Fat & Ugly, out of the game?
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Looks are not everything?
Looks are the first thing a person see and they will judge u base on it.
If u are fat and ugly, no one will take a sec look and get to knw u better. -
Originally posted by baby_oreo:i'm in a class of only 4 girls.
so most of them are guys.
i realise guys like to talk the 1 or 2 more good looking girls in class. cause in this class girls are sort of rare.
and i'm the only fat and ugly one.
i can sense this "difference in treatment".
some of the guys talk more to the girl more in class, msn, sms, or leave more greeting msgs in friendster de..
den everytime that girl wil sort of tell me what she and the guys talked about, what card game they play and such. sort of feel left out lah.
i mean, i'm not trying to know more guys, i'm just thinking classmates make friends still need to see looks de meh? sad.
sometimes i dont really want to talk to the guys in class cause i will feel they act act reply to my questions but in the heart say that "you ugly freak, dont talk to me."
and somemore i am a super dont know how to socialise de ppl. i wont know what topic we can talk about, so that makes me a boring person i think.
anyone got same experience de?
LOL. very sad thing indeed lah.
You are pretty much sealed to your fate, thinking that if you are fat and ugly, you will live a destiny meant for those who are fat and ugly.
Nothing in life is permanent - the only absolute thing in life is changes itself.
If you have resigned to fate, you will forever position in that brand until you do something drastic to alter it.
As simple as that.
There are two kinds of people in this world - one with innate talent and the other that works hard for it.
And beauty is a learnable skill.
I said that it's a skill because you can work to become pretty yourself. You can acquire beauty through intensive hard work.
The problem is how much desire you have in wanting to change? How much effort are you willing to put? How much sacrifice are you willing to go through?
There are two reasons why woman fail to achieve this goal. One is that they are lazy; the other is that they lack the essential knowledge to effectively transform themselves.
So which do you belong to?
From there, you will know what to do with yourself.
Cheers -
Looks is everything, sad to say. I am ugly and am a male so no help liao. U are a female so still got chance because peepur always say there are no ugly women, only lazy ones.
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sad to say but most ppl likes to see nice n beautiful things. but dun giv up, if u has confidence in urself, ppl will aso start noticing you.
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Aye, people, is that not the sad truth? You are popular if you are good looking and fun going. But worry not, those who are fat and ugly, you will meet people of your own kind one day and I bet you will like one another.
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Heehee... this reminds me of me!
I was in a class with only 6 girls. One of the 1st things a guy spoke to me when I joined the class was "did u ever consider plastic surgery?" The big unfortunate thing was the other 5 girls a lot of them were considered the cutest, prettiest in the whole school! :O
Throughout the 2 years in the class, there were guys who would only joke and chat with them. I felt hurt at times but hey that's life. My best friend was one of the most popular girls, and I realised guys would come up and talk to me ONLY when she's around!
i was doing design and tech. and during an important exam, just before passing up my entire project broke into half. I was devastated. I gave up entirely and decided to concentrate on my other subjects. And guess what, I realised that some of the guys who had completed their revision actually spent the time to rebuild the project based on my design so that I could have something to hand up!
That's when I realise that well, Sometimes guys will be guys. Just like guys, we are also sometimes affected by how someone looks. It is sometihng they can't help especially at this schooling age. It is somethign they can't help no matter how old they are, to be attracted by good looks.
But that does not mean that friendship is less important to them (some of them at least) and in the long run, really, looks does not mean everything. More importantly is your own self confidence that despite external appearanceas, you are someone of worth and sincerity.
One good thing i have realised over the years (hoho i am 31 liao loh) is that hahah I will NEVER EVER have to worry that a man is attracted to me because of my looks (only)!!!
