Is good guy being appreciated??
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Hi all, just got some questions to ask.....well, been inside my mind for quite long. Sometimes, I really wonder....is it really true that only "Duo Qing Ren" will then get to be noticed by females out there. My "Duo Qing Ren" here meant normally, playboys. Sometimes... these people are not very handsome, how come they still managed to get some many victims to bed?? I am not trying to ask how to get females to bed, I am just want to know if that are good guys nowadays not being appreciated by females? Why?? Is it that they lack of experience or what? To me, I admit lah huh, I never went on date before, I don't know why, maybe because I was shy when in secondary and too indulge in my schoolwork when I am in Poly. But now, I am 21++ liao. But leh....it seems that although, I am not those kind of "Duo Qing Ren", and also, I am quite "gui ju", how come no one seems to notice me huh?? Is it because I am too short, say around 1.63m? Or is it because nowadays, females prefer to go for flirtish guy?? I really don't understand how come they are so willing to give themselves to those jerks and eventually kenna ditched?? I mean what's the rationale behind it?
Some hope someone can answer this, is it true that REAL NICE GUYS on the street are never appreciated and if you want to get one of the girl of your dreams, never put in 100%, 20% is enough since you should ditch her after you are tired of her?? Funny question, though I used to tell myself, never mind someday I will be appreciated, but I think it is time to ask myself again, is it really worth it to be a nice guy? Who knows if you are nice or not, even a wolf in a sheep clothing might be having a life much better than mine. Basket them..... N do ppl really appreciates the good things you do or rather they will start stepping over you once they know you can be stepped all over without retailating? If this is so, I am really tired of being a good guy, as the saying goes, "Hao Ren Nan Zhuo", being a "Hao Nan Ren Ge Jia Nan Wei"..... Females out there, hope to get your response...... you need lah, at least need to find out where the problems lied in me or rather is there really any. -
haiz..sometime "hao ren mei hao bao"Originally posted by Don:Hi all, just got some questions to ask.....well, been inside my mind for quite long. Sometimes, I really wonder....is it really true that only "Duo Qing Ren" will then get to be noticed by females out there. My "Duo Qing Ren" here meant normally, playboys. Sometimes... these people are not very handsome, how come they still managed to get some many victims to bed?? I am not trying to ask how to get females to bed, I am just want to know if that are good guys nowadays not being appreciated by females? Why?? Is it that they lack of experience or what? To me, I admit lah huh, I never went on date before, I don't know why, maybe because I was shy when in secondary and too indulge in my schoolwork when I am in Poly. But now, I am 21++ liao. But leh....it seems that although, I am not those kind of "Duo Qing Ren", and also, I am quite "gui ju", how come no one seems to notice me huh?? Is it because I am too short, say around 1.63m? Or is it because nowadays, females prefer to go for flirtish guy?? I really don't understand how come they are so willing to give themselves to those jerks and eventually kenna ditched?? I mean what's the rationale behind it? Some hope someone can answer this, is it true that REAL NICE GUYS on the street are never appreciated and if you want to get one of the girl of your dreams, never put in 100%, 20% is enough since you should ditch her after you are tired of her?? Funny question, though I used to tell myself, never mind someday I will be appreciated, but I think it is time to ask myself again, is it really worth it to be a nice guy? Who knows if you are nice or not, even a wolf in a sheep clothing might be having a life much better than mine. Basket them..... N do ppl really appreciates the good things you do or rather they will start stepping over you once they know you can be stepped all over without retailating? If this is so, I am really tired of being a good guy, as the saying goes, "Hao Ren Nan Zhuo", being a "Hao Nan Ren Ge Jia Nan Wei"..... Females out there, hope to get your response...... you need lah, at least need to find out where the problems lied in me or rather is there really any.
u noe wat i mean rite?
Givache 
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see that's why the world is in such a mess never was easy being a so called nice guy so its up to u.. to decide.. lohz..
