Is good guy being appreciated??
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HO ho h0Originally posted by Hitakogi:haha this is funny...
Can i say u nv know guys like me oso? haha...
if a gal dun like a guy, she treat him even worse !!! -
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I think is decision that lies in our hand not ... fate...Originally posted by Xiao Long Nu:no tiao ti lar....no fate .* fate lies on ur hand. but...once u give up..........*sign..
I believe in fate ...
but i think fate dun believe in me ...
So now i think is best to believe in myself ...
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yea i agree... girl dun like you treat you worse!Originally posted by Hitakogi:haha this is funny...
Can i say u nv know guys like me oso? haha...
if a gal dun like a guy, she treat him even worse !!!
i liked a girl... she dun like me, dun say,
got problem onli, keep finding me to help... then one day, i decide that i am not her personal SOS, want help onli, call me out, dun need me onli, kick me 1 corner... kena so many corner kick until i fed up
now i decide i fed up liao
no more stoopig girls like her,,, girl want me, girl come, i bo chaup (but still will buaya chio bu lah) hahahaha -
hey friend ... relax....Originally posted by malphax:yea i agree... girl dun like you treat you worse!
i liked a girl... she dun like me, dun say,
got problem onli, keep finding me to help... then one day, i decide that i am not her personal SOS, want help onli, call me out, dun need me onli, kick me 1 corner... kena so many corner kick until i fed up
now i decide i fed up liao
no more stoopig girls like her,,, girl want me, girl come, i bo chaup
(but still will buaya chio bu lah) hahahaha
if u feel like u kana use,
use her back!
dats wat i do ... i gave her warning... not to fool with fire !
she wil get back 3X of wat she treat me....
buaya chio bu? .. hehe... -
beri evil lehz.....3XOriginally posted by Hitakogi:hey friend ... relax....
if u feel like u kana use,
use her back!
dats wat i do ... i gave her warning... not to fool with fire !
she wil get back 3X of wat she treat me....
buaya chio bu? .. hehe... 
but if u realli like a person...u wouldnt mind being used by her lor
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Kana used by girl...wow lau..this girl realy throw girls' face......this kinda girl u shouldnt have care her..u spoilin her nia..Originally posted by malphax:yea i agree... girl dun like you treat you worse!
i liked a girl... she dun like me, dun say,
got problem onli, keep finding me to help... then one day, i decide that i am not her personal SOS, want help onli, call me out, dun need me onli, kick me 1 corner... kena so many corner kick until i fed up
now i decide i fed up liao
no more stoopig girls like her,,, girl want me, girl come, i bo chaup (but still will buaya chio bu lah) hahahaha -
After years of thinking on whether a good guy will be appreciated by girls, I have notice that it's actually our perception of nice guys.
A guy can be considered nice in terms of guy's perspective, but not to the girls. That was why we have to understand the thinking of girls before we can classified a guy as being nice to girls.
A guy may think that he treat the girl very well with lots of concern and care. He can give gifts to her and bring her out for romantic dinner. But that does not mean that he is being nice to her. Most importantly, a girl will need guy to understand them more than anything else. Understand them and cherish them without the intention of asking anything in return. And that is true love.
Are nice guys able to do that in their mind? Or they treat the girl well because they have other intentions?
If a nice guy can say that he treat the girl well without any intention, but why would he think that he is losing out to other guys in the first place if he doesn't even have any other intentions? This is a question that all the nice guys have to think about. On whether they are being nice to girls naturally, or deep in their mind, they already intend to win the girl's heart?
I do not know if any of you can understand what I am trying to imply here. To all the nice guys here, just be yourself. There is no need to compare yourself with other guys. Girls will appreciate you eventually. -
100% agree.......believe in yrself if u wan to believe in fate then carry on......>>>Originally posted by Hitakogi:I think is decision that lies in our hand not ... fate...
I believe in fate ...
but i think fate dun believe in me ...
So now i think is best to believe in myself ...
the result will suckzzzz -
I dunno what ppl means by being nice to a guy is not the same as being nice to gal. Frankly speakin I dunno tat Cos as I say, never fell into this kind of stuff before. Basically, in pri sch and sec sch, I am shy type..... I tried to be nice with no ulterior intentions or motives....however I was treated like a fool sometimes. I kept telling myself, nvm, they will feel guilty eventually n realised the good in me and give me a chance to be sincere with them. BUT NO! This is not.. Anyway, again I console myself, it is ok, I m moving to Poly, so I just ignored some of them... those tat treated me like a fool. In Poly, again... I dun really know about dates n all those stuff, simply becos, I was just too engrossed with my studies. I walk like a zombie ard, not noticing any ppl ard me including guys. I have to explain to my frens tat I m not dao, just not observant to my surrounding.
