Should I gave up?
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Looking at a relationship with a history of 3 years. I am earning less than her and wish I could earn more. Tried very hard but still no chance. She always do what she wants without thinking about both of us. Go chionging without telling and does not care about my feelings. Request for her to change her ways but she refuse saying that she will follow her friends. Always listerning and giving in to her makes me no better than a dog. Sadly I am not that handsome enough to change to another gal so quickly. Sianz..
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why do you want another gal quickly?Originally posted by Guardx:Looking at a relationship with a history of 3 years. I am earning less than her and wish I could earn more. Tried very hard but still no chance. She always do what she wants without thinking about both of us. Go chionging without telling and does not care about my feelings. Request for her to change her ways but she refuse saying that she will follow her friends. Always listerning and giving in to her makes me no better than a dog. Sadly I am not that handsome enough to change to another gal so quickly. Sianz.. -
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Originally posted by Guardx:
Looking at a relationship with a history of 3 years. I am earning less than her and wish I could earn more. Tried very hard but still no chance. She always do what she wants without thinking about both of us. Go chionging without telling and does not care about my feelings. Request for her to change her ways but she refuse saying that she will follow her friends. Always listerning and giving in to her makes me no better than a dog. Sadly I am not that handsome enough to change to another gal so quickly. Sianz..
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This is a very good question for Guardx^^Originally posted by Omniknight:why do you want another gal quickly? -
You need to get a life, like she is getting a life, and stop thinking negative thoughts like "I am a dog"Originally posted by Guardx:Looking at a relationship with a history of 3 years. I am earning less than her and wish I could earn more. Tried very hard but still no chance. She always do what she wants without thinking about both of us. Go chionging without telling and does not care about my feelings. Request for her to change her ways but she refuse saying that she will follow her friends. Always listerning and giving in to her makes me no better than a dog. Sadly I am not that handsome enough to change to another gal so quickly. Sianz..
Why can't it be "I am a very considerate and tolerant BF?"
Why can't it be "I am so lucky to have a GF like that, it gives me time to spend time with my own friends?"
You have a GF like her and you are thinking of changing GF? OMG
Unfortunately, good things are not meant for some people.... -
being single is far better than being attached miserably....you are too needy, why do you need a gf in the first place if you cannot be happy with one........
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yea, must be happy about yr gf earn good money.... and u can spend more time with yr family and friends. he also mention he isn't so handsome... yea he got a gf tt is like businesswomanOriginally posted by AndrewPKYap:You need to get a life, like she is getting a life, and stop thinking negative thoughts like "I am a dog"
Why can't it be "I am a very considerate and tolerant BF?"
Why can't it be "I am so lucky to have a GF like that, it gives me time to spend time with my own friends?"
You have a GF like her and you are thinking of changing GF? OMG
Unfortunately, good things are not meant for some people....
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Again how old are you? XD (Yunhaier asked us to state our age group, rite?Originally posted by Guardx:Looking at a relationship with a history of 3 years. I am earning less than her and wish I could earn more. Tried very hard but still no chance. She always do what she wants without thinking about both of us. Go chionging without telling and does not care about my feelings. Request for her to change her ways but she refuse saying that she will follow her friends. Always listerning and giving in to her makes me no better than a dog. Sadly I am not that handsome enough to change to another gal so quickly. Sianz..
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oh ya, few questions to be answered by yourself
1. Do you love her?
2. Are you happy with this relationship with her?
3. If you are Godly handsome, Mr. Universerve and Popular, would you leave her for someone better and prettier?
If .your answer to ques no.2 is not really, and no.3 is Yes, it's time to reconsider the whole relationship. -
When did she start to do this? Since 2 years ago? Or is it her character to have fun with friends?Originally posted by Guardx:Looking at a relationship with a history of 3 years. I am earning less than her and wish I could earn more. Tried very hard but still no chance. She always do what she wants without thinking about both of us. Go chionging without telling and does not care about my feelings. Request for her to change her ways but she refuse saying that she will follow her friends. Always listerning and giving in to her makes me no better than a dog. Sadly I am not that handsome enough to change to another gal so quickly. Sianz..
What are you working as? Have you been trying hard to increase your income?
