Misconceptions of Love
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That is why we have to discuss it... so that everyone is clear what their own mis/conceptions of love are...Originally posted by soulwinner:Hmm... very hard to definition love as each individual hold on to their own belief... -
and if you have good thinking skills, you will be able to recognise which problems do not have solutions and which problems will go away by itself...Originally posted by MooKu:I'm not talking about imaginary problems. What I'm saying is, if you're not so intelligent, sometimes you won't even see problems when they're right in front of you. And as I said, some problems don't have solutions, and some problems don't need solving - they just disappear on their own.
and if you are not aware of problems that are staring you right in front of you... you are just lucky if it does not blow up in your face...
There is good, better and best... ok maybe not best.. just better and even better...Originally posted by MooKu:Yes, good thinking skills can help you to get out of the fix. I only said this because you said "you might not even get into the difficulties in the first place".
Is it possible to know what is wrong without knowing what is right, or is there a 'right' in the first place?
Thinking takes effort and people prefer to sit in front of the TV rather than read a book because reading is more difficult than watching TV. People prefer to watch Deal or No Deal than to watch Discovery because Deal or No Deal does not require any thinking...Originally posted by MooKu:If "nobody is perfect" is a lousy excuse for having poor thinking skills, why is it that today there are still so many people with poor thinking skills?
There is good, better and even better... If people take the attitude, "Man cannot know everything so don't try to find out anything.... you will still be living in a cave instead of typing on your computer chatting with me.Originally posted by MooKu:Going back to the topic on "love", you can try to 'rationalize love', or have terrific thinking skills to know what to do when you run into problems that are love-related. But love is a very overwhelming emotion. Even if you have written several books on relationship advice, you might not be able to do what you know you're supposed to do when the problem comes. Love is blind - love is blinding too.
See the opening post of this thread re "rational" love... -
1) Have you been in love before?Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:Look at the people around you and look at the threads/posts in this forum...
What are the common misconceptions of love?
here's one....
if you think like that... *sigh* you are heading for trouble...
Love is a feeling like hunger is a feeling and just as when you are hungry, you have to handle that hungry feeling well... know what food to eat to stay healthy, avoid poisonous food and so on... you too must know how to handle your feelings of love well or you will be in trouble...
2) How many love cycles have you been through?
3) Have your love one ever die in front of you and you cannot do anything about it?
4) Have you been dump before ?
5) Tell me your best love life.
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Hmmm okay... but when you recognize the problems that don't have solutions and the problems that will go away by itself, what will you do about them?
There is good, better and best... ok maybe not best.. just better and even better...
So can I assume that you do not think there are any correct conceptions of love?Thinking takes effort and people prefer to sit in front of the TV rather than read a book because reading is more difficult than watching TV. People prefer to watch Deal or No Deal than to watch Discovery because Deal or No Deal does not require any thinking...
So does that mean they chose to have poor thinking skills because they have poor thinking skills? Why do they have poor thinking skills? -
I rather not get so personal....Originally posted by zeny:1) Have you been in love before?
2) How many love cycles have you been through?
3) Have your love one ever die in front of you and you cannot do anything about it?
4) Have you been dump before ?
5) Tell me your best love life.
6) Tell me your worst love life. -
Since you may or may not have not being through love itself, how do you know what is the true meaing of misconceptions of love?Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:I rather not get so personal....
I agree we should respect your choice of not going to your personal love life.
Thanks very much for bring up the topic by the way.
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I think you have to give a "for instance"....Originally posted by MooKu:Hmmm okay... but when you recognize the problems that don't have solutions and the problems that will go away by itself, what will you do about them?
There are better conceptions of love... and why go through this exercise? Why think about it? Why discuss it? Why express your opinions?Originally posted by MooKu:So can I assume that you do not think there are any correct conceptions of love?
Issn't that obvious?
For example, you can improve your thinking skills by participating in discussions like this. How many simply just read the threads and never participate? If you participate, you will improve your thinking skills because writing "properly" requires thinking. If you play football you will increase your footballing skills.Originally posted by MooKu:So does that mean they chose to have poor thinking skills because they have poor thinking skills? Why do they have poor thinking skills?
If you watch football, you will improve your football watching skills..... -
I rather this be a "community effort" and we struggle through this together and you are welcomed....Originally posted by zeny:Since you may or may not have not being through love itself, how do you know what is the true meaing of misconceptions of love?
I agree we should respect your choice of not going to your personal love life.
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Hmmm I have to give an example? I thought you agreed with me such problems exist because you said I would be able to recognize them with good thinking skills, so I thought you would've known what I was talking about.
So there aren't any right conceptions about love? If there aren't any right conceptions, how can there be "misconceptions of love"?There are better conceptions of love... and why go through this exercise? Why think about it? Why discuss it? Why express your opinions?
Where's the link? I didn't question why we're here discussing conceptions of love. I merely started out by asking why we need to learn how to think properly.
Issn't that obvious?
You haven't answered my question - why do people have poor thinking skills? May I make a humble attempt to paraphrase your words, please correct me if I've misunderstood that point - you said that people improve by doing.
In the other thread, you implied that you're helping people with this thread. You started out by correcting the so-called 'misconceptions' of love, but at this point we ended up having a discussion on thinking skills. Do you have poor thinking skills that led you to go off-topic, or you have some other motive for starting some of the threads you start? -
I do not see why I cannot discuss thinking skills with you while I discuss conceptions/mis of love with others...
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I have answered this question in an earlier post, please refer to it...Originally posted by MooKu:You haven't answered my question - why do people have poor thinking skills? -
Of course you can.Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:I do not see why I cannot discuss thinking skills with you while I discuss conceptions/mis of love with others...
But in the other thread, your stated intention of this thread was to help people. I'm not going to harp on why I think your topic title is erroneous and I am so reluctant to repeat myself for the third time, but now nearly half your thread has gone off topic. If you had good thinking skills, you would've recognized that deviation and quickly led me away elsewhere to continue the discussion so as not to spoil the good intention your thread bore. I can't find the answer you were talking about, that's why I kept asking.
Ugh I don't like to sound like this.
Sorry Andrew.
Er, can I leave the thread? -
Who gets to say what ideas are misconceptions and what qualifies them to pronounce these ideas as minconceptions?
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Many threads have also gone off topic, for example:Originally posted by MooKu:.. I'm not going to harp on why I think your topic title is erroneous and I am so reluctant to repeat myself for the third time, but now nearly half your thread has gone off topic. If you had good thinking skills, you would've recognized that deviation and quickly led me away elsewhere to continue the discussion so as not to spoil the good intention your thread bore...?
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=264269
But they have their own fun factor.
On a serious note, it is weekend and my brain is not really functioning well, not that it functions well on weekdays. So I am not really able to catch up with all the questions. I think love is a lot simpler than this.
It is not as theoretical as we think it should be. In fact, I think the less you know about love, the happier you are with love.
I am dead serious. -
Just to add on to my previous post.
That is also the reason why my life is going downhill. It's at its best when it was 18. -
Don't you think this is like saying when you are hungry, just eat whatever you want.. the less you know, the happier you are eating?Originally posted by tingal79:On a serious note, it is weekend and my brain is not really functioning well, not that it functions well on weekdays. So I am not really able to catch up with all the questions. I think love is a lot simpler than this. It is not as theoretical as we think it should be. In fact, I think the less you know about love, the happier you are with love.
I am dead serious.
So is this a conception/mis: "the less you know about love, the happier you are with love"?