Actually to me, if I were to move into a relationship, the thing I tell myself is that, nvr hurt the other party n nvr make the one I like cry, I simply hate tat, or will feel very bad about it if I really do it unintentionally. N, I dun mind if she hurt me, it is ok, cos I can get over things very quickly, hmmm....like about 1 week is more than enough for me to start afresh. I believe one should be able to "na de qi, fang de xia". Do I sound like a weirdo or some cockster tat r tryin to preach?? Sorry guys if I do.....
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Bravo. Xiao ren wu de xin sheng.Originally posted by Don:I dunno what ppl means by being nice to a guy is not the same as being nice to gal. Frankly speakin I dunno tat Cos as I say, never fell into this kind of stuff before. Basically, in pri sch and sec sch, I am shy type..... I tried to be nice with no ulterior intentions or motives....however I was treated like a fool sometimes. I kept telling myself, nvm, they will feel guilty eventually n realised the good in me and give me a chance to be sincere with them. BUT NO! This is not.. Anyway, again I console myself, it is ok, I m moving to Poly, so I just ignored some of them... those tat treated me like a fool. In Poly, again... I dun really know about dates n all those stuff, simply becos, I was just too engrossed with my studies. I walk like a zombie ard, not noticing any ppl ard me including guys. I have to explain to my frens tat I m not dao, just not observant to my surrounding.
Actually to me, if I were to move into a relationship, the thing I tell myself is that, nvr hurt the other party n nvr make the one I like cry, I simply hate tat, or will feel very bad about it if I really do it unintentionally. N, I dun mind if she hurt me, it is ok, cos I can get over things very quickly, hmmm....like about 1 week is more than enough for me to start afresh. I believe one should be able to "na de qi, fang de xia". Do I sound like a weirdo or some cockster tat r tryin to preach?? Sorry guys if I do..... 
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Don
Relax....You are 21+++ and I'm 23+++. So someone should be worry, then that person should be me. I also don't have any GF b4.Not even a date witha any gal b4. I not handspme either. It is also not something to do with height (I'm 187cm). I think it is because your so call "Duo Qin Ren" are more skillful in term of communication. They are more fun and thrilled to be with as quoted by some gals in the newspaper. Your so call " Gui Ju" guys are more "dull in thinking. All the things we can think of to say to them are say to be boring or even places to go. But Singapore is so small, what fun places can we come up with.
So don't be too bother with issue like this. Just let nature take its course. Someone will eventually notice you one day as advise by many of my gal friends. -
'Nice' guy or 'bad' guy? Basically there is no such crap... it is only a definition to categorized what kind of lovers guys are. 'Nice' guys always hate 'bad' guys because they don't understand why these 'bad' guys are treating their woman like shit - but those girls are still sticking to them like glue.
HEY YOU... those who presume that you are under the 'nice' guy catergory...
Two of you have individual luck, have 24 hrs a day, same time, same days, etc.... therefore all those crap is not the problem.
What about looks?
You stroll the streets and look at 'bad' guys... most of them don't fall under the category of good looking... so good looks is left out.
Money? Perhaps?... Rare few species of woman would sacrifice their pride and dignity in exchange for enjoyment of monetary gains from the 'bad' guy... but those are *THOSE* cases - and I know you gonna start another tread saying Rich guys are bastard guys... PRECEPTION ERROR... *enuff said*
You are left with character... so whats the difference between a 'nice' guy and a 'bad' guy?
Dear, Yunhaier
*Hey... I am a 'nice' guy, and I just DON'T understand why she would rather stick with him THAN to give me a chance to me and herself on how much better I would treat her*...
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Mr 'NIce' guy... you are nice... so define 'nice'. And because you are so 'NICE', this major character, sort of, occupied alot of space in your character crate, which you most likely have miss out the important goods of 'Etiquette', Charm', 'Humor' and most important of all... 'Self confidence.' that is so essential to be placed within at all times. It appears that you seemed to spend most of your time with this preception error... and never really did much of a reflect on yourself to see why is things happening.
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Come on... everything happens for a reason... what I am trying to say is that making assumption and comments is easy, but is that useful? Its their life, not yours and all they could do is just one sentence and you would hold your tongue... 'What does it got to do with you?' Bastard guys are good are expressing themselves... they have self confidence and make woman feel good being around them. Some are fun.. others are interesting... regardless... they either make woman feel special, first-love, different or simply win them over totally. First time when they got into a relation... they ain't that good... but hey... this method works. He will try again... and it works again... they confidences grows within them. Sooner or later... they get pro in what they are doing.
