What am I to do?
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I'm in my mid-20's. I used to treat relationships lightly when i was younger. I know I was not responsible then but I could only blame it on my youth. But why now? Why when I am ready to settle down, I could not seems to find someone to share my life with? No matter how I try, I could not get into a relationship though I am very serious about it. Is it really fate playing a fool on me or what? I ask for nothing except a simple life with a family of my own.
Because of this I am very frustrated with life. Even more so when I see so many people enjoying life with their loved ones. Places to go during the weekends. Holidays and countries to visit. Why or what have I done that I cannot be like them? Why can't I simply meet someone?
Why are girls just entertaining me just because I am friendly to them? Everyone says I'm a great guy but I'm still alone? I'm responsible, trustworthy. I don't smoke nor visit pubs nor club. Why did the one I finally choose to love only treat me as a good friend? What's wrong with girls these days? Or are they simply too young to be serious?
God!Why is it so hard? Feeling fucking frustrated yet there's nothing I can do. Please don't give advices like concentrate on career, or know more friends because all that is taken care of. I want to know why fate is so hard up on me? What the hell have I done to deserve this? I'm losing myself if this goes on.
I sent her a long email yet not even a reply. Always giving me hurting comments. ARGH!!!!!!!!! How I wish I can become a robot. Really no motivation to move on anymore. -
You just havent met the right person
I hope this comment is accepted
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Being single is not the end of the world la.
Its just simply .. err being single lor.
I am sure many of the mid 20s here are singles too.
You still have time. -
I'm 27 and I have not met the right person? Come on. You're are kidding me. Half the people I met are already married. And when i do meet the right person, she does not want me. Fuck!
I don't want to be single. It's not my choice. I met a wonderful girl yet it still ends up nowhere. Why is it so hard to love? What the hell she wants? When having fun can forget me. Need my help can find me. FUCK! -
You just dont appeal enough to her.
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If you always sound this frustrated to her, it is no wonder that she left youOriginally posted by what am I to do?:I'm 27 and I have not met the right person? Come on. You're are kidding me. Half the people I met are already married. And when i do meet the right person, she does not want me. Fuck!
I don't want to be single. It's not my choice. I met a wonderful girl yet it still ends up nowhere. Why is it so hard to love? What the hell she wants? When having fun can forget me. Need my help can find me. FUCK! -
One cannot love to order..
gan qing shi bu ke yi mian qiang de..
it has to work both ways.. -
u wanna know what's wrong, the highlighted tells you why.Originally posted by what am I to do?:I'm in my mid-20's. I used to treat relationships lightly when i was younger. I know I was not responsible then but I could only blame it on my youth. But why now? Why when I am ready to settle down, I could not seems to find someone to share my life with? No matter how I try, I could not get into a relationship though I am very serious about it. Is it really fate playing a fool on me or what? I ask for nothing except a simple life with a family of my own.
Because of this I am very frustrated with life. Even more so when I see so many people enjoying life with their loved ones. Places to go during the weekends. Holidays and countries to visit. Why or what have I done that I cannot be like them? Why can't I simply meet someone?
Why are girls just entertaining me just because I am friendly to them? Everyone says I'm a great guy but I'm still alone? I'm responsible, trustworthy. I don't smoke nor visit pubs nor club. Why did the one I finally choose to love only treat me as a good friend? What's wrong with girls these days? Or are they simply too young to be serious?
God!Why is it so hard? Feeling fucking frustrated yet there's nothing I can do. Please don't give advices like concentrate on career, or know more friends because all that is taken care of. I want to know why fate is so hard up on me? What the hell have I done to deserve this? I'm losing myself if this goes on.
I sent her a long email yet not even a reply. Always giving me hurting comments. ARGH!!!!!!!!! How I wish I can become a robot. Really no motivation to move on anymore.
how come u go about blaming others & you think ur a perfect angel
please go & do some serious reflection
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I am only complaining online. I don't do that in real life. I have no where to show my agner and heartbreak except the internet. Do you understand?
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clear ur fustrations, if your not destined to meet that someone, dun force it.Originally posted by what am I to do?:I am only complaining online. I don't do that in real life. I have no where to show my agner and heartbreak except the internet. Do you understand?
how sure are you that you only vent it here, many a times we say things or perform actions that we ourselves are not aware of.
but others can see, so....... -
What should I say?Originally posted by what am I to do?:I'm in my mid-20's. I used to treat relationships lightly when i was younger. I know I was not responsible then but I could only blame it on my youth. But why now? Why when I am ready to settle down, I could not seems to find someone to share my life with? No matter how I try, I could not get into a relationship though I am very serious about it. Is it really fate playing a fool on me or what? I ask for nothing except a simple life with a family of my own.
