ear, and the willingness to share, I benefited alot from all your posts.
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why don't you just ask him?Originally posted by dokono:Based on what you say this guy could just be your activity partner only.
doko
simple as that.
doko -
Exactly my point!Originally posted by dokono:Based on what you say this guy could just be your activity partner only.
doko
Moreover he is in the financial line and financial line peeps work fast. They came, they saw, they conquer. No such thing as holding back. What TS is experiencing is nothing more than a platonic relationship and TS has mistaken the guy's affections. I can't very well say the guy is leading her on as it is TS's duty to find out directly from the guy if he wants to have a man/woman relationship in the beginning. She should have ask in a joking manner if the guy was asking her out on a date when the guy ask her to go for movies or dinner.
Really, just because going to visit someone in the hospitable when one is sick or even cooking porridge for one another doesn't really say much about the 'said' relationship.
There are platonic relationship between two different sexes. There needn't be any special emotional feelings involve. Hate to say this to TS but I think TS is reading into too much of this relationship. As I've stated before unless the man asked her outrightly and straightforward for her to be his special otherwise this is only a one-sided affair on TS part. -
Hmm, I think maybe he is with you just for the sake of companionship?
I know I wouldn't be with someone who hesitates so long to even hold my hand...
Just go up straight to him and ask...most prolly you will get your answer Beats waiting and misleading yourself further -
Seriously, I don't think he is your boyfriend.Originally posted by world_peace: Some background :
We know each other few years ago while working in a trading firm. He is a financial trader while I am the admin officer. I see him frequently because I supports him with the administration work.
After a while we started to lunch together regularly (sometimes with other colleagues and sometimes only us). And we began to exchange xmas/ny/birthday cards & presents. We celebrated most big festives together.
There was a period when he was very sick, I visited him frequently at the hospital. After that we began to meet regularly on weekends. But our meetings were mostly shopping, movies, dinner, occassional pub, nothing romantic. This has gone on for about a year.
When he goes overseas, I will be sending him off and meet him at the airport when he returns. He will always give me a present like a bag or perfume at the airport. I wasn't very keen on bags or perfumes, but accepted them anyway.
His father is staying with him, I met the father once when I visited his house to pass him something that I helped him buy. The father was not very well then, and there was no formal introduction.
At the office, everyone knows or assumed we are an item, we got teased quite a fair bit. At annual events, we were arranged to sit at the same table even though we are from different section. We were also arranged to go on outward bound course together.
Although there are some colleagues who advised me to confront him about our r/s, I am still finding the opportunity to do that. On one hand, I am concerned the confrontation may affect my work (i like my work), on the other hand I am also eager to find out my status in his life.
To satisfy the curious, we are both average people, he has better looks then me (I think), while I am not too bad when compared with my other colleagues.
And I cannot confirm if he is a gay, I probed his friends, but no conculsion.
Finally, when I am done with him, I will pass him on to whoever fancy him.
Thanks to all for the listening ear, and the willingness to share, I benefited alot from all your posts.
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Interesting ><
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hello..Originally posted by world_peace: Some background :
We know each other few years ago while working in a trading firm. He is a financial trader while I am the admin officer. I see him frequently because I supports him with the administration work.
After a while we started to lunch together regularly (sometimes with other colleagues and sometimes only us). And we began to exchange xmas/ny/birthday cards & presents. We celebrated most big festives together.
There was a period when he was very sick, I visited him frequently at the hospital. After that we began to meet regularly on weekends. But our meetings were mostly shopping, movies, dinner, occassional pub, nothing romantic. This has gone on for about a year.
When he goes overseas, I will be sending him off and meet him at the airport when he returns. He will always give me a present like a bag or perfume at the airport. I wasn't very keen on bags or perfumes, but accepted them anyway.
His father is staying with him, I met the father once when I visited his house to pass him something that I helped him buy. The father was not very well then, and there was no formal introduction.
At the office, everyone knows or assumed we are an item, we got teased quite a fair bit. At annual events, we were arranged to sit at the same table even though we are from different section. We were also arranged to go on outward bound course together.
Although there are some colleagues who advised me to confront him about our r/s, I am still finding the opportunity to do that. On one hand, I am concerned the confrontation may affect my work (i like my work), on the other hand I am also eager to find out my status in his life.
To satisfy the curious, we are both average people, he has better looks then me (I think), while I am not too bad when compared with my other colleagues.
And I cannot confirm if he is a gay, I probed his friends, but no conculsion.
Finally, when I am done with him, I will pass him on to whoever fancy him.
Thanks to all for the listening ear, and the willingness to share, I benefited alot from all your posts.
pls tell us ur definition of 'bf'
a fren who is a boy? or a bf as in one in a love r/s?
did he ever say he's ur bf in the first place? If not, then i think u are confusing yourself and all of us here.
Ask him, what does he regard you as. Better to clarify things now than to make wild guesses and wondering how come he is not holding your hand blah blah..
i hate that kind of 'like together, yet not together' feeling.
It seems that u duno him very well. Coz u were even questioning about his sexual orientation. -
Interesting indeed. How can TS pass on someone who has never been hers at all? All I see was TS 'shiok sendiri' onlyOriginally posted by ispyyy:Interesting ><
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u guys aint even together...
no guys will wait so long to even hold hands 1.. -
he is not ur bf.Originally posted by world_peace: Some background :
We know each other few years ago while working in a trading firm. He is a financial trader while I am the admin officer. I see him frequently because I supports him with the administration work.
After a while we started to lunch together regularly (sometimes with other colleagues and sometimes only us). And we began to exchange xmas/ny/birthday cards & presents. We celebrated most big festives together.