'Nice' guys, continue to be yourself and don't suit to change just because it works for someone else - You are not him and you have one thing 'bad' guys may never have... moral assumption of what love is.
The Love Eco-system... *newly founded system by me*... most who understand it... will know when to play 'good' guys and when to play the villian.
Cheers -
Nice' guy or 'bad' guy? Basically there is no such crap... it is only a definition to categorized what kind of lovers guys are. 'Nice' guys always hate 'bad' guys because they don't understand why these 'bad' guys are treating their woman like shit - but those girls are still sticking to them like glue.
HEY YOU... those who presume that you are under the 'nice' guy catergory...
Two of you have individual luck, have 24 hrs a day, same time, same days, etc.... therefore all those crap is not the problem.
What about looks?
You stroll the streets and look at 'bad' guys... most of them don't fall under the category of good looking... so good looks is left out.
Money? Perhaps?... Rare few species of woman would sacrifice their pride and dignity in exchange for enjoyment of monetary gains from the 'bad' guy... but those are *THOSE* cases - and I know you gonna start another tread saying Rich guys are bastard guys... PRECEPTION ERROR... *enuff said*
You are left with character... so whats the difference between a 'nice' guy and a 'bad' guy?
Dear, Yunhaier
*Hey... I am a 'nice' guy, and I just DON'T understand why she would rather stick with him THAN to give me a chance to me and herself on how much better I would treat her*...
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Mr 'NIce' guy... you are nice... so define 'nice'. And because you are so 'NICE', this major character, sort of, occupied alot of space in your character crate, which you most likely have miss out the important goods of 'Etiquette', Charm', 'Humor' and most important of all... 'Self confidence.' that is so essential to be placed within at all times. It appears that you seemed to spend most of your time with this preception error... and never really did much of a reflect on yourself to see why is things happening.
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Come on... everything happens for a reason... what I am trying to say is that making assumption and comments is easy, but is that useful? Its their life, not yours and all they could do is just one sentence and you would hold your tongue... 'What does it got to do with you?' Bastard guys are good are expressing themselves... they have self confidence and make woman feel good being around them. Some are fun.. others are interesting... regardless... they either make woman feel special, first-love, different or simply win them over totally. First time when they got into a relation... they ain't that good... but hey... this method works. He will try again... and it works again... they confidences grows within them. Sooner or later... they get pro in what they are doing.
'Nice' guys, continue to be yourself and don't suit to change just because it works for someone else - You are not him and you have one thing 'bad' guys may never have... moral assumption of what love is.
The Love Eco-system... *newly founded system by me*... those who understand it... will know when to play 'good' guys and when to play the villian.
Cheers -
similarily, is gd gals being appreciate also?Originally posted by Don:Hi all, just got some questions to ask.....well, been inside my mind for quite long. Sometimes, I really wonder....is it really true that only "Duo Qing Ren" will then get to be noticed by females out there. My "Duo Qing Ren" here meant normally, playboys. Sometimes... these people are not very handsome, how come they still managed to get some many victims to bed?? I am not trying to ask how to get females to bed, I am just want to know if that are good guys nowadays not being appreciated by females? Why?? Is it that they lack of experience or what? To me, I admit lah huh, I never went on date before, I don't know why, maybe because I was shy when in secondary and too indulge in my schoolwork when I am in Poly. But now, I am 21++ liao. But leh....it seems that although, I am not those kind of "Duo Qing Ren", and also, I am quite "gui ju", how come no one seems to notice me huh?? Is it because I am too short, say around 1.63m? Or is it because nowadays, females prefer to go for flirtish guy?? I really don't understand how come they are so willing to give themselves to those jerks and eventually kenna ditched?? I mean what's the rationale behind it?
Some hope someone can answer this, is it true that REAL NICE GUYS on the street are never appreciated and if you want to get one of the girl of your dreams, never put in 100%, 20% is enough since you should ditch her after you are tired of her?? Funny question, though I used to tell myself, never mind someday I will be appreciated, but I think it is time to ask myself again, is it really worth it to be a nice guy? Who knows if you are nice or not, even a wolf in a sheep clothing might be having a life much better than mine. Basket them..... N do ppl really appreciates the good things you do or rather they will start stepping over you once they know you can be stepped all over without retailating? If this is so, I am really tired of being a good guy, as the saying goes, "Hao Ren Nan Zhuo", being a "Hao Nan Ren Ge Jia Nan Wei"..... Females out there, hope to get your response...... you need lah, at least need to find out where the problems lied in me or rather is there really any. i guess its juz a matter of ur luck, whether u will get to meet the one who really appreciates u...but mind u, even if gd guy n gd gal gets together, if no effort is put in, both will take each other 4 granded over time...so do count ur blessing...