Just asking...
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Waiting would only take forever. You have to take the initiative. Make sure your intentions are known to her. If she did not reject you even after you have make known your intentions (perhaps subtly), then it's a high chance of a green light.
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After much thinking, i feel that i have fallen for her. If i am to confess my feeling for her through email or msn, does it seems that i am not sincere? I am prepare to get rejected though... sian.. pls advice.
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If you want to confess to her, you should at least confess to her in a unique way. Don't try to be like those channel 8 drama shows where they just confess right in the face but it's so boring. Confessing on email or msn might just show you do not have the courage to tell her in the face. Which one has more effect when saying I love you: In sms, on a phone or in the face? It's easier saying it in sms, but it has the shortest effect, compared to a "in the face", where the effect will be there.
Of course, i'm not saying you should just rush up to her and confess to her. Take her out on a date again, and confess to her then. Think of those unique ways, like this video here. It's from the movie Love Actually, and i haven't got a chance to watch it though
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rA8q2iTTj14
It's good that you are prepared to be rejected, but why raise the white flag so early? You never know whether you will suceed.
To me, confessing one's love is not only to let the opposing party know your feelings for them, but to make an lasting impression.
My, i seem to be in a frenzy
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ur reply is a bit too late.. but thanks anyway
I did my confession through email though....
But her reply is she is kinda touched by my sincerity but want to remain as a friend with me due to her oncoming heavy workload (i am also anticipating lot of uni work to come on my way) and also she says we can go out for outing as usual. She says I dun know her well enough (i agreed cos we only met for 5 mths), maybe we can try to get to know each other first. Therefore, i think i will just go out more with her and try to know more about her before i continue any further. I think i am not totally rejected though.. but i could be just to slow to understand her real meaning... dun know what she says is truth or trying not to hurt me
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She is giving u chance lah...Originally posted by Uncertain:ur reply is a bit too late.. but thanks anyway
I did my confession through email though....
But her reply is she is kinda touched by my sincerity but want to remain as a friend with me due to her oncoming heavy workload (i am also anticipating lot of uni work to come on my way) and also she says we can go out for outing as usual. She says I dun know her well enough (i agreed cos we only met for 5 mths), maybe we can try to get to know each other first. Therefore, i think i will just go out more with her and try to know more about her before i continue any further. I think i am not totally rejected though.. but i could be just to slow to understand her real meaning... dun know what she says is truth or trying not to hurt me
lol... at least, u upgraded one lvl that is :
2) She understand yr agenda but still have no feelings for u.
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Is she working on in uni as well? To me, this does not really sound like due to her heavy workload, but rather, due to a variety of other factors.Originally posted by Uncertain:ur reply is a bit too late.. but thanks anyway
I did my confession through email though....
But her reply is she is kinda touched by my sincerity but want to remain as a friend with me due to her oncoming heavy workload (i am also anticipating lot of uni work to come on my way) and also she says we can go out for outing as usual. She says I dun know her well enough (i agreed cos we only met for 5 mths), maybe we can try to get to know each other first. Therefore, i think i will just go out more with her and try to know more about her before i continue any further. I think i am not totally rejected though.. but i could be just to slow to understand her real meaning... dun know what she says is truth or trying not to hurt me
1. Testing your patience
2. Making sure you are really true
3. She is unsure herself and needs time to decide. This answer gives her some time to reflect upon this matter.
4. Making sure that you are not having just a short-term crush.
5. Worst case scenario: don't know how or don't have the heart to reject you
I may be wrong, but those are what I can come up with at the moment. I dun think 5 mths is a short time. The importance of dating, to me, is to get to know each other better. She may be right that you do not know her well enough, but isn't it better to learn more about each other when u r together?
My advice: don't stop, yet do not be desperate. Send her suggestive smses, but not too much to the point of irritation; she has not accepted u yet. Plan more outings/dates, and let it be for the moment. -
There's still hope. Just know her better for now. She didn't say there's no chemistry between the both of you right?
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To: ispyy
Thanks for the encouragement, i will try harder by dating her more.
To: eagle
Ya i think maybe u are wrong cos she is going to be a signed-on Female Military Officer, thus, it is going to be heavy-going for her. Anyway, thanks for ur analysis
To: RssDumbSter
She didn't say no chemistry but just wanna keep it at friend level first.... may have chance to proceed further though -
hmmm... seems like yr target is more rational than emotional... ><
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Bro, she didnt say no. So u can juz continue moving forward.
If she say as frens 1st, den move forward slowly lor.
No point in rushing to it.
Let the love slowly seep in to her
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Actually i plan to date her as friends for the next four years before proceeding anywhere further as we will be busy with Uni work. During these four years, it will be the time we get to know each other deeper
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isn't 4 years a bit too long?Originally posted by Uncertain:Actually i plan to date her as friends for the next four years before proceeding anywhere further as we will be busy with Uni work. During these four years, it will be the time we get to know each other deeper -
Ya but i think i will ask her to be my gf in a couple of years time. 4 years is just to make her feel that there is ample time for her to consider about the r/s.Originally posted by TerenceYYK:isn't 4 years a bit too long? -
4 yrs really very very long....
Time frame 4 yrs is probably enough to date, marry and maybe have kids... But, anyway, it depends on that girl lah... -
Agree. 4 years... Aren't you going to be worried if she suddenly falls in love with another guy?Originally posted by ispyyy:4 yrs really very very long....
Time frame 4 yrs is probably enough to date, marry and maybe have kids... But, anyway, it depends on that girl lah...
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well she is 19 and i am 21, so no hurry. I do worry that i may lose her to the other guy in this long 4 years but like i said earlier she needs to know me more before she can accept me. Therefore, this period will be like a probation period for both of us. I will try to shower my care and love is a subtle way and hope i still like her and she still like me by then. If somehow one of us wanna quit from this, then we will just have to let it go and just be friend. If she really fallen for the other guy, i can only give my blessing and hope the guy treats her well... at most i just heartache a bit then will just continue with life. Love is mutual... it takes 2 hands to clap really....
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haiz... sian... i told her that it is fine to be friend now but then she is ignoring me. Didn't reply to my message and msn. Miss her quite badly... dun know can still be friend or not... maybe she don't have to heart to reject me, so she decided to ignore me... ... first time i feel like crying after so long... Ya thanks guy for all ur advice
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first time going after a gal?Originally posted by Uncertain:haiz... sian... i told her that it is fine to be friend now but then she is ignoring me. Didn't reply to my message and msn. Miss her quite badly... dun know can still be friend or not... maybe she don't have to heart to reject me, so she decided to ignore me... ... first time i feel like crying after so long... Ya thanks guy for all ur advice -
Not the first time going after girl, but nv have a relationship before. Today, she kinda reply me in 2-3 words only, wanna show my care and concern but it isn't appreciated at all..... sian