My poor pretty friends always have this fear that a guy likes them only cos of their looks and when the guys get to know them, they will not be attracted by their personalities. I was stumped when I heard this the first time.
so insecurity is everywhere! Don't be ruled by it! heeheeOriginally posted by baby_oreo:i'm in a class of only 4 girls.
so most of them are guys.
i realise guys like to talk the 1 or 2 more good looking girls in class. cause in this class girls are sort of rare.
and i'm the only fat and ugly one.
i can sense this "difference in treatment".
some of the guys talk more to the girl more in class, msn, sms, or leave more greeting msgs in friendster de..
den everytime that girl wil sort of tell me what she and the guys talked about, what card game they play and such. sort of feel left out lah.
i mean, i'm not trying to know more guys, i'm just thinking classmates make friends still need to see looks de meh? sad.
sometimes i dont really want to talk to the guys in class cause i will feel they act act reply to my questions but in the heart say that "you ugly freak, dont talk to me."
and somemore i am a super dont know how to socialise de ppl. i wont know what topic we can talk about, so that makes me a boring person i think.
anyone got same experience de?
LOL. very sad thing indeed lah. -
Woohoo... that's hellva good testimony by ShrodingersCat!Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:Heehee... this reminds me of me!
I was in a class with only 6 girls. One of the 1st things a guy spoke to me when I joined the class was "did u ever consider plastic surgery?" The big unfortunate thing was the other 5 girls a lot of them were considered the cutest, prettiest in the whole school! :O
Throughout the 2 years in the class, there were guys who would only joke and chat with them. I felt hurt at times but hey that's life. My best friend was one of the most popular girls, and I realised guys would come up and talk to me ONLY when she's around!
i was doing design and tech. and during an important exam, just before passing up my entire project broke into half. I was devastated. I gave up entirely and decided to concentrate on my other subjects. And guess what, I realised that some of the guys who had completed their revision actually spent the time to rebuild the project based on my design so that I could have something to hand up!
That's when I realise that well, Sometimes guys will be guys. Just like guys, we are also sometimes affected by how someone looks. It is sometihng they can't help especially at this schooling age. It is somethign they can't help no matter how old they are, to be attracted by good looks.
But that does not mean that friendship is less important to them (some of them at least) and in the long run, really, looks does not mean everything. More importantly is your own self confidence that despite external appearanceas, you are someone of worth and sincerity.
One good thing i have realised over the years (hoho i am 31 liao loh) is that hahah I will NEVER EVER have to worry that a man is attracted to me because of my looks (only)!!!
My poor pretty friends always have this fear that a guy likes them only cos of their looks and when the guys get to know them, they will not be attracted by their personalities. I was stumped when I heard this the first time.
so insecurity is everywhere! Don't be ruled by it! heehee
Cheers -
confidence gal.
i was also in the same boat as u. i was 1 of 4 gals in my class of 19. i also happen to be the fattest one, the most 'dun know how to dress' and most atas one (well they can't speak english n i can't speak mandarin so can't be bothered to talk to them)
i lived thu sch with a boyfren since year 1 and never really had a break in between boys. n i believe the difference is in confidence. if you r sure about yourself, who u r, pple will naturally be drawn to you.
dun worry too much about pple who r shallow, be yourself and conquer the world
Originally posted by baby_oreo:i'm in a class of only 4 girls.
so most of them are guys.
i realise guys like to talk the 1 or 2 more good looking girls in class. cause in this class girls are sort of rare.
and i'm the only fat and ugly one.
i can sense this "difference in treatment".
some of the guys talk more to the girl more in class, msn, sms, or leave more greeting msgs in friendster de..
den everytime that girl wil sort of tell me what she and the guys talked about, what card game they play and such. sort of feel left out lah.
i mean, i'm not trying to know more guys, i'm just thinking classmates make friends still need to see looks de meh? sad.
sometimes i dont really want to talk to the guys in class cause i will feel they act act reply to my questions but in the heart say that "you ugly freak, dont talk to me."
and somemore i am a super dont know how to socialise de ppl. i wont know what topic we can talk about, so that makes me a boring person i think.
anyone got same experience de?
LOL. very sad thing indeed lah. -
yay. im fat n ugly too.
