How to deal with a relationship like that?
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I have been with my gf for like 1+ months already. However, she hardly use the 'love' word on me anymore. And she's keep getting colder and colder to me, mood swings come easily. Worse, she would sometimes insult me (like how not to her expectations I look) and said that we might be close friends in future, but will not be together to start a family. She also said that I'm not that type of guy she really wanna be with, however, we're still together..
Dunno why, but I seem to have lost the love from her as well as the respect she once given me. Why is this so? Have I been like caring for her till much that she's taking me for granted? Why do you like to put our relationship on the line so much?
I really wanna know if she still have got me in her heart. But I dare not ask her directly as I might be seen as doubting her. Any ways too to find out whether she still treats me as her bf or I have been 'demoted' to a normal friend?
It's really getting more tiring and tiring day by day trying to endure with her attitude towards me. Also, once during her mood swings, she said, "if you dont wanna be with me. Fine. I dont really care anyway." But the next morning, everything was fine.
And NO, NOT PMS. -
hmm.. my viewpoint is tt..
if she can treat u liddat, den end the r/s faster.. chang tong bu ru duan tong.
moreover, 1 mth only..don drag..
but b4 break up, find out what happen lor..
cld be u nv show her enuff concern or wat... or maybe she going thru some sch, work or friendship problems tt u dunno?
or ask urself, how have u been treating her the past 1 mth?
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Sorry to say this but... You will have to ask her: "Do you still love me?" It will be the hardest time u will face for the time being. No More Will Be Said!Originally posted by coldzero:I have been with my gf for like 1+ months already. However, she hardly use the 'love' word on me anymore. And she's keep getting colder and colder to me, mood swings come easily. Worse, she would sometimes insult me (like how not to her expectations I look) and said that we might be close friends in future, but will not be together to start a family. She also said that I'm not that type of guy she really wanna be with, however, we're still together..
Dunno why, but I seem to have lost the love from her as well as the respect she once given me. Why is this so? Have I been like caring for her till much that she's taking me for granted? Why do you like to put our relationship on the line so much?
I really wanna know if she still have got me in her heart. But I dare not ask her directly as I might be seen as doubting her. Any ways too to find out whether she still treats me as her bf or I have been 'demoted' to a normal friend?
It's really getting more tiring and tiring day by day trying to endure with her attitude towards me. Also, once during her mood swings, she said, "if you dont wanna be with me. Fine. I dont really care anyway." But the next morning, everything was fine.
And NO, NOT PMS. -
I'm DAMN DAMN sure I treat her more than a godess. It's me who have put in more effort in this relationship all along. She like bo chap one.Originally posted by *moments:hmm.. my viewpoint is tt..
if she can treat u liddat, den end the r/s faster.. chang tong bu ru duan tong.
moreover, 1 mth only..don drag..
but b4 break up, find out what happen lor..
cld be u nv show her enuff concern or wat... or maybe she going thru some sch, work or friendship problems tt u dunno?
or ask urself, how have u been treating her the past 1 mth?
it takes 2 hands to clap. -
hmmm... yr story dont sound good...
Anyway, dont keep all the problem to yrself... If it is the truth, u just have to accept it... Anyway, yr relationship with her till now is only one month plus plus... Dont drag till too long... It will be no good for both sides...
Just one fine day, when she is in good mood, just tell her how u feel... But before u meet her, reherse to yrself on the possible answer that she will give... -
You mean tell her face-to-face?Originally posted by ispyyy:hmmm... yr story dont sound good...
Anyway, dont keep all the problem to yrself... If it is the truth, u just have to accept it... Anyway, yr relationship with her till now is only one month plus plus... Dont drag till too long... It will be no good for both sides...
Just one fine day, when she is in good mood, just tell her how u feel... But before u meet her, reherse to yrself on the possible answer that she will give... -
den how old is she?