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nice guy??
never will be appreciated
2 reasons y gers dun wanna be attached in feelings towards u
1 ) u are too nice, i dun wanna be the one to break ur heart if something goes wrong
2) i only treat u as my fren, because none of my "boyfrens" treat me like u do
hahahaha
what nonsensical answers from gers -
Don, alwaz remember this, " A man is marked by what he has achieved, not how he looks " Alwaz remember this! u dun have to be good looking. I mean come on, look at the end of the road, it is those men who can put gold, silver and platinum on the table who are the real winners rather than those who are good looking but dun have a good job, can't give good money to wives, only can drive jap cars for rest of life.. Its money in the end which counts, my fren! Juz observe around u. Dun be so narrow-minded. Girls want fun, they want excitement, they want romance, lovey doey thingy.... but in the end, its still to find a well-to-do husband who can provide for them. Of course if they can find a rich hubby, who is nice, loving too. That is best. Its not looks and being flirtesous which wins in the end. Its how deep your pocket can go! Simple.Originally posted by Don:Hi all, just got some questions to ask.....well, been inside my mind for quite long. Sometimes, I really wonder....is it really true that only "Duo Qing Ren" will then get to be noticed by females out there. My "Duo Qing Ren" here meant normally, playboys. Sometimes... these people are not very handsome, how come they still managed to get some many victims to bed?? I am not trying to ask how to get females to bed, I am just want to know if that are good guys nowadays not being appreciated by females? Why?? Is it that they lack of experience or what? To me, I admit lah huh, I never went on date before, I don't know why, maybe because I was shy when in secondary and too indulge in my schoolwork when I am in Poly. But now, I am 21++ liao. But leh....it seems that although, I am not those kind of "Duo Qing Ren", and also, I am quite "gui ju", how come no one seems to notice me huh?? Is it because I am too short, say around 1.63m? Or is it because nowadays, females prefer to go for flirtish guy?? I really don't understand how come they are so willing to give themselves to those jerks and eventually kenna ditched?? I mean what's the rationale behind it? Some hope someone can answer this, is it true that REAL NICE GUYS on the street are never appreciated and if you want to get one of the girl of your dreams, never put in 100%, 20% is enough since you should ditch her after you are tired of her?? Funny question, though I used to tell myself, never mind someday I will be appreciated, but I think it is time to ask myself again, is it really worth it to be a nice guy? Who knows if you are nice or not, even a wolf in a sheep clothing might be having a life much better than mine. Basket them..... N do ppl really appreciates the good things you do or rather they will start stepping over you once they know you can be stepped all over without retailating? If this is so, I am really tired of being a good guy, as the saying goes, "Hao Ren Nan Zhuo", being a "Hao Nan Ren Ge Jia Nan Wei"..... Females out there, hope to get your response...... you need lah, at least need to find out where the problems lied in me or rather is there really any.
All the love love story is for fun initially, but let the girl hit mid 20s, time to settle down and get serious, money will enter the picture for sure and will start judging u on your financial capability. They wun care so much about ur face or romance, suddenly ur financial capability is ranked first. Of course pple dun like to admit the fact but rather say that love is more important. Of course love is important. But what do u eat with, money or love? think about it.
Dun get so caught up trying to be centre of attention, wanting girls to notice u. what kind of girls would those be? they notice u, they will notice someone better. Make as much females as possible. treat them nicely, try to date here and there. If u are shy, trying going out more often in grps. Dun try to act out the ordinary to attract attention. Useless. But focus on your core goal. Good education, good career, and plan from there. Its time to think like an adult. Let the females do the chasing, cash is alwaz a magnet, u would have no problem with girls noticing u once u are rich and well-liked. U gotta know how to develop your other areas in life. Many pple are gonna disagree with me but as i said, u can only eat with money in this world. Period! Focus on your core goal, everything else is secondary. Gd luck -
haha. maybe this somehow explains the emergence of gay.
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Hrmmm,
I was stuck in the same boat before, not so much in the finding the girl part but in trying to be nice to every1 just to "hopefully" get the girl I wan. Even though sometimes it meant putting my priority last.
Anyway at the end of the day when u feel unappreciated then u start to ponder or get hurt. So now I just do what I want, if I feel like it then I will do something for others. my advice to you. If you feel that you have to put in the effort to make someone feel good but yourself unappreciated or maybe hurt then DON'T DO IT.
Don't need to 360 deg change to become a bastard, just less caring. U'll be suprise how ppl will appreciate u after tat.
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nice guys are always around
its only time that gals will start to appreciate u.
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i aso nice ger leh! bt nv met v nice guys...my love lifes all very suay..ho ho ho....maybe is destined.....maybe my true one have appeared..........
