Do you mind abt....
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ur Current GF have an Ex which you find out yourself... Which mean that.. you actually know of this guy existence but then she told u that the guy went after her but did not success.. But end of the day u find out that they been together for abt 2 mth ..... Can someone enlighten me how come the GF want to hide abt this rs..... But mentions about other relation to the current BF..... That ex BF still like the girl .... But after find out the girl told the current BF that she did not mention is because she think is a mistake and do not regards the ex as a BF and she did not mean to hide ... as she know that the BF has a huge Ego ... and will not start up the relationship with her from the start....
And the girl emphasize that nothing happen and she dun like the guy at all.. but they did kisses and hug!
Okie the guy wish to break up as it is too much for him to handle...
Please advise the Sad guy!
Actually i am the guy .... and still got other more problems.. but this is just one of the problems... we together for 6 mth .... -
hide, is for ur own good, not to let u think too much..
but the other way.....
is to protect herself
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Sad_life,
Why are you so hung up on her ex ?
When people lie, sometimes it is to protect the relationship.
Besides, if she don't really think the past relationship is a serious one. What's the big deal ???
I used to have bf for more than 3 months, but the relationship is like not having one at all, because we seldom meet up, or spend very intimate time together.
This kind of relationship I consider null and void. -
Sad_Life
Its all already in the past.
Now is about you and her. Don't think too much la. -
its a white lie.
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thank ppls.. for replying my post.. i do really need the advise...
to add on ... From the start... this guy got sms her this and tat... (tat how i got to know the existence of this guy) then i start to ask abt this n tat.. then she told me that nothing.. is just a guy that chase her and like her... but she ask me not to worry as she will not like him or give him any chances... then i ask her how long he chase her already... she told me abt a year......
My gf know that intention that i got the idea of breaking up .. but she do not want and hope that i can give her a chance..... -
Originally posted by Sad_Life:
this is wat my ex told me too... but at the end...
[b]thank ppls.. for replying my post.. i do really need the advise...
to add on ... From the start... this guy got sms her this and tat... (tat how i got to know the existence of this guy) then i start to ask abt this n tat.. then she told me that nothing.. is just a guy that chase her and like her... but she ask me not to worry as she will not like him or give him any chances... then i ask her how long he chase her already... she told me abt a year......
My gf know that intention that i got the idea of breaking up .. but she do not want and hope that i can give her a chance.....
nv ren shi shan bian de -
Well sad_life don't think too much kOriginally posted by Sad_Life:thank ppls.. for replying my post.. i do really need the advise...
to add on ... From the start... this guy got sms her this and tat... (tat how i got to know the existence of this guy) then i start to ask abt this n tat.. then she told me that nothing.. is just a guy that chase her and like her... but she ask me not to worry as she will not like him or give him any chances... then i ask her how long he chase her already... she told me abt a year......
My gf know that intention that i got the idea of breaking up .. but she do not want and hope that i can give her a chance.....
Trust is very important in maintaining a strong relationship. Since your girlfriend had already assured you, just don't stir up any more trouble.
P.S: Luckily you din use stead to represent girlfriend -
OK. So you're a quitter.Originally posted by Sad_Life:thank ppls.. for replying my post.. i do really need the advise...
to add on ... From the start... this guy got sms her this and tat... (tat how i got to know the existence of this guy) then i start to ask abt this n tat.. then she told me that nothing.. is just a guy that chase her and like her... but she ask me not to worry as she will not like him or give him any chances... then i ask her how long he chase her already... she told me abt a year......
My gf know that intention that i got the idea of breaking up .. but she do not want and hope that i can give her a chance.....
You see problems, instead of solving it, you decide to run away.
All you have to do, is tell your girlfriend that you are very uncomfortable about the guy sending the msg.
Get her permission to speak to the guy and ask him politely to stop calling your girlfriend.
