Fat & Ugly, out of the game?
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i'm in a class of only 4 girls.
so most of them are guys.
i realise guys like to talk the 1 or 2 more good looking girls in class. cause in this class girls are sort of rare.
and i'm the only fat and ugly one.
i can sense this "difference in treatment".
some of the guys talk more to the girl more in class, msn, sms, or leave more greeting msgs in friendster de..
den everytime that girl wil sort of tell me what she and the guys talked about, what card game they play and such. sort of feel left out lah.
i mean, i'm not trying to know more guys, i'm just thinking classmates make friends still need to see looks de meh? sad.
sometimes i dont really want to talk to the guys in class cause i will feel they act act reply to my questions but in the heart say that "you ugly freak, dont talk to me."
and somemore i am a super dont know how to socialise de ppl. i wont know what topic we can talk about, so that makes me a boring person i think.
anyone got same experience de?
LOL. very sad thing indeed lah. -
not true.
but i suggest u go and start a conv first?
ask about hmwk or something.
of course if ur scared of the ugly freak ting...
u can always ask a guy who u think isnt that mean. -
Knowledge is like a Magnet.
Even though me not good looking ar, but I have the knowledge. So during exam period, people will come to me and ask me to teach them and give them extra remedials.
Looks are not everything in life, you know?
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yea looks are not everything.. a kind heart is what matters
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Wow, reminded me of the times when I was in sec school, being a nerd type look, I wasn't popular among the girls even though I treated them very well such as remembering their birthdays every year, giving them presents, lending comics or making things for them or helping out in homework or what.Originally posted by baby_oreo:i'm in a class of only 4 girls.
so most of them are guys.
i realise guys like to talk the 1 or 2 more good looking girls in class. cause in this class girls are sort of rare.
and i'm the only fat and ugly one.
i can sense this "difference in treatment".
some of the guys talk more to the girl more in class, msn, sms, or leave more greeting msgs in friendster de..
den everytime that girl wil sort of tell me what she and the guys talked about, what card game they play and such. sort of feel left out lah.
i mean, i'm not trying to know more guys, i'm just thinking classmates make friends still need to see looks de meh? sad.
sometimes i dont really want to talk to the guys in class cause i will feel they act act reply to my questions but in the heart say that "you ugly freak, dont talk to me."
and somemore i am a super dont know how to socialise de ppl. i wont know what topic we can talk about, so that makes me a boring person i think.
anyone got same experience de?
LOL. very sad thing indeed lah.
I don't demand them to like me or even love me lah, just want to have photos taken with them and have them to write in my autograph book when graduation coming... But you know what? Most of them pretend to be busy and don't want to take photos with me together. But when some handsome guys ask them, suddenly all very free or what.
This saddens me a lot then I never contact these girls again. -
=(
I happen to be not that good in studies as compared to ppl in class.
wish i could be good in studies.
i believe if i were more knowledgeable, situation wont be that bad.
although once in a little while, some would ask me questions, but most of the time, i still feel left out. -
you are what you think
if you think you're ugly, you're ugly.
if you think you're pretty, you're pretty
if you think you're ugly, then do something about it, no sense whining
get a new 'do, makeup and such.
it takes effort to make yourself look better.
you can also take up a course to learn about grooming.
good luck. -
i dun hab convincing look and voice. so i cannot be a salesman confirm. cos i got no temper .. haha reallii .. most ppl will stick will ppl who can speak logic stuff like " no la, its actualli like tat ..... so ya like tat " ... though they not that smart
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Originally posted by yasusenpai:
these girls are really bad luh.
Wow, reminded me of the times when I was in sec school, being a nerd type look, I wasn't popular among the girls even though I treated them very well [b]such as remembering their birthdays every year, giving them presents, lending comics or making things for them or helping out in homework or what.
I don't demand them to like me or even love me lah, just want to have photos taken with them and have them to write in my autograph book when graduation coming... But you know what? Most of them pretend to be busy and don't want to take photos with me together. But when some handsome guys ask them, suddenly all very free or what.
This saddens me a lot then I never contact these girls again.[/b]
i dont think you should be treated like this. -
come on, im sure u have ur talent somewhere else.
mmmm, if u have a happy n cheerful personality, im sure they will talk with u more?
b4 u assume anything, why dun u work on ur interacting skill?
maybe they tot u dun like to socialize n is a quiet person?? -
Actually I also have experience this when I am Sec 3. Almost all my classmates are ginawannables. I stayed away from them and become solo. It's from that time my results starts to become better even get serveral awards from the school.Originally posted by baby_oreo:=(
I happen to be not that good in studies as compared to ppl in class.
wish i could be good in studies.
i believe if i were more knowledgeable, situation wont be that bad.
although once in a little while, some would ask me questions, but most of the time, i still feel left out.
Then I took up the role as a teacher to teach my friends during the holidays. It's at that time the situation with my classmates starts to improve.
hmm~ If you have any homework problems, you can post at the Homework Forum. -
no one shld b treated like that la...aiyaz its practicality one la...some more u is in what lvl?normally happens when at lower lvls of education la...Originally posted by baby_oreo:these girls are really bad luh.
i dont think you should be treated like this. -
mmmm, u should be glad tat they were ur classmates, not ur frenz.Originally posted by yasusenpai:Wow, reminded me of the times when I was in sec school, being a nerd type look, I wasn't popular among the girls even though I treated them very well such as remembering their birthdays every year, giving them presents, lending comics or making things for them or helping out in homework or what.
I don't demand them to like me or even love me lah, just want to have photos taken with them and have them to write in my autograph book when graduation coming... But you know what? Most of them pretend to be busy and don't want to take photos with me together. But when some handsome guys ask them, suddenly all very free or what.
