sad story. I hope readers can tell me what to do:(
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Dear readers,I hope you all can give me opinions on what should i do. Sorry for everyone attention. I has like this particular girl for 6 months already. At the start, she and I were smsing each other sweet smses. One fine day, i confess to her, i told her i like her, i didnt expect she will say she like me too. We thought is too fast and we want to know each other more 1st. Ever since that day, things have become very awkward. I just want to know her better, but she just like me n not love me. She has no feeling for me yet.
Every now n then , i m feeling very emo because i duno whether stand a chance. She will always say she is not good enough for me..and ask me to find others. She is someone i really like for the 1st time. I tried to do things for her..but her nature is stubborn and cant be bothered. I can understand why sometimes she ignored me. She just dont want me to feel sad and wait for her. We are both very stubborn, and i know she dun wan to be committed as she prefer to be single. She is independent all the while and hope i can just carry on my life as normal. I cant. i just wan to tell her that i will be there for her. Even she turn ugly one day, i will still like her.
Now, i just hope she will like me once again or be back to the past. -
Give her space, room, time and anything that she needs. Not just material stuff but also spiritual stuff..
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Have you gone out with her ?
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U wasted ur chance to be with her. Whether or not couple or no couple u still a lot of time to know about each other. Wad to do? If u both like each other then ask to be in a relationship. More time spend with her, more time to get to know each other.
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yup sometimes..meet her..but now..it is so awkward
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she dun like u in that way and hope u dun like her so she wun feel guilty lor.
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Carry on as per normal.
Continue to sms sweet nothings.
All the emo is in your head.
You are too eager.
Be cool.
Sometimes you chase, she runs.
You act cool, she wonder if you like her.
But don't be too cool.
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Ok.Instead of telling u what most forumers' reply will be - which is to give her space, give her time, forget abt her.
I want to stress to u something of great importance which i believed u've overlooked
what can u learn from this experience.
let me tell u- whatever decision u make can only lead to 2 outcome.
1. She changes her mind and likes u.
2. She is unmoved and doesn't like u.
Trust me the logical thing to do is to "not keep someone who doesn't love u back" or "u can't force someone to love u"
but humans are driven by emotions.
Everything u do is based on an emotion of some kind.
U will be tempted to try out the more ' optimistic' approaches, like waiting for her, hanging ard her hoping to change her mind.
Read up on past AA posts, u will realise your situation aint as bad as u think.
Read what the forumers posted, but treat them as guidelines and make a decision based on your own accord.
Popular opinion does not equate best solution.
Because everybody's situation differs and what's best for others might not be best for u.
Now u are going to have to decide for yourself, cos sometime in the near future, u WILL encounter a similiar situation - what will u do then?
R u going to ask someone to decide for u again? Y not start learning to decide things by yourself?
Judging from your post, i surmise that u r still young.
don't be afraid of making mistakes but remember to LEARN from them -that is how u shape your character and beliefs.
If things are not turning out well, try changing your approach.
Insanity has being defined as ' doing the same things in the same way and expecting to get different results.'
Don't fall into the trap -
Originally posted by goodboyinthemaking:
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Dear readers,I hope you all can give me opinions on what should i do. Sorry for everyone attention. I has like this particular girl for [b]6 months already. At the start, she and I were smsing each other sweet smses. One fine day, i confess to her, i told her i like her, i didnt expect she will say she like me too. We thought is too fast and we want to know each other more 1st. Ever since that day, things have become very awkward. I just want to know her better, but she just like me n not love me. She has no feeling for me yet.
Every now n then , i m feeling very emo because i duno whether stand a chance. She will always say she is not good enough for me..and ask me to find others. She is someone i really like for the 1st time. I tried to do things for her..but her nature is stubborn and cant be bothered. I can understand why sometimes she ignored me. She just dont want me to feel sad and wait for her. We are both very stubborn, and i know she dun wan to be committed as she prefer to be single. She is independent all the while and hope i can just carry on my life as normal. I cant. i just wan to tell her that i will be there for her. Even she turn ugly one day, i will still like her.
Now, i just hope she will like me once again or be back to the past.[/b]
she kinda like u becos she is more of those who tries not express but try not to express at the same time
you tried, but is demoralised for the first time
problem:
she wans be single
solution:
try to make her mindset wrong(i noe it is selfish)
try to ask her out, do stuff or on msn tell her u need some time to private chat -
like is not equals to love ma
treat her like normal friend now. -
actually i not young alrdy..i m 18..but the feeling sux..always emo now..i used to be a jovial guy..sumtym i even think of die liao suan alrdy..
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There is not much advice I can tell u on what u should do... coz, I m not u...Originally posted by goodboyinthemaking:Dear readers,I hope you all can give me opinions on what should i do. Sorry for everyone attention. I has like this particular girl for 6 months already. At the start, she and I were smsing each other sweet smses. One fine day, i confess to her, i told her i like her, i didnt expect she will say she like me too. We thought is too fast and we want to know each other more 1st. Ever since that day, things have become very awkward. I just want to know her better, but she just like me n not love me. She has no feeling for me yet.
Awkward??? U and her experience
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well, maybe excitement in my context, will be tt special feeling u get when u first date e ger
tt tingle of electricity down ur spine when u hold her hands for e first time, ....
