falling in love with someone i shouldn;t have
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Delicate this song to u ><
Wise men say
Only fools rush in
But I canÂ’t help
Falling in love with you
Wise men say
Only fools rush in
But I canÂ’t help
Falling in love with you
Shall I stay
Would it be a sin
If I canÂ’t help
Falling in love with you
As a river flows
Gently to the sea
Darling so it goes
Some things were meant to be
Take my hand
Take my whole life too
Cause I canÂ’t help
Falling in love with you
As a river flows
Gently to the sea
Darling so we go
Some things were meant to be
Take my hand
Take my whole life too
Cause I canÂ’t help
Falling in love with you
Oh I canÂ’t help
Falling in love with you
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Originally posted by popikachu:
Statues???
[b]Statues and qualities do not have the right to interfere with Love.
Love is something which will make a person crazy and don't mind other things/obstacle just to be with him/her.
That's true love.[/b]
What statues? Statues of Liberty 
Er...not really true on that. Status does play a role. Do you really think a PHD holder will go for a 'N' level or even just an 'O' level in this materialistic society? Yester years yes, doubt it will happen in this era. Rare really rare. Not that I'm discouraging you. From what I read from your post, you have very low self-esteem and suffering from inferiority complex. Not a bit confident at all.
You want that man? Then show some confident. Sound him out. If he rejects you well, so be it and move on. Right now, what you are feeling is not really love but 'yang mu' because he is everything you are not. Opposites attract. -
Just do it.
Display your confidence.
True Love is blind, true as it is, blind to everything else but your love.
Status and whatever, if counted in, its not love. -
love has no b oundaries. go for what you think is right, what u want.
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Look at it this way, how often in life can you fall for someone? For many people, falling in love with someone means that that someone has a special quality about him/her that causes attraction. Why do u feel that he is someone u shouldn't fall for? Qualifications, lifestyle and whatever else u listed are just not reasons enough.Originally posted by huy:it been a long time since i fall in love with someone.. ever since my past relationshiip which ended 2 years ago and it takes me quite a while to overcome it, i tell myself nv nv to fall in love with someone again... until when i met him...
he is a colleage in my company.. i jus join this company a few months back.. initially when i first knew him, i don really have that kind of feelings towards him.. to me, he is jus an average looking man and defintely not the type that i was looking for.. but as the days goes by, i realised that he is really diff from other guys. though he isn;t gd looking, but he carry himself well. he is very confident and he is intelligent, mature... not only that, whenever anyone encounter any problems at work, he is all there to help the person..
recently, i hang around with him a lot during office hours.. we can spend hours chatting, giggling.. it really enjoyable toking with him and thru all this chatting, i learn a lot from him also.. slowly, i began to realised that i kind of fall in love with him.. i don noe when it started but it seems that i have been tiking bout him everyday.. my heart jus beat very fast whenever i am with him.. initially i tok that was jus an infauation and i even slapped myself hard forcing myself not to like him but it not going to help.. my feelings towards him jus go deeper and deeper..
he is someone that i shouldn;t have fall in love with... regardless of background, qualifications, lifestyle, he is far way better than me. i am jus a nobody seriously.. he don have a gf now and he don noe that i like him also.. i jus kip all my feelings inside and pretend nothing happen. cos i knew that our friendship will defintely break if i confess to him..
seriously i felt so ashamed and guilty that i actually like him.. how can i fal in love with someone that i shouldn;t have... i felt like i am a toad falling in love with a swan.. i felt so cheapo of myself.. i tried to avoid him but then it hard.. cos i don wan to lose him as a fre also..
i really donnoe what to do.. now my whole mind is with him now.. i felt really tired.. it really terrible to kip my feelings inside..
The real reason, i suspect, is because you think he is no good for u. In the first 2 paragraphs, u already say that u felt that he was not the type of guy u usually go for. That means, he is not the kind of person u have in mind right from the start. Yet, somehow, unwittingly, u have fallen for him. This, plus the fact that you never thought u could love again, cause u to think that u shouldn't love him.
