Ladies, define a 'Possessive' bf

• the_don

  8 Jul 07, 11:47

  it depends. if the gal has not been sharing her life with the boy or suddenly become secretive, the boy might become 'gan jong' n start asking questions.
  
  if there is already communication in the relationship n the boy still ask the gal this kind of question, then i would say the boy is insecure, suspicious and is a little man.
  
  dump this kind of pple pls. u deserve better.
  
  

  Originally posted by LocalGod:

  does the following consider 'possessive'?
  
  - wants to know ur whereabout everyday
  - wants to know ur family matters?
  - wants to know who ur net friends are?
  
  any other things u think are 'possessive' to you?

• dabummer

  8 Jul 07, 12:04

  Originally posted by LocalGod:

  does the following consider 'possessive'?
  
  - wants to know ur whereabout everyday
  - wants to know ur family matters?
  - wants to know who ur net friends are?
  
  any other things u think are 'possessive' to you?

  lol wa, smtimes i wish my boy wud do tht to me leh....he lyk bochap me 1. sian.
• wonderamazement

  8 Jul 07, 13:25

  Originally posted by F.raon.I.R:

  as a guy.i think its perfectly normal for u
  u r not possessive

  Originally posted by Cool-gal:

  very normal.
  its ur right as a bf.

  Well, she thinks i'm OVERLY-possesive, ok so at least i now my "rights" as a boyfriend...
  

  Originally posted by BrUtUs:

  how u n her get together in the 1st place?

  Just reflecting upon myself see whether i made any mistakes or not, that was in seconday school... Schoolmates
  
• de_middle

  9 Jul 07, 11:57

  Originally posted by Cool-gal:

  i noe!!
  1. not letting u going out even with ur own blood sister!!
  2. to delete all guys contact on hp.
  3. no msn, frenster & email, sever ties with internet!!
  4. off days to stay until he knocks off n meet him ONLY.
  5. no meeting with gfs.
  6. waiting for u at ur workplace.
  7. to call him every one hr.
  8. min. contact with male colleagues.
  9. to reciprocate his care n concern doubly.

  sounds more like a parole officer than a BF
• xiao_tou

  9 Jul 07, 12:49

  Originally posted by Cool-gal:

  i noe!!
  1. not letting u going out even with ur own blood sister!!
  2. to delete all guys contact on hp.
  3. no msn, frenster & email, sever ties with internet!!
  4. off days to stay until he knocks off n meet him ONLY.
  5. no meeting with gfs.
  6. waiting for u at ur workplace.
  7. to call him every one hr.
  8. min. contact with male colleagues.
  9. to reciprocate his care n concern doubly.

  tis has gone way too over.... like master and slave...
• thumbelina

  9 Jul 07, 13:42

  i think its perfectly normal and alright for a man to be possessive over his gf. in fact, i think he should be possessive. the problem is when a man is possessive over his gf, but doesn't treat her right after that. like not appreciating her sacrifices to accommodate to his possessive nature..
  
  so question is... have u been showing appreciation to ur gf? if yes, then i don't think she will mind..
• LocalGod

  9 Jul 07, 15:07

  my scenario...
  
  when she's online, she would run her online card game and start playing with one particular net friend(a guy). Even she is not playing in the game, she would join his game and be his spectator.
  
  she does this while i am ALSO in the game. I get a little jealous and started to questioning her who that guy is and so on.
  
  And she said i am overly possessive and simply ignore me.
  
  So am i thinking too much?
• de_middle

  9 Jul 07, 16:49

  Originally posted by LocalGod:

  my scenario...
  
  when she's online, she would run her online card game and start playing with one particular net friend(a guy). Even she is not playing in the game, she would join his game and be his spectator.
  
  she does this while i am ALSO in the game. I get a little jealous and started to questioning her who that guy is and so on.
  
  And she said i am overly possessive and simply ignore me.
  
  So am i thinking too much?

  yes you are......its time to play the ignoring game if i were you.
• Aaron8209

  9 Jul 07, 16:51

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• Lorry`

  10 Jul 07, 00:03

  Originally posted by wonderamazement:

  Ok so i'd like to ask you girls...
  
  Am i being too posessive if...
  
  I asked her not to spend so much time with her friends (beng types)
  Just asking bout where she is ONCE
  I get jealous when she flirts with other guys
  

  this is perfectly ok
  it's normal for one to get jealous
  
  possessive?
  those Cool-gal has mentioned
• Omniknight

  10 Jul 07, 17:59

  Originally posted by Cool-gal:

  wad???
  do i noe u first??
  siao.......
  

  Your only chance of salvation is gone. Live the rest of your life in fear if that's what you want so badly.