Because of this I am very frustrated with life. Even more so when I see so many people enjoying life with their loved ones. Places to go during the weekends. Holidays and countries to visit. Why or what have I done that I cannot be like them? Why can't I simply meet someone?
Why are girls just entertaining me just because I am friendly to them? Everyone says I'm a great guy but I'm still alone? I'm responsible, trustworthy. I don't smoke nor visit pubs nor club. Why did the one I finally choose to love only treat me as a good friend? What's wrong with girls these days? Or are they simply too young to be serious?
God!Why is it so hard? Feeling fucking frustrated yet there's nothing I can do. Please don't give advices like concentrate on career, or know more friends because all that is taken care of. I want to know why fate is so hard up on me? What the hell have I done to deserve this? I'm losing myself if this goes on.
I sent her a long email yet not even a reply. Always giving me hurting comments. ARGH!!!!!!!!! How I wish I can become a robot. Really no motivation to move on anymore.
Looking at you haiz.
how much are you earning a month?
Got a car ?
Able to buy a house?
Which types of gals are you going after? -
does that really matter?Originally posted by zeny:What should I say?
Looking at you haiz.
how much are you earning a month?
Got a car ?
Able to buy a house?
Which types of gals are you going after? -
hmm...y does it seem like more guys wanna settle down nowadays than girls?aiyz change of tides sia...well i suppose this is one reason y ppl wanna get attached faster oso loh...scared later all kena taken up liao...
but anyways, probably the method of approach is wrong?probably u din approah her correctly, n after some time, they started to develop more frenship emotions rather than romantic ones... -
Originally posted by what am I to do?:I'm in my mid-20's. I used to treat relationships lightly when i was younger. I know I was not responsible then but I could only blame it on my youth. But why now? Why when I am ready to settle down, I could not seems to find someone to share my life with? No matter how I try, I could not get into a relationship though I am very serious about it. Is it really fate playing a fool on me or what? I ask for nothing except a simple life with a family of my own.
Answer : lol... u think wat??? this year, u want gf... next year, u will have gf ,hah??? Ok... let's do mathematical calculation :
Assuming the rate that u will met the girl that u like = 1girl per year
then, u met the girl that u like must also like u = 0.5 girl per year then, u want to have a simple life... Some girls dont like simple life 1
= 0.2 girl per year
So by calculation, u will meet a girl that have possible to settle down every 5 years...
Of coz, the rate that u will met the girl tat u like can be increased if yr social circle is wider
Of coz, the rate that the girl will like u too can be increased if u r attractive
But luckily, people win toto is not by mathematical calculation... So, u will meet the girl that wants to settle down with u anytime... However, mathematical calculation have stated that fate is not playing a fool u... Will u blame on fate if fate dont let u win toto ???
Because of this I am very frustrated with life. Even more so when I see so many people enjoying life with their loved ones. Places to go during the weekends. Holidays and countries to visit. Why or what have I done that I cannot be like them? Why can't I simply meet someone?
Answer : lol... u havent see more of those that r suffering for their weekends... ><
Anyway, u r still young sia... 27 yrs old is young for a guy... There r alot of males around yr same age that r still single... Anyway, weekends and holidays can also go with friends or family wat.... there r advantages and disadvantages if u go with friends or go with yr loved ones...
Why are girls just entertaining me just because I am friendly to them? Everyone says I'm a great guy but I'm still alone? I'm responsible, trustworthy. I don't smoke nor visit pubs nor club. Why did the one I finally choose to love only treat me as a good friend? What's wrong with girls these days? Or are they simply too young to be serious?
Answer : Let's say... beauty is in the eyes of a beholder... To be frank, yr this post showed some of yr weakness too tat girls may not like
God!Why is it so hard? Feeling fucking frustrated yet there's nothing I can do. Please don't give advices like concentrate on career, or know more friends because all that is taken care of. I want to know why fate is so hard up on me? What the hell have I done to deserve this? I'm losing myself if this goes on.
I sent her a long email yet not even a reply. Always giving me hurting comments. ARGH!!!!!!!!! How I wish I can become a robot. Really no motivation to move on anymore.
Good things is worth waiting... >< -
Originally posted by what am I to do?:I'm in my mid-20's. I used to treat relationships lightly when i was younger. I know I was not responsible then but I could only blame it on my youth. But why now? Why when I am ready to settle down, I could not seems to find someone to share my life with? No matter how I try, I could not get into a relationship though I am very serious about it. Is it really fate playing a fool on me or what? I ask for nothing except a simple life with a family of my own.
Because of this I am very frustrated with life. Even more so when I see so many people enjoying life with their loved ones. Places to go during the weekends. Holidays and countries to visit. Why or what have I done that I cannot be like them? Why can't I simply meet someone?