My advise to you is, search urself deeply. Are u willing to love again? Do you think that this guy is the right one for u? If so, then go for it. Happiness only come once, and it often demands that people take it at the first sight of it. Hesitate, and often happiness slips away. -
My advice to U: dun rush into confession... be his fren first and let thing happen slowly.
Ur case is only a bit different from mine (me and her are the same status).. i also dun know y i like my ex female colleague... she is so tomboyish... dun even behave like a girl... but i just couldn't help but fall in love with her....
Look, background are not the thing most guy looks for though.... i am not so sure about this... for me, i look more for character and how the girl behaves herself....
I make a fatal mistake recently... i rush into confession... she didn't really rejected me but starts to ignore me after that.... so the morale of the story let's nature takes it course....
May God bless u with a fulfilling r/s -
then you are ready to begin something new!Originally posted by huy:yea.. i already put down my last relationship.. it takes me like 2 yrs to overcome it.. and i really glad that i am be able to overcome it finally.. now at least i wun feel my heart ache when i tik bout my ex..
slowly though. -
there is no way i will confess to him.. cos we are in the same company..it jus like me banging myself hard on the wall.. if he noe bout it, i will be in deep trouble.. cos i will defintely lose him as a fre...Originally posted by lostlostlost:Girl u should follow wat ur heart tells u...
Do not assume that he doesn't like u...
Have u told him ur feeling yet??
Be brave & look forward
Chances like that don't come knocking @ ur door everyday
Treasure wat u have don't let this chance silp away -
haiZ.. i guess this is how i am feeling now.. thanks a lot..Originally posted by ispyyy:Delicate this song to u ><
Wise men say
Only fools rush in
But I canÂ’t help
Falling in love with you
Wise men say
Only fools rush in
But I canÂ’t help
Falling in love with you
Shall I stay
Would it be a sin
If I canÂ’t help
Falling in love with you
As a river flows
Gently to the sea
Darling so it goes
Some things were meant to be
Take my hand
Take my whole life too
Cause I canÂ’t help
Falling in love with you
As a river flows
Gently to the sea
Darling so we go
Some things were meant to be
Take my hand
Take my whole life too
Cause I canÂ’t help
Falling in love with you
Oh I canÂ’t help
Falling in love with you
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JWN6G4CkcnY -
seriously, i agree with what u say. status stil plays a big part in this society.. he came from a gd family background and he is smart as well. therefore the ger he choose will be defintely someone that is compatible with him.. maybe that the reason why he is stil single now.. he is looking out for the right one that match him.Originally posted by FocusPoint:Statues??? What statues? Statues of Liberty
Er...not really true on that. Status does play a role. Do you really think a PHD holder will go for a 'N' level or even just an 'O' level in this materialistic society? Yester years yes, doubt it will happen in this era. Rare really rare. Not that I'm discouraging you. From what I read from your post, you have very low self-esteem and suffering from inferiority complex. Not a bit confident at all.
You want that man? Then show some confident. Sound him out. If he rejects you well, so be it and move on. Right now, what you are feeling is not really love but 'yang mu' because he is everything you are not. Opposites attract.
initially, i tok that was jus yang mu as what u mention. but i find out that this is actualy not.. cos right from the start, i know that he is from a gd fmaily background and kind of loathe him. cos i don really fancy rich man;s kids initially.. it his confidence and kind hearted character that touches me... -
i jus tiking that if he is ordinary enough, maybe not from a rich family then i will have the courage to love him.Originally posted by nanren4ever:Look at it this way, how often in life can you fall for someone? For many people, falling in love with someone means that that someone has a special quality about him/her that causes attraction. Why do u feel that he is someone u shouldn't fall for? Qualifications, lifestyle and whatever else u listed are just not reasons enough.
The real reason, i suspect, is because you think he is no good for u. In the first 2 paragraphs, u already say that u felt that he was not the type of guy u usually go for. That means, he is not the kind of person u have in mind right from the start. Yet, somehow, unwittingly, u have fallen for him. This, plus the fact that you never thought u could love again, cause u to think that u shouldn't love him.