Are you a man ? or not ? -
u knw urself has a huge ego n wun start with her if u knw abt it...isnt that big enuf a reason that she has to hide th truth from u?she reali wants to b with u so she hides it from u...she dun like the guy at all, but still did kisses hugs coz mayb it is what couples do in a relationship?well actuali my current gf has her a few ex oso...she oso had hugs n kisses, but i trust that she loves me now...do u trust ur gf?i knw she lied abt her ex, but she did that bcoz she knew u wuldnt b with her if u knew the truth...so what r u so worked up abt...ur breaking up bcoz u knw abt her ex?there r so many ppl who has a past...sometimes, when ppl r younger, they go into relationships w/o actuali lovin the other...its juz to exp a relationship...sometimes, its juz so that guy wun bother her again...but she finally finds someone she loves that is u...dun b mad at her alrdy...her lies r bcoz shes loves u n dun wan to leave u...Originally posted by Sad_Life:ur Current GF have an Ex which you find out yourself... Which mean that.. you actually know of this guy existence but then she told u that the guy went after her but did not success.. But end of the day u find out that they been together for abt 2 mth ..... Can someone enlighten me how come the GF want to hide abt this rs..... But mentions about other relation to the current BF..... That ex BF still like the girl .... But after find out the girl told the current BF that she did not mention is because she think is a mistake and do not regards the ex as a BF and she did not mean to hide ... as she know that the BF has a huge Ego ... and will not start up the relationship with her from the start....
And the girl emphasize that nothing happen and she dun like the guy at all.. but they did kisses and hug!
Okie the guy wish to break up as it is too much for him to handle...
Please advise the Sad guy!
Actually i am the guy .... and still got other more problems.. but this is just one of the problems... we together for 6 mth ....
btw...me n my gf oso 6mths liao...we can still b ok what...n believe me, we haf more problems than juz ourselves...count urself lucky=p -
I MIND. Because I never bother to know more about her and her life before hastily jumping into the relationship wagon with her! ONLY to find out such things happen!!!Originally posted by Sad_Life:ur Current GF have an Ex which you find out yourself... Which mean that.. you actually know of this guy existence but then she told u that the guy went after her but did not success.. But end of the day u find out that they been together for abt 2 mth ..... Can someone enlighten me how come the GF want to hide abt this rs..... But mentions about other relation to the current BF..... That ex BF still like the girl .... But after find out the girl told the current BF that she did not mention is because she think is a mistake and do not regards the ex as a BF and she did not mean to hide ... as she know that the BF has a huge Ego ... and will not start up the relationship with her from the start....
And the girl emphasize that nothing happen and she dun like the guy at all.. but they did kisses and hug!
Okie the guy wish to break up as it is too much for him to handle...
Please advise the Sad guy!
Actually i am the guy .... and still got other more problems.. but this is just one of the problems... we together for 6 mth ....
No lah, seriously. Mind or no mind, you know the pros and cons. She telling you the truth or lying? You telling her your truth or lying too? You want to carry on the relationship is up to you. Whether you can endure it is also your call. How you are going to settle it is ultimately your efforts and her efforts. -
What really happen to you?Originally posted by kiss_my (_i_):this is wat my ex told me too... but at the end...
nv ren shi shan bian de -
1) Do you love her ?Originally posted by Sad_Life:thank ppls.. for replying my post.. i do really need the advise...
to add on ... From the start... this guy got sms her this and tat... (tat how i got to know the existence of this guy) then i start to ask abt this n tat.. then she told me that nothing.. is just a guy that chase her and like her... but she ask me not to worry as she will not like him or give him any chances... then i ask her how long he chase her already... she told me abt a year......
My gf know that intention that i got the idea of breaking up .. but she do not want and hope that i can give her a chance.....
2) Do you still want the relationship?
3) If yes then i will advise, or else just split and do not waste her time and yours. -
its good to be honest even about the past. Who knows what she might hide in the future......Originally posted by Sad_Life:ur Current GF have an Ex which you find out yourself... Which mean that.. you actually know of this guy existence but then she told u that the guy went after her but did not success.. But end of the day u find out that they been together for abt 2 mth ..... Can someone enlighten me how come the GF want to hide abt this rs..... But mentions about other relation to the current BF..... That ex BF still like the girl .... But after find out the girl told the current BF that she did not mention is because she think is a mistake and do not regards the ex as a BF and she did not mean to hide ... as she know that the BF has a huge Ego ... and will not start up the relationship with her from the start....