/me waits
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EOI!!.... dn anyhw say lar...aiyo.......maybe u nv know nice gers like me!..........if a guy dn like a gal., he treat her even worse..........Originally posted by AngelDark:nice guy??
never will be appreciated
2 reasons y gers dun wanna be attached in feelings towards u
1 ) u are too nice, i dun wanna be the one to break ur heart if something goes wrong
2) i only treat u as my fren, because none of my "boyfrens" treat me like u do
hahahaha
what nonsensical answers from gers -
If a gal is nice, sure will got guys wanna know her 1 ...Originally posted by Xiao Long Nu:EOI!!.... dn anyhw say lar...aiyo.......maybe u nv know nice gers like me!..........if a guy dn like a gal., he treat her even worse.......... -
what is the topic in discussion??Originally posted by Xiao Long Nu:EOI!!.... dn anyhw say lar...aiyo.......maybe u nv know nice gers like me!..........if a guy dn like a gal., he treat her even worse.......... -
Hi GUYS N GALS OUT THERE,
Thanks for your replies.....as for the money thing, actually, beside lamenting about me being unappreciated for my actions..... the money thingy has never leave my mind..... I know that money is important, and the get a headstart in being loaded with cash, as I say, a headstart, I have finally accomplished a plan I made 8 years ago. That is go enter uni and eventually get a degree. That, I have accomplish about 90%, I managed to be accepted by uni..... so that guy who told me that money is important, actually, that is in my mind always.... Not only for my future wife to be....but or rather I strive for my parents and myself. I hope to provide them with a comfy life. That is one of my ultimate aim. After reading what you ppl have said.....hmmm....well.....I will take note of those important points.....THANKS AGAIN for all your replies.....heheheh Seems like a forceful smile hor??? But serious, thks........ 
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is gd gers being appreciated?
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Ah ma, your sun er zi is one nice guy okay...Originally posted by Xiao Long Nu:i aso nice ger leh! bt nv met v nice guys...my love lifes all very suay..ho ho ho....maybe is destined.....maybe my true one have appeared..........
/me waits -
Yes, definitely. Though they can be dull sometimes.Originally posted by RuthBaby:is gd gers being appreciated? -
Don, a ger fren gave me this advice last time:
Gers like notti boyfriends, cos they noe how to sweet-talk gers. And they also noe how to dress up to attract gers.
But ultimately, gers like guai guai husbands, cos only thru' them could gers find security in a marriage. -
Good guys always finish last, no doubt about tat...
Whereas jerks always get the gals they want -
hey, while most of us had been brought up from young with the correct values, correct things to do, at some point of our lives, we got to stop and think, is being correct, doing the right things, going to get us anywhere?
sometimes, being good is not all that is to it. well i'm not saying we shouldn't be good and all, but we have to be selective.
try to know who appreciates goodness, and be good to them. even better, be good only in areas which would benefit you.
sometimes, the wolf in the sheepskin feed the most
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That's one of the worse contradictions I've ever heard.Originally posted by xavier1979:Don, a ger fren gave me this advice last time:
Gers like notti boyfriends, cos they noe how to sweet-talk gers. And they also noe how to dress up to attract gers.
But ultimately, gers like guai guai husbands, cos only thru' them could gers find security in a marriage.
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hah maybe u too Tiao Ti la .. hehee...Originally posted by Xiao Long Nu:i aso nice ger leh! bt nv met v nice guys...my love lifes all very suay..ho ho ho....maybe is destined.....maybe my true one have appeared..........
/me waits
ur destined remind me of fate ...
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haha this is funny...Originally posted by Xiao Long Nu:EOI!!.... dn anyhw say lar...aiyo.......maybe u nv know nice gers like me!..........if a guy dn like a gal., he treat her even worse..........
Can i say u nv know guys like me oso? haha...
if a gal dun like a guy, she treat him even worse !!! -
Yes yEs yeS!!!Originally posted by RuthBaby:is gd gers being appreciated?
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U nv seen it doesn't meant it nv exists!! -
Originally posted by RebeL:Good guys always finish last, no doubt about tat...
Whereas jerks always get the gals they wantagreed
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no tiao ti lar....no fate .* fate lies on ur hand. but...once u give up..........*sign..Originally posted by Hitakogi:hah maybe u too Tiao Ti la .. hehee...
ur destined remind me of fate ...
haha