My advise to you is, search urself deeply. Are u willing to love again? Do you think that this guy is the right one for u? If so, then go for it. Happiness only come once, and it often demands that people take it at the first sight of it. Hesitate, and often happiness slips away.
yea.. it true.. right from the start, he isn;t the guy that i usually go for.. i tik my fres will nv suspect that i like him becos he isnlt the type of guy that i am interested in.. but i don noe why, i jus like him the way he is.. his tiking, his mature, the kind heart he had..
now the thing is this guy is the right one for me, but apparently, i am not the right one for him.. -
yea.. that y i will nv nv nv going to confess.. cos i don wan to lose him forever..Originally posted by Uncertain:My advice to U: dun rush into confession... be his fren first and let thing happen slowly.
Ur case is only a bit different from mine (me and her are the same status).. i also dun know y i like my ex female colleague... she is so tomboyish... dun even behave like a girl... but i just couldn't help but fall in love with her....
Look, background are not the thing most guy looks for though.... i am not so sure about this... for me, i look more for character and how the girl behaves herself....
I make a fatal mistake recently... i rush into confession... she didn't really rejected me but starts to ignore me after that.... so the morale of the story let's nature takes it course....
May God bless u with a fulfilling r/s -
1) Did he say he like you?Originally posted by huy:i jus tiking that if he is ordinary enough, maybe not from a rich family then i will have the courage to love him.
yea.. it true.. right from the start, he isn;t the guy that i usually go for.. i tik my fres will nv suspect that i like him becos he isnlt the type of guy that i am interested in.. but i don noe why, i jus like him the way he is.. his tiking, his mature, the kind heart he had..
now the thing is this guy is the right one for me, but apparently, i am not the right one for him..
2) Did you say you like him?
3) Since he do not know that you like him, and you refuse to tell him about you liking of him, then wats the problem?
You are thinking too much, since you want him as a friend and refuse to tell him that you like him then this whole thread is just pure crap.
Action speaks louder then words, if you are so scare for any action then worry so much for what, cause he will never know anyway. -
by not trying and figuring out, you've lost him already...
slowly slowly.. like i said, go improve yourself.. and most of all, learn to love yourself..
it's not an overnight thing so start on it now
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Did yr ex say something bad in the past that hurt yr dignity?Originally posted by huy:yea.. i already put down my last relationship.. it takes me like 2 yrs to overcome it.. and i really glad that i am be able to overcome it finally.. now at least i wun feel my heart ache when i tik bout my ex..
What past is past. U might lose yr ex but never lose yrself.
Seriously,if the new colleague u know is a good chraracter that never look at people of their status while know people by their heart. U shall not judge yrself with him by status. But end of the day,if he don like u. There may be other reasons other than status,like compatitbilities of character! -
Frankly speaking.. indeed.. different background do affect. You might be in love with him now but who knows what will happen in the future? Do you want to be heart-broken again? You should find someone not that high expectation. You only make yourself suffer... I see many relationship going down due to difficult background and culture.. Sad to say all these DOES affect a relationship...
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This is pretty self-contradictory and I'm not sure if you even realise what you're talking about.Originally posted by huy:yea.. that y i will nv nv nv going to confess.. cos i don wan to lose him forever..
As far as I interpret, you have a crush on this colleague of yours who just happens to get along with you pretty well. On the basis of that, what's there to suggest you will possess him forever if you didn't confess? Are you sure, if you didn't confess, the two of you will still remain friends and stay in contact when you're 60? If not, you'd lose him someday anyway (most probably when either of you leave your current job and lose touch).
In fact, on the basis of that argument (where you'll eventually drift as life takes the two of you on different paths) and looking at this from a rational perspective, you've absolutely nothing to lose - excluding the immediate awkwardness only if he rejects your advances upon confession and he decides to ignore you (and men are hardly as guilty of the ignoring syndrome as women are) - if you confessed because you haven't got him in the first place.
(In economic terms, this is a blatant example of a zero-sum game where the opportunity costs are disproportionately tilted in your favour because you haven't got anything to lose to begin with - your perceived "loss" is merely an illusion stemming from your worrisome self-fulfilling prophecy.) --> Ignore this part if you haven't got a clue what I'm talking about.