This saddens me a lot then I never contact these girls again.
dun worry, im sure they will get rejected once somehow along the way..
karma & retribution. -
eh but dun u tink ur frens abit like...using u coz u smart nia...Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:Actually I also have experience this when I am Sec 3. Almost all my classmates are ginawannables. I stayed away from them and become solo. It's from that time my results starts to become better even get serveral awards from the school.
Then I took up the role as a teacher to teach my friends during the holidays. It's at that time the situation with my classmates starts to improve.
hmm~ If you have any homework problems, you can post at the Homework Forum. -
why your class so few gals? jc ah? maybe u should try to be more friendly, open and interactive? pretty soon they will talk to u especially if u are more on lor.. i noe gals like tt and they are very on ppl..
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hahaz. you sounded like one of my close friend who said the exact same thing.Originally posted by darkhour:eh but dun u tink ur frens abit like...using u coz u smart nia...
I am going to give you the exact same answer I replied him..
I told him, "It's my passion to teach and benefit others. When I teach they'll learn and I also re-learnt." -
Fat & Ugly does not mean yr appearance no good...
To tell u the truth sometimes I find girls that are Fat & Ugly attractive... They are only attractive when they r their true self and when they show lack of confidence, not attractive anymore liao...
Example :
When a lack of confident girl is concentrating on her work, she display her natural beauty. It makes a guy want to have a second look at her. But when the girl go to check her face in mirror, no matter how the girl look it just look sucks...
In fact, for a chio bu, I dont even throw a second look at her but for those natural beauty, I just cant resist to have a second look... Natural beauty is at tat instant minute but chio bu can see anytime u want...
I bet u have the same point of views when u looking at guys ,rite??? ><
So, try not to think so much ... be yrself... The more uncomfortable u feel, the more guys wont approach u...
Keep telling yrself this :
" Every1 have a beauty in them and I believe I also have it in me... "
Haha.... tat is what I always tell myself... Coz, I m also fat and ugly too >< -
one noble man found in sgforum!!Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:hahaz. you sounded like one of my close friend who said the exact same thing.
I am going to give you the exact same answer I replied him..
I told him, "It's my passion to teach and benefit others. When I teach they'll learn and I also re-learnt." 
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hmm, yep, j1 this year.
thanks for all advices, will try to be more interactive. (:
but sometimes i got try, just that i will feel the ppl not willing to talk to me. maybe i should change my mindset.
by the way, darkness hacker, you are one kind soul.
so passionate about teaching. (:
thanks ppl for all the advices and words of encouragement! (: -
Originally posted by Cool-gal:one noble man found in sgforum!! There are alot of them in sgF.
Mayi jie is one of them. Her contribution to sgF in helping people with IT problems. -
Thanks.Originally posted by baby_oreo:hmm, yep, j1 this year.
thanks for all advices, will try to be more interactive. (:
but sometimes i got try, just that i will feel the ppl not willing to talk to me. maybe i should change my mindset.
by the way, darkness hacker, you are one kind soul.
so passionate about teaching. (:
thanks ppl for all the advices and words of encouragement! (:
I am driven by Passion. -
theres only lazy gals no ugly gals... fat can go fitness exercise, ugly can change ur image... if u ok with urself then u jz need more confidence n maybe widen ur knowledge n interest... ur class ppl are jz shallow la... no worries...Originally posted by baby_oreo:i'm in a class of only 4 girls.
so most of them are guys.
i realise guys like to talk the 1 or 2 more good looking girls in class. cause in this class girls are sort of rare.
and i'm the only fat and ugly one.
i can sense this "difference in treatment".
some of the guys talk more to the girl more in class, msn, sms, or leave more greeting msgs in friendster de..
den everytime that girl wil sort of tell me what she and the guys talked about, what card game they play and such. sort of feel left out lah.
i mean, i'm not trying to know more guys, i'm just thinking classmates make friends still need to see looks de meh? sad.
sometimes i dont really want to talk to the guys in class cause i will feel they act act reply to my questions but in the heart say that "you ugly freak, dont talk to me."
and somemore i am a super dont know how to socialise de ppl. i wont know what topic we can talk about, so that makes me a boring person i think.
anyone got same experience de?
LOL. very sad thing indeed lah. -
dont say that. winnie the pooh is fat but he is still the centre of attraction
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darkie,pro...Originally posted by Darkness_hacker99:Knowledge is like a Magnet.
Even though me not good looking ar, but I have the knowledge. So during exam period, people will come to me and ask me to teach them and give them extra remedials.
Looks are not everything in life, you know?
teach me can???? -
Baby_oreo,
The school is only a mini society.
After you come out into the real adult world.
You will realise that humans are , shallow.
Before they really get to know the nice, friendly you inside. They will first judge you on your external looks.
That is why they say, first impression is very important.
Now, I am not trying to make you feel hopeless.
I just want you to understand the reality of adult life, so that you can work on improving some of the areas which can help with your social effort.
I have a sec school classmate.. she wears really thick bulky and ah mah looking glasses in school. Was really fat and don't seem to like to brush her hair.
Everyone shuns her..... but she was really smart girl. She scores very high in her exams....after sec school we don't contact each other ..but I heard she
further her studies in a prestigious uni overseas.
She wasn't from a rich family, she worked part-time and pay her way with bursaries and study grants..... I remember she was very frugal...she would used her stuff untill so beat up but still don't want to change a new one.
Few years later, I met her during our reunion gatherings.
My eyes popped out. She slim down.. her thick glasses gone.. I think she went for some corrective eye surgery , so she only wears contact lens now.
She dress up really nice and needless to say.. she was the center of attraction during the gathering.
Everyone was going " Wow.. is that really you ?"...
She was still the friendly girl we used to know.... except , now the caterpillar has morphed into a butterfly......a smart butterfly.....
Do you believe you can be like her ?