How to deal with a relationship like that?
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Say goodbye to her.
or,
Tell her is better to just be friend
if have sex with her already, tell her you are sorry and change yr hp immediately, dont contact her anymore and she not able to contact you anymore. After a few months of peace see if that's better. you really have to go thru this test.
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only a month & ur facing these. i'm wondering if she's testing you or its for realOriginally posted by coldzero:I have been with my gf for like 1+ months already. However, she hardly use the 'love' word on me anymore. And she's keep getting colder and colder to me, mood swings come easily. Worse, she would sometimes insult me (like how not to her expectations I look) and said that we might be close friends in future, but will not be together to start a family. She also said that I'm not that type of guy she really wanna be with, however, we're still together..
Dunno why, but I seem to have lost the love from her as well as the respect she once given me. Why is this so? Have I been like caring for her till much that she's taking me for granted? Why do you like to put our relationship on the line so much?
I really wanna know if she still have got me in her heart. But I dare not ask her directly as I might be seen as doubting her. Any ways too to find out whether she still treats me as her bf or I have been 'demoted' to a normal friend?
It's really getting more tiring and tiring day by day trying to endure with her attitude towards me. Also, once during her mood swings, she said, "if you dont wanna be with me. Fine. I dont really care anyway." But the next morning, everything was fine.
And NO, NOT PMS.
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[quote]Originally posted by coldzero:
I have been with my gf for like 1+ months already. However, she hardly use the 'love' word on me anymore. And she's keep getting colder and colder to me, mood swings come easily. Worse, she would sometimes insult me (like how not to her expectations I look) and said that we might be close friends in future, but will not be together to start a family. She also said that I'm not that type of guy she really wanna be with, however, we're still together..
She hardly uses the 'love' word on you anymore. Did she use it often when you were courting her? How long was the courtship?
Might be close friends in the future, but will not be together to start a family?? That is pretty hurtful. This shows a lack of faith in the relationship, a serious lack of faith.
Dunno why, but I seem to have lost the love from her as well as the respect she once given me. Why is this so? Have I been like caring for her till much that she's taking me for granted? Why do you like to put our relationship on the line so much?
You said (later on)you treated her like a goddess. While its thought that most people would like to be treated like kings or queens, relationships fail very easily is one side is put on a pedestal and 'worshiped'. Things usually start to be one-sided from there.
I really wanna know if she still have got me in her heart. But I dare not ask her directly as I might be seen as doubting her. Any ways too to find out whether she still treats me as her bf or I have been 'demoted' to a normal friend?
There's a very big problem. How do you want to solve it? Subtly by yourself? Or put it out in the open and analyze it together with her? The only way to know if you have been demoted is to ask.
It's really getting more tiring and tiring day by day trying to endure with her attitude towards me. Also, once during her mood swings, she said, "if you dont wanna be with me. Fine. I dont really care anyway." But the next morning, everything was fine.
And NO, NOT PMS.
Does she have mood swings very often? Or does it manifest itself only when you're together with her? Or when the relationship started? If its the latter, then the relationship is affecting her in ways that you don't know. You need to ask And know what's wrong.
And please don't worship your girlfriend. Or anyone other than God. It doesn't work that way. Treat them too nice and they'll either walk away or run, or take more and more and run later.
Cheers man, may your relationship problem end soon~
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Originally posted by coldzero:I have been with my gf for like 1+ months already. However, she hardly use the 'love' word on me anymore. And she's keep getting colder and colder to me, mood swings come easily. Worse, she would sometimes insult me (like how not to her expectations I look) and said that we might be close friends in future, but will not be together to start a family. She also said that I'm not that type of guy she really wanna be with, however, we're still together..
Dunno why, but I seem to have lost the love from her as well as the respect she once given me. Why is this so? Have I been like caring for her till much that she's taking me for granted? Why do you like to put our relationship on the line so much?
I really wanna know if she still have got me in her heart. But I dare not ask her directly as I might be seen as doubting her.
Any ways too to find out whether she still treats me as her bf or I have been 'demoted' to a normal friend?
It's really getting more tiring and tiring day by day trying to endure with her attitude towards me. Also, once during her mood swings, she said, "if you dont wanna be with me. Fine. I dont really care anyway." But the next morning, everything was fine.
And NO, NOT PMS.
What i feel is this is normal...
'will not be together to start a family.'
She mean that both of you cant be forever together...
well... alot of people think liddat just that they dont say it out...
She don't want to hurt you too much when you all finally ends...
'however, we're still together..'
This mean, she want to be with you... but, currently only...
'Any ways too to find out whether she still treats me as her bf or I have been 'demoted' to a normal friend?'
Nope you haven't been demoted. just that she want you to prepare for the future when your relationship finally ended.
Anyway, to sum things up, she like to be with you now. It's just that she think ahead too much and already thinking about the future break already.
She don't want you to love her so deep that when both of you eventually ends, you get hurt a lot.
But still, you both may carry on. As this is normal. You may love you current crush a lot but you may not want to be with him forever.
Maybe you all can still goes on for years.
Good luck -
Never give up the forest just for one tree.
If she doesnt know how to cherish you repeatedly, den make ur intentions clear. -
Talk to her, tell her how you feel about the things she said and see whats her reaction. You should be able to see it clearer.
looking at what you've written about your relationship with this girl ....... Think she is dropping hints .... I could be wrong but most likely her heart isn't with you anymore.
You're still young, there are still lots of things to learn, to see, to feel and to experience.