1st love? or ur her dunno no ___ bf liao?
as a girl, i think being too nice is overbearing for some
most girls like bad boys..
perhaps u too nice le, so take u for granted.
my hunch says tt she lost interest in you le. *pat*
better girls out dere who deserve ur love -
up to u lah... as long as, u can get yr message across and she is in a clear mind...Originally posted by coldzero:You mean tell her face-to-face?
Anyway, face to face also can wat if u have the courage... At least, u will feel much better if she roll a tear for u ... >< -
She's 17, the same as me, and ya, I'm her first love.Originally posted by *moments:den how old is she?
1st love? or ur her dunno no ___ bf liao?
as a girl, i think being too nice is overbearing for some
most girls like bad boys..
perhaps u too nice le, so take u for granted.
my hunch says tt she lost interest in you le. *pat*
better girls out dere who deserve ur love -
jus cos she no lub u the way u wan dosent mean she dun lub u with all she had hor
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hmmm.. if u go thru what you type...Originally posted by coldzero:I have been with my gf for like 1+ months already. However, she hardly use the 'love' word on me anymore. And she's keep getting colder and colder to me, mood swings come easily. Worse, she would sometimes insult me (like how not to her expectations I look) and said that we might be close friends in future, but will not be together to start a family. She also said that I'm not that type of guy she really wanna be with, however, we're still together..
Dunno why, but I seem to have lost the love from her as well as the respect she once given me. Why is this so? Have I been like caring for her till much that she's taking me for granted? Why do you like to put our relationship on the line so much?
I really wanna know if she still have got me in her heart. But I dare not ask her directly as I might be seen as doubting her. Any ways too to find out whether she still treats me as her bf or I have been 'demoted' to a normal friend?
It's really getting more tiring and tiring day by day trying to endure with her attitude towards me. Also, once during her mood swings, she said, "if you dont wanna be with me. Fine. I dont really care anyway." But the next morning, everything was fine.
And NO, NOT PMS.
i tin a bit too much le la..
no matter how angry or piss off, a gal shld nv say thins so hurting.
tok to her nicely and find out what she really wants.
if she say smth like "u doubt my love" etc etc, jus counter and say u don feel loved anymore. -
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17? maybe nt enuff experience.Originally posted by coldzero:She's 17, the same as me, and ya, I'm her first love.
but ususally 1st love very sweet de lei.. maybe miscommunication?
i suggest u tok to her, find out wats wrong, b4 deciding whether to break up.
for all you noe, maybe she love u, but jus express wrongly (if tin optimistic)
tell her nicely u don like being treated so harshly and u feel hurt everytime she say those nasty tins -
Haix.. No idea leh.. But I still can feel some care and love from her to me, but not so convincing enough in her actions.Originally posted by *moments:17? maybe nt enuff experience.
but ususally 1st love very sweet de lei.. maybe miscommunication?
i suggest u tok to her, find out wats wrong, b4 deciding whether to break up.
for all you noe, maybe she love u, but jus express wrongly (if tin optimistic)
tell her nicely u don like being treated so harshly and u feel hurt everytime she say those nasty tins -
so u r the one expecting more actions from her la!
alemak... go tok to her abt how u feel.. no pt asking us.
she 1st time in r/s, maybe nt experienced enuff in handling emotions bah.
most imptly, u have to make the pt across to her how u feel
if u tolerate this, in subsequent mths, are u able to tolerate again?
tok to her, get the ans and den decide.
