broke n depressed..
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If you ask me, I would advise you not to tell your parents about the $ thingy. They got their own problems to handle so it's best not to add on their burden.
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I agree with jojobeach on how you shld be taking control of your life.
But the control i mean here refers to taking control of your "mental life"
I understand that you are under alot of stress and i hope that what i have to say can assist you in handling stress.
1st you need to understand that stress is a matter of perception.
It is not what happens to you but how you think about what happens to you that causes your response, positive or negative, stressful or unstressful. And this is your decision, your choice, your responsibility.
For example, 2 people may be stuck in traffic on their way to work. One person will be impatient and angry, while the other person will remain calm and relaxed.
Here you have the same situation but 2 ways of responding to it.
The response, not the situation, causes the stress.
The key issue in stress management is the subject of control.
You feel positive about yourself and your life to the degree to which you feel you are in control of what is happening.
You feel negative about yourself and your life to the degree to which you feel you are NOT in control, or that you are controlled by external factors, in your case, its your low salary job, your fees, your relationships or your other problems.
If you think abt your personal life, u will find that the areas in which u experience the greatest peace of mind and satisfaction are areas in which you feel you have the greatest amount of control, or ability to exert influence, over what is going on.
You will also find that the areas in which you are most unhappy, or experience the most stress, are those in which you feel that you are not in control, or in which u feel there is little that u can do to solve the problem.
One of the most effective method of stress management i know of is by using your mind, your ability to think, choose and decide, to exert control over your emotions and over your responses to difficult situations.
Deliberately think positive thoughts. Think optimistically. Think constructively. If u deliberately select a positive thought, you cannot simultaneously think a negative or stressful thought. It is scientifically proven that your conscious mind can hold only one thought at a time. So choose to think something uplifting, whenever you are faced with a situation that would normally upset you.
Stress is not contained in external events. There is no such thing as an inherently stressful situation. There are only stressful responses. You can CHOOSE to respond in a stressful way or you can CHOOSE to respond in a nonstressful way.
The choice is yours.
Always remember,
Nothing can bring you peace but yourself. -
Girl, im really curious.. wat kind of decent waitress job is that if working hours is from 9pm to 3am? Working in a pub? If I guessed it right, then I think it's not a suitable working environment for you. The pay may be good, but the environment might be too messy for an innocent and vulnerable girl like you.Originally posted by kuri:well hallo old pals..neighbourhood's friendliest furball n yj jie's cutie kittie..*huggies*thanks.
i din know i was this weak i tot i'd b stronger. most of the times when i dwell into it most of the times i will prolly end up more angry with myself than ever or him. i guess i just gona figure which way to go n bite the bullet.
bbb as for the jobsearch part not really i picky but due to the time i can commit as it's my 2nd pt while schooling its rather hard the last offer i got basic pay only 30 per 9-6 work n my frd who worked for the company before their payment might hav a bit prob rather zui rite haha. my frds say tuition good money for undergrad they all swear by it but somehow i just suck at it nvr succeeded thus far mayb cos i was nvr the orthodox learner in sch to begin with so too bad for me on this but i'm still trying to keep a keen lookout for one or two that hav good chances of working out.
en. wo yao jian qiang. wo shi jian qiang de. shen qi *** ***. =)
I do know of a few companies that hire part-timers, in particular, students to work for them after school.. example, Levi's, Popular, Minitoons, ice cream stores etc.. they are really flexible de.. I was going to suggest tuition too.. but having one very bad experience before.. I wouldn't encourage you to go for that.. coz many agencies make the tutors lie in order to get an assignment.. it's something against my principles.. and I believe you won't do it either.
Be careful girl.. you may be desperate to earn back the money that assho|e cheated from you.. but watch out, dun take up a kind of job that will not help you solve your problem, but make things worse and hurt yourself instead. Some companies try to trick students by telling them they have to pay a certain start up amount first before they get any assignment etc.. never believe this kinda crap. -
Originally posted by royale9:
hey, it makes sense~!
I agree with jojobeach on how you shld be taking control of your life.
But the control i mean here refers to taking control of your "mental life"
I understand that you are under alot of stress and i hope that what i have to say can assist you in handling stress.
1st you need to understand that stress is a matter of perception.
[b]It is not what happens to you but how you think about what happens to you that causes your response, positive or negative, stressful or unstressful. And this is your decision, your choice, your responsibility.
For example, 2 people may be stuck in traffic on their way to work. One person will be impatient and angry, while the other person will remain calm and relaxed.
Here you have the same situation but 2 ways of responding to it.
The response, not the situation, causes the stress.
The key issue in stress management is the subject of control.
You feel positive about yourself and your life to the degree to which you feel you are in control of what is happening.
You feel negative about yourself and your life to the degree to which you feel you are NOT in control, or that you are controlled by external factors, in your case, its your low salary job, your fees, your relationships or your other problems.
If you think abt your personal life, u will find that the areas in which u experience the greatest peace of mind and satisfaction are areas in which you feel you have the greatest amount of control, or ability to exert influence, over what is going on.
You will also find that the areas in which you are most unhappy, or experience the most stress, are those in which you feel that you are not in control, or in which u feel there is little that u can do to solve the problem.
One of the most effective method of stress management i know of is by using your mind, your ability to think, choose and decide, to exert control over your emotions and over your responses to difficult situations.
Deliberately think positive thoughts. Think optimistically. Think constructively. If u deliberately select a positive thought, you cannot simultaneously think a negative or stressful thought. It is scientifically proven that your conscious mind can hold only one thought at a time. So choose to think something uplifting, whenever you are faced with a situation that would normally upset you. Stress is not contained in external events. There is no such thing as an inherently stressful situation. There are only stressful responses. You can CHOOSE to respond in a stressful way or you can CHOOSE to respond in a nonstressful way.
The choice is yours.
Always remember,
Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.[/b]