Hurt and confused, Need advise pls
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yes, it was a very bad mistake....move on & be a better person shld u embark on another R/SOriginally posted by maskedangel:yeah, thnks all for the comment and advise. i noe its my fault and all. I'm trying hard, even though it may be too late.
Maybe letting go is the best for the both of us. She gets her freedom, and i learn my hard lesson.
thnks alot guys . I guess its a lesson learnt, don hold too tight, cos instead of keeping it, i lose it. Guess there's no point in holding on already.
and its not a matter of ego or anithing. I've even begged in public, on my knees. yeah, its pathetic, but it was too much too let go den.
Thnks once again
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Yeah, thanks guys. I get to see a clearer picture after hearing wad u all have to say.
I'll be a better person once i get over it.
Thnks once again for spending ur time replying me
Cheers to all
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Love her?
Change for her...
you need to change your attitude bro! -
To tell u frankly, u've got to change.
I've got a very very good female friend, his boyfriend is just like you.
We always walk and take the train together after sch coz on the way, and his boyfriend warns her of me, and even throw tempers and quarrel with her if we heads home together.
The boyfriend remember's her timetable damn fucking well, which days have tests, etc... He knows sch ends at 4.p.m exact, or she can leave at 4 even if haven end, so he times her. If she haven reach home by 4.45, she gets it.
She cant go out with her friends, girls or guys. There was more then once, she went out with all of us, the boyfriend called her and scolded her till she cry in the public.
She works part time, and works in a retail fashion stall. There will be days they work late, or do stock takes. If she works late even for 5 mins, she gets it. Once was worst, the boyfriend went down and waited for her, she did not come out of the shopping mall within 10 mins, he went in and fucked the IC up side down.
Whenever they are together (i mean as in really together physically), the guy is damn fucking sweet bla bla bla, but whenever he is not by her side, he turns into a monster.
Although my friend loves the boyfriend very very much, she cannott ake it and talked to me about breaking up a few times.
Look here, the person who suffer when you do all those stuffs, is your gf, not you.
Imagine the position you put her in.
Imagine the amount of freedom she has to give up coz of u
Imagine the enjoyments she have to give up because of u
Imagine the friends she lost coz of u
The list goes on and on.
You really better change. -
/me stab DC+ until DC+ DC.Originally posted by DC+:A short post by Yunhan!!
*feels shortchanged*
/leaves thread
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somehow this reminds me of B.A.D's wo de cuo..
http://tabulas.com/~lefhen/content/22127.html
If you love her enough, you'll learn to curb your temper and if fate allows it, you'll be back together with her..[/url] -
i love her, and im trying to curb my temper for my own good.Originally posted by _Aaron_:somehow this reminds me of B.A.D's wo de cuo..
http://tabulas.com/~lefhen/content/22127.html
If you love her enough, you'll learn to curb your temper and if fate allows it, you'll be back together with her..[/url]
And i guess so too, if fate allows it.
I'm never gonna be that stupid again. Trust me. Thnks for the comment -
Good luck..!Originally posted by maskedangel:i love her, and im trying to curb my temper for my own good.
And i guess so too, if fate allows it.
I'm never gonna be that stupid again. Trust me. Thnks for the comment
And do keep us updated..~ -
Try your best!! Seems like from your post, you already know what 'frustrated' her. But yeah, whether you can get her back or not, it depends on fate too. Try to be more open, as you most probably have already and tired to hear of 'there are still many girls out there'.Originally posted by maskedangel:i love her, and im trying to curb my temper for my own good.
And i guess so too, if fate allows it.
I'm never gonna be that stupid again. Trust me. Thnks for the comment -
You should get on with life.Show her you can do better without her..Originally posted by maskedangel:Can any1 tell me whats the possible scenarios or steps i should take? i realli love her. Help me with some wise words of advise pls
*i know its hard, i been through it.
11 months is more of "getting used" to having her by your side.
Possible senierior>She cannot tahan ur anger/charactor,however guai lan guys can be, also hv to pamper gals,sweettalk them.Hope u never lay hand on her..
Advice is only "Get Over It"
* It should seems not advice to you. but..try to get over it.
Get to know a new group of friend/ladies.Start from there again, you never know what surprice awaits you.
If you die die want her back>Give her time,let her hv her own time to think to decide whether does she charish ur 11 mths...
If she die die dun want toy,, Take it lik a man>Let her know she is not worthly for ur love.
Its part of life...Good Luck.
Dun gv up rainforect bcos of a tree.
Live life to fullest.Jia you !! -
x2. agreed.Originally posted by bo liao:You should get on with life.Show her you can do better without her..
*i know its hard, i been through it.
11 months is more of "getting used" to having her by your side.
Possible senierior>She cannot tahan ur anger/charactor,however guai lan guys can be, also hv to pamper gals,sweettalk them.Hope u never lay hand on her..
Advice is only "Get Over It"
* It should seems not advice to you. but..try to get over it.
Get to know a new group of friend/ladies.Start from there again, you never know what surprice awaits you.
If you die die want her back>Give her time,let her hv her own time to think to decide whether does she charish ur 11 mths...
If she die die dun want toy,, Take it lik a man>Let her know she is not worthly for ur love.
Its part of life...Good Luck.
Dun gv up rainforect bcos of a tree.
Live life to fullest.Jia you !! Ganbatte -
You said "I'm never gonna be that stupid again".... and are you sure that it is due to stupidity?Originally posted by maskedangel:i love her, and im trying to curb my temper for my own good.