She's right. You can't force her to not go clubbing and enjoy with her friends. After all, it's her life not yours. She's not your pet.
Always listen to her and follow like a dog? Are you the man ? I think you spoiled her from the beginning, that's why she doesn't care what you think because she lost the respect for you. Think about it. You treat her too well? Does she deserve all the pampering?
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i think so too... mayb because of u pamper her too much in the first place tats y she's behaving like tis now...Originally posted by dokono:Always listen to her and follow like a dog? Are you the man ? I think you spoiled her from the beginning, that's why she doesn't care what you think because she lost the respect for you. Think about it. You treat her too well? Does she deserve all the pampering?
doko -
Too wilful,immature and does not understand what a relationship requires.Originally posted by Guardx:Looking at a relationship with a history of 3 years. I am earning less than her and wish I could earn more. Tried very hard but still no chance. She always do what she wants without thinking about both of us. Go chionging without telling and does not care about my feelings. Request for her to change her ways but she refuse saying that she will follow her friends. Always listerning and giving in to her makes me no better than a dog. Sadly I am not that handsome enough to change to another gal so quickly. Sianz..
I can see where your coming from considering u said that u felt like a dog,must have been a hit to your self esteem.
I suggest u call it quits.
Doesn't matter wheather u are handsome or not,charecter counts because who can hold on to mother youth forever? -
it's ur ego. u dun feel good earning lesser than her.
u can advise her not to go chioning so often, but u cannot restrict her.
go lor, go chase someone who earns lesser than u and xiao niao yi ren de lor. keke. -
so u meaning u are a dog and she is the ownerOriginally posted by Guardx:Looking at a relationship with a history of 3 years. I am earning less than her and wish I could earn more. Tried very hard but still no chance. She always do what she wants without thinking about both of us. Go chionging without telling and does not care about my feelings. Request for her to change her ways but she refuse saying that she will follow her friends. Always listerning and giving in to her makes me no better than a dog. Sadly I am not that handsome enough to change to another gal so quickly. Sianz.. -
yes u should..
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After putting so much effort on one gal, you feel that is not worth the effort.Originally posted by Omniknight:why do you want another gal quickly?
Really envy my friends who play the field.
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Thats what my friends told me, I thought could settle down with her but seems like she still do not want to.Originally posted by countdracula:being single is far better than being attached miserably....you are too needy, why do you need a gf in the first place if you cannot be happy with one........ -
Age: just reach 30.Originally posted by ^mR.yellow^86:Again how old are you? XD (Yunhaier asked us to state our age group, rite? )
oh ya, few questions to be answered by yourself
1. Do you love her?
2. Are you happy with this relationship with her?
3. If you are Godly handsome, Mr. Universerve and Popular, would you leave her for someone better and prettier?
If .your answer to ques no.2 is not really, and no.3 is Yes, it's time to reconsider the whole relationship.
1) Yes but seems to fade with her actions
2) Used to but now.............
3) If I am that good I will not even look at her at all. No point lieing about the fact, I faced the truth. Is not easy being a average guy. -
I still stand by my earlier opinion:Originally posted by Guardx:Age: just reach 30.
1) Yes but seems to fade with her actions
2) Used to but now.............
3) If I am that good I will not even look at her at all. No point lieing about the fact, I faced the truth. Is not easy being a average guy.
"You have a GF like her and you are thinking of changing GF? OMG
Unfortunately, good things are not meant for some people...."
Karma bah.... -
She started from young, we promise each other that we will stop all this and start a better life, but sadly she did not keep her side of it.Originally posted by dokono:When did she start to do this? Since 2 years ago? Or is it her character to have fun with friends?
What are you working as? Have you been trying hard to increase your income?
She's right. You can't force her to not go clubbing and enjoy with her friends. After all, it's her life not yours. She's not your pet.
Always listen to her and follow like a dog? Are you the man ? I think you spoiled her from the beginning, that's why she doesn't care what you think because she lost the respect for you. Think about it. You treat her too well? Does she deserve all the pampering?
doko
Agree she is not my pet, I seems to be hers. looking back I feel like I am so dumb doing so much things for her.
I am a man no worries about it. I am what you call the good type where one loves and takes good care of my gf no matter what others says.
