Depressed bf
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What a loser sissy boy...forget about him. This is part and parcel in the life of a Singaporean male.Originally posted by lemonlight:Ever since my bf went into army, he found it hard to cope. Now, he's some depressed person and suddenly so distant to me. It has become a weekend hide and seek game, I would try to call to see if he wants to meet up. For the past few weeks, he has been hiding at home except meeting his guy friends for supper. He don't sms, he don't talk. I don't know how to handle this whole situation. He seems to have a lot of deal with himself. As much as I want to meet him, I don't want to be a nuisance. At the rate things are going, i don't know how long I can last like this. All i have been doing is wait and tell him that he has my support. But everything is going one way now. I feel so stressed but I don't want to tell him that because I don't want to add more problem to his life.
help.
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im in my NS now... but i dun haf a gf... but i can see my friend struggling to maintain a relationship wif his girl...
my friend was something similar to ur bf... he does not go out except.. going out on fridays wif us... when we asked why he does not bring his girl along.. he juz replied... Friday is for the Guy's Night...
after playing a long night on friday... saturday.. he just slept for the whole day.. maybe woke up at night.. but still.. lazy to go out mah...
Sunday??? preparing to go back at Night.. where got mood to go out again??? see... the onli time u can sms him is on Sunday... dun sms him on other days.. becos he might not haf the time to look at his hp at all... -
Hey.Gal jia you jia you .You gotta be strong to keep the relationship going.Try to understand him dont too stress out i am sure things will get better.!ALL THE BEST!
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lemonlight> forget about him. pm me your number.....i can make u feel better and make up for lost time.
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After reading TS's posts... I really find that her bf is really having some serious nerve breakdown...
It is not normal for an attached NS guy not wanting to meet his girlfriend for every chance that he get. No matter how depress or how bad things in camp can get, normally they would still want to go out no matter how bad shaped or tired they are.
Possible reason would be he is having a serious depression. So bad that he just wanted to be alone. If TS is really serious in this relationship or really concerned about him, she should actually make the effort as in not just contacting him and asking whether they should meet up. Take the initiative to go over and meet him up.
Although that the result might not be what you or we would think of... but it would still worth the try if TS is really serious in the relationship or even just concern about him. I guess that TS would not want to regret not doing so even if she really don't like him anymore after she found out that he had done something stupid.
Another possibility that another forumite had posted... kena raped...
Possible... thus explained the drifting apart from friends, family and girlfriend...
Another possibility that not really exist... Change of sex perference... he realised that he like guys...
No matter what the possibilities are... I believe that TS should have a heart felt talk with her bf.
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hi lemonlight,Originally posted by lemonlight:I didn't meet him yesterday. I didn't contact him today. I just don't know wat to do except to wait and see what happens next week. Apparently, I think he just stayed at home (prob in his room) all the time. All i'm hoping is that he'll sort things out himself somehow. I just don't know if I should still give it a try next weekend by trying to contact him again or leave him alone full fledge next weekend, then try to contact the following week.
If someone is really depressed, its really hard to guess whats in their minds. They way they think is not normal. I can't even judge the level of his depression
I just know that he is sad, and he is not himself, as in not the guy that I used to know b4 he entered unit.
jus send him a msg telling him tat u'll be there for him, let u know if anything, n if he needs someone to talk to, or a shoulder, feel free to let u know. Love u.
dun sms him anymore for 1 wk -
mebbe he looked at the photos of his bunk mates gfs on their lockers, saw what he missed out, and got depressed......
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hey jimi, its easier said then done telling TS to leave the guy.
Leaving him at this point may be good for him & it might not even be. So sounding an immediate break-up will send him into possible suiside in the worst case senario. Just do the cooling off style would be a better alternative.
Hey TS, my suggestion is......slowly chill off......just let him be & move on with ur life, keep urself busy & take him off ur mind.
If he doesn't call, let it be....you have already done all that u can possibly do to tell him ur there but he refuses to open up.
So take care
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let me tell u, 5 days later it'll still be the same.....u need to keep urself occupied with other things for nowOriginally posted by lemonlight:I don't know, but its weekdays now. I have 5 days to take a deep breath before the same thing happen again. -
since u have made yr choice in waiting, then, wait happily...Originally posted by lemonlight:I don't know, but its weekdays now. I have 5 days to take a deep breath before the same thing happen again.
No use worry or stress...
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Simple. Tell him to read this topic you made.