And i guess so too, if fate allows it.
I'm never gonna be that stupid again. Trust me. Thnks for the comment
Stupid:
1. Slow to learn or understand; obtuse.
2. Tending to make poor decisions or careless mistakes.
3. Marked by a lack of intelligence or care; foolish or careless: a stupid mistake.
4. Dazed, stunned, or stupefied.
5. Pointless; worthless: a stupid job.
and so which definition of stupid did you mean?
2. "Tending to make poor decisions or careless mistakes."?
You also said:
"im trying to curb my temper for my own good."
How not to be stupid (def 2) and how to curb your temper.... good luck to you... if you work at it, it might take years.... you need a philosophy of life.... -
Erm, im not sure whether u're trying to shoot me or help me.Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:You said "I'm never gonna be that stupid again".... and are you sure that it is due to stupidity?
Stupid:
1. Slow to learn or understand; obtuse.
2. Tending to make poor decisions or careless mistakes.
3. Marked by a lack of intelligence or care; foolish or careless: a stupid mistake.
4. Dazed, stunned, or stupefied.
5. Pointless; worthless: a stupid job.
and so which definition of stupid did you mean?
2. "Tending to make poor decisions or careless mistakes."?
You also said:
"im trying to curb my temper for my own good."
How not to be stupid (def 2) and how to curb your temper.... good luck to you... if you work at it, it might take years.... you need a philosophy of life....
I guess im on definition 3.
i was foolish and careless in making my decisions.
And by trying to curb my temper, im trying to say tad i'll try to change to be a better person.
I'm admitting my mistake for the failure of my relationship. Give me a break, pls.
Yeah, im also tired of hearing 'there are still many girls out there', but thats the real fact i guess. Thnks ^mR.yellow^86 and bo liao. and all others name not mentioned. -
move on dont look back. no point to get back together. change and find another girl start life anew.
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Not shoot you lah... just trying to tell you to face facts... like if you really want to control your anger, just "wanting to" wont help you de. You must read up on anger management or learn relaxation techniques and so on. I am afraid that you do not know that and assume that just because you know what your problem is and you want to change, you can.Originally posted by maskedangel:Erm, im not sure whether u're trying to shoot me or help me.
I guess im on definition 3.
i was foolish and careless in making my decisions.
And by trying to curb my temper, im trying to say tad i'll try to change to be a better person.
I'm admitting my mistake for the failure of my relationship. Give me a break, pls.
Yeah, im also tired of hearing 'there are still many girls out there', but thats the real fact i guess. Thnks ^mR.yellow^86 and bo liao. and all others name not mentioned.
and foolish and careless in making decisions... what positive steps are you taking to correct your foolishness and carelessness? By being more intelligent and more careful?
Not so simple de. You must learn the techniques de. You must know and learn what "making intelligent decisions" is all about.
You must know what steps to take... step one, I do this , step two I do that and step three... to ensure that you do not make careless mistakes...
anyway your heart is in the right place, I just hope that you head is also in the right place... if you are already doing what I am suggesting you do, then please just ignore this post! -
Thanks bro for your concern. Like my fren said, when u're emotionally disturbed, u cant think for yourself. Gotta listen to others. Thats y i started this thread, so that others can point it out to me about my mistake and stuff.Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:Not shoot you lah... just trying to tell you to face facts... like if you really want to control your anger, just "wanting to" wont help you de. You must read up on anger management or learn relaxation techniques and so on. I am afraid that you do not know that and assume that just because you know what your problem is and you want to change, you can.
and foolish and careless in making decisions... what positive steps are you taking to correct your foolishness and carelessness? By being more intelligent and more careful?
Not so simple de. You must learn the techniques de. You must know and learn what "making intelligent decisions" is all about.
You must know what steps to take... step one, I do this , step two I do that and step three... to ensure that you do not make careless mistakes...
anyway your heart is in the right place, I just hope that you head is also in the right place... if you are already doing what I am suggesting you do, then please just ignore this post!
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since you so polite and never scream at me for being harsh...Originally posted by maskedangel:Thanks bro for your concern. Like my fren said, when u're emotionally disturbed, u cant think for yourself. Gotta listen to others. Thats y i started this thread, so that others can point it out to me about my mistake and stuff.
Slowly but surely, i'll learn the ways. Slowly and surely is not good enough de! You must work hard at it... google like mad on how to manage anger for a start...
google like mad on the decision making process..... so you do not make careless mistakes...
if you not sure or do not understand the things you google... you can always come here and ask one....
sorry I so harsh hor... but sometimes I fed up with the "just do this and you will be fine, so now go... type of advice"
where got so simple one????? So simple where got anybody got problems one?????? If it were so simple, you would have known it long long ago....
But if you really go and google and learn like I said... hahahaha, you not only have success in relationships but career and in life itself....
I hope you become a happy person like me.... -
You pretty much know whats wrong with yourself and almost everyone else is telling you the same thing.
Never let anger get the best of you. And its good to know that you're learning from your mistakes. But this I have to say, even after you've change for the better you have to be prepare that she may or may not take you back. Nothing is certain. Change because you really wants to and not just to get her back.
Things always happen for a reason, you're learning to control your anger and that is a good thing. It'll help you in your future relationships and who knows ? It might even help you in your career in years to come.
best of luck !
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Give her a break and chase her back after a few months time....
the intial break off was due to puppy love but if you managed to patch back
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Guys, i 've given up. she's happier now it seems witouht me.
So i juz have to move on with my life without her.
Cheers all, for replying to this thread.
God bless u all