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Pretty gals have a better life?Originally posted by baby_oreo:i'm in a class of only 4 girls.
so most of them are guys.
i realise guys like to talk the 1 or 2 more good looking girls in class. cause in this class girls are sort of rare.
and i'm the only fat and ugly one.
i can sense this "difference in treatment".
some of the guys talk more to the girl more in class, msn, sms, or leave more greeting msgs in friendster de..
den everytime that girl wil sort of tell me what she and the guys talked about, what card game they play and such. sort of feel left out lah.
i mean, i'm not trying to know more guys, i'm just thinking classmates make friends still need to see looks de meh? sad.
sometimes i dont really want to talk to the guys in class cause i will feel they act act reply to my questions but in the heart say that "you ugly freak, dont talk to me."
and somemore i am a super dont know how to socialise de ppl. i wont know what topic we can talk about, so that makes me a boring person i think.
anyone got same experience de?
LOL. very sad thing indeed lah.
Imagine you are a pretty gal, lots of guys want to be with you. After carefull selection you chose the most handsome guy. Both of you becomes stead but when a better looking one comes along he will just break up with you.
Imagine repeating this cycle for 10 times.
Thats the main reason why pretty gals chose normal looking guys.
DO you seriously need to know other guys at such a young age? -
reminds me of me in pri sch,Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:Heehee... this reminds me of me!
I was in a class with only 6 girls. One of the 1st things a guy spoke to me when I joined the class was "did u ever consider plastic surgery?" The big unfortunate thing was the other 5 girls a lot of them were considered the cutest, prettiest in the whole school! :O
Throughout the 2 years in the class, there were guys who would only joke and chat with them. I felt hurt at times but hey that's life. My best friend was one of the most popular girls, and I realised guys would come up and talk to me ONLY when she's around!
i was doing design and tech. and during an important exam, just before passing up my entire project broke into half. I was devastated. I gave up entirely and decided to concentrate on my other subjects. And guess what, I realised that some of the guys who had completed their revision actually spent the time to rebuild the project based on my design so that I could have something to hand up!
That's when I realise that well, Sometimes guys will be guys. Just like guys, we are also sometimes affected by how someone looks. It is sometihng they can't help especially at this schooling age. It is somethign they can't help no matter how old they are, to be attracted by good looks.
But that does not mean that friendship is less important to them (some of them at least) and in the long run, really, looks does not mean everything. More importantly is your own self confidence that despite external appearanceas, you are someone of worth and sincerity.
One good thing i have realised over the years (hoho i am 31 liao loh) is that hahah I will NEVER EVER have to worry that a man is attracted to me because of my looks (only)!!!
My poor pretty friends always have this fear that a guy likes them only cos of their looks and when the guys get to know them, they will not be attracted by their personalities. I was stumped when I heard this the first time.
so insecurity is everywhere! Don't be ruled by it! heehee
the same situation,
one of my friend he broke his hw,
i help him redo one,
in the end he say:"extra, dont expect me to thanks u, fatass"
and, to the TS,
u must noe that humour is always a helping aid to everything in life......
learn to be humorous
not like always tell jokes,
but make jokes straight from the situation......
thats life,
i am like u TS,
but my humour kept me happy, not with my friends, but with the girls....
haiz....... guess i dont have any true friends... anymore...... -
If you think you're disadvantaged, take the first move!
I believe girls are not just after handsome guys. Good luck to you (and me for the matter, but that's another story
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Oh man, this is so true. I find that whenever im on the streets or on the mrt. Whenever i see a pretty girl , i'll just look at her once and immediately look away. However, whenever i see someone behaving really natural; Filled with confidence. Even if she is short, fat and ugly. I wont hesitate to look at her twice, thrice or as many times until she thinks im a pervert.Originally posted by ispyyy:Fat & Ugly does not mean yr appearance no good...
To tell u the truth sometimes I find girls that are Fat & Ugly attractive... They are only attractive when they r their true self and when they show lack of confidence, not attractive anymore liao...
