Misconceptions of Love
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Look at the people around you and look at the threads/posts in this forum...
What are the common misconceptions of love?
here's one....
if you think like that... *sigh* you are heading for trouble...Originally posted by thawhammer:erm sometimes theres no right or wrong. love is a feeling. just follow ur feelings. i am sure at some point of time in life we know someone is just not the one for us but it is beyond our control
Love is a feeling like hunger is a feeling and just as when you are hungry, you have to handle that hungry feeling well... know what food to eat to stay healthy, avoid poisonous food and so on... you too must know how to handle your feelings of love well or you will be in trouble... -
For me, I believe love is a commitment, not just a "feeling".
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You want me to change the title to Good concepts of Love?Originally posted by Crystal_Dumpling:For me, I believe love is a commitment, not just a "feeling". 
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im just saying what i think mahOriginally posted by AndrewPKYap:You want me to change the title to Good concepts of Love? -
Agree. But the problem is, the more you love someone, the harder it is to handle the feelings of love. At times, you feel so disappointed with somebody for doing something that could jolly well be classified under harmless, and you are only behaving in that way because you love that somebody too much.Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:Love is a feeling like hunger is a feeling and just as when you are hungry, you have to handle that hungry feeling well... know what food to eat to stay healthy, avoid poisonous food and so on... you too must know how to handle your feelings of love well or you will be in trouble... -
Has TS ever been in love?
Or rather, have you ever been in a relationship? -
Love is War!
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Initial period : Love
As time passes by : Responsibility
Applies to many cases I believe. -
love is just another fucking bored process that i would not wana repeat...
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tsk tsk, cannot edit posts too many times.Originally posted by MooKu:Has TS ever been in love?
Or rather, have you ever been in a relationship?
Actually, ignore the second question. -
Originally posted by rathcycle:
On any of my lousy days, I agree 101% with you on that.
love is just another fuc[b]king bored process that i would not wana repeat...[/b] -
Once, my heart instantly 'recognises' someone special a few years back. But I was with someone at that momment. The person now belonged to someone else. I will always remember those words "I would have chosen you if I knew you earlier".
I guess I was with the wrong person, the wrong time. Cest la vie~ -
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darkie really love the Go button on "search" alot....Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99: -
I feel sorry for the one whom you thought was the wrong person.Originally posted by DC+:Once, my heart instantly 'recognises' someone special a few years back. But I was with someone at that momment. The person now belonged to someone else. I will always remember those words "I would have chosen you if I knew you earlier".
I guess I was with the wrong person, the wrong time. Cest la vie~ -
Nah.. I particularly favorite this thread because of its usefulness. When I'm free, I'll return to that thread and ponder over something.Originally posted by rathcycle:darkie really love the Go button on "search" alot.... -
And lots of communication and understanding. Any "feelings", I feel, is applicable perhaps solely to the initial stages.Originally posted by Crystal_Dumpling:For me, I believe love is a commitment, not just a "feeling". -
When you think of something, be careful not to think in terms of this/that, yes/no, right/wrong (fallacy of the missing middle) when it is actually a continuum.
Love is a commitment.... how true/false?Originally posted by Crystal_Dumpling:For me, I believe love is a commitment, not just a "feeling".
Like, if the other person is unfaithful, will you still be committed to the relationship if you say that Love is a commitment?
I will call this concept: "Love/lovers are like suicide bombers... extremists" (example as per original post)Originally posted by tingal79:Agree. But the problem is, the more you love someone, the harder it is to handle the feelings of love. At times, you feel so disappointed with somebody for doing something that could jolly well be classified under harmless, and you are only behaving in that way because you love that somebody too much.
or Love is/or breeds conflict... without love, there will be no conflicts... this one is clearly a misconception (poster trying to be funny nia... I think) but why is there a possibility that love breeds conflict and can anything be done about it?Originally posted by lageihsif:Love is War!
Love is initially a feeling but becomes a responsibility (I don't know if poster means "becomes a responsibility" with the feelings attached or "becomes a responsibility" without the original feelings of love attached... or "becomes a responsibility" as in becomes a burden, is burdensome and to be avoided.Originally posted by No9:Initial period : Love
As time passes by : Responsibility
Applies to many cases I believe.
Love is an experience that no amount of intellectual reduction (errr... analysis) can help people understand what it is?Originally posted by rathcycle:love is just another fuc[b]king bored process that i would not wana repeat...[/b][/quote]Love is "boring"? Love is a process? Love is abhorrent, and not to be repeated? hmmmmmmm
[quote]Originally posted by MooKu:
Has TS ever been in love?
Or rather, have you ever been in a relationship?
ANDOriginally posted by DC+:Once, my heart instantly 'recognises' someone special a few years back. But I was with someone at that momment. The person now belonged to someone else. I will always remember those words "I would have chosen you if I knew you earlier".
I guess I was with the wrong person, the wrong time. Cest la vie~
Love is a person/another person?Originally posted by MooKu:I feel sorry for the one whom you thought was the wrong person.
ANDOriginally posted by Darkness_hacker99:Time to bring out the old threads.
Love is an old thread and the GO button? hahahaha just jokingOriginally posted by rathcycle:darkie really love the Go button on "search" alot....
Love is "lots of communication and understanding" and "feelings of love" are "applicable perhaps solely to the initial stages"?Originally posted by eagle:And lots of communication and understanding. Any "feelings", I feel, is applicable perhaps solely to the initial stages. -
Or may I put it as relationship?Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:Love is "lots of communication and understanding" and "feelings of love" are "applicable perhaps solely to the initial stages"? -
That's what I was thinking and was about to correct you... but I decided "Love without "relationship" "... what in the world is that?Originally posted by eagle:Or may I put it as relationship? -
I was about to say love without relationship tooOriginally posted by AndrewPKYap:That's what I was thinking and was about to correct you... but I decided "Love without "relationship" "... what in the world is that?
But I suddenly wondered why can't there be love without relationship, if we define relationship as bgr? -
How about this quote from a novel/movie, "Love Story": Love Means Never Having to Say you are Sorry
BTW this noel has a very interesting history/background.
The writer was a professor in literature and he analyzed all the Love Stories that were ever written and he came out with a formula.
Rich Guy
Poor Girl
Family disapproval
Together against all odds, at last
Then girl gets terminal illness....
I bet some of you just from reading the few lines above felt a lump in your throat...
The human brain... *sigh* -
How will that work? bgr - "boy girl relationship" without the relationship?Originally posted by eagle:I was about to say love without relationship too
But I suddenly wondered why can't there be love without relationship, if we define relationship as bgr? -
It sounds very drama-like.Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:How about this quote from a novel/movie, "Love Story": Love Means Never Having to Say you are Sorry
BTW this noel has a very interesting history/background.
The writer was a professor in literature and he analyzed all the Love Stories that were ever written and he came out with a formula.
Rich Guy
Poor Girl
Family disapproval
Together against all odds, at last
Then girl gets terminal illness....
I bet some of you just from reading the few lines above felt a lump in your throat...
The human brain... *sigh*
But the most touching love stories are those of real life old couples, with one spouse having a terminal illness...
Or love in the sense of loving one's children... Taking care of them unconditionally even though they are incapable of doing anything else -
To me, one-sided love is still love... It only becomes a relationship when your love is returnedOriginally posted by AndrewPKYap:How will that work? bgr - "boy girl relationship" without the relationship?