More importantly, it's your life and only you can and should decide how you want to live it. That said, I hope this isn't a phobia conveniently used as an excuse to pass up on your chance to find Mr Right each time you meet a man you fancy.
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nv nv nv going to confess? What is the point to fall in love with him in the first place? Lol the fact that i ask u not to rush in is to tell to look out for hints from him... E.g. he talks to u most of the time (not always true), offer to send u home, sms u with nonsense topics, ask u out for lunch/dinner...Originally posted by huy:yea.. that y i will nv nv nv going to confess.. cos i don wan to lose him forever..
Life is uncertain just as my nick implies.... who says pig cannot fly.... we human has travelled to moon and come back several times....
Wait for the hints and strike at the right time.... strike the iron when its hot.... Gd luck -
Learn to love yourself, if you want others to love you.
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all i can the more u belittle yourself, ppl are going to look down on you
if you feel you are not good enough for me,improve yourself ! improve your appearance, and go for further studies..as long as you are from a prim and proper family, he has no rights to look down on you! -
Originally posted by walesa:
I think rejection is extremely hard to take... and may shatter whatever little confidence TS has,
This is pretty self-contradictory and I'm not sure if you even realise what you're talking about.
As far as I interpret, you have a crush on this colleague of yours who just happens to get along with you pretty well. On the basis of that, what's there to suggest you will possess him forever if you didn't confess? Are you sure, if you didn't confess, the two of you will still remain friends and stay in contact when you're 60? If not, you'd lose him someday anyway (most probably when either of you leave your current job and lose touch).
In fact, on the basis of that argument (where you'll eventually drift as life takes the two of you on different paths) and looking at this from a rational perspective, you've absolutely nothing to lose - excluding the immediate awkwardness only if he rejects your advances upon confession and he decides to ignore you (and men are hardly as guilty of the ignoring syndrome as women are) - if you confessed because you haven't got him in the first place.
(In economic terms, this is a blatant example of a zero-sum game where the opportunity costs are disproportionately tilted in your favour because you haven't got anything to lose to begin with - your perceived "loss" is merely an illusion stemming from your worrisome self-fulfilling prophecy.) --> Ignore this part if you haven't got a clue what I'm talking about.
More importantly, it's your life and only you can and should decide how you want to live it. That said, I hope this isn't a phobia conveniently used as an excuse to pass up on your chance to find Mr Right each time you meet a man you fancy.
and I think men do ignore women too..
TS, maybe he likes you too?
My plan for you is to
1) to build up your self-esteem, you can try reading some self-help books...
It's good in the long run too, as someone with low self-esteem hurts his/her relationship unwittingly.
2) show a little more interest in him (maybe make some slight seductive overtures)... and see how he reacts... since he's single, he might just fall in love with you...
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Read what book.. it only make you feels worse...
If people can depends on a book... they might well depends on themselve.Originally posted by ordinaryguy32:I think rejection is extremely hard to take... and may shatter whatever little confidence TS has,
and I think men do ignore women too..
TS, maybe he likes you too?
My plan for you is to
1) to build up your self-esteem, you can try reading some self-help books...
It's good in the long run too, as someone with low self-esteem hurts his/her relationship unwittingly.
2) show a little more interest in him (maybe make some slight seductive overtures)... and see how he reacts... since he's single, he might just fall in love with you...
Hope tat helps.. -
Any of the books in the Self Improvement section of a good bookstore e.g. Popular, Borders..Originally posted by thelesis:Read what book.. it only make you feels worse...
If people can depends on a book... they might well depends on themselve.
There are so many types, some written specifically for women.
Good reads for TS may be books on increasing self esteem...
People can depend on themselves to improve their well-being. Books can only show how; ultimately the effort must be put in. -
I still don't believe in books that can help ppl.. Perhaps a dropby to a church can help..Originally posted by ordinaryguy32:Any of the books in the Self Improvement section of a good bookstore e.g. Popular, Borders..
There are so many types, some written specifically for women.
Good reads for TS may be books on increasing self esteem...
People can depend on themselves to improve their well-being. Books can only show how; ultimately the effort must be put in.