Example :
When a lack of confident girl is concentrating on her work, she display her natural beauty. It makes a guy want to have a second look at her. But when the girl go to check her face in mirror, no matter how the girl look it just look sucks...
In fact, for a chio bu, I dont even throw a second look at her but for those natural beauty, I just cant resist to have a second look... Natural beauty is at tat instant minute but chio bu can see anytime u want...
I bet u have the same point of views when u looking at guys ,rite??? ><
So, try not to think so much ... be yrself... The more uncomfortable u feel, the more guys wont approach u...
Keep telling yrself this :
" Every1 have a beauty in them and I believe I also have it in me... "
Haha.... tat is what I always tell myself... Coz, I m also fat and ugly too ><
I've once heard something like this:
Attraction is not what keeps the man.
So start feeling good about yourself, accept yourself.
And most importantly, love yourself =) -
I'm not picky, just looking for a person to confide to, live with. Looks matter?
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Hello, you don't need to be popular... you need only 1, yes, only one person to like you enough to marry you....Originally posted by baby_oreo:i'm in a class of only 4 girls.
so most of them are guys.
i realise guys like to talk the 1 or 2 more good looking girls in class. cause in this class girls are sort of rare.
and i'm the only fat and ugly one.
i can sense this "difference in treatment".
some of the guys talk more to the girl more in class, msn, sms, or leave more greeting msgs in friendster de..
den everytime that girl wil sort of tell me what she and the guys talked about, what card game they play and such. sort of feel left out lah.
i mean, i'm not trying to know more guys, i'm just thinking classmates make friends still need to see looks de meh? sad.
sometimes i dont really want to talk to the guys in class cause i will feel they act act reply to my questions but in the heart say that "you ugly freak, dont talk to me."
and somemore i am a super dont know how to socialise de ppl. i wont know what topic we can talk about, so that makes me a boring person i think.
anyone got same experience de?
LOL. very sad thing indeed lah.
Face REALITY and reality includes many boys your age like "chio" gers but REALITY also includes the fact that there will be boys that like you.
REALITY includes the fact the the boys that like you, they like you for YOU and not your looks....
So take care to BECOME an attractive person on the inside as well as on the outside... as long as you are clean, neat, pleasant on the outside, that is good enough...
Learn to be a friendly, considerate person aware and conscious of other's sensitivities and easy going, not pushy and wanting your way all the time... I am so sure you will end up a happy person...
Get a philosophy of life and living based on REALITY to guide you in your daily living. -
if they dun make fren with u because of ur look then that kinda of fren ur better off without them.
ya, most guys tend to b more eger to make frens with good looking ger but u muz know those guys make fren with them with intension. -
Sad to say, it's true....Originally posted by baby_oreo:i'm in a class of only 4 girls.
so most of them are guys.
i realise guys like to talk the 1 or 2 more good looking girls in class. cause in this class girls are sort of rare.
and i'm the only fat and ugly one.
i can sense this "difference in treatment".
some of the guys talk more to the girl more in class, msn, sms, or leave more greeting msgs in friendster de..
den everytime that girl wil sort of tell me what she and the guys talked about, what card game they play and such. sort of feel left out lah.
i mean, i'm not trying to know more guys, i'm just thinking classmates make friends still need to see looks de meh? sad.
sometimes i dont really want to talk to the guys in class cause i will feel they act act reply to my questions but in the heart say that "you ugly freak, dont talk to me."
and somemore i am a super dont know how to socialise de ppl. i wont know what topic we can talk about, so that makes me a boring person i think.
anyone got same experience de?
LOL. very sad thing indeed lah.
1st impression(aka looks) is indeed very important, especially when you're into the working society....(Why i know? Becoz of so many candidates interviewing for a job, i got the job....why? Becoz the boss is a female...and hey, i can command a higher pay without much difficulties)
Fcuk care about how your classmates will look at you....
You need to plan for your future....