And the girl emphasize that nothing happen and she dun like the guy at all.. but they did kisses and hug!
Okie the guy wish to break up as it is too much for him to handle...
Please advise the Sad guy!
Actually i am the guy .... and still got other more problems.. but this is just one of the problems... we together for 6 mth ....
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Actualy, the above is quite true...Originally posted by jojobeach:OK. So you're a quitter.
You see problems, instead of solving it, you decide to run away.
Are you a man ? or not ?
So wat r u going to do, if she lies to u?
wat r u going to do, if she didnt lie to u?
Will yr love for her reduce or diminish?
Or r u hoping for us to advise u to break up with her?
"Actually i am the guy .... and still got other more problems.. but this is just one of the problems... we together for 6 mth .... "
To tell you frankly, the start of having gf is the start of chains of problems. U just need yr heart to choose yr path and the brain to solve the problems. But not use the brain n think whether did she lie to u and let the heart influrence by yr thoughts... -
People can never focus on what keeps them together and they never stop dwelling on what seperates them.
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Thanks everyone again......
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Originally posted by TYING:its a white lie. totally
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1) Yes.. or i will even bother so much .. feeling all the heartache nowOriginally posted by zeny:1) Do you love her ?
2) Do you still want the relationship?
3) If yes then i will advise, or else just split and do not waste her time and yours.
2) i am not too sure myself..... -
How old are all of you?Originally posted by Sad_Life:ur Current GF have an Ex which you find out yourself... Which mean that.. you actually know of this guy existence but then she told u that the guy went after her but did not success.. But end of the day u find out that they been together for abt 2 mth ..... Can someone enlighten me how come the GF want to hide abt this rs..... But mentions about other relation to the current BF..... That ex BF still like the girl .... But after find out the girl told the current BF that she did not mention is because she think is a mistake and do not regards the ex as a BF and she did not mean to hide ... as she know that the BF has a huge Ego ... and will not start up the relationship with her from the start....
And the girl emphasize that nothing happen and she dun like the guy at all.. but they did kisses and hug!
Okie the guy wish to break up as it is too much for him to handle...
Please advise the Sad guy!
Actually i am the guy .... and still got other more problems.. but this is just one of the problems... we together for 6 mth ....
Personally, I don't see an issue with having an ex in the past. The fact that she tries to hide it from you, she must have her reason(s) - whatever they are. At this point, I don't see how bad this fact might potentially be (based on purely surface analysis).
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Thank frez... u r rite.. i am not a man at all .... haiz... i need to overcome this or else we not be happy togetherOriginally posted by jojobeach:OK. So you're a quitter.
You see problems, instead of solving it, you decide to run away.
All you have to do, is tell your girlfriend that you are very uncomfortable about the guy sending the msg.
Get her permission to speak to the guy and ask him politely to stop calling your girlfriend.
Are you a man ? or not ? -
Your girl don't want you to think too much. Anyway, cheerish her and don't think about the past. Now this relationship is between YOU and HERS, NOT HER EX. Of course everybody got past, but it doesn't matter much.
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if you truly love her, forgive her and move on. no point hanging over her ex. ex is pass. u are her now & the future!
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Pardon me, but I feel that you're the one equipped with a big ego.
You mentioned they had a certain amount of affection and you seem to be rather affected about it.
I can sense you're troubled; and the best advice I can give is that what past is past. She is with you now and you can either make the best out of it for the relationship to work or you can wallow in her yesterdays and continue to be miserable.
You vaguely mentioned the existence of other problems in the relationship, I'd advise you to resolve the issues. Love is not the pursuit for the perfect partner, but the acceptance of their imperfections. Relationships are give-and-take affairs, you can't expect a bed of roses.
The choice is in your hands, good luck. -
This is called BPDOriginally posted by Sad_Life:Thank frez... u r rite.. i am not a man at all .... haiz... i need to overcome this or else we not be happy together