There was a period when he was very sick, I visited him frequently at the hospital. After that we began to meet regularly on weekends. But our meetings were mostly shopping, movies, dinner, occassional pub, nothing romantic. This has gone on for about a year.
When he goes overseas, I will be sending him off and meet him at the airport when he returns. He will always give me a present like a bag or perfume at the airport. I wasn't very keen on bags or perfumes, but accepted them anyway.
His father is staying with him, I met the father once when I visited his house to pass him something that I helped him buy. The father was not very well then, and there was no formal introduction.
At the office, everyone knows or assumed we are an item, we got teased quite a fair bit. At annual events, we were arranged to sit at the same table even though we are from different section. We were also arranged to go on outward bound course together.
Although there are some colleagues who advised me to confront him about our r/s, I am still finding the opportunity to do that. On one hand, I am concerned the confrontation may affect my work (i like my work), on the other hand I am also eager to find out my status in his life.
To satisfy the curious, we are both average people, he has better looks then me (I think), while I am not too bad when compared with my other colleagues.
And I cannot confirm if he is a gay, I probed his friends, but no conculsion.
Finally, when I am done with him, I will pass him on to whoever fancy him.
Thanks to all for the listening ear, and the willingness to share, I benefited alot from all your posts.
the relationship is all assumption,nothing concrete. -
Please respect him as a guy and not a gift to be pass around. He have not done you any wrong so please give this poor chap some respect.Originally posted by world_peace: Some background :
We know each other few years ago while working in a trading firm. He is a financial trader while I am the admin officer. I see him frequently because I supports him with the administration work.
After a while we started to lunch together regularly (sometimes with other colleagues and sometimes only us). And we began to exchange xmas/ny/birthday cards & presents. We celebrated most big festives together.
There was a period when he was very sick, I visited him frequently at the hospital. After that we began to meet regularly on weekends. But our meetings were mostly shopping, movies, dinner, occassional pub, nothing romantic. This has gone on for about a year.
When he goes overseas, I will be sending him off and meet him at the airport when he returns. He will always give me a present like a bag or perfume at the airport. I wasn't very keen on bags or perfumes, but accepted them anyway.
His father is staying with him, I met the father once when I visited his house to pass him something that I helped him buy. The father was not very well then, and there was no formal introduction.
At the office, everyone knows or assumed we are an item, we got teased quite a fair bit. At annual events, we were arranged to sit at the same table even though we are from different section. We were also arranged to go on outward bound course together.
Although there are some colleagues who advised me to confront him about our r/s, I am still finding the opportunity to do that. On one hand, I am concerned the confrontation may affect my work (i like my work), on the other hand I am also eager to find out my status in his life.
To satisfy the curious, we are both average people, he has better looks then me (I think), while I am not too bad when compared with my other colleagues.
And I cannot confirm if he is a gay, I probed his friends, but no conculsion.
Finally, when I am done with him, I will pass him on to whoever fancy him.
Thanks to all for the listening ear, and the willingness to share, I benefited alot from all your posts.
1) one day he says that he does not like you, what will you do? Will you still respect him and treat him the same way as you do ? Please be honest.
2) Does he need to love you ? I mean you keep doing so much things for him and keep giving us samples of people saying that both of you are an item but he never agree or say that you are his gf.
Doing so much does not mean that he must love you.
Through the years I have seen so many others do so much more than you, even give the other party thousands of dollars but in the end is only one sided. -
don't eat and sh!t at the same place.
world peace.
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see my answers in blue below.Originally posted by zeny:Please respect him as a guy and not a gift to be pass around. He have not done you any wrong so please give this poor chap some respect. You are right, he is not a gift.
1) one day he says that he does not like you, what will you do? Will you still respect him and treat him the same way as you do ? Please be honest. He will still be my colleague (as long as I am still working there).
2) Does he need to love you ? I mean you keep doing so much things for him and keep giving us samples of people saying that both of you are an item but he never agree or say that you are his gf. This is not a transaction, there is no such thing as a "need to love". But I am trying to find out, if he sees me as a gf or not.
Doing so much does not mean that he must love you.
Through the years I have seen so many others do so much more than you, even give the other party thousands of dollars but in the end is only one sided. I agrees with you. No one can buy love. -
"This is not a transaction, there is no such thing as a "need to love". But I am trying to find out, if he sees me as a gf or not."
Still trying to find out ???
Anyway, good luck... -
i'm sorry it didn't work out
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I don't think he's your boyfriend then lolOriginally posted by world_peace:i have been dating my bf for about 1 year, he has not hold my hands, how will I make him do that? If i initiate the hand holding what will my bf thinks?
of course, we have also not kiss yet, when will it happen? -
Thanks. We are meeting tomorrow at Olio at suntec for lunch, I should find out after the lunch.Originally posted by ispyyy:"This is not a transaction, there is no such thing as a "need to love". But I am trying to find out, if he sees me as a gf or not."
Still trying to find out ???
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I think you're a little deluded. Just cause he does all those things does not make him your boyfriend. He's just a close friend.Originally posted by world_peace:Thanks. We are meeting tomorrow at Olio at suntec for lunch, I should find out after the lunch.
EDIT: and if he hasn't made a move for 1 whole year it's obvious he doesn't want anything more than to just be friends. -
what is so deluded about wanting to confirm the status of a r/s? will it then be just (or alright) to continue seeing him every weekend -- as a close friend?Originally posted by jondizzle foshizzle:I think you're a little deluded. Just cause he does all those things does not make him your boyfriend. He's just a close friend.
EDIT: and if he hasn't made a move for 1 whole year it's obvious he doesn't want anything more than to just be friends. -
NICE... Go ahead... U will have my spiritual support ><Originally posted by world_peace:Thanks. We are meeting tomorrow at Olio at suntec for lunch, I should find out after the lunch.
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