Why are girls just entertaining me just because I am friendly to them? Everyone says I'm a great guy but I'm still alone? I'm responsible, trustworthy. I don't smoke nor visit pubs nor club. Why did the one I finally choose to love only treat me as a good friend? What's wrong with girls these days? Or are they simply too young to be serious?
God!Why is it so hard? Feeling fucking frustrated yet there's nothing I can do. Please don't give advices like concentrate on career, or know more friends because all that is taken care of. I want to know why fate is so hard up on me? What the hell have I done to deserve this? I'm losing myself if this goes on.
I sent her a long email yet not even a reply. Always giving me hurting comments. ARGH!!!!!!!!! How I wish I can become a robot. Really no motivation to move on anymore. Think not you can direct the course of love, for if love finds you worthy, direct your course.
Surely love is not merely a push button where you can demand its existence when you tell Love you are ready for it and abuse it when you are not?
Certain opportunities in the past are lost forever, while certain opportunities presently are never meant to be opportunities in the first place. How can we coerce Love to embrace us willingly when the fit is mismatched?
What do you think is the root of your frustration? Being rejected? Or simply because the 'tables are now turned' against you?
Why must you dismiss the option of enlarging your social circle simply because you are rejected by someone? Why must you deny yourself of learning and possibly of a 'better-fit' by knowing more people?
Perhaps if you learn patience and humility, it might be easier on your soul, simultaneously, evolved yourself.
Cheers -
Learn from this TS and I believe u will get yr destined gal soon!
Cheers.
http://www.sgforums.com/?action=thread_display&thread_id=266870 -
It really takes two to be together, however...the fact is, you only need the girl to like you first before she can allow and accept you to like and love her.Originally posted by what am I to do?:I'm in my mid-20's. I used to treat relationships lightly when i was younger. I know I was not responsible then but I could only blame it on my youth. But why now? Why when I am ready to settle down, I could not seems to find someone to share my life with? No matter how I try, I could not get into a relationship though I am very serious about it. Is it really fate playing a fool on me or what? I ask for nothing except a simple life with a family of my own.
Because of this I am very frustrated with life. Even more so when I see so many people enjoying life with their loved ones. Places to go during the weekends. Holidays and countries to visit. Why or what have I done that I cannot be like them? Why can't I simply meet someone?
Why are girls just entertaining me just because I am friendly to them? Everyone says I'm a great guy but I'm still alone? I'm responsible, trustworthy. I don't smoke nor visit pubs nor club. Why did the one I finally choose to love only treat me as a good friend? What's wrong with girls these days? Or are they simply too young to be serious?
God!Why is it so hard? Feeling fucking frustrated yet there's nothing I can do. Please don't give advices like concentrate on career, or know more friends because all that is taken care of. I want to know why fate is so hard up on me? What the hell have I done to deserve this? I'm losing myself if this goes on.
I sent her a long email yet not even a reply. Always giving me hurting comments. ARGH!!!!!!!!! How I wish I can become a robot. Really no motivation to move on anymore.
If the girl you like doesn't like you at all, her doors are closed and no matter how hard and sincere you tried your best to get her to fall in love with you and accept you...it won't make her fall in love with you.
Most girls need to observe the guys first before they can be sure and comfortable and accept the guy as her potential partner. So it could be something that you have done/behaved/spoken/thought that alerted her to fail you as her potential life partner. Girls have long range radar....
But if a girl likes you, no matter how thick your skull is...she will be able to drop large/heavy hints that will sure punch through or at least dent your thick skull.
IF you are as good deal as what you and your friends have claimed you to be, then I would advise you not to worry about it cos there will definitely be someone out there who will see the true gem in you for who you are.
Good Luck and take care. -
Lol CannyOng i was
to c my thread posted. 
Ok anyway TS, u know this is perhaps a karma. When u are in a serious r/s u choose to take it lightly... isn't it ironic? I dun receive any affection from girl i like but u did and yet u dun treasure it... God u are too unfair... Serve u right ... u should have treasure ur earlier r/s seriously and if u did i think u should be married by now. Time waits for no man.. u reap what u sow.... i only can say gd luck to u in ur future love life... -
ur not the only one feeling that way
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go CC to join some activities to know more ppl. Or take up some sports.
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TS, you haven't given a lot of information about what went wrong in your r/s so we can only generalize.
Hope the following comments to your post help.