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Sorry... I steal the above statement from somewhere coz I feel that it best descript..><
U just lack of the romantic bone... to let her feel how u feel
Every now n then , i m feeling very emo because i duno whether stand a chance. She will always say she is not good enough for me..and ask me to find others. She is someone i really like for the 1st time. I tried to do things for her..but her nature is stubborn and cant be bothered. I can understand why sometimes she ignored me. She just dont want me to feel sad and wait for her. We are both very stubborn, and i know she dun wan to be committed as she prefer to be single. She is independent all the while and hope i can just carry on my life as normal. I cant.
lol... when a girl is in love, she has a choice whether to love or not to love ,meh ???
i just wan to tell her that i will be there for her. Even she turn ugly one day, i
will still like her.
lol... dont tell us... find a suitable time, suitable place and say those to her... we cant translate those to her for u.... -
Keep in Mind that NO ONE makes u feel the way u r feeling now.Originally posted by goodboyinthemaking:actually i not young alrdy..i m 18..but the feeling sux..always emo now..i used to be a jovial guy..sumtym i even think of die liao suan alrdy..
this melancholy feeling is a response u choose to a particular situation. U can choose to response to difficulties in a calm, positive manner , or u can decide to respond with negative emotions.
Negative emotions serve NO useful purpose at all!
Remember that u r definitely responsible for the way u choose to feel. So y not just choose to be jovial again?
Do u control your emotions or do u allow your emotions to control u?
Someone once said, "True maturity comes when u finally realise that no one is coming to rescue" - only u can save yourself. -
AND 18 is a young age!Originally posted by goodboyinthemaking:actually i not young alrdy..i m 18..but the feeling sux..always emo now..i used to be a jovial guy..sumtym i even think of die liao suan alrdy..
u can't even watch R21 movies still dare to say old? -
You know fishing?
Sometimes you have to pull to reel the fish in, sometimes you have to let go the line a bit so the fish will bite harder into yummy worm and the hook.
In your case, I think you need to let go a bit.
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dun be silly my dear...! 18 is a age full of fun and new experiences...... dun ever let the DIE word come in ur mind...!!!!Originally posted by goodboyinthemaking:actually i not young alrdy..i m 18..but the feeling sux..always emo now..i used to be a jovial guy..sumtym i even think of die liao suan alrdy..
i know u feel troubled now, but this is life.. there are always up and down, this emo u feeling now is just a small tiny tweenty hump... Learn to face it...
How to make that gal happy and same as in the past when u cant even get back to the old u...
This might work stay by her and be there for her when ever she has a need praise her when she wore a new pc of clothing or have nice make up encourage her and skip all the negative comments to build her confidence (cos she said she is not gd engh for u, we dunno in wat ways she isn't) give her some rooms when necessary
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TS, ur only 18.......why the negative thoughts. If you really like her & hope to be with her.
Continue to be around her, dun have to be physically there. Just be there when she needs you. TIME will prove your sincererity & she'll grow to like you. But again, there may be no guarantees but you have to ry simply becoz u hope to be with her.
If she was meant to be with you, she will eventually. In the meantime, just perservere on.....fyi, my fren waited 2 years & it worked
Good luck TS -
hm.... ur action will lead u to different outcome...
she still like u as a friend... maybe u and her can be friends then can develop... if not , still can be friend --> can chat casually
at that time when u confess, she is being frank to tell u that she had no feeling for u YET
Now, she know that u like her, I think u still stand a chance but the problem is u dun have the chance to meet her to develop the relationship further..
jia you!
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Just be yourself and hope that she loves you for what you are.
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It is very awkward or you feel very awkward? There is a difference one you know? According to you she very bo chap so how can she bo chap and feel awkward?Originally posted by goodboyinthemaking:yup sometimes..meet her..but now..it is so awkward
co chap means bo chap... I don't see how can bo chap and feel awkward at the same time...
Just ignore the awkward feelings and continue.... jia yew bah.... -
Give her some space. Let her sort out her feelings. I think e best u can do is to just be there for her and give her support. And PLS don always think on the bad side, cheer up a little. Only when you are happy,can u make her happy
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An unrequited one-sided love will only lead you into destruction. She clearly doesn't see you as enough attraction for her to break from her routine.Originally posted by goodboyinthemaking:Dear readers,I hope you all can give me opinions on what should i do. Sorry for everyone attention. I has like this particular girl for 6 months already. At the start, she and I were smsing each other sweet smses. One fine day, i confess to her, i told her i like her, i didnt expect she will say she like me too. We thought is too fast and we want to know each other more 1st. Ever since that day, things have become very awkward. I just want to know her better, but she just like me n not love me. She has no feeling for me yet.
Every now n then , i m feeling very emo because i duno whether stand a chance. She will always say she is not good enough for me..and ask me to find others. She is someone i really like for the 1st time. I tried to do things for her..but her nature is stubborn and cant be bothered. I can understand why sometimes she ignored me. She just dont want me to feel sad and wait for her. We are both very stubborn, and i know she dun wan to be committed as she prefer to be single. She is independent all the while and hope i can just carry on my life as normal. I cant. i just wan to tell her that i will be there for her. Even she turn ugly one day, i will still like her.
Now, i just hope she will like me once again or be back to the past.
A passive love would not be enough motivation for her. Stop that "know each other more" thing. Either be more active, or stop it all together.
Sure, things like "Even she turn ugly one day, i will still like her" sound great on paper.
They just don't work in practical. Take a more active role. Make your presence more known, but don't force it upon her.
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why u alwaysOriginally posted by Darkness_hacker99: -
oh..coz just awkward..she does not have a bf before neither to me..she scare that i will bluff her or sth. I didnt let her know that i am feeling that bad because she is feeling guilty. She has no reason to reject me since i m so good haha..I will wait coz she is worth it. She is quite pretty btw and she thinks i like her because she is pretty. Guys feel attractive when they have pretty girlfriends. I am not that type of person. Sometimes i get jealous especially when her frdster is flooded by desperate guys. She is kind of anti social but she is quite a nice person and treat her friends quite well.