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sometimes it is normal tat gals dun use the "love" word hanging arnd too often...
cos maybe she still unsure wat love is actually like, since u r her 1st...
and her mood swing actions can be explained due to her inexperience...
many a time, she heard fr her gfs saying "u shouldn't treat him so nice", or "u shouldn't allow him to do that", etc... she can be easily affected...
but finally, it still come to the point if u are willing to guide her all along, teach her how to feel for each other, endure her traumatic acts, etc...
this doesn't mean that u can allow her to continue her willfulness, have a nice chat with her if u still wanna walk along with her... -
how is she like before? how is the progress like when u jio her? how old?Originally posted by coldzero:I have been with my gf for like 1+ months already. However, she hardly use the 'love' word on me anymore. And she's keep getting colder and colder to me, mood swings come easily. Worse, she would sometimes insult me (like how not to her expectations I look) and said that we might be close friends in future, but will not be together to start a family. She also said that I'm not that type of guy she really wanna be with, however, we're still together..
Dunno why, but I seem to have lost the love from her as well as the respect she once given me. Why is this so? Have I been like caring for her till much that she's taking me for granted? Why do you like to put our relationship on the line so much?
I really wanna know if she still have got me in her heart. But I dare not ask her directly as I might be seen as doubting her. Any ways too to find out whether she still treats me as her bf or I have been 'demoted' to a normal friend?
It's really getting more tiring and tiring day by day trying to endure with her attitude towards me. Also, once during her mood swings, she said, "if you dont wanna be with me. Fine. I dont really care anyway." But the next morning, everything was fine.
And NO, NOT PMS. -
Treat her more than a goddess?? Gawd, no wonder she's dissing you. Never grovel / lower yourself. We girls don't like to feel sorry for our guys (aka see them as a Loser), once that happens we lose interest and it's seldom reversible. Have more self-respect.. mirror her commitment level, maybe dangle a carrot to intrigue her once in a while, but no more.
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The girl is rying to test you to see how far she can get from you in that she's trying to determine her own position with you. Give her too much priority and she finds you a wussy. Give her too little significance and she deems that you don't like her enough......... Sigh! Girls do this all the time, don't they?
I know the temptation to just call it quits since it's only been 1 month and the loss may not be too much to bear. But it's better to face it and deal with it than to run because chances are the next girl in your life will put you through the same kind of shit test.
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coldzero,
hmm, from my own personal point of view,
you are still quite young, and you will find the answer to your problem now sooner or later.
because i'm not u and her, i'm not qualified to say 'or she don't love u anymore' or ask u to 'leave her alone', etc (well, all are just EXAMPLES).
Similiar cases happened to me when i was 18. Now the girl said it was just tones of excuses because she felt insecure with me. She said she didn't love me anymore when she did very much. Now it's up to u. -
say byebye to her/... just 1 month nia
getting a gf is for the purpose companian...
this not suitable, change another 1.. thn keep looping..
may the devil bless you -
Live one day at a time bah....Originally posted by coldzero:I have been with my gf for like 1+ months already. However, she hardly use the 'love' word on me anymore. And she's keep getting colder and colder to me, mood swings come easily. Worse, she would sometimes insult me (like how not to her expectations I look) and said that we might be close friends in future, but will not be together to start a family. She also said that I'm not that type of guy she really wanna be with, however, we're still together..
Dunno why, but I seem to have lost the love from her as well as the respect she once given me. Why is this so? Have I been like caring for her till much that she's taking me for granted? Why do you like to put our relationship on the line so much?
I really wanna know if she still have got me in her heart. But I dare not ask her directly as I might be seen as doubting her. Any ways too to find out whether she still treats me as her bf or I have been 'demoted' to a normal friend?
It's really getting more tiring and tiring day by day trying to endure with her attitude towards me. Also, once during her mood swings, she said, "if you dont wanna be with me. Fine. I dont really care anyway." But the next morning, everything was fine.
And NO, NOT PMS. -
dump her. what nonsense is this.
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You've just seen her true colours. Start looking around. Nobody deserves to be treated like so, especially from someone they want to be close to.
Aren't you glad she showed you her ugly side so early on? -
from my own experience, she no longer loves u. she just cling onto u bcoz she doesnt want to hurt u.
have a clean n clear talk abt it n decide.
bcoz u will be the one in pain in time to come.
take care, dude.