Maybe nothing's changed. Maybe the only thing that has changed is that you are willing to settle down, but your fundamental attitude towards relationship is still the same. You must ask yourself , are you overbearing, know-it-all, blow hot and cold type, insensitive, jealous, controlling, condescending, self-centered, selfish?Originally posted by what am I to do?:I'm in my mid-20's. I used to treat relationships lightly when i was younger. I know I was not responsible then but I could only blame it on my youth. But why now? Why when I am ready to settle down, I could not seems to find someone to share my life with? No matter how I try, I could not get into a relationship though I am very serious about it. Is it really fate playing a fool on me or what? I ask for nothing except a simple life with a family of my own.
Because of this I am very frustrated with life. Even more so when I see so many people enjoying life with their loved ones. Places to go during the weekends. Holidays and countries to visit. Why or what have I done that I cannot be like them? Why can't I simply meet someone?
Why are girls just entertaining me just because I am friendly to them? Everyone says I'm a great guy but I'm still alone? I'm responsible, trustworthy. I don't smoke nor visit pubs nor club. Why did the one I finally choose to love only treat me as a good friend? What's wrong with girls these days? Or are they simply too young to be serious?
God!Why is it so hard? Feeling fucking frustrated yet there's nothing I can do. Please don't give advices like concentrate on career, or know more friends because all that is taken care of. I want to know why fate is so hard up on me? What the hell have I done to deserve this? I'm losing myself if this goes on.
I sent her a long email yet not even a reply. Always giving me hurting comments. ARGH!!!!!!!!! How I wish I can become a robot. Really no motivation to move on anymore.
Maybe because they sense that you are insincere, and are just checking them out to see if they are gf material. Or maybe you are subconsciously judging them too much, but you can't see that you are doing it. Girls usually like sincere guys. Girls are also very sensitive and would know if you fake it or not.
I don't quite get you. She didn't reply, but give u hurting comments. In any case, have u ever hurt her before? If so, she's feeling as much hurt, if not more than you. If not, then maybe she's just not the right girl for you.
One good question is : are you too self-centered? It sounds like you want badly to achieve what you want, that is to get a relationship. Hmm... but you need to ask yourself what you have to offer to a prospective gf. Can you offer love, security, a listening ear, non-judgement, support?
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i agree with rainee.Originally posted by what am I to do?:I'm 27 and I have not met the right person? Come on. You're are kidding me. Half the people I met are already married. And when i do meet the right person, she does not want me. Fuck!
I don't want to be single. It's not my choice. I met a wonderful girl yet it still ends up nowhere. Why is it so hard to love? What the hell she wants? When having fun can forget me. Need my help can find me. FUCK!
you have not met the gal for you.
you may THINK you have. but you can't force someone to love you just because you like her, wanna settle down and may or may not be a good catch.
take your time. I have realised that the more impatient you seem, the more 'desperate" you feel, the lower your chances of finding Love. -
Life is like ..the more u want the more it wont happen...
Let nature takes its course.
Go out and meet people and without expectations, you may soon find her.
Good luck!! -
"I don't smoke nor visit pubs nor club."Originally posted by what am I to do?:I'm in my mid-20's. I used to treat relationships lightly when i was younger. I know I was not responsible then but I could only blame it on my youth. But why now? Why when I am ready to settle down, I could not seems to find someone to share my life with? No matter how I try, I could not get into a relationship though I am very serious about it. Is it really fate playing a fool on me or what? I ask for nothing except a simple life with a family of my own.
Because of this I am very frustrated with life. Even more so when I see so many people enjoying life with their loved ones. Places to go during the weekends. Holidays and countries to visit. Why or what have I done that I cannot be like them? Why can't I simply meet someone?
Why are girls just entertaining me just because I am friendly to them? Everyone says I'm a great guy but I'm still alone? I'm responsible, trustworthy. I don't smoke nor visit pubs nor club. Why did the one I finally choose to love only treat me as a good friend? What's wrong with girls these days? Or are they simply too young to be serious?
God!Why is it so hard? Feeling fuc king frustrated yet there's nothing I can do. Please don't give advices like concentrate on career, or know more friends because all that is taken care of. I want to know why fate is so hard up on me? What the hell have I done to deserve this? I'm losing myself if this goes on.
I sent her a long email yet not even a reply. Always giving me hurting comments. ARGH!!!!!!!!! How I wish I can become a robot. Really no motivation to move on anymore. Not everyone thinks that that is a good thing. Some people are married for umpteen years and they and their spouses occasionally go to the pub and have a drink. (Smoking is bad but a smoker obviously does not think that it is "that bad".
You said that when you were playing around, you could find gers but now that you are serious, you can't. So maybe. just maybe, you come across as "too serious" and scare the gers off?
Rethink all the assumptions in your head bah... people have many delusions and illusions in their heads without realising it. -
do you believe 'what you think will be how you look'?
if so, do relax, don't think too serious otherwise you look too serious and put girls off lah.