Try watching the korean movie, 2000pounds beauty xyz....dunno the full name...but you can extract some of the keys and use them n yourself... (not asking you to go for plastic)... -
For the 200 pound of beauty.Originally posted by dcx:Try watching the korean movie, 2000pounds beauty xyz....dunno the full name...but you can extract some of the keys and use them n yourself... (not asking you to go for plastic)...
cinema no more oledy, watch it at crunchyroll, can find.
good show.[/b] -
Can i ask? Are you in MJC. Ur class sounds like one of my fren's class.
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Oreo you also judge the guyz by looks ma
talk to the guyz that are not so mean / more kind -
Don't feel sad they are just a silly if they only make friends that are pretty, I pesonally feel that Those gaI look normal ,fat or ugly are more Sincere in a friendship COS they have Very little friendS and will treasure their fiends more .Originally posted by baby_oreo:i'm in a class of only 4 girls.
so most of them are guys.
i realise guys like to talk the 1 or 2 more good looking girls in class. cause in this class girls are sort of rare.
and i'm the only fat and ugly one.
i can sense this "difference in treatment".
some of the guys talk more to the girl more in class, msn, sms, or leave more greeting msgs in friendster de..
den everytime that girl wil sort of tell me what she and the guys talked about, what card game they play and such. sort of feel left out lah.
i mean, i'm not trying to know more guys, i'm just thinking classmates make friends still need to see looks de meh? sad.
sometimes i dont really want to talk to the guys in class cause i will feel they act act reply to my questions but in the heart say that "you ugly freak, dont talk to me."
and somemore i am a super dont know how to socialise de ppl. i wont know what topic we can talk about, so that makes me a boring person i think.
anyone got same experience de?
LOL. very sad thing indeed lah. -
It's a fact that people emphasise on external looks in the beginning. That's life.
However, you must bear in mind that such friendships are rather shallow. Those friendships that are true are really those that stand in the test of time.
There's nothing wrong with being fat and ugly, but there's something wrong if you refuse to accept your present self. Think you are slightly heavy? Go exercise and cut down on the weight (I have personally tried it). Think you are ugly? Go dress up better and be more confident. I am even worse, used to be fat and short and I am a guy. What to do? Go exercise lor and accept my own height. What shows the person's character is not what he/she has, but rather how he/she managed to make full use of what he/she has.
Often you will realise that the friends you have are really friends with you for what you are, not what you look. Build up more self-confidence and present it out. You will gradually find friends that look past the shallow 1st layer. -
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I think humans will always be superficial.
Somehow, it seems more true when we are young, especially during our teenage years.
Results no gd, never mind.
Bimbo also never mind.
As long as you pretty/handsome, everything also ok.
I myself received discrimination in my class before because I wasn't handsome.
They will call me fat and ugly and often leave me out of outings and games.
It hurt my morale and self-confidence, and I at times wonder why I can't be a little more handsome.
But then, someone came along, and tell me that if I can't even appreciate myself for who or what I am, then who else would?
My self-confidence increased, and I started to be more involved in my CCAs and studies. I also became something similar to a counsellor in my school, and whenever our school organise activities, i would help in the planning.
It broaden my horizons, help me make more friends, and make me feel good about myself.
Looking back now, Ifeel that its just a phrase people go through. Where they value outside beauty more.
Now, as I grow up, am an adult and studying in a university, I realise that people look at u based on ur ability.
If people want to be shallow and look at others based on looks only, then let them be.
Because they dont know what they are missing out. A person with a beautiful heart who cares for others and are good with other things is 100 times better than a beautiful girl who cares only about her looks and not know anything else. -
looks is not everything, but is something of heavy weightage la.
u no good looking, other ppl good looking. still got bias one la.
my suggestion is slim down, learn how to dress up =]
don't giv up. once a fat gal slim down, very pretty one.
but if can't be bothered to slim down than should not care about all that fact u mentioned lo.........
world is cruel..... life is tough.