Agree I spoiled her, I treated her too well and she totally do not deserve any pampering at all. -
Whats ego got to do with this ?Originally posted by browniebaobao:it's ur ego. u dun feel good earning lesser than her.
u can advise her not to go chioning so often, but u cannot restrict her.
go lor, go chase someone who earns lesser than u and xiao niao yi ren de lor. keke.
I may earn lesser than her but I pay more for her items, shopping,food, wants almost everything. In fact looking back I am proud that I was able to do it.
I did advise her but she refuse to listern. We promise each other but seems that I am the only one who still keeps to it.
Guess you are right no point in putting so much effort in someone when she does not care about your feelings. -
Would you like your gf to be dancing with different strangers everytime she chiong?Originally posted by AndrewPKYap:I still stand by my earlier opinion:
"You have a GF like her and you are thinking of changing GF? OMG
Unfortunately, good things are not meant for some people...."
Karma bah....
What is so Karama about not wanting to see her like that?
If I do not love her, she could sleep with anyone, why should I care?
I love her very much thats why it hurts to see her do it, the worst thing is that
she does it knowing that I do not like it.
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First of all, y u sound so desparate?
hope to get another gal quickly? so u can dump ur current gf?
no gal u cannot survive? hello, grow up, already 30 still have this kind of mindset?
since u already say u earn not tat much compare to her, y don't u focus on ur career and biz more? be more pro-active.
to me, u choose to be one wat u said. and I don't think you really love her, u just have no choice but stick to her. I know when together for quite some time there are 'gan qing' . hard to just throw away.
so my advice to u, focus on other things, ur career etc... and make urself a better man. and see if she doesnt make any effort to be better, just break. wat for stay if she doesn make any effort.
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How you noe she will "be dancing with different strangers everytime she chiong"?Originally posted by Guardx:Would you like your gf to be dancing with different strangers everytime she chiong?
What is so Karama about not wanting to see her like that?
If I do not love her, she could sleep with anyone, why should I care?
I love her very much thats why it hurts to see her do it, the worst thing is that
she does it knowing that I do not like it.
What's the point, I guess is time to let go.
Not go to bed wat!, even if true, just dancing wat... so kan jiong for wat?!!!!!
I won't mind my wife dancing with strangers one... I don't even think about it.
September she is going overseas with colleagues and ask me to go... I said, "You have colleagues to accompany you, I go for what?!!!!! Not like I never go that place... I go until sainz already..."
If overseas she and colleagues go dancing and she dance with strangers... so what?
But it is your life and your decision lor... nobody can live your life for you... -
your mentality needs to change with or without a gf.
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guardxOriginally posted by Guardx:Looking at a relationship with a history of 3 years. I am earning less than her and wish I could earn more. Tried very hard but still no chance. She always do what she wants without thinking about both of us. Go chionging without telling and does not care about my feelings. Request for her to change her ways but she refuse saying that she will follow her friends. Always listerning and giving in to her makes me no better than a dog. Sadly I am not that handsome enough to change to another gal so quickly. Sianz..
trust me,make a clean break with her.
Someone who doesn't care about the feeligns of their partner still haven realise what a relationship is.
U will be feeling the pain now but when u become a better person and have a more understanding gal by your side,when she gets tired of clubbing after a certain age and looking at u having a stable family/relationship which women would crave at a certain age,then she will realise the loss.
And when you see her regrets,there is this sense of satisfication over her demise because all that u have done for and worked for have always been right.
The only thing wrong was that the gal was the wrong one. -
This sounds really familiar...Originally posted by Guardx:Age: just reach 30.
1) Yes but seems to fade with her actions
2) Used to but now.............
3) If I am that good I will not even look at her at all. No point lieing about the fact, I faced the truth. Is not easy being a average guy.
But seriously, I think you degrade your own gf just by saying the last sentence. What do you mean by if you are more goodlooking you will not look at her at all? Are you just "settling" with her? As in, cannot find fish, prawn also good that kind?
Please let her go if that's the case. Because you are with her not because you really love her, you are just afraid you will be alone and lonely. Before you can even put in efforts to salvage the rs, you need to get rid of this mindset first and foremost.