Originally posted by coldzero:
I have been with my gf for like 1+ months already. However, she hardly use the 'love' word on me anymore. And she's keep getting colder and colder to me, mood swings come easily. Worse, she would sometimes insult me (like how not to her expectations I look) and said that we might be close friends in future, but will not be together to start a family. She also said that I'm not that type of guy she really wanna be with, however, we're still together..
Dunno why, but I seem to have lost the love from her as well as the respect she once given me. Why is this so? Have I been like caring for her till much that she's taking me for granted? Why do you like to put our relationship on the line so much?
I really wanna know if she still have got me in her heart. But I dare not ask her directly as I might be seen as doubting her.
Any ways too to find out whether she still treats me as her bf or I have been 'demoted' to a normal friend?
It's really getting more tiring and tiring day by day trying to endure with her attitude towards me. Also, once during her mood swings, she said, "if you dont wanna be with me. Fine. I dont really care anyway." But the next morning, everything was fine.
And NO, NOT PMS.
What i feel is this is normal...
'will not be together to start a family.'She mean that both of you cant be forever together...
well... alot of people think liddat just that they dont say it out...
She don't want to hurt you too much when you all finally ends...
'however, we're still together..'This mean, she want to be with you... but, currently only...
'Any ways too to find out whether she still treats me as her bf or I have been 'demoted' to a normal friend?'Nope you haven't been demoted. just that she want you to prepare for the future when your relationship finally ended.
Anyway, to sum things up, she like to be with you now. It's just that she think ahead too much and already thinking about the future break already.
She don't want you to love her so deep that when both of you eventually ends, you get hurt a lot.
But still, you both may carry on. As this is normal. You may love you current crush a lot but you may not want to be with him forever.
Maybe